when having sex is a man being selfish if he hasnt made sure his partner (female) has reached orgasm? For instance the mood takes it and you fancy a shag you have to be quick which there could be any amount of reasons for which we all know, away you go man cums quickly because he has to or even wants to because of excitment has he been selfish? If there is plenty of time and he doesnt make sure his partner has orgasmed or at least been sexually fulfilled i would say yes he has been selfish.
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Quote by bisto kid
when having sex is a man being selfish if he hasnt made sure his partner (female) has reached orgasm? For instance the mood takes it and you fancy a shag you have to be quick which there could be any amount of reasons for which we all know, away you go man cums quickly because he has to or even wants to because of excitment has he been selfish? If there is plenty of time and he doesnt make sure his partner has orgasmed or at least been sexually fulfilled i would say yes he has been selfish.
of course he's being if a woman waited til she had orgasmed then got off wihout the bloke having one,he'd be the first to moan.
Sex God
Not necessarily. She might not want to cum and might be saving it for the next guy in the queue.
Just a thought
:lol2:
Just a thought
:lol2:
Sex God
Quote by bisto kid
Not necessarily. She might not want to cum and might be saving it for the next guy in the queue.
Just a thought
:lol2:
pmsl
Why's that funny? It works for me :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by bisto kid
Not necessarily. She might not want to cum and might be saving it for the next guy in the queue.
Just a thought
:lol2:
pmsl
Why's that funny? It works for me :thumbup:
By milking an orgasm like that, do u not find it hard to orgasm quickly if u want to ?
"Milking"?
I can cum very quickly.... less than a minute, tried and tested, do it every night...... but that would be boring in a group........... why not save it, there's no rush if there's a queue waiting ---- much better to wait til the cum shower methinks hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
:rascal:
My Ex was like that :shock: ...............during sex the first 5-10 mins she was away :P
however, she did tend to get very tired and lazy and just want to sleep after that
....course she always wanted the cuddles and dozing off thing,,,while I was still in the mood :(
hence,,,once of the small reasons she is my ex :P
however, she did tend to get very tired and lazy and just want to sleep after that
....course she always wanted the cuddles and dozing off thing,,,while I was still in the mood :( hence,,,once of the small reasons she is my ex :P
Quote by bluexxx
Not necessarily. She might not want to cum and might be saving it for the next guy in the queue.
Just a thought
:lol2:
pmsl
Why's that funny? It works for me :thumbup:
By milking an orgasm like that, do u not find it hard to orgasm quickly if u want to ?
"Milking"?
I can cum very quickly.... less than a minute, tried and tested, do it every night...... but that would be boring in a group........... why not save it, there's no rush if there's a queue waiting ---- much better to wait til the cum shower methinks hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
:rascal:
By milking i meant getting yourself to the point where its starting to feel nice and your gona cum but then stoping yourself therefor making that nice feeling last even longer.
Sex God
Quote by Colts23
My Ex was like that :shock: ...............during sex the first 5-10 mins she was away :P
however, she did tend to get very tired and lazy and just want to sleep after that
hence,,,once of the small reasons she is my ex :P
Oh don't be mean......... everyone wants to sleep once they've cum, don't they?
OK........ taxi for Blue............ just make sure the driver will accept a BJ instead of cash, I'm a bit skint this month :rascal:
Sex God
Quote by bisto kid
By milking i meant getting yourself to the point where its starting to feel nice and your gona cum but then stoping yourself therefor making that nice feeling last even longer.
And your point is?
Isn't that just a sensible thing to do? And very selfish too hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
Quote by bluexxx
By milking i meant getting yourself to the point where its starting to feel nice and your gona cum but then stoping yourself therefor making that nice feeling last even longer.
And your point is?
Isn't that just a sensible thing to do? And very selfish too hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
There isnt a point you put the question mark next to milking, i was just telling you what i meant
Sex God
Quote by bisto kid
By milking i meant getting yourself to the point where its starting to feel nice and your gona cum but then stoping yourself therefor making that nice feeling last even longer.
And your point is?
