I was talking to one of the women I work with about her daughter.
She's 22, but a bit young for her age and a bit clingy. Aparently she's been worried her boyfriend was going to leave her and low and behold she's "accidentally" got pregnant because she "forgot" to take the pill.
Now this kind of thing really annoys the crap out of me and I do know girls who I went to school with who see getting knocked up as some kind of career move.
As I was thinking about this I got to thinking of the guys on here. Does it ever worry you that you might be meeting up with someone for no strings sex, but they're actually trying to get pregnant and live off your earnings for the next 18 years?
worries me no end HLB....
but the ones to worry about are the ones that already have kids....
how much trouble am I in when she sees this?
:shock: that one scary thought hmmmmmm!!!!!!!!
me personally.... wouldn't play without a condom anyway...just from a health point of view if nothing else
but it is a very interesting spin really...especailly when you do see the amount of "bareback sex" ads you see on the site.....
Certainly an interesting topic, and one that makes you ponder people’s morals.
All those years ago when I was at school, there was a 16 year old girl there, extremely attractive, who made no bones whatsoever about the fact her sole intent was to find a rich guy and “accidentally†get pregnant.
More worrying was the fact that her mother actually encouraged this behaviour and found nothing wrong with it all.
There are probably numerous reasons why her mother thought this way, but still, it made me stop and think about a lot of stuff at the time, mainly how and why people use others.
I never did find out if she got her wish, but it was interesting that she was mostly shunned while at school.
Here is another interesting thought or question.......how mant times have you guys/women had a condom fail?
Now thats REALY scarey, cos I do know that it DOES happen and although there is always the "morning after" pill, there is always the problems that an STD can cause.
Sorry to be alarmist, but hey "lets be safe out there".
Yes, its probably not a big problem but an enormous problem if it happens to you.
I definitely got put off years ago on a couple of occasions when the offer of unprotected sex seemed calculated rather than lustful. I don't think I made a bad decision, saying no, but I did miss out and that is kind of difficult. Have to say that health concerns were an issue too as it was time of the Aids virus coming to the fore when little was known about its transmission. That helped the decision greatly.
Its also a problem for me as I am married but more on health grounds than financial - as she has all the money!
Just a small extra, the one deception I have ever made to women is to make light of how much money I used to earn when I first meet them. It was never a lot but to gold diggers a home and secure job can be everything - after all my sister made much out of a council house.
Oh and another thought, I was also a sperm donor - no guarantee that I became a 'dad' and they only use your sperm for a maximum of ten goes but ten law suits, ten weddings to fund, ten green bottles.......I am supposed to be safe from discovery but with adoption laws changing it presumably would not take much to ruin my life.
Shay
I remember that one Mike.
Somebody clever will post the link, no doubt.
I bet somebody offered too.......... or even did the deed!! Scary stuff eh .
Mike xx
Happy to say that I am only firing blanks, done my share of baby making. Got a wonderful daughter and thats plenty.
I got picked up by two young women in a pub on The Old Kent Road one night. (apart from this incident, still a well known place for being picked up).
So the 'mate' came over and did the 'my mate fancies you', upon which I looked over to see a shifty looking girl grinning at me. So hey ho we all got on the bus to the mates flat. A small single mothers type setup, and the child was with the granny somewhere else. We had a cup of tea. I was questioned by the mate as to whether I was interested in the girl and I said well I don't know yet but I'll see what happens next.
So a short while later I set off with the girl to her flat. There was some general talk and obvious hints about getting into bed for some sex, but I was sobering up and starting to feel a little bit railroaded. Then she said, 'well lets make it official then'.
So reasonably pleasant sex followed, but I could tell she was a bit disssapointed when I slapped on a condom. So I am sure she and her mate were trying to set her up to get pregnant.
I have also known some women who have had children by other men and still remained in their marriage. Only because they just liked having kids and fancied making a different baby.
im sure, a handful of years ago, there was a court case, where a man had sex with a woman, and placed his disused condom in the bin, and while he slept, the woman recovered the condom, and used the semen for artificial insemination, and the judge ruled in favour of the woman, because the man should have disposed of the condom properly