I'd love a man to suck my cock or for me to suck a str8 mans cock
Personally, I can go from hot to cold with the whole bi thing... sometimes I'm really turned on with thought of a big hard cock... wanking one... sucking one even... but I dont find men attractive and the idea of anal or kissing with a guy is just not in my mind... and then sometimes I go off the idea and wonder how I can ever get turned on by the idea.
I also enjoy discussing it online with guys - many feel similar to me and just enjoy the mutual pleasure of it. I also enjoy simply wanking in the same room (real or chat-room) as guys, I find it liberating.
Perhaps the deal with men liking the idea when a woman is there is because they get off on the woman, not the guy.
The guy is really incidental, it's the thought of the woman being so aroused that's turning him on.
This isn't the best analagy... but
Most of the things we do sexually aren't a turn on in their own right. It's about the effect it has on someone.
You can lick a woman's ass... I genuinely don't think that act itself is sexy UNTIL you know 'in the moment' it's driving a women wild.
It's the same with watersports, or spanking or any number of things. The 'act' isn't the turn on per se, it's the scenario around the act that does the trick.
In the same way then, sucking another guy's cock shouldn't automatically be interpret as bi, or even bi curious.... it is JUST a physical act. The intent behind it is what makes in bi or not.
Imagine this:
A man puts his hand on a woman's breasts.
It COULD be absolutely awful and traumatic.
Or it would COULD be wonderfully erotic and sensual.
Now it's just a hand on a breast...so clearly the real difference isn't in the hand or the touch... it's in the mind of the woman and the man. If it's welcomed and consenting, it's beautiful. If it's not welcomed or consenting, it's abusive and awful.
Everything depends in the intent of the two involved.
So no act is gay,straight or bi, dominant or submissive.... it's just a physical act. If the guy is doing it because it drives a woman wild, to hell with it I say!