Isn't that just a sensible thing to do? And very selfish too hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
There isnt a point you put the question mark next to milking, i was just telling you what i meant
Oh OK. Well, anyways, that's just my view. Of course each situation is different and thats what I would do in a group. 121 I guess is a bit different.
Quote by bluexxx
By milking i meant getting yourself to the point where its starting to feel nice and your gona cum but then stoping yourself therefor making that nice feeling last even longer.
And your point is?
Isn't that just a sensible thing to do? And very selfish too hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
There isnt a point you put the question mark next to milking, i was just telling you what i meant
Oh OK. Well, anyways, that's just my view. Of course each situation is different and thats what I would do in a group. 121 I guess is a bit different.
Right to find out if this is correct and what is the best course of action during 121, or a group........................I will need a group of 10 nubile young ladies,,,,to help with a rather important SH experiment.........
Please pm your cv's etc to me box and I'll get back to you
:P 
Sex God
to be honest it depends on the situation...........
like blue has implied
sometimes the women are happy not having an orgasam from man no 1. But if they are in a club or party they might want to be pleasured by a number of men.
However if it was 1-on-1 then yes the women might be a bit pissed of. It depends on a number of issues. to me sometimes i have continued to pleasure the women sometimes i havent it just depends what the situation is at the time.
MikeC
like blue has implied
sometimes the women are happy not having an orgasam from man no 1. But if they are in a club or party they might want to be pleasured by a number of men.
However if it was 1-on-1 then yes the women might be a bit pissed of. It depends on a number of issues. to me sometimes i have continued to pleasure the women sometimes i havent it just depends what the situation is at the time.
MikeC
Orgasminator
Quote by bisto kid
when having sex is a man being selfish if he hasnt made sure his partner (female) has reached orgasm? For instance the mood takes it and you fancy a shag you have to be quick which there could be any amount of reasons for which we all know, away you go man cums quickly because he has to or even wants to because of excitment has he been selfish? If there is plenty of time and he doesnt make sure his partner has orgasmed or at least been sexually fulfilled i would say yes he has been selfish.
I don't think it's selfish if it doesn't happen regularly. Obviously if the guy just doesn't care I wouldn't be shagging him anyway!
Sometimes I dont orgasm quickly due to different reasons, why should that stop my man from enjoying himself? Like I said, as long as it isn't a regular thing then I'm fine with it!
Quote by onlyme1981
Sometimes I dont orgasm quickly due to different reasons, why should that stop my man from enjoying himself? Like I said, as long as it isn't a regular thing then I'm fine with it!
i think the difference there is your talking about 'your man' but that i assum you mean your own partner as apposed to a swinging m8, in that case sometimes you do have quickies and for whatever reason you may not cum and i supposed that is acceptable, but if i met a guy off here wether is was after a quick shag or not i would expect him to put some effort into making me cum
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Sometimes I dont orgasm quickly due to different reasons, why should that stop my man from enjoying himself? Like I said, as long as it isn't a regular thing then I'm fine with it!
i think the difference there is your talking about 'your man' but that i assum you mean your own partner as apposed to a swinging m8, in that case sometimes you do have quickies and for whatever reason you may not cum and i supposed that is acceptable, but if i met a guy off here wether is was after a quick shag for not i would expect him to put some effort into making me cum
If you met a guy of here thats pre arranged so thats slightly different to the quick shag which iam describing. But yes i agree if its those circumstances you would expect the guy to put an effort into making you cum
Well I would be furious if the fella came before I had even had an orgasm myself .. infact I can have lots ... even multiples which I love if the fella can hold off for long enough.
I have dark memories of 25 yrs of vanilla sex with my husband where he came first every time and I never knew what an orgasm was till I had an affair .. actually was confused, embarrassed and a bit scared the first time as I was 45 and just didn't know what was happening to me.
Now my regular man has strict instructions that he can't cum for ages .... at least and hour :grin:
Poor fella has to tie a knot in it every time
.. thankfully he can and does .... and loves it too .. just as well really (greedy DD)
DD
I have dark memories of 25 yrs of vanilla sex with my husband where he came first every time and I never knew what an orgasm was till I had an affair .. actually was confused, embarrassed and a bit scared the first time as I was 45 and just didn't know what was happening to me.
