Silly question...!
What do single guys at clubs "expect" - and what would they be "dissapointed" in - and what is the norm!?
Asking as we are a couple and really only looking for couples, and when we go clubing on on couples nights. But we're bound to go on another night one day...!
In which case we may be happy to "play" - but do single guys expect full-sex - or are they happy with "whatever they get"!? ;) - eg just "foreplay" type stuff? (Not interested in full sex)
Hate us to play with a single bloke only to have him say at the end "oh - I was expecting a shag!"
Anyway - just a saturday-lunch-on-the-sofa thought!
Your expieriences most welcome!
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Single guys at clubs etc!
Quote by OnlyUs
What do single guys at clubs "expect" - and what would they be "dissapointed" in - and what is the norm!?
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Hate us to play with a single bloke only to have him say at the end "oh - I was expecting a shag!"
There is no norm. Everyone is different. Our experience of single guys at clubs is that they range from "just wanting to watch" through to "wanting a full shag".
The important people to worry about are yourselves. Do what you are happy with, that's what everyone else is doing. If you are bothered then you can set ground rules before you start.
Orgasminator
as i single guy myself, i would ask the couple what they want and stick to there limits, but however have seen the single guys who just try to push whatever, My advice decide with the guy what you u looking for and stick to it, works for me.
Thanks. Again - its one of those "uknown" factors - as we've only ever gone clubbing on couples night.
When the summer is here we are plannong to go to Brigton Sun Club fairly frequenltly to just chill during the day (and get a good all over tan) - and play later (can't play all day ZZZZzzzzzzzz) . But as single guys are going to be there - perhaps one day the situation arises!
What we need is a menu card! ;)
We were hoping for more answers - but guess the lack of them suggests no one else tends to worry!
Till the summer!
(Oh - Q2 for later in the year - would you look out of place at BSC just tanning, relaxing and reading during the day!!!? Or is that whats it is designed for!?)
When the summer is here we are plannong to go to Brigton Sun Club fairly frequenltly to just chill during the day (and get a good all over tan) - and play later (can't play all day ZZZZzzzzzzzz) . But as single guys are going to be there - perhaps one day the situation arises!
What we need is a menu card! ;)
We were hoping for more answers - but guess the lack of them suggests no one else tends to worry!
Till the summer!
(Oh - Q2 for later in the year - would you look out of place at BSC just tanning, relaxing and reading during the day!!!? Or is that whats it is designed for!?)
Master of Sex
As a single guy,when I go to a club,I go in with no expectations whatsoever and therefore can never be disappointed,If i'm invited to join in the fun,I will,If not I won't,I never push in on someone elses fun, I don't like it when those sort of singles are there because they tend to f#@k it up for everyone.
Orgasminator
when we got o clubs ( which is,nt that often ) we,ve been lucky as the guys will ask first , the ones who join us will ask either before or during, and we tell them yes or no and if we say no they eccept it if we,re in an open area others will just watch and maybe play with themselves, everyone is differant 
hope that helps , have fun
Ann xx
hope that helps , have fun Ann xx
Sex God
I don't think this question applies to only single guys.
If you go to a club expecting something then whether you are a single guy, couple or single female you could well be disappointed.
Maaners count so just go with the flow and don't be afraid to speak up if it's not going the way you want it to.
If you go to a club expecting something then whether you are a single guy, couple or single female you could well be disappointed.
Maaners count so just go with the flow and don't be afraid to speak up if it's not going the way you want it to.
