why do the single males in the photo ads become so pissed when we tell them no thank you ,your not what we were looking for,at least 5 out of 50 have sent us a virus(lucky im techy and have sent them back 200 fold,i think its a case of teenage angst as daz n lou were saying bout people complaining alot(only coz they aint gettin none init)im off shopping with all my women,see if i can get the mrs to buy me sum drink lol .
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Sex God
Yeah, I've been sent all sorts of viruses and abuse from guys I've politely said no to 
. As long as my virus protection is up to date (which it is) people can send me as many viruses as they like 
I even have on my ad now that sending abuse is not a good way to get laid. Some guys are sooooooooo sad :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
. As long as my virus protection is up to date (which it is) people can send me as many viruses as they like I even have on my ad now that sending abuse is not a good way to get laid. Some guys are sooooooooo sad :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: Its not just this site that attracts hassle from a bunch of idiots who cant accept no for an answer. There are also occasions in real life where you get the same hassle. The double glazing man rang yesterday to see if i wanted new windows, i very politely said no, the cheeky beggar just called again to see if ive changed my mind.
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Quote by garfield69
why do the single males in the photo ads become so pissed when we tell them no thank you ,your not what we were looking for,at least 5 out of 50 have sent us a virus(lucky im techy and have sent them back 200 fold,i think its a case of teenage angst as daz n lou were saying bout people complaining alot(only coz they aint gettin none init)im off shopping with all my women,see if i can get the mrs to buy me sum drink lol .
I've had a couple of rejections to ads I've replied to and have been fine about it, as I'm sure most singles on here would be. Anyone who gets the hump easily shouldn't be hanging around the swinging community, where from what I've seen from my passive position (still a swinging/dogging virgin) lurking on these boards is a community which prizes openness and honesty (which makes a refreshing bloody change from all the cobblers and social niceties that normally surrounds sexual relations). Anyone who gets the hump so badly that they send viruses is a dickhead with the brains of a hamster and the morals of a rat, and you should be glad that you rejected them.
I think it could be (and I'm guessing here) that young blokes who hang around here and answer ads basically think that they're on a promise for an easy shag, without all that tedious having to talk to people and be nice and tolerant and understanding and empathetic and the rest of it. Plus I wouldn't be surprised if many think that they're young and good-looking and thus they're doing a favour to us lumpy middle-aged types by offering to have it off with us.
I don't know, I'm just speculating because, even as a bloke, I can't get into that kind of mindset. I would advise you to report to the site admins anyone sending you viruses as, unless the offenders have used an anonymous proxy to access the site, they'll have left their IP address behind at the least, and if on dialin they could even have their phone number twigged. It would be nice to give them a nasty surprise... :twisted:
Mr Licks
Sounds very bad what some people do when they do not get what they want. oh well. I am not into getting upset (it does happen) but at the moment I am only for one woman and she knows who she is so I will not be meeting others and having fun and games of a sexual nature with them. I will however laugh and joke but that is far as it will go. For those people that do throw temper tantrums and yes that is what it comes down to I have this to say to you........ Why do you not see if you behave like that your only enforcing what people may have felt about you ie you were not right for them I am certainly not the right sort of person for alot of couples and single fems that come to the chat room or go to the munch. I do not for one minute think I am gods gift I am more of a this is me but I will try to make you happy, I will respect you, I listen to what you like or dislike, I will be there for you (to the friends I have made one in particular) so being arrogant, unkind, upset, rude these things really do not have a place in Swinging Heaven and people do talk about those that they meet they also watch in the chat room about how others behave and they will make the choice that person is right for us or that person is not what we are looking for. Treat people as you would like to be treated please and lets have fun times
I have replied to a few adds and never had even a 'Dear Tnh, Thank you for you mail, sod off, an add placer...' reply. Still I cant believe some people are sad enough (ok, I believe I just wish it were not the case) to start mailing a virus in return. I certainly have never considered moaning at those who don't reply, and would be so surprised if one did I would not mind the rejection but for being noticed 
Grow up people, I know single guys always the tag used, but maybe we should say the rejected as no doubt somewhere there a spurned couple or female (hell hath no fury, etc..). I am sure there was a thread a while back from a hounded male trying to say no to a lady.
If you cant accept other people for who they are, and that means they wont most likely want to leap into bed with you, you are in the wrong place. Swinging is a lifestyle that by bitching about not getting anywhere you are showing you are not part of.
