I've noticed whilst on this site that there is an aggressive debate regarding ‘common single men just after shag’ vs. a true male swingers
After all this time I have come to the conclusion that a common single male is;
Some one after a shag only, and possibly would 2 time his sex partners secretly, with out them knowing. He is not into group sex, and he is not into shearing and swapping girl friends. And would get jell us if some one was knocking his bird. He is the type that cringes at the mention of gay sex
A male swinger is;
After sex and is prepared to swap girl friends/sex partners, dose not mind his girl friend going of on a one night stand as long as she enjoyed her self.
He is prepared to have group sex with friends or equaytancys.
I wondered what you all think
James
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Can I ask you something? Are you using some form of voice activated text system? A lot of your posts are very badly written which is not down to a bad education, ie jell us instead of jealous. It makes your posts very difficult to read.
Mal
Can I ask you something? Are you using some form of voice activated text system? A lot of your posts are very badly written which is not down to a bad education, ie jell us instead of jealous. It makes your posts very difficult to read.
Mal
Quote by james02I can't speak for all James, but I think it is clear from previous debates that swinging has very liitle to do with your age, marital status, sex, sexual orientation or who your partners are.
I wondered what you all think
James
It is to do with your attitude - both towards others, and towards sex in general.
I daresay once you think about it along those lines, you may well decide that your initial conclusions are bollocks.
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James
Can I ask you something? Are you using some form of voice activated text system? A lot of your posts are very badly written which is not down to a bad education, ie jell us instead of jealous. It makes your posts very difficult to read.
Mal
I dont find his post difficult to read, at all, but then i am dyslexic!!
I have to say that James has improved no end, despite the odd hiccup here and there.
I can follow what he is saying now, which is more than I can say for the phone txt brigade.
ne 1 4 a cup T , which translated means, anyone for a cup of tea ??
As for his reasoning, I have my own thoughts and they will stay that way.
I can follow what he is saying now, which is more than I can say for the phone txt brigade.
ne 1 4 a cup T , which translated means, anyone for a cup of tea ??
As for his reasoning, I have my own thoughts and they will stay that way.
Sex God
james,
well i'm a single bloke, so clearly i'm not a swinger, nor can i have any idea whatsoever what the whole swinging thing is about?
but . . . . this quote seems pretty damn accurate to me . . . . .
IMHO . . . . . no sod it i ain't even touching that little argument! :roll: ;)
ok goddammit . . . if you indulge in occasional recreational sex, possibly in public, in a club, even if it is one on one, or occasionally join in at a party with several other folk, well then, by any definition, you're swinging, single or not? if you meet a single fem for NSA recreational sex, and both enjoy it as a bit of fun, then you're swinging? if you just wanna shag someone and get your rocks off, well then you ain't? nuff said? ;)
neil - who wouldn't presume to call himself a swinger, cos he's still trying to work that one out? and would possibly invite some comments were he to do so? and a tad sick of the constant attempts to define someones sexuality / status as a swinger! :roll: ;)
well i'm a single bloke, so clearly i'm not a swinger, nor can i have any idea whatsoever what the whole swinging thing is about?
but . . . . this quote seems pretty damn accurate to me . . . . .
I think it is clear from previous debates that swinging has very liitle to do with your age, marital status, sex, sexual orientation or who your partners are.
It is to do with your attitude - both towards others, and towards sex in general.
IMHO . . . . . no sod it i ain't even touching that little argument! :roll: ;)
ok goddammit . . . if you indulge in occasional recreational sex, possibly in public, in a club, even if it is one on one, or occasionally join in at a party with several other folk, well then, by any definition, you're swinging, single or not? if you meet a single fem for NSA recreational sex, and both enjoy it as a bit of fun, then you're swinging? if you just wanna shag someone and get your rocks off, well then you ain't? nuff said? ;)
neil - who wouldn't presume to call himself a swinger, cos he's still trying to work that one out? and would possibly invite some comments were he to do so? and a tad sick of the constant attempts to define someones sexuality / status as a swinger! :roll: ;)
Sex God
If you want to avoid the arguament , and the pidgeon holing associated with it , just call your self Veritas and then no fucker will know what you are .
Orgasminator
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I and he is not into shearing
James
I'm into abit of topiary myself.
Sex God
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If you want to avoid the arguament , and the pidgeon holing associated with it , just call your self Veritas and then no fucker will know what you are .
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: FFS!
i need to find a new nick now! 
neil - might have been AKA Veritas - AKA . . . uuummmmmmm . . . YouAin'tSeenMeRight is taken . . . . . i'll get back to you . . . . . ;)
Sex God
I am very glad this topic has been posted again as my mind has changed since the last time I posted about this topic. It is also an opportunity to let you all know I am retiring from the amount of swinging I have been doing lately.
I have become jaded with meeting single males as I no longer see it as swinging, more as recreational sex, an nsa shag. It is good but then it leaves me with this hollow space afterwards that only more meets, clubbing and casual sex can fill. I finf this unhealthy for me and I said it if it got to this point I would take a step back.
For me playing as a single female is much different to playing as a couple. I don't know if I want to do either right now as I think I've overdossed on swinging just lately.
So there you are, I'm as confussed as Neil and I'm not sure I want to play anymore so if you don't see me around for a bit this is my official temporary flounce post ;) I'm going to concentrate on passing my degree and spending time with my boyfriend. Sometimes you have to step back and take stock in order to re-evaluate what you want, the values you hold and who you are.
Gem. x
I have become jaded with meeting single males as I no longer see it as swinging, more as recreational sex, an nsa shag. It is good but then it leaves me with this hollow space afterwards that only more meets, clubbing and casual sex can fill. I finf this unhealthy for me and I said it if it got to this point I would take a step back.
For me playing as a single female is much different to playing as a couple. I don't know if I want to do either right now as I think I've overdossed on swinging just lately.
So there you are, I'm as confussed as Neil and I'm not sure I want to play anymore so if you don't see me around for a bit this is my official temporary flounce post ;) I'm going to concentrate on passing my degree and spending time with my boyfriend. Sometimes you have to step back and take stock in order to re-evaluate what you want, the values you hold and who you are.
Gem. x
Lol
I'm 'currently' single. But my ex-fiance (one week,1 day and an amount of hours) and I were poly, so sharing was never a problem. At least until she decided she was monogamous and the one she wanted was one of her secondary partners :P <sobs>
But I digress. Whilst some men (and women) might only be here for a quick shag, there are some of us who are just here to hopefully create some friendships with likeminded people.
My two pence
I'm 'currently' single. But my ex-fiance (one week,1 day and an amount of hours) and I were poly, so sharing was never a problem. At least until she decided she was monogamous and the one she wanted was one of her secondary partners :P <sobs>
But I digress. Whilst some men (and women) might only be here for a quick shag, there are some of us who are just here to hopefully create some friendships with likeminded people.
My two pence
Casanova
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wow, I am more than a little confused by this thread.
I thought 'swinging' was the act of enjoying mutal sexual activites outside of the constriants of a relationship. That seems to be confirmed by this sites very own definition.
If this is the case, then even a guy out for a quick shag is a swinger?
As has been said in this very thread, its all to do with attitude....in my humble opinon, a guy is only a swinger if he has the desire to both give and receive pleasure..ie mutal enjoyment.
Still, i am only a humble male, so what do I know?
I thought 'swinging' was the act of enjoying mutal sexual activites outside of the constriants of a relationship. That seems to be confirmed by this sites very own definition.
If this is the case, then even a guy out for a quick shag is a swinger?
As has been said in this very thread, its all to do with attitude....in my humble opinon, a guy is only a swinger if he has the desire to both give and receive pleasure..ie mutal enjoyment.
Still, i am only a humble male, so what do I know?
Sex God
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i agree with you - single guys do seem to be gettin alot of stick recently! as a single gal i find myself welcomed with open arms and yet i may only be looking for a quick shag (i'm not but thats not the point) Feel bad for you single guys out there - xxxxxxx
Jess~
Aww, no need to feel bad for all the single guys here, as some of them are quite successful. There's one in particular from whom all of the single male newbies here could learn a great deal... ;) ...a shining example that genuine "single male swingers" do exist!
~Reese!
P.S. Welcome to the SH forums!
Sex God
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wow, I am more than a little confused by this thread.
I thought 'swinging' was the act of enjoying mutal sexual activites outside of the constriants of a relationship. That seems to be confirmed by this sites very own definition.
?
I thought one of the main origins of swinging was couples enjoying sex with others but very firmly within the 'constraints' of a relationship. Couples who have the strength to achieve that are the backbone of swinging IMHO. Single guys who meet that particular need in my view are not swingers - they are guys having sex.
There was once a time Swinging was only defined as wife-swapping, and it`s definition has moved on from those days. I`m personally keen to see the definition include anyone who is exploring their sexuality and liberation with multiple partners, and this is done within the Swinging scene by many single people. In fact, there are enough genuine Swinging Singles within the scene to make that definition valid, and for them, and many who interact with them, their approach is far different to just going out and having sex. It also includes the Swinging state of mind so many have expressed before. It is that philosophy which is the backbone of swinging IMHO.
Venusxxx
Venusxxx
The old fasoned way of swinging is wife swap then couple swap, and I now see why some of the members don’t welcome single blokes, as they want to stick with tradition.
And it dose not so prise me why they haven’t posted on this topic as of yet.
But despite the above there is a clear divide between casual sex and swinging
But what I really would like to know now is how many single females there are on this site
And it dose not so prise me why they haven’t posted on this topic as of yet.
But despite the above there is a clear divide between casual sex and swinging
But what I really would like to know now is how many single females there are on this site
Sex God
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The old fasoned way of swinging is wife swap then couple swap, and I now see why some of the members don’t welcome single blokes, as they want to stick with tradition.
And it dose not so prise me why they haven’t posted on this topic as of yet.
But despite the above there is a clear divide between casual sex and swinging
But what I really would like to know now is how many single females there are on this site
James, have a look at the link judy gave you
If you only want to know how many single females are on the site, why did you ask your original question
Have a look in the ads, read the forums, go in the chatroom - maybe then you'll find out how many single females there are (approximately) Hi all
Iam a newbie single male, this is my first posting, so please bare with me.
Personaly I must agree with whot most people are saying, swinging is a state of mind.
I have been reading the adverts & forums for a few days now,& Have disided to try!! to be involved with people from the site as you come over as a nice,interesting & diferente group. So I say all singles are looking for one nighters.
Iam a newbie single male, this is my first posting, so please bare with me.
Personaly I must agree with whot most people are saying, swinging is a state of mind.
I have been reading the adverts & forums for a few days now,& Have disided to try!! to be involved with people from the site as you come over as a nice,interesting & diferente group. So I say all singles are looking for one nighters.