Sex God
we cant really answer this can we only single guys can ,we have been to a few clubs now and had different expiernces had a guy when we were sitting in a jacuzzi use the jets to hide the fact he was touching the mrs leg, i mean yes you will get ppl who ask (manners) then you will get the chancers who spoil it for the honest singles ,i mean we had not even spoke to the guy ,now thats what puts a lot of newbies off so like we say only single guys can answer this
Sexlightened
Quote by iluvminis
As a single guy,when I go to a club,I go in with no expectations whatsoever and therefore can never be disappointed,I
As a single guy also, I adopt the same attitude. Last Saturday night, I was in Partners in Bury, in the orgy room, watching the play. I was sat next to a very attractive girl and her husband/partner, and was only 18" away from them. She got him hard, and then knelt down to gave him a BJ, so I moved closer, within her reach, but, didn't touch her. We never spoke, but I gave all the signs that I would like the same. I was not invited to join in, nor told to go away, so I presume they were happy to just let me watch which was fine by me. Maybe next time they will invite me, but thats up to them, as they say in the Army " time spent on reconnaissance is never wasted ".
thechairman18
Sex God
Quote by iluvminis
As a single guy,when I go to a club, I go in with no expectations whatsoever and therefore can never be disappointed. If I'm invited to join in the fun, I will, if not I won't, I never push in on someone else's fun. I don't like it when those sort of pushy singles are there because they tend to f#@k it up for everyone.
Exactly the same here - well put, iluvminis.
Mike.
Quote by thechairman18
We never spoke, but I gave all the signs that I would like the same. I was not invited to join in,
Maybe next time speaking might get you further.
Couples don't always respond to signs but will usually tell you one way or another if you ask nicely. If I haven't got my glasses on I won't see a sign and mrs northwest usually has her eyes shut. 
Also, for all single guys at clubs, don't ask the husband if you can play. Speak to the lady, it's her body after all.
Quote by northwest-cpl
Also, for all single guys at clubs, don't ask the husband if you can play. Speak to the lady, it's her body after all.
Good point but confusingly enough it doesn't always work like that - when I was in a club once I asked a girl as you say and then she asked her partner if it was OK? He said no
So go figure!
Quote by awol
Also, for all single guys at clubs, don't ask the husband if you can play. Speak to the lady, it's her body after all.
Good point but confusingly enough it doesn't always work like that - when I was in a club once I asked a girl as you say and then she asked her partner if it was OK? He said no
So go figure!
Well if you ask me I'll refer you to her and she will be mighty pissed that you didn't ask her first...
:lol: :lol: Sexlightened
Quote by northwest-cplIf I haven't got my glasses on I won't see a sign and mrs northwest usually has her eyes shut.
We never spoke, but I gave all the signs that I would like the same. I was not invited to join in,
l.If I go to Partners and see you ( how I'll know its you, I don't know) who should I ask, you or Mrs NorthWest ? :lol:
thechairman18
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
Also, for all single guys at clubs, don't ask the husband if you can play. Speak to the lady, it's her body after all.
Good point but confusingly enough it doesn't always work like that - when I was in a club once I asked a girl as you say and then she asked her partner if it was OK? He said no
So go figure!
Well if you ask me I'll refer you to her and she will be mighty pissed that you didn't ask her first...
:lol: :lol:well if i am in a club i speak to all parties involved.....but that is just me.. common decency and the fact i want to know a little bit about the people i play with.....
but i find that there are two types of people... the respectfully ones and the ones who think that because .they have paid there money they are garenteed a shag....
the scary ones for me are the people who follow everyone around and don't say a word....
sean xxxxxxxx
Quote by iluvminis
As a single guy,when I go to a club,I go in with no expectations whatsoever and therefore can never be disappointed,If i'm invited to join in the fun,I will,If not I won't,I never push in on someone elses fun, I don't like it when those sort of singles are there because they tend to f#@k it up for everyone.
We've been to couples and mixed nights and I (harlot) have always found the single guys to be polite and courteous. We have always had a good time met some nice people and had a laugh. I think there are less expectations at a mixed night than a couples night (personal view) We now prefer to go to mixed nights.
xxx
Quote by thechairman18If I haven't got my glasses on I won't see a sign and mrs northwest usually has her eyes shut.
We never spoke, but I gave all the signs that I would like the same. I was not invited to join in,
l.If I go to Partners and see you ( how I'll know its you, I don't know) who should I ask, you or Mrs NorthWest ? :lol:
thechairman18
I'll be the one squinting myopically and she'll be the one with her eyes shut. :lol:
Definitely ask her.