IMHO swingers are people who accept their sexuality and those of others, this can lead to some interesting places (sometimes just in our heads). If you start demanding things of others, abusing others verbally, or in any other way, you don't show that acceptance, and you can't in my book be a swinger.
Grow up people, I know single guys always the tag used, but maybe we should say the rejected as no doubt somewhere there a spurned couple or female (hell hath no fury, etc..). I am sure there was a thread a while back from a hounded male trying to say no to a lady.
If you cant accept other people for who they are, and that means they wont most likely want to leap into bed with you, you are in the wrong place. Swinging is a lifestyle that by bitching about not getting anywhere you are showing you are not part of.
IMHO swingers are people who accept their sexuality and those of others, this can lead to some interesting places (sometimes just in our heads). If you start demanding things of others, abusing others verbally, or in any other way, you don't show that acceptance, and you can't in my book be a swinger.
Sex God
There are obviously a few malicious pillocks out there, but if you do get a virus, it might not be deliberate on the part of the person you received it from. Loads of people spread viruses every day without knowing it.
Sex God
Yeah, I dare say some of the viruses that get sent aren't deliberate, but the abuse certainly is!
In case anyone is in any doubt about the sort of shit some people send, here are a couple of examples:
In this case, the guy sent a short but polite initial response. I recognised that he wasn't what we are looking for straight away and wrote back:
"Thanks for the reply but I don't think we're what you're after. Firstly, Satin is sub and won't fuck men. Second we're looking for groups of guys and from what you say it sounds like you're after a threeesome 're mainly into dogging and outdoor fun with groups - if you're into that we can talk some more, but otherwise good luck with your search"
Sounds polite, yes?
He replied with this strange message:
"just after some good sex fun can you let me know is my cock to small"
:shock:
"I then said: "who mentioned cock size? I really don't think we'll get on somehow"
And got this shit back:
"look dick head your are fucking wanker"
:shock:
In the second one, I got this as an initial response:
"Hi you Two Sexiest people in the world My name is XXXXXX and i love what you are doing in the pictures I would just love to poss for you two with the pink vibrater. I have a wife but shes a bore. The only problem is that I live XXXXXXXXXXXXX. If this is to far for me to come . or meet pl3ease let me no."
I wrote back with a polite thansk but no thanks....
And got this:
"Get a life"
And shortly after, this:
"you will find that you nned a life# I repeat you need a life"
I'm now asking myself, why bother with the polite Thanks but no thanks replies!
In case anyone is in any doubt about the sort of shit some people send, here are a couple of examples:
In this case, the guy sent a short but polite initial response. I recognised that he wasn't what we are looking for straight away and wrote back:
"Thanks for the reply but I don't think we're what you're after. Firstly, Satin is sub and won't fuck men. Second we're looking for groups of guys and from what you say it sounds like you're after a threeesome 're mainly into dogging and outdoor fun with groups - if you're into that we can talk some more, but otherwise good luck with your search"
Sounds polite, yes?
He replied with this strange message:
"just after some good sex fun can you let me know is my cock to small"
:shock:
"I then said: "who mentioned cock size? I really don't think we'll get on somehow"
And got this shit back:
"look dick head your are fucking wanker"
:shock:
In the second one, I got this as an initial response:
"Hi you Two Sexiest people in the world My name is XXXXXX and i love what you are doing in the pictures I would just love to poss for you two with the pink vibrater. I have a wife but shes a bore. The only problem is that I live XXXXXXXXXXXXX. If this is to far for me to come . or meet pl3ease let me no."
I wrote back with a polite thansk but no thanks....
And got this:
"Get a life"
And shortly after, this:
"you will find that you nned a life# I repeat you need a life"
I'm now asking myself, why bother with the polite Thanks but no thanks replies!
Aww cause people like me would say thanks for the reply, nice to be noticed, sorry I not what you after but maybe we can see each other at a munch one day.
See, there are nice men looking as singles... (ok I am married, and i not looking for anything physical (yes she knows about SH) but the thought is there... got to be some nice people left on planet)
See, there are nice men looking as singles... (ok I am married, and i not looking for anything physical (yes she knows about SH) but the thought is there... got to be some nice people left on planet)
Quote by Lovecommando
If only we had some kind of virus guard that weeded out these knobheads before they even sent their first reply, eh!
is very well protected and virus patterns are kept up to date so should weed out nearly if not all viruses.
