I was just wondering, if you arrange a meet with a guy and you have to stay in a hotel because neither of you can accommodate, should the guy pay for the hotel?
I've had opinions that say yes the guy should pay cause he's the one getting lucky....but I'm more inclined to think that it should be 50/50.
What do you all think?
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Should The Guy Pay?
Quote by DreamerHelen
I was just wondering, if you arrange a meet with a guy and you have to stay in a hotel because neither of you can accommodate, should the guy pay for the hotel?
I've had opinions that say yes the guy should pay cause he's the one getting lucky....but I'm more inclined to think that it should be 50/50.
What do you all think?
Surely the pleasure is on both sides, so the fee should be split. But really it is something that should be negotiated.
Sex God
I'd say the guy pay 75% and the woman 25%.. she should contribute.. but he's the one who's got luckier!!! 
Sex God
Quote by DreamerHelen
I was just wondering, if you arrange a meet with a guy and you have to stay in a hotel because neither of you can accommodate, should the guy pay for the hotel?
I've had opinions that say yes the guy should pay cause he's the one getting lucky....but I'm more inclined to think that it should be 50/50.
What do you all think?
If a woman is so far up herself she thinks I'm getting lucky, I wouldn't be meeting her in the first place.
Quote by Ice Pie
I was just wondering, if you arrange a meet with a guy and you have to stay in a hotel because neither of you can accommodate, should the guy pay for the hotel?
I've had opinions that say yes the guy should pay cause he's the one getting lucky....but I'm more inclined to think that it should be 50/50.
What do you all think?
If a woman is so far up herself she thinks I'm getting lucky, I wouldn't be meeting her in the first place.
Well said!
Sex God
50/50 but 
he can buy the drinks! lol
No seriously, if he was a friend like my regular swing buddy and for example he was unemployed and i worked, then i would pay cos u can get some really cheap hotels out there, and i know that one day the tables may be turned and he would always do the same for me
he can buy the drinks! lolNo seriously, if he was a friend like my regular swing buddy and for example he was unemployed and i worked, then i would pay cos u can get some really cheap hotels out there, and i know that one day the tables may be turned and he would always do the same for me
When dating someone I would pick up the bil. Even though this caused some friction with my present partner as she is an independant woman. After a diplomatic chat (the bruises cleared up quick) we came to an agreement. After a number of months she now lets me take her to a restaurant and let me pay.
As for paying for a hotel. That should be 50/50. You are both consenting adults, enjoying the swinging lifestyle. Why should the male pay 100% of the bill?
"He is the luckier one."
I didn't realise that males were looked at like this on this site. You are both looking for the same excitment, fun and fulfillment so it should be 50/50.
But if he is crap........you could always ask for a refund
Dave_Notts
As for paying for a hotel. That should be 50/50. You are both consenting adults, enjoying the swinging lifestyle. Why should the male pay 100% of the bill?
"He is the luckier one."
I didn't realise that males were looked at like this on this site. You are both looking for the same excitment, fun and fulfillment so it should be 50/50.
But if he is crap........you could always ask for a refund
Dave_Notts
Quote by DreamerHelen
I've had opinions that say yes the guy should pay cause he's the one getting lucky....but I'm more inclined to think that it should be 50/50.
What do you all think?
Personally I'm not a fan of bill splitting.
I would imagine that if I was to meet up with someone in hotel for some casual fun then I would pick up the bill - the first time.
The other person would then pay for the next time.
Dxxx
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I've always believed that a gentleman should offer to pay for things, and a lady should then offer to split things 50/50, and after a brief protest from the man, then this is what's agreed on, unless one party is clearly more wealthy than the other.
It's one of those manners things - like holding a door open for a lady, or wearing a tie - it's rather pointless if you analyse it, but it's 'the done thing'.
It's one of those manners things - like holding a door open for a lady, or wearing a tie - it's rather pointless if you analyse it, but it's 'the done thing'.
