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TallFunLondon
Orgasminator
Quote by teppic
Nope NO vanillas for me was in a relationship for 5 years with one rolleyes bloody glad he left im alot happier now i can have fun but then now i've gone and fallen for a swinger so my life is just going to get better and better :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: wink

lucky guy...
no vanilla for me, unless it's a mc donalds vanilla shake. :P
has to be the strawberry - with two straws - amazing!
end of hijack - sorry
postie
Sex God
Quote by TallFunLondon
Didn't most of us progress from being vanilla into this at some point along the way?

Good point, but did you come here as a ready formed swinger, or did your lifestyle suggest that this is what you may be interested in? Or were you a vanilla who has been swayed?
I think since finding SH I have become more open sexually, more relaxed, and certainly having a lot more fun. But that was starting out from a point where I was probably already a swinger anyway. Or at least very sexually open and un-inhibited, but have become more so now.
Strangely not long before I joined this site I was in a vanilla relationship. Jealousy was one of the things that finished that, some on my part and some on her part. But it made me realise that I never wanted to have those kind of jealous feelings again as it wasn't me in the least. It hadn't happened in previous relationships.
Anyhows, bluexxx is going to kill me for getting all serious, so I am off
bolt
Amber
Orgasminator
I am seeing a vanilla....in the sense that he wouldn't do the swinging scene himself or even watch but doesn't mind me swinging.........does that still make him a vanilla???
confused
berksbex
Orgasminator
Quote by Amber
I am seeing a vanilla....in the sense that he wouldn't do the swinging scene himself or even watch but doesn't mind me swinging.........does that still make him a vanilla???
confused

In my mind, if he has no problem with you swinging, then he can't be vanilla smile because he is showing an open mind etc
makingcocoa
Casanova
Shagging vanillas:
If you have affectionate, cuddly sex, they think you want a relationship.
If you have decent conversations with them, they think you want a relationship.
If, god forbid, you want to shag them on a second occasion, they think you want a relationship.
You are, after all, a woman and thus incapable of shagging anyone without falling madly in love and wanting to have lots of babies. RIGHT NOW.
Having decided you must want a relationship, they then react in one of two ways. They either get weird and uncomfortable and call you 'mate' a lot (while still shagging you every time they have a few drinks), or - worse - they want one too and start confessing undying love every five minutes and you have to change your phone number and stop going to your favourite pub.
Nah, I don't bother with vanillas anymore.
Cocoa x (who is very glad she found SH biggrin )
silent_bob
Orgasminator
Quote by berksbex
I am seeing a vanilla....in the sense that he wouldn't do the swinging scene himself or even watch but doesn't mind me swinging.........does that still make him a vanilla???
confused

In my mind, if he has no problem with you swinging, then he can't be vanilla smile because he is showing an open mind etc
I'm not so sure, Mrs. DP certainly wouldn't class herself as a swinger.
Incidentally, a while ago I did find a Vanilla Pride community on Livejournal, so some people at least consider it a positive label that they wish to be associated with.
MandH
Sex God
shagging vanillas:
Look if they have a pulse, I'll shag anything :shock:
H is fussier though
Devon1
Orgasminator
Nothing wrong with vanillas, its great licking them into shape biggrin
Not found them to be hard work in the past, they just want the same things we do :D
MikeyMann
Warming the Bed
The last but one non-swinger ('vanilla'?) I dated got so turned on by me telling her I'd been with other guys she went out and found herself a bi woman.
She was telling me this week that's she's going to spend the night with her bi friend and the bi friend's husband. No idea if they are on here though. Do I get brownie points for introductions to the swinging lifestyle?? Get a free badge if you introduce 10 people??
Dune
Casanova
Vanillas I do like the hunt but the aftermath can be boring, you want to do what with that???????
lol
debz4u
Sex God
Dont think iv ever been Vanilla confused .
But not shaged one for over a year .
Not saying i wouldent again .
Swingings in my blood lol .
Angel_Chat
Sex God
david wtf was all that about? dunno You should realise by now that the people sending welcome messages are actually real people sitting at their computer desks, and in what way are those messages shallow??
How does any of whats been said in this thread bring you around to people paying money to come here and be humiliated? I think I'm going to award you the prize for most random message of the day because I have no idea what any of that really meant, nor how it fit into this thread :dunno:
Unknown User
Quote by davidsplayroom
I know what you're all thinking. :violin:

betcha don't! biggrin
Mark__Horne
Warming the Bed
Quote by davidsplayroom
This thread is really interesting…
It’s strange to see that so many posts from new boys or girls on the site get loads of ‘welcome to the site’ ...