But it has got to be a good investment to get your own virus protector. :thumbup:
Quote by TheFacilitator
If only we had some kind of virus guard that weeded out these knobheads before they even sent their first reply, eh!
is very well protected and virus patterns are kept up to date so should weed out nearly if not all viruses.
But it has got to be a good investment to get your own virus protector. :thumbup:
Hehe, I think the plan here was a dick-head detector.. a spam filter on steroids that could bin 1 liners and idiot emails before you see them, sort of crystal ball plug in that finds the genuine mails
Edit: Spelling :doh:
I think the behaviour of these immature children is despicable. They should realise that the beauty of success has no meaning if it has not been acheived without some failure. At least you that have spoken and the vast majority have the decency to respond> Its apparaent thaty these imbeciles would be useless in the sack if they did get postive responses. Perhaps we should ask the moderators to start a datase where this kind of thing could be reported and regular offenders could be kept off the site. and now to all you luvly ladies who have refused me you can all go and get fucked and fucked and fucked and fucked and fucked
Sex God
and now to all you luvly ladies who have refused me you can all go and get fucked and fucked and fucked and fucked and fucked
is that supposed to be funny?
is that supposed to be funny?
Quote by tallnhairy
If only we had some kind of virus guard that weeded out these knobheads before they even sent their first reply, eh!
is very well protected and virus patterns are kept up to date so should weed out nearly if not all viruses.
But it has got to be a good investment to get your own virus protector. :thumbup:
Hehe, I think the plan here was a dick-head detector.. a spam filter on steroids that could bin 1 liners and idiot emails before you see them, sort of crystal ball plug in that finds the genuine mails
Edit: Spelling :doh:
Duh!!! Oh Yeah!!! :doh: :doh:
Hi all
just thought i would add my bit to this post....
I have been one of the lucky men to meet a wonderfull cpl from here to go dogging. i have met them twice (and will meet again when the time permits) I have also met two separate ladies from other sites in the last 5 years.
So three meets in 5 years! :D :D :D :D
I have wrote to people after seeing there adds and most of the time i dont even get a no thanks.
I accept that when sending off a reply to an add i might not be what they want. Thats life, we cant all fancy everyone!! If i get a no thanks, (95% time i get nothing) i sometimes just write back with a thank you for letting me know.
What is the point in sending a reply with abuse, do they think that you are going to say (oh ok you can come and shag me now if i have upset you)
Like many before me have said,i think most of these men think that all you ladies are out there laying on a bed waiting to get shagged. :x Not that you are someones wife/girlfriend etc
I also have an add on here and sometimes get people sending me a reply. :D :D I always answer (albeit, i have never said no...as they have all sounded so nice!!) sometimes i have sent 5 or 6 mails back and forth, where to meet etc and then it all goes quiet.
first time this happened i sent a mail asking if everything was ok...no reply
Now i just take it that they have had a change of heart or they were also timewasters.
But i would never dream of sending any abuse or virus to them just for waisting my time.
I think that all we can do is be ourselves...be polite and treat people as we would like to be treated. that way we all know we are in the right.
These people will get what they deserve in the end.
They sure as hell dont get the shag they thought they would get!!
sorry if this lost the plot a bit
keep safe and looking forward to meeting more of you lovely people.
cheers
James
all pm accepted...i'm from the new forest area(bournemouth)
just thought i would add my bit to this post....
I have been one of the lucky men to meet a wonderfull cpl from here to go dogging. i have met them twice (and will meet again when the time permits) I have also met two separate ladies from other sites in the last 5 years.
So three meets in 5 years! :D :D :D :D
I have wrote to people after seeing there adds and most of the time i dont even get a no thanks.
I accept that when sending off a reply to an add i might not be what they want. Thats life, we cant all fancy everyone!! If i get a no thanks, (95% time i get nothing) i sometimes just write back with a thank you for letting me know.What is the point in sending a reply with abuse, do they think that you are going to say (oh ok you can come and shag me now if i have upset you)
Like many before me have said,i think most of these men think that all you ladies are out there laying on a bed waiting to get shagged. :x Not that you are someones wife/girlfriend etc
I also have an add on here and sometimes get people sending me a reply. :D :D I always answer (albeit, i have never said no...as they have all sounded so nice!!) sometimes i have sent 5 or 6 mails back and forth, where to meet etc and then it all goes quiet.
first time this happened i sent a mail asking if everything was ok...no reply
Now i just take it that they have had a change of heart or they were also timewasters.