Now my regular man has strict instructions that he can't cum for ages .... at least and hour :grin:
Poor fella has to tie a knot in it every time
.. thankfully he can and does .... and loves it too .. just as well really (greedy DD)DD
Quote by bisto kid
Some women have the ability to reach orgasm very quickly (within a minute or minutes), others carnt orgasm so quickly everybody is slightly different. So if its a quick shag and the women is the latter and u cum 1st and she doesnt have u been selfish?
they would feel cheated if you didnt even attempt to help.
Quote by bisto kid
Sometimes I dont orgasm quickly due to different reasons, why should that stop my man from enjoying himself? Like I said, as long as it isn't a regular thing then I'm fine with it!
i think the difference there is your talking about 'your man' but that i assum you mean your own partner as apposed to a swinging m8, in that case sometimes you do have quickies and for whatever reason you may not cum and i supposed that is acceptable, but if i met a guy off here wether is was after a quick shag for not i would expect him to put some effort into making me cum
If you met a guy of here thats pre arranged so thats slightly different to the quick shag which iam describing. But yes i agree if its those circumstances you would expect the guy to put an effort into making you cum
not always i have had guys want to come round to my house on their bloody lunch break for a quicky
now i'm quessing they would be in and out b4 you can blink
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i think men in the swinging scene are selfish anyway, i find very few care if the woman cums or not so i best keep out of this one b4 i upset all the guys
I have to disagree, most of the men i swing with are very attentive to my needs, and me to theirs
Sex God
hun your also great attending to me crying 
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MikeC
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Orgasminator
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Sometimes I dont orgasm quickly due to different reasons, why should that stop my man from enjoying himself? Like I said, as long as it isn't a regular thing then I'm fine with it!
i think the difference there is your talking about 'your man' but that i assum you mean your own partner as apposed to a swinging m8, in that case sometimes you do have quickies and for whatever reason you may not cum and i supposed that is acceptable, but if i met a guy off here wether is was after a quick shag or not i would expect him to put some effort into making me cum
I don't think I explained myself properly. I don't have a "man", I'm as single as you can be!
When I was active on the site, through the photo ads I met a few people regularly - it wasn't just a one off shag so that's where I'm taking my experience from. That's not to say I haven't had one off's, I have and they are usually quite dissapointing.
I'd expect someone to make the effort but not when I know I'm not going to be able to cum, I'd rather let him enjoy himself. I mean, sex is enjoyable for me, even if I don't orgasm.
But it all depends who I'm with, how I'm feeling etc - sometimes I cum quickly, other times I don't. If I don't cum, with a regular partner or otherwise, its not the end of the world for me. I'd just move on and put it down to experience.
Sex God
Quote by Colts23
Right to find out if this is correct and what is the best course of action during 121, or a group........................I will need a group of 10 nubile young ladies,,,,to help with a rather important SH experiment.........
Please pm your cv's etc to me box and I'll get back to you
Nice try
Quote by MikeC
to me sometimes i have continued to pleasure the women sometimes i havent it just depends what the situation is at the time.
Yep - presumably even if a guy has cum, his fingers and tongue still work?
Quote by onlyme1981
I don't think it's selfish if it doesn't happen regularly. Obviously if the guy just doesn't care I wouldn't be shagging him anyway!
Agreed. If it was someone I was shagging regularly, I wouldn't really care if he came before me. I mean, what's wrong with having a rest and them carrying on :rascal: . Same would obviously go if I came first and wanted a rest.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
but if i met a guy off here wether is was after a quick shag or not i would expect him to put some effort into making me cum
In that case, I would just do it myself
Quote by bisto kid
So if its a quick shag and the women is the latter and u cum 1st and she doesnt have u been selfish?
No neccesarily. See above.
Quote by devondelight
actually was confused, embarrassed and a bit scared the first time as I was 45 and just didn't know what was happening to me.
:shock:
Did you call the paramedics? :lol: :lol: :lol:
