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ambervixen
Sexlightened
Ola all,
I need some advice, I had a meet last night with a very sexy guy, seemed genuine, very attractive, everything was going well until in the middle of the 'action' he went quiet and then backed off, after being unable to get a decent hardon.
I was confused and waited to see what was wrong, and he asked me to leave saying the 'chemistry' wasn't right.
Fine, happy to respect that but it was 4 in the morning in Brixton! I got dressed said good bye and left.
I sent him a 'wtf' text a little later and felt bad about it this morning.
He sent me a text to say to read my email, I did, he sent me a rather lenghthy slightly odd message telling me to go to a GUM clinic!!
I'm now freaked out, was screened recently and all was good.
So now I'm rather confused. What do I do. I emailed him to apologise and to say that I was unsure what the problem was. He hasn't responded so I've deleted his number, and his account from my contacts to be decent about it.
I did use a rather cheap hair removal cream which has left me red and swollen down below, this is the only thing I can think of. Clearly it's not impossible that I might have something, but I can't figure wtf is going on.
Am I diseased or was something else going on!!
Amber - hereby ensuring with this thread NEVER to have sex again!!! xxx redface surprisedops: :oops:
Unknown User
Quote by ambervixen
Am I diseased or was something else going on!!

Hi Amber, first of all this statement worries me slightly, only you should know that one hun, no one can answer that for you.
Secondly, he should've been honest enough to have approached you at the time of noticing your 'swelling' instead of being a prat and lying and basically pushing you out of the door at 4am!!! a lady on her own at the time is shocking.
Thirdly, maybe the 'swelling' could've been down to pure sexual arousal?, sometimes if I am tremendously turned on I get swollen, and if I have had some strenous pumelling that too leaves me swollen.
For your OWN piece of mind I would go to your local clinic and have some up to date tests done but make a mental note to stay clear of this lad.
Either way I feel for you I really do, it's not a nice situation to be in when someone is clearly thinking you are unclean. kiss
Freckledbird
Sex God
Maybe he meant he could have passed something to you? Get checked anyway - another one won't hurt. Other than that, what else can you do?
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Quote by Freckledbird
Maybe he meant he could have passed something to you? Get checked anyway - another one won't hurt. Other than that, what else can you do?

This possibility crossed my mind, too.
Marya_Northeast
Sex God
Quote by Cherrytree
Maybe he meant he could have passed something to you? Get checked anyway - another one won't hurt. Other than that, what else can you do?

This possibility crossed my mind, too.
Same here!
I'd definitely get checked out just in case!
Don't beat yourself up about it, chick. I've had some nasty cream/shaving rashes that would put off the randiest of blind men. Shame he couldn't just be honest about it but it's a very tricky subject to approach with anyone, never mind a virtual stranger.
Sarah
Sex God
Make note to self to use hair removal cream at least a day in advance in future to allow for any redness / swelling etc to do away.
Go and get checked out.
dekntan
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
Maybe he meant he could have passed something to you? Get checked anyway - another one won't hurt. Other than that, what else can you do?

This possibility crossed my mind, too.
Same here!
I'd definitely get checked out just in case!
Don't beat yourself up about it, chick. I've had some nasty cream/shaving rashes that would put off the randiest of blind men. Shame he couldn't just be honest about it but it's a very tricky subject to approach with anyone, never mind a virtual stranger.
same here, i cant quite imagine it was because of the swelling/rash, i really swell up when turned on and how many people never get shaving rashes?????? sounds like a problem on his side but get yourself to the clinic ps. did you use a condom??
but dont worry sounds like you did nothing wrong on your part and everyone would prob send a wtf text if that had happened
markz
Sex God
I'm shocked that any guy would ask a lady to leave in the middle of the night in an unfamiliar place....what an asshole........... confused
Sarah
Sex God
Quote by markz
I'm shocked that any guy would ask a lady to leave in the middle of the night in an unfamiliar place....what an asshole........... confused

Agreed
dekntan
Sex God
Quote by Sarah
I'm shocked that any guy would ask a lady to leave in the middle of the night in an unfamiliar place....what an asshole........... confused