But i would never dream of sending any abuse or virus to them just for waisting my time.
I think that all we can do is be ourselves...be polite and treat people as we would like to be treated. that way we all know we are in the right.
These people will get what they deserve in the end.
They sure as hell dont get the shag they thought they would get!!
sorry if this lost the plot a bit
keep safe and looking forward to meeting more of you lovely people.
cheers
James
all pm accepted...i'm from the new forest area(bournemouth)
we always reply to guys who send full details/pic and to date have only had one bad reaction from a all sorts of people out there,like any section of society,this one bad reply we had,will not stop us doing what we enjoy,and yes guys theres plenty of couples who will meet you,if you do as asked on the
Sex God
Quote by bluexxx
I'm now asking myself, why bother with the polite Thanks but no thanks replies!
Because you are a civil, decent person. If they're not, that's their problem. Once you've sent them the No Thanks, you could always then put them in your blocked senders' list. You've done your bit.
Ice
Warming the Bed
'ello peeps,
Thought I'd join in here, this is an interesting topic !
I wholeheartedly agree with James' sentiments regarding treating other people in the way in which you yourself would like to be treated, they will get their just rewards !
I sympathise with and understand bluexxx's bewilderment at the responses to a polite "no thanks", may I suggest a little more firmness though. I think a polite yet firm reply is ALL that is needed, we do not have to explain ourselves and therefore there is no need to elaborate so shut the door if you need to, just do it positively !
My own experiences have drawn mixed results from nothing to "well if you want to get to know me email at this (pay to join) website, my ad is xxxxxx" so no positives (yet). If someone does bother to reply then I always respond out of courtesy, I treat others as I wish to be treated and will never lower myself to the standards shown by these people.
I think I'm quite a good judge of character and in these ads you really only have 1 thing to go on (ignoring pictures) - the standard of their writing so judge the person on that. Compare the standard of writing in some of the ads with that in these posts - I reckon if a person cannot writ or spill proplee or as bad gramma then there a crap shag - avoid them because the power to communicate is sex and therefore writing is sexy, now ya'll go away and have good sex now !
S8
XXX
PS That last bits a joke by the way, I'm a great shag !
Thought I'd join in here, this is an interesting topic !
I wholeheartedly agree with James' sentiments regarding treating other people in the way in which you yourself would like to be treated, they will get their just rewards !
I sympathise with and understand bluexxx's bewilderment at the responses to a polite "no thanks", may I suggest a little more firmness though. I think a polite yet firm reply is ALL that is needed, we do not have to explain ourselves and therefore there is no need to elaborate so shut the door if you need to, just do it positively !
My own experiences have drawn mixed results from nothing to "well if you want to get to know me email at this (pay to join) website, my ad is xxxxxx" so no positives (yet). If someone does bother to reply then I always respond out of courtesy, I treat others as I wish to be treated and will never lower myself to the standards shown by these people.
I think I'm quite a good judge of character and in these ads you really only have 1 thing to go on (ignoring pictures) - the standard of their writing so judge the person on that. Compare the standard of writing in some of the ads with that in these posts - I reckon if a person cannot writ or spill proplee or as bad gramma then there a crap shag - avoid them because the power to communicate is sex and therefore writing is sexy, now ya'll go away and have good sex now !
S8
XXX
PS That last bits a joke by the way, I'm a great shag !
Sex God
Quote by bluexxx
I'm now asking myself, why bother with the polite Thanks but no thanks replies!
Sorry to hear that Blue!
Granted, Vix & I haven't had anywhere near the volume of ad responses you've got to contend with, but all of those who have replies to our "thanks, but no thanks" messages have been very cordial (all single males, btw).
Here's a sampling of what they're said...
"Thanks for the kind and honest reply. I hope you find what you're looking for and have loads of fun. The search goes on..."
"Ok no worries! Thanks for your nice reply.
Hope you are sucessfull with your search.
Have a good weekend, looks like its going to be a hot one!! If you did
want to chat some time-not phone sex!- my mobile is..."
