Hi all
Can someone describe what would be the accepted criteria for "soft swinging" give or take a few boundaries !
Currently we are a MMF cpl but soft swinging might be our way of being more intimate with another cpl
Many thanks
Saboor xxx
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Soft swing
last reply
7 replies
3.8k views
1 watcher
0 likes
Warming the Bed
It seems to range from having sex with your own partner in the same room as others having sex to having sex with another partner but stopping at penetration .
We have never sure which why we go full swap .
We have never sure which why we go full swap .
Warming the Bed
agree with the above definition - for myself it means you don't actually have sexual intercourse with the other person or couple you are meeting.
Of course there is a whole range of activities that constitute sex - do you count anal, oral, kissing, touching etc etc
So I think of a soft swing couple as a couple who have some "rules", rather than anything else - the most obvouise of which is no sexual intercourse.
As an aside: What did make me chuckle a little is referring to yourselves as a "MMF couple". It amused me because from my perspective there can only be two people in a couple! Not saying you are wrong, but it's just funny how we understand the meaning of words.
Of course there is a whole range of activities that constitute sex - do you count anal, oral, kissing, touching etc etc
So I think of a soft swing couple as a couple who have some "rules", rather than anything else - the most obvouise of which is no sexual intercourse.
As an aside: What did make me chuckle a little is referring to yourselves as a "MMF couple". It amused me because from my perspective there can only be two people in a couple! Not saying you are wrong, but it's just funny how we understand the meaning of words.
This does vary from person to person but for the majority there seems to be just 2 different views on the subject.
There are the "girls play with each other but male partners only watch then play with their own partners"
and
Everyone plays but intercourse is only between partners, caressing, oral sex etc is ok.
Kissing is something that varies again, even some full swap couples do not kiss others.
Personally we are happy with full swap or soft swap, but we go for the 2nd option of all playing but happy to forgo the penetrative sex ie intercourse. As for kissing, we do find it strange that some think this is too intimate, ok to put my dick in her mouth but not my tongue ? we wouldn't snog others at a bar or in the street but when having sex we see it as just part of the sex intimate only in that it enhances the sex just like oral sex does but each to their own of course and we always respect all boundaries set by people.
There are the "girls play with each other but male partners only watch then play with their own partners"
and
Everyone plays but intercourse is only between partners, caressing, oral sex etc is ok.
Kissing is something that varies again, even some full swap couples do not kiss others.
Personally we are happy with full swap or soft swap, but we go for the 2nd option of all playing but happy to forgo the penetrative sex ie intercourse. As for kissing, we do find it strange that some think this is too intimate, ok to put my dick in her mouth but not my tongue ? we wouldn't snog others at a bar or in the street but when having sex we see it as just part of the sex intimate only in that it enhances the sex just like oral sex does but each to their own of course and we always respect all boundaries set by people.
Sexpert
Think every bodies boundaries and limits are very personnel, we tend it visit clubs but never go with a pre conceived agenda. If things move on from chat, a quick glance to one another soon tells you if the other is comfortable with the situation and we are always respectful of others when we play, so soft or full swing possibly doesn't cover us. When it comes to kissing though, YES PLEASE!!!! both of us love getting our faces snogged off and snogging the faces off others. That with a hand placed on your lap has to be the most erotic part of swinging for us.
Sexpert
Quote by Saboor
Hi all
Can someone describe what would be the accepted criteria for "soft swinging" give or take a few boundaries !
Currently we are a MMF cpl but soft swinging might be our way of being more intimate with another cpl
Many thanks
Saboor xxx
i suppose softswing would be classed as fondling and oral or just voyeurism without going all the way to full penitration i like the phase softswing it sounds so much more relaxed