Aren't you confusing "vanilla" with "newbie".
A "vanilla" is very unlikely to join this site - by posting here you're showing that you at the very least have one or two choc chips...
Angel_Chat
Sex God
Quote by Mark Horne
This thread is really interesting…
It’s strange to see that so many posts from new boys or girls on the site get loads of ‘welcome to the site’ ...

Aren't you confusing "vanilla" with "newbie".
A "vanilla" is very unlikely to join this site - by posting here you're showing that you at the very least have one or two choc chips...
Aha.... if that's the case then I suppose David's rant would make more sense. Kind of confused
rogerthedragon
Sex God
Quote by davidsplayroom
Ok
I do read newbie = newbie to the site
Vanilla = only ever dated one girl at a time
in most cases vanilla = newbie = vanilla = not swinging at the moment but might like to try it
ie someone like me
or should I just go back to regular dating sites and be a serial monogamist
serial monogamist = different girl every week but only one at a time
???

I think most people on here would read Vanilla = someone not interested in anything other than serial monogamy and who isn't into life's little kinks. :twisted:
I think most site Newbies are either here because they already have a taste for swinging from other sites or personal experience or because they would like to. I dont think this makes most newbies vanilla.
Roger cool
Angel_Chat
Sex God
Quote by davidsplayroom
Ok
I do read newbie = newbie to the site
Vanilla = only ever dated one girl at a time
in most cases vanilla = newbie = vanilla = not swinging at the moment but might like to try it
ie someone like me
or should I just go back to regular dating sites and be a serial monogamist
serial monogamist = different girl every week but only one at a time
???

I don't think any of us were referring to newbies in this thread david. As far as I'm concerned, a vanilla person is someone who hasn't even considered swinging or anything outside the "lights off, missionary position once a week with the same person every time" type sex.
I certainly wouldn't class anyone here as a vanilla if they're at least thinking about getting involved in swinging
Angel_Chat
Sex God
Now that's scary.... I just posted almost the same as Roger at the same time :shock: :scared:
rogerthedragon
Sex God
Quote by Angel Chat
Now that's scary.... I just posted almost the same as Roger at the same time :shock: :scared:

I knew what you were going to type because I am telepathic but I got in first because I type faster! lol :lol: :twisted: :twisted:
westerross
Sex God
Quote by davidsplayroom
This thread is really interesting…
It’s strange to see that so many posts from new boys or girls on the site get loads of ‘welcome to the site’ :welcome:
and ‘have fun’ :swingingchair: swinging messages but this thread suggests that those messages are shallow.

Don't get yer knickers in a twist matey. It is light-hearted and there's nothing to say that newbies are vanillas in any event - quite a few are already swingers - nearly all get the same Welcome.
As Blue has said before (in a more serious mood) swinging is an attitude of mind not a precise definition of what you do.
There's another type of classification one might identify - Tarts and Discreets. The latter could be a Swinger or a Vanilla - just 'cos you don't shout about it ...... wink
34fun
Orgasminator
well i think there is something exciting about being invited around to a swingers house knowing your going to get a good seeing to.... lol
but there again i do enjoy the meet and chase of meeting a vanilla. i can get as much pleasure from a night of indepth conversation as i can of having an all night session under the sheets rolleyes
Angel_Chat
Sex God
I think the "enemies" you've made are merely people who don't agree with your points of view and/or the way you put them across. I don't class you as an enemy, and my first post here was utter confusion, the second was trying to help you to understand the terminology of the thread. I can't take away your feelings of umm outsiderism dunno all I can do is try to explain that the way you understood the thread was not the way it was meant. Now I've confuddled myself, and all I was trying to do was help
:crazy:
MandH
Sex God
Quote by Angel Chat
Now I've confuddled myself, and all I was trying to do was help
:crazy:

Don't worry that Angels confuddled herself David, this is normal for one of them chatroom wallas when they come into the grown ups play area :grin: wink bolt
thinks where can I hide :shock:
rogerthedragon
Sex God
Quote by davidsplayroom
I think the "enemies" you've made are merely people who don't agree with your points of view and/or the way you put them across. I don't class you as an enemy, and my first post here was utter confusion, the second was trying to help you to understand the terminology of the thread. I can't take away your feelings of umm outsiderism dunno all I can do is try to explain that the way you understood the thread was not the way it was meant. Now I've confuddled myself, and all I was trying to do was help
:crazy:

I feel the same way I have tried to be nice and somehow my jokey lines have been turned into something else, lines mis-intertpreted or taken out of context.
But at the end of the day the truth is Someone here hates me and that person is a mod
FFS mad - self pity is never a good look, especially when you seemed to be doing quite nicely settling in! rolleyes