"Thank for the reply! hope u all the best in the future
Have fun and be safe"
"thank you so much for your gracious reply it makes me feel like there are people out there really wanting a bi m....
takcare and g luck with your search too
p.s. you make a lovely couple! and vix you have the figure and looks of an angel"
...almost restores one's faith in the single male, dunnit?!
~Reese!
I have to echo what most of the guys have said here..I am a single guy and yes im looking but no i dont think its acceptable to treat ppl with the abuse that some fo you ladys have been getting..
If its no thanks then why bother to send back to a lady more than "thanks for replying"? i think your right a "dickhead detector" would be handy!!!!
To any guys reading this..just cos a lady is looking doesnt mean she deserves to be treated with anything but respect..
If its no thanks then why bother to send back to a lady more than "thanks for replying"? i think your right a "dickhead detector" would be handy!!!!
To any guys reading this..just cos a lady is looking doesnt mean she deserves to be treated with anything but respect..
Sex God
Some good points made, folks...
Straighteight - you think I should be more firm :shock:
.... Oh I can do firm alright............................ when I point out that I have a zapper gun in my hand and that their silliness is likely to get them zapped into the nether regions of cyberspace forever (well, de-activated at least :mrgreen: ), they usually turn into putty in my hands..... well, actually I don't usually tell them I'm a mod on SH, I consider that a bit of an unfair advantage - I just threaten to report them:
Here's how the first guy I talked about backed down when faced with the big ZAP. I said:
"I advise you NOT to send any more abuse or you will be reported to swinging
heaven for being abusive.... I will send them your abusive email and they
will ban you from the site. That is not a threat, it is a promise"
He responded, meekly:
"ok m8 very sorry about that any way best of luck to you from, XXXXXXX"
See, it's easy really!
I must admit, if I get an influx of replies all at once, I don't bother saying thanks but no thanks to the silliest. However, if it looks like the guy has considered his reply and spent some time on it, I always respond nicely, even if he's not what we're after.
And yes, Reese, some guys do respond very well to a knock back. In fact the abusive ones are certainly in the minority but unfortunately they're the ones that get all single guys tarred with the same bad brush
Straighteight - you think I should be more firm :shock:
.... Oh I can do firm alright............................ when I point out that I have a zapper gun in my hand and that their silliness is likely to get them zapped into the nether regions of cyberspace forever (well, de-activated at least :mrgreen: ), they usually turn into putty in my hands..... well, actually I don't usually tell them I'm a mod on SH, I consider that a bit of an unfair advantage - I just threaten to report them:Here's how the first guy I talked about backed down when faced with the big ZAP. I said:
"I advise you NOT to send any more abuse or you will be reported to swinging
heaven for being abusive.... I will send them your abusive email and they
will ban you from the site. That is not a threat, it is a promise"
He responded, meekly:
"ok m8 very sorry about that any way best of luck to you from, XXXXXXX"
See, it's easy really!
I must admit, if I get an influx of replies all at once, I don't bother saying thanks but no thanks to the silliest. However, if it looks like the guy has considered his reply and spent some time on it, I always respond nicely, even if he's not what we're after.
And yes, Reese, some guys do respond very well to a knock back. In fact the abusive ones are certainly in the minority but unfortunately they're the ones that get all single guys tarred with the same bad brush
Sex God
Quote by Lovecommando
If only we had some kind of virus guard that weeded out these knobheads before they even sent their first reply, eh!
You don't need a virus guard for that mate. It's a knobhead guard is what you want. Think I've got one in the garage - go and get it - hang on a mo'.
i do not agree with your last paragraph in which you say ,if you cant spell then you must be a crap shag,thats just a plain assumption,im no big head but im crap at spelling,but bloody good in bed,whilst you were at school doing english, i was smoking dope and learning carnal knowledge(not proud but i did it)
school or wild times............i should have chose school,but whats the point as it was all yts when i left .......i got no regrets,i did get a city and guilds in communication after school ,but i still cant spell.................i wont say how many dyslexlic people you might have offended.....ill say sorry for ya...............coz im nice(sometimes)
school or wild times............i should have chose school,but whats the point as it was all yts when i left .......i got no regrets,i did get a city and guilds in communication after school ,but i still cant spell.................i wont say how many dyslexlic people you might have offended.....ill say sorry for ya...............coz im nice(sometimes)
