Hi
I'm 18 and although I do not often find men very attractive compared to women I often fantasise about them. I would like to have a gay experience, though possibly not involving penetration. Has anyone been in the same situation before? I can't help but wonder if I would regret it. This has been bothering me for some time though and it could be the only way to get it out of my system, or find something out about my self.
Any suggestions on what I should do?
Thanks
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Should I have a gay experience?
Sexlightened
Do it.
Ok, from personal experience... yes, do it.
I did it, and even though I now feel very straight, I don't regret it. I went onto gaydar, chatted a while and had quite a few "episodes" with gay men and some transexuals. Was interesting, to say the least.
But a word of warning... sexuality is a Pandora's Box. Once you've opened it, you can't just shut it off and ignore it. It will rear it's head when you least expect it.
I did it, and even though I now feel very straight, I don't regret it. I went onto gaydar, chatted a while and had quite a few "episodes" with gay men and some transexuals. Was interesting, to say the least.
But a word of warning... sexuality is a Pandora's Box. Once you've opened it, you can't just shut it off and ignore it. It will rear it's head when you least expect it.
Totally its so much better to be open and honest with yourself!! Repression only causes anxiety and anger i think!! Pent up frustration and enegry!
I have feel the same about women and havent tried it although Im well up for it now just havent had the opportuinty yet but wont say no when i get the chance I think its cause im a bit more comfortable with myself now and I know that even if it isnt what i expect it will still be an experience Ill enjoy to whatever extent but at least I know Ive tried!
If I it wasnt something I didnt want to try why would the thought have entered into my head so why not!!
I have feel the same about women and havent tried it although Im well up for it now just havent had the opportuinty yet but wont say no when i get the chance I think its cause im a bit more comfortable with myself now and I know that even if it isnt what i expect it will still be an experience Ill enjoy to whatever extent but at least I know Ive tried!
If I it wasnt something I didnt want to try why would the thought have entered into my head so why not!!
Yeah, you know you don't have to "take it like a man". There are plenty of chaps who call themselves straight who would happily do manual (hand jobs) or oral (blpw jobs) to you and from you.
Don't stress it, mate.
I don't do anal. Nor does my partner. (Either giving or receiving) because we don't like it. Some people don't like caviar and champagne - each to their own.
If you do or don't have a male/male experience, it does not mean you are gay, it also does not mean you are not, if you don't.
Kenneth Williams died a virgin. No-one would doubt his sexuality. (Oh shit, I bet you don't even know who he was, right?)
Listen, my dad says about me "She's had enough cock to make a handrail from here to Bombay" and no-one denies my hetrosexuality, but I adore women, and have snogged, caressed, sucked and fucked women. Let yerself go, hun... one life - and this is it!!
PS.... you live near us by any chance?
Don't stress it, mate.
I don't do anal. Nor does my partner. (Either giving or receiving) because we don't like it. Some people don't like caviar and champagne - each to their own.
If you do or don't have a male/male experience, it does not mean you are gay, it also does not mean you are not, if you don't.
Kenneth Williams died a virgin. No-one would doubt his sexuality. (Oh shit, I bet you don't even know who he was, right?)
Listen, my dad says about me "She's had enough cock to make a handrail from here to Bombay" and no-one denies my hetrosexuality, but I adore women, and have snogged, caressed, sucked and fucked women. Let yerself go, hun... one life - and this is it!!
PS.... you live near us by any chance?
Sex God
Shame you're down south, I know a few guys who would have been glad to help....
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although i have had some experiences i still fantasie, the thing is i havent had the right type of experience. Each time i have felt awkward and not completely relaxed. Would like to have a proper experience but not sure what to do.... any suggestions? all my experiences are from the net and it was more of a wham bam and i have recieved oral i would just like to see what it feels like to do it to someone else. Thats what i mean by proper experience
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i would just like to see what it feels like to do it to someone else. Thats what i mean by proper experience
It feels exactly like putting a raw chicken drumstick in your mouth.
