I am sure it has been posted before but as a single male(also regarded as a leper it seems) I have read many posts about singles not turning up, and am fed up of been put in the same class, if I make an agreement short of plauge or famine I will turn up, it seems to mean that a lot of us genuine males don't get considered and can understand the frustration it must cause.
While I am having a moan the other thing that is starting to get to get on my nipps is people who car'nt be bothered to reply when you mail them even just the word no would be fine, I see lots of stuff on profiles about one liners ignored , no time wasters etc and yet these same people cannot be bothered to be polite enough to reply with a simple no thanks.
There rant over feel free to slag me off or ignore me at will. XXXX
No just speaking in general terms, I have also had nice replies from people saying no, and met some really nice people on here too it just seems to have got worse of late.
Ok, lets take a look from a different angle here bigal, say your part of a couple just for a moment.
You join the site full of high hopes and expectations about meeting multitudes of other couples, stipulate quite clearly on your profile (the one that a lot of folk don't seem to read) that you are NOT looking for single males or that you will contact THEM should you require what they can bring to certain elements of your swinging life!!
You then start to receive large amounts of mail in your inbox from people who are indeed, the very people you are not looking for, single males. Can you see how this might become annoying should you have been a member for as long as say the 2 years we have been here?
If you are contacting members who's profile in the bit where it says "we are looking for..." doeswn't clearly have the words "single male" underneath then you can't really come on here and complain now can you?
However, if you are contacting people who do have the "single male" category in their profile then they should at least have the decency to have a "cut and paste No Thanks" saved in their sent box to send out!!
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That is if the single male sends out something other than a massively annoying "wink" (that is so bloody annoying it drives us wild) or something that has clearly had no thought, effort or required any time to construct!!
As another single bloke all I can say is that to be able to meet anyone I've had to be patient.
It's working so far.
As for people who accuse you of being a timewaster or a leper....do you really want to meet such people?
I wouldn't.
it can feel like the worlds against you but it's not with out reason due to the numbers of single men on here a lot of whom arnt even single.
The same applies to single fems but as they are such low numbers in comparison its not noteworthy.
Just carry on and take no notice.
There is really no point in moaning regarding being ignored, what i have found in my time her is that if you contact the right couple at the right time all will be well lol, but it does take a lot of misses before having a fantastic hit :twisted:
hi bigal,
you say you have met some people off ths site, so its not that what your doing isnt the right thing.
if you go in a club there will be several ladys there who may well be lookng for fun, however there is more to being the right person to have fun with than being the right gender or live in right area etc.
for what ever reason some dont reply, maybe they dont have time to, want to, got into email tennis when all they wanted to say was no so avoid replys stating no ( many guys dont accept just no they want to know why etc and then get abusive) etc etc. fact is they havent so are not intrested so nothing lost.
the way forward with being here is to remember ITS NOT JUST A SEX SITE its a swinging community, if a click happens and a great swinging session and friends are made "result". If not just enjoy the community.
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i know lots of single men who do well on here, if you want to get meets you have to make a effort and i dont mean send out mail after mail i mean a real effort, get youtself known, go to socials get out there lol i think (and this is only my opinion) a lot of single men are just after sex and dont want to make the effort to go to socials etc cause they not getting a shag at the end of it, but when i'm looking to meet a single guy i will look to be meeting someone i have met b4 at a social etc, had a drink and a chat to, someone i already know i like and am attracted to and hopefully they are attracted to me too but if they have already met me they will know if they are and if they dont like me can say no thanks and save wasting a night meeting someone you dont even know you like, plus if they make a effort to go to socials you can pretty much be sure they will turn up, all the single guys i know who do well on here go to the socials and are happy to meet you for a drink without the expectation of playing.....i works in the long run and these guys usualy end up with regular play mates out if it
I don't know if you have ventured in, but the chat rooms can be a good place for single guys (as well as all others in fact) cos you can sometimes put yourswelf across a bit better in 'live' situation.
Anyway, if you haven't done so - pop in and say hi in a few rooms.
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