I think having a 'relationship' with the other person/s actually enhances the experience.
Once you get to know someone you learn to trust them and therefore feel more comfortable exploring other avenues rather than 'straightforward' sex
You get chance to explore some of the more kinkier sides of sex that you wouldn't necessarily get the opportunity to try with a regular partner, they may not enjoy it, like it etc.
When you share your body with someone else I want to trust that person not to hurt or laugh at me, to understand my body language, to stop when it goes to far or do it more if I like it. I dislike having to explain everything all the time.
If I wanted a quick shag I can get that off my vibrator/dildo and I can do that in a lot more places than I can having sex.
I'm not saying I won't or haven't had the one off shag, but for me its second best.
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OMG see the img thingy above in my last message - thats all it does when i press the img button in the "post a reply" How on earth do i get my pic on messages??? I keep looking at the instructions - press the "img" n it does nowt..........
The image must be on a website somewhere and you put it's URL inbetween the img and /img. So for the image in the top left of this page I would put http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/images/logo-border.gif inbetween img and /img, like this:
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..........................and last night realised the only way that I can do shallow.... If the woman is a hot hot dancer.... then she can do whatever she wants with me. I always forget this right up till I am drooling on the dancefloor.
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Tart!!!
:giggle:
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..........................and last night realised the only way that I can do shallow.... If the woman is a hot hot dancer.... then she can do whatever she wants with me. I always forget this right up till I am drooling on the dancefloor.
Tart!!!
:giggle:
I was soooooo trying to impress you with my "upstanding member of the community image" has it all disappeared ?
:lol: :lol: 
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Quote by splendid33
..........................and last night realised the only way that I can do shallow.... If the woman is a hot hot dancer.... then she can do whatever she wants with me. I always forget this right up till I am drooling on the dancefloor.
Tart!!!
:giggle:
I was soooooo trying to impress you with my "upstanding member of the community image" has it all disappeared ?
:lol: :lol:No! I was just being bitter and twisted cos I can't dance :giggle:
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No! I was just being bitter and twisted cos I can't dance :giggle:
looks like we might have to get to know each other then...
>splendid moves up on her chair and pats her lap ready for fire to come and sit down....... after she has undressed. (it is warm in here)<
:rascal: 
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Fire undresses slowly and provocatively :twisted: and makes her way over to Splendid and sits in her lap and wriggles awaiting her first getting to know you lesson :notes:
for me it would be like talking about a shag buddy, the relationship has to be different from your long term one surely otherwise what is the point?
you have to have sexual chemistry for each other, along with a friendship and concern in that respect but if you go 'down deep' then you start getting messy.
not explaining this very well am I?????
okay. with a shag buddy you wil never have any issues in that there is no commitment past the next appointment to meet is there? you won't have any anger or frustrations or little issues with each other like he spent money on something or his mother in law winds you up or he's out with the lads while your at home with the kids etc etc.
you just have a mutual bond that connects you loosely and that's it. that's what keeps it special and alive.
that's how i see it, can't actually see if i have answered your question, sorry!!
you have to have sexual chemistry for each other, along with a friendship and concern in that respect but if you go 'down deep' then you start getting messy.
not explaining this very well am I?????
okay. with a shag buddy you wil never have any issues in that there is no commitment past the next appointment to meet is there? you won't have any anger or frustrations or little issues with each other like he spent money on something or his mother in law winds you up or he's out with the lads while your at home with the kids etc etc.
you just have a mutual bond that connects you loosely and that's it. that's what keeps it special and alive.
that's how i see it, can't actually see if i have answered your question, sorry!!