Fantasies are funny things. Some of them are absolutely wonderful to realize, whilst others are best left as fantasies. The impossible thing (until it's too late) is to know which is which. I can't say "go for it" or "don't do it", because it's a personal thing, and at the end of the day the only person who's got to live with your decision - whatever it is - is you.
Sex God
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It feels exactly like putting a raw chicken drumstick in your mouth
WHAT!! pmsl! What the hells that supposed to mean! Its nothing like that rofl
BTW, id rather regret having tried something, than to regret not trying it. Saying that, i regret nothing!!
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Orgasminator
Tried it when i was at school didn't do me any harm but im not interested now i always go by the saying i'll try anything once, how do you know if you don't like it till then and remeber even as a bloke you can still say NO at anytime. If you feel pressured or intimidated its not worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Can I suggest at 18 you should make it a bit more than sex? Meet someone within a few years of your age who you fancy and give it try that way. You can afford to be choosy and getting it right will be important, even if you don't like it you can retain a good memory of the experiment.
Hi i appreciate a lot of men have and would like to try experimenting with same sex, (women too) it has even crossed my mind but i choose not to at the moment, but if anything was to put me off would be the raw chicken drumstick. i know you are only trying to impress upon how it feels but i have trouble eating cooked chicken drumsticks, those chickens when preparing sunday roast will never look the same again. lol
Sex God
You don't need to eat them raw though... I find that lightly battered works well in most cases 
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:wink: :wink: Quote by roger743
i would just like to see what it feels like to do it to someone else. Thats what i mean by proper experience
It feels exactly like putting a raw chicken drumstick in your mouth.
Fantasies are funny things. Some of them are absolutely wonderful to realize, whilst others are best left as fantasies. The impossible thing (until it's too late) is to know which is which. I can't say "go for it" or "don't do it", because it's a personal thing, and at the end of the day the only person who's got to live with your decision - whatever it is - is you.
i apologise i hit the wrong quote muskateer roger no hard feelings mate (excuse the pun)
Sex God
Don't try the raw chicken drumstick leave that for Sam and Ella.
As for the lightly battered ones there are a few left over from Blues party
But on a sreious note do give it a try but only when you are ready to.
xx
Del and Gill
As for the lightly battered ones there are a few left over from Blues party
But on a sreious note do give it a try but only when you are ready to.
xx
Del and Gill
Corriefem, that's very good advice. I think that all sexual decisions have consuequences and that you do need to be careful. Having said that, the only way I ever learn is by making mistakes (fortunately not serious ones).
I think the problem with sexuality arises because men are told that if they are straight they should not find men attractive in any way, shape or form. Whereas in reality there are plenty of straight men who can appreciate the looks or sexiness of a man. And there are also plenty of straight men who have dabbled and decided that at the end of the day they prefer pussy to cock.
I think the problem with sexuality arises because men are told that if they are straight they should not find men attractive in any way, shape or form. Whereas in reality there are plenty of straight men who can appreciate the looks or sexiness of a man. And there are also plenty of straight men who have dabbled and decided that at the end of the day they prefer pussy to cock.
Orgasminator
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The bonus to shagging blokes is that they aren't fussy. .
I can say that I am fussy, but then your statement may say something about you?
TS
Even at the tender age of 31, i'm still trying the experiment thing. I've given and recieved oral from a man , but still need to nudge myself that little bit further. I don't know why i stall at this maybe it's the thought of it hurting :shock: (it's in my head, if i could have a PA piercing nothing else could hurt that bad). Or the thought that once i've done it i cann't take it back. But one day hopefully soon i'll take that step. 
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Hi
I can't help but wonder if I would regret it.
There are loads of frogs out there looking for virgin princes or princess.
Just take a little advice from me.
Always use a condom and never trust guys who want to do bare backing, other that that enjoy yourself
TS