Sex God
If it was a stranger I was meeting I would prefer to pay so that it would officially be MY room and I could kick them out and get a replacement if I didn't like them 
If it was someone I knew then 50/50. If it was a regular event, something like alternate paying is the least hassle.
I can't believe that people still think the guy should automatically pay for things - seems bizarre but hey ho
If it was someone I knew then 50/50. If it was a regular event, something like alternate paying is the least hassle.
I can't believe that people still think the guy should automatically pay for things - seems bizarre but hey ho
Sexlightened
A gentleman would pay, a guy might think otherwise. Whilst on the face of it swinging is very much an equal activity and could be reflected in sharing hotel costs, would not the fact that there are a lot more guys than woman induce you as the bloke you to make that little bit more effort.
And don't forget when you date in the traditional sense, the man generally pays for a night out, without being on a promise!! Nor do you necassarily have to wine and dine, so it nets off against the hotel costs.
Me I pay the hotel costs and bring a bottle. If the woman feels more comfortable sharing then go along with her.
And don't forget when you date in the traditional sense, the man generally pays for a night out, without being on a promise!! Nor do you necassarily have to wine and dine, so it nets off against the hotel costs.
Me I pay the hotel costs and bring a bottle. If the woman feels more comfortable sharing then go along with her.
Orgasminator
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Sex God
Quote by MQ
If it was a stranger I was meeting I would prefer to pay so that it would officially be MY room and I could kick them out and get a replacement if I didn't like them
I like your thinking Blue
And if the other person has the same idea? Now there's a shoe which I suspect wouldn't sit quite so comfortably on the other foot.
Quote by Ice Pie
If it was a stranger I was meeting I would prefer to pay so that it would officially be MY room and I could kick them out and get a replacement if I didn't like them
I like your thinking Blue
And if the other person has the same idea? Now there's a shoe which I suspect wouldn't sit quite so comfortably on the other foot.
For the record I will, and do, pay half or a fair share if there are more than two of us, I contributed to hotel and petrol costs for Satins party.
Ooooops, I think i opened the floodgates....LoL.
Ice Pie, I totally agree with you.......I think that each person is both as lucky as the other one to be getting together....if that makes any sense......
I was just wondering, for the record, I personally think that it should be 50/50......but I was just wondering what everyone else thinks....
Ice Pie, I totally agree with you.......I think that each person is both as lucky as the other one to be getting together....if that makes any sense......
I was just wondering, for the record, I personally think that it should be 50/50......but I was just wondering what everyone else thinks....
Quote by Mister_Discreet
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I've always believed that a gentleman should offer to pay for things, and a lady should then offer to split things 50/50, and after a brief protest from the man, then this is what's agreed on, unless one party is clearly more wealthy than the other.
It's one of those manners things - like holding a door open for a lady, or wearing a tie - it's rather pointless if you analyse it, but it's 'the done thing'.
nicely put. I never expect the man to pay for anything although of course it is lovely if he at least offers.
In this particular instance I think it is only fair to split the hotel bill.
But there are ways round spending more than you can afford.
If you split the bill between four, five or six...the price comes right down!! And you are more likely to get your money's worth....
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
If it was a stranger I was meeting I would prefer to pay so that it would officially be MY room and I could kick them out and get a replacement if I didn't like them
I like your thinking Blue
And if the other person has the same idea? Now there's a shoe which I suspect wouldn't sit quite so comfortably on the other foot.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Well, the only option in that case would be to get two rooms. I'd pay for both cos I'm a rich bastard 8-)
Quote by MISSCHIEF
Unless he's a millionaire and your a pauper then i really dont get it.
Even in that circumstance I would feel v. uncomfortable with the guy paying...... Like I've been bought.
Nope, would have to be 50/50
Good point but i guess that would work better if it was someone youd met before
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
I'd ave thought buyin a hotel just to get a shag was goin a bit too far.
It is? Shit! :shock: Back to the drawing board :doh:
OK, forget the hotel, just park up and shag in a quiet place in the hotel car park - then you get your sex for nowt. Sorted! 8-) 8-) 8-)
