hi is it me or has anyone else felt this .;. i know this is a swinging site and i know swinging is about sex.; but i have put some adds out to meet people to meet for things like going for meals or just for drinks but the response i have got seems if they dont want to shag you they dont want to meet you .; sex dont have to be the bottom line everytime does it i didnt just join here to shag as nice as it is i also thought id make freinds as well . maybe i word my ads wrong i didnt think so some may say if its freinds i want join a frendship site .;i thought i would gain both it seems being a single bloke carrys a kind of stigma my outlook is if you dont want to shag me dont mean we cant have a nice evening together.. or does it i didnt write this to get slagged off so if thats your intenion dont bother lifes to short..
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If its friends you looking for , and there are some great ones about i suggest you keep an eye on the LMU part of the forum and get yourself to some local social events, a fantastic way of meeting ppl in a no pressure environment which in turn may lead to you making lotsa new friends.
Joy xx
Joy xx
We love going out for meals and stuff and the social aspect that the site offers (thats not an invitation over to ours for dinner and to bang the missus over the table whilst i serve starters though ok mate 
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Like clove said try the LMU or go to a munch maybe as they tend to be more socially orientated rather than depraved hotbeds for raucous behaviour....mores the bloody pity :lol:
).Like clove said try the LMU or go to a munch maybe as they tend to be more socially orientated rather than depraved hotbeds for raucous behaviour....mores the bloody pity :lol:
Quote by Rusty6666
hi is it me or has anyone else felt this .;. i know this is a swinging site and i know swinging is about sex.; but i have put some adds out to meet people to meet for things like going for meals or just for drinks but the response i have got seems if they dont want to shag you they dont want to meet you .; sex dont have to be the bottom line everytime does it i didnt just join here to shag as nice as it is i also thought id make freinds as well . maybe i word my ads wrong i didnt think so some may say if its freinds i want join a frendship site .;i thought i would gain both it seems being a single bloke carrys a kind of stigma my outlook is if you dont want to shag me dont mean we cant have a nice evening together.. or does it i didnt write this to get slagged off so if thats your intenion dont bother lifes to short..
Well if you know this is a swingers site, you need to look up what swingers means in the dictionary, is it any wonder you may be a bit confused? :shock:
The main object of this is to meet people and hopefully " swing " with them. If we only wanted to meet people for a drink and a meal, there are many other sites out there, that offer just that, but without the sex issue! Think this topic has been discussed many times before.
Sex God
Rusty, maybe you should try a dating site instead. Although there are plenty of members here who value normal human contact, friendship, etc., it is not something you can demand on a site concerned mainly with sex.
Sex God
NOTHING in this life is guaranteed
and wouldnt dream of slagging you off :fuckinghell:
and wouldnt dream of slagging you off :fuckinghell:
I enjoy the social aspect too but I've turned down many offers of "just a" drink/meal/chat as in all honesty I don't believe that's all there is to it.
Yes, I'm cynical but it comes with experience.
I can't even accept lifts or a walk home off someone 'cos past experience has shown they always try it on - if not at that time, it's afterwards - the inevitable PMs, texts or whispers in chat ...
.... sorry, I know not everyone is like that but I'd sooner avoid the possibility of it as I don't trust my own judgement to define the "no-strings" from the "oooh maybes" social invites.
Yes, I'm cynical but it comes with experience.
I can't even accept lifts or a walk home off someone 'cos past experience has shown they always try it on - if not at that time, it's afterwards - the inevitable PMs, texts or whispers in chat ...