We don't often go to Partners. One thing that we don't like at Partners is, as Fabio said, the guys that follow couples round without saying a word, a little chat goes a long way.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: 
Well we are a couple that go to clubs, aobviously i can't speak for single guys but i find most are happy to join you and respect your limits etc, i have had very few problems with single guys at clubs most are respectful and nice guys, tho u will always get the odd one anywhere you go, as in any person, i wouldn't say they are happy for anything they get cause that makes them sound desparate and most guys at clubs arn't, they go to have fun that only a club can offer, not cause they are hard up and after anything they can get lol...... i think (and feel free to correct me if i'm wrong) most single guys go to have a good time like the rest of us, to meet new people and to see what the night offers
Alison x
Alison x
I'm a single guy, and although I don't have a lot of experience at clubs, I have been to Rios a fair bit.
I'd agree with what most of the above posts say, about being polite and friendly and not doing the silent stalker bit. And about how you should go to a club with no expectations, just to enjoy being there, and having a bit of fun if the opportunity arises. This is easier said than done when you first start going though..a lot of people tend to go thinking there is going to be free sex for all and all you have to do is grab the nearest woman.
About protocol in clubs..I'm not too sure about the talking to couples thing. It varies quite a lot. I'm speaking of Rios, of course, where there is much less public action than at other places, and quite a lot of underwater action in the jacuzzi. I am never sure whether to speak to the woman or man, so I generally tend to address both and have a friendly chat..in the jacuzzi or the bar area, or whatever. It's usually fun even if nothing comes of it. Same goes for single women. Sometimes you get the cold shoulder completely and its better not to take it personally.
But sometimes in the jacuzzi I have seen couples who dont want to talk at all, but just play with guys under the water..basically whoever sits next to them..and pretend nothing is happening. I never ask couples if I can join in when they are playing by themselves in the jacuzzi or steam room or whatever..it just feels too intrusive. I prefer talking to them when they are chilling and seeing where it leads.
And sometimes I've played with couples who didn't talk at all', but just started playing with me under the water..starting with a first "accidental" touch and moving on to more touching. One time, I'm pretty sure the woman was doing it without her boyfriend's knowledge, because she started playing with me when he moved to the other side of the jacuzzi to talk to someone and stopped suddenly when he moved back to her side 20 minutes later. All this without ever speaking a word that is..
Hmm..this post has gone on a lot longer than I intended!
C
I'd agree with what most of the above posts say, about being polite and friendly and not doing the silent stalker bit. And about how you should go to a club with no expectations, just to enjoy being there, and having a bit of fun if the opportunity arises. This is easier said than done when you first start going though..a lot of people tend to go thinking there is going to be free sex for all and all you have to do is grab the nearest woman.
About protocol in clubs..I'm not too sure about the talking to couples thing. It varies quite a lot. I'm speaking of Rios, of course, where there is much less public action than at other places, and quite a lot of underwater action in the jacuzzi. I am never sure whether to speak to the woman or man, so I generally tend to address both and have a friendly chat..in the jacuzzi or the bar area, or whatever. It's usually fun even if nothing comes of it. Same goes for single women. Sometimes you get the cold shoulder completely and its better not to take it personally.
But sometimes in the jacuzzi I have seen couples who dont want to talk at all, but just play with guys under the water..basically whoever sits next to them..and pretend nothing is happening. I never ask couples if I can join in when they are playing by themselves in the jacuzzi or steam room or whatever..it just feels too intrusive. I prefer talking to them when they are chilling and seeing where it leads.
And sometimes I've played with couples who didn't talk at all', but just started playing with me under the water..starting with a first "accidental" touch and moving on to more touching. One time, I'm pretty sure the woman was doing it without her boyfriend's knowledge, because she started playing with me when he moved to the other side of the jacuzzi to talk to someone and stopped suddenly when he moved back to her side 20 minutes later. All this without ever speaking a word that is..
Hmm..this post has gone on a lot longer than I intended!
C