Agreed
yup not a very nice thing to do :crazy:
Velvet__Lips
Sexpert
yes, he deserved the text just for sending you home, please tell me he at least called you a taxi?
Unknown User
4am Brixton and the guy sends you packing thinking the worst?? What a complete Twa*
Nice bloke.... rolleyes
Never mind checking out your fanbelt go and get your head checked if you think of seeing him again!!
No excuses there... If he thought something off he could have been man enough to discuss surely.. Shame on him!
Mike
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Maybe he meant he could have passed something to you? Get checked anyway - another one won't hurt. Other than that, what else can you do?

i was thinking that too, i think most people can tell a shaving/cream rash from other things but maybe a better cream may be in order next time :thumbup: lol
Quote by mdr2000
4am Brixton and the guy sends you packing thinking the worst?? What a complete Twa*
Nice bloke.... rolleyes

have to admit i was thinking that too lol
even tho i have met some compleat twats in swinging it still amazes me how some guys treat women on here....i dont want to shag you so feck off!!! :roll:
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Quote by ambervixen
Ola all,
I need some advice, I had a meet last night with a very sexy guy, seemed genuine, very attractive, everything was going well until in the middle of the 'action' he went quiet and then backed off, after being unable to get a decent hardon.
I was confused and waited to see what was wrong, and he asked me to leave saying the 'chemistry' wasn't right.

Maybe he was embarrassed and rather than saying so, decided to pretend it was you at fault.
Unknown User
If it were that easy to tell what the fluck do we have doctors GUM clinics and the like for... take no notice of what he says but for your own peace of mind go and get checked...
He can't be that fookin good at spotting something if he was half way through first can he lol... lol
Stop fretting I say... easy to say yes.. till you know by an expert who has trained and can actually say so I wouldn't take anything a guy like that said seriously...
Mike x
Unknown User
Quote by Cherrytree
Ola all,
I need some advice, I had a meet last night with a very sexy guy, seemed genuine, very attractive, everything was going well until in the middle of the 'action' he went quiet and then backed off, after being unable to get a decent hardon.
I was confused and waited to see what was wrong, and he asked me to leave saying the 'chemistry' wasn't right.

Maybe he was embarrassed and rather than saying so, decided to pretend it was you at fault.
My thoughts exactly. Some blokes will do or say anything to detract from their problems in the erection department.
noladreams
Sex God
Hmmmm... not a nice way to end a meet!?!
I'm inclined to agree with previous posters who have suggested that a big part of this may have been his ability to sustain an erection. Embarrassment does odd things to people.
Me personally, I would go and get myself checked - in case, as others have suggested he knows he has sthg and thinks may have passed it on...
Other than that, change your hair removal cream or do it 24 hrs in advance.
Chalk it up to a bad experience.
Nola x
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Quote by noladreams30
Hmmmm... not a nice way to end a meet!?!
I'm inclined to agree with previous posters who have suggested that a big part of this may have been his ability to sustain an erection. Embarrassment does odd things to people.
Me personally, I would go and get myself checked - in case, as others have suggested he knows he has sthg and thinks may have passed it on...
Other than that, change your hair removal cream or do it 24 hrs in advance.
Chalk it up to a bad experience.
Nola x

i agree...
he does sound a bit of a crank tho.........and might have something to hide.... girlriend maybe? possibly he's had unprotected sex recently and was worried he might spread way....... his head went big-time....... and hes sort of blaming you in order to save face and possibly so you wouldnt say anything about it.
personally id have suggested we both go to sleep ( possibly seperately) and talk about it in the morning over breakfast.... but then again im experienced and comortable around women.......
without having a look wink i cant comment on the state of ya flower.. but i think the reason is more to do with his todger as opposed to your bits...
anyhow.. if u like, im in London on business this week........ lets have dinner!!! biggrin
helnheaven
Sex God
What a real numpty this guy sounds.
If hes the type to ask you to leave at 4am alone, then I hardly think he'd be bothered to 'hint' he may have passed something onto you.
You must get checked out for your own peace of mind though and dont let this experience put you off.
He obviously has 'issues' his problem not yours.
blueandpink
Sex God
Oh Amber what a total twat. Really sorry to hear you were so badly treated. But agreeing with the majority here, I read it first as if he was guilty of having sex with you knowing he had a STI/possible STI and couldn't sustain a hard on for that reason. But other theories are possible too, so many people with insecurities do often blame others to deflect the embarrasment.
Do get checked to be sure.
With regard to the hair cream, I can get red and sore using it too close to the vaginal opening so always do that bit at least 24 hours in advance and the top bit just before a meet.
pink x