.... sorry, I know not everyone is like that but I'd sooner avoid the possibility of it as I don't trust my own judgement to define the "no-strings" from the "oooh maybes" social invites.
hi rusty
i think i understand what your saying.
the chain of thought that maybe you should join a dating site, but you havent said you want to "date",
if you were on a dating site that would surely give the impression that you were lookinf for a vanilla relationship??
maybe ive just been lucky, but i have made some good friends on here, some i dont want sex with and im sure they feel the same, however its great to socialise with people who are on the same wave length as your self.
afterall the success rate can be low in this area, so why not have some good conversation, food and wine in the mean time.
to say your not seeking sexual meets in your profile right now would again be misleading as im sure you are, just that it doesnt have to result in sex , and your not expecting or demanding that it does.
maybe ive read rustys post and profile wrong? but seems to be he just wants to make friends, whom he may have sex with,with nsa, isnt that what defines swinging from one night stands or dating?
xx fem xx
i think i understand what your saying.
the chain of thought that maybe you should join a dating site, but you havent said you want to "date",
if you were on a dating site that would surely give the impression that you were lookinf for a vanilla relationship??
maybe ive just been lucky, but i have made some good friends on here, some i dont want sex with and im sure they feel the same, however its great to socialise with people who are on the same wave length as your self.
afterall the success rate can be low in this area, so why not have some good conversation, food and wine in the mean time.
to say your not seeking sexual meets in your profile right now would again be misleading as im sure you are, just that it doesnt have to result in sex , and your not expecting or demanding that it does.
maybe ive read rustys post and profile wrong? but seems to be he just wants to make friends, whom he may have sex with,with nsa, isnt that what defines swinging from one night stands or dating?
xx fem xx
Quote by Plimboy
Single males are at a social disadvantage right accross the spectrum of human interfaces, not just in swinging.
i beg to differ...
im at a huge advantage......
im not tied down to anyone,
i can please myself
i dont need validation on decisions i make
i only have to provide financially for myself
the list is endless
Quote by DeeCee
Single males are at a social disadvantage right accross the spectrum of human interfaces, not just in swinging.
i beg to differ...
im at a huge advantage......
im not tied down to anyone,
i can please myself
i dont need validation on decisions i make
i only have to provide financially for myself
the list is endless
and you're a sex addict...
Quote by Rusty6666
hi is it me or has anyone else felt this .;. i know this is a swinging site and i know swinging is about sex.; but i have put some adds out to meet people to meet for things like going for meals or just for drinks but the response i have got seems if they dont want to shag you they dont want to meet you .; sex dont have to be the bottom line everytime does it i didnt just join here to shag as nice as it is i also thought id make freinds as well . maybe i word my ads wrong i didnt think so some may say if its freinds i want join a frendship site .;i thought i would gain both it seems being a single bloke carrys a kind of stigma my outlook is if you dont want to shag me dont mean we cant have a nice evening together.. or does it i didnt write this to get slagged off so if thats your intenion dont bother lifes to short..
My thoughts exactly - the best sex grows from friendship and having fun together other than sex. Just sex can be a bit shallow and meaningless. Even swinging sex is much more fun amongst friends.
Sex with substance leads to exhilerating times
HR xx
Quote by Rusty6666
hi is it me or has anyone else felt this .;. i know this is a swinging site and i know swinging is about sex.; but i have put some adds out to meet people to meet for things like going for meals or just for drinks but the response i have got seems if they dont want to shag you they dont want to meet you .; sex dont have to be the bottom line everytime does it i didnt just join here to shag as nice as it is i also thought id make freinds as well . maybe i word my ads wrong i didnt think so some may say if its freinds i want join a frendship site .;i thought i would gain both it seems being a single bloke carrys a kind of stigma my outlook is if you dont want to shag me dont mean we cant have a nice evening together.. or does it i didnt write this to get slagged off so if thats your intenion dont bother lifes to short..
Ive had dates, met for drinks (although I do agree with Mayra to a point on that one...even though Im very clear that it is a drink only
) meals from here, so I cant see a problem with what you asking for as it can and does happen. Joining a dating site might be option open to you but I dont think you *have* to. I survive ok here without being on the *scene* and made lots of friends so Im sure a guy can?? Jaymar does have a point about your profile though. Word it slightly different but meaning the same thing :lol:
I see youve put your name down for socials/munches and I think your on the right road to making friends and getting to know peeps. I also saw a after dinner walking meet in LMU, think thats a great idea... want one in Bristol now....anyone?
Good luck in whatever you do
anais xx
