When you start having regular meets with someone, what happens if you get abit too involved with what is going on their lives?. Does your concern for them if they have problems or worries dampen down the sexual tension for either party?
I suppose what I am trying to say is do you find it easy to keep a relationship going as just a "good sex" relationship or does it invariably become something more than that and cause problems further down the line?. Is it better do you think to have someone you have regular sex with or maybe to have lots of peeps you only very occasionally play with?
I would start with us but we're not experienced enough yet to know whats best for us so it's over to you!
Love
FIRE xx
I know where you're coming from here hunni.
When you have a regular intimate friend, someone you get on well with outside of the bedroom and meet for socials as well as sex, it's hard not to get to know their 'other' lives too. I got too fond of someone special , which is not a good idea as it was complicated to begin with, so had to take a step back. I can't say any problems could dampen your sexual activities as those problems were totally unrelated to the other's day to day lives, unless they involve you directly.
It's nice to have a regular intimate friend as well as people I occasionally 'play' with..........but then I'm a greddy cow :twisted:
If you two still need instructions, there is no hope for you :shock:
Guilty here too Miss Firelizard, but my mind's in your trousers instead :rascal:
I think red has left the building.......cant think why :shock:
skips off to the chatrooms
dee xx
Sercher
Like your new arty pics honey
pink x
We have some very close friends that we have made via swinging and I suppose to a certain extent the sex does get affected.
If for instance we haven't seen them for a while, we tend to spend all our time catching up on news and events than playing.
That said when we do play it's great and very comfortable as well.
Jas
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Hey Fire - good question.
I really battled with this when I was swinging. No matter how hard I tried I just couldn't divorce the deep side from what you call the "shallow" side. I met 2 couples off here who have become very special friends for me and I knew then that i had to have the deeper side. So in my mind I kinda knew that perhaps swinging wasn't for me. I just knew that I couldn't just be a "shag" with those people. They became too special for me. Which is why I took myself out of the scene. Those peple remain very good friends ( and they know who they are) and I won't play with them because I can't keep that "distance" with them. Then I met Mr and Mrs R and they felt the same as me. Which is how I ended up poly rather than swinger.
Mr and Mrs R mean the world to me and i am happy with the choice I made, but I do wonder some times how I would have "made it" as a swinger. I think that I couldn't because of the need to have a more emotional attachment.
Not sure if that makes sense - but just kinda coming from my view point.
aRSexx :color:
I dont want nor need the emotional link or to get involved - for me it's simply about the sex I'm far too busy to want anything else and that includes any sort of relationship right now.
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