SWINGING Heaven (FFS)

22 Jun 2005

Yes, I know I'll get flamed.
And I know (speaking to mod) that you've had this before. But I really have to point out (as a new and still-hopeful member) that the first 2 pages of the Cafe at this moment contain 27 threads which are absolutely bugger-all to do with swinging or sex.
They are - irrefutably - the most popular threads. But guess what? They're nearly all started and populated by the same clique of smug chummy old cybermates, yammering on and on and on about eff-all.
Some of us don't spend our entire lives on here, LOL and ROTFL or LOAO all night at witty things we've seen on the net, or the laff we had when our kids said something cute. Some of us don't give a bugger about your suntan, or your holiday plans, or your job problems, or your car, or what you can see out of your bleedin window, or your motorbike or the last sodding concert you went to.
WE don't care how many clever GIFs you've got. We don't want to join in an opinion poll, or hear your views on BB evictions, or remember our favourite nursery rhyme.
And we sure as buggery don't want to waste half an hour clicking on links to find it's yet more pointless matey guff, when we're trying to learn something useful..... or even, get laid.
Some off-topic things are fine, I think (help with computer difficulties, as a for instance).... but all this personal chit-chat surely to God ought to be kept in the chatroom, or in PMs, or on that well-known website There are loads of sites that do this "fun" stuff.
I'm quite happy with the notion that fun and sex go together. But there's only one of 'em I can go without.
Some of us just like to plug in and read about swinging and sex. Do you remember sex? YOU used to do it, before you had computers, when you got out more?
This is by no means a blanket condemnation.... it is a great and wonderful and generous notion, SH. A credit to the inventors, and I'm glad I came. But all this waffle could kill it (just check out some old MSN groups you used to know..... all long gone, and precisely because they got buried under unintelligent self-indulgent "fun 'n frolics" rubbish).
(........puts on tin hat)

22 Jun 2005

No flame - but what is your point?? confused

:?
If you want to talk about sex then start an interesting, topical and sexual thread - why rely on others to do it?? I began one the other night and it got to three pages PDQ, why can't you?
We are a community, not random selection of people, and we have lots and lots of things in common, not just sex. Now, move on and get a thread going that isn't a whine, a whinge or a complaint.
:shock:
biggrin

:D
PS in edit: NOW I will flame you ---- why on earth do you stay? You've only been here for 10 days and you want this forum to change to please you??

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
If you don't like it here you are free to leave, start your own site and talk about sex until your ears fall off.
:twisted:

22 Jun 2005

garden
before you posted the thread did you not look at the definition of the cafe
the cafe is for other discussions apart from sexual topics
there are two other sections to tout for sex
maybe some people like to get to know people before they start shagging them
this site is a community
people are allowed to talk about other things than sex is assume

22 Jun 2005

Would you like a shovel??
After all the rest of the site is all about sex, but this is the bit of it that isn't just about sex, as per its definition: "General discussion and chit-chat. Post anything here that is NOT a Meet Up or about Dogging. Use the sections below for those."
Note not General SEX discussion and SEX chit chat... It not killed the site yet, in fact for the socialites like me it IS the site... Sorry but if you want to read only about sex it will get very boring, very quickly. I think most members would rather do it than read about it.
The main strength is you can talk about sex and sex acts here, where as in most boards you cant...

22 Jun 2005

Come on you lot wink

out of the way
I have got to get my JCB in here :!: :!: lol

:lol: (lol cos I am the driver)
Fred

22 Jun 2005

Personally I find it extremely rude to wander into a place and start telling people what they can and can't talk about. The site suits people at all levels ... from those who are into the "wanna shag?" mode to those who like to get to know people first before getting down to pleasure.
How can 10 days on a site make you the expert of us all ???? Perhaps if you stop stamping your feet long wnough then a lightbulb might ping and the sense of ... this is the largest free swinging website in the UK, it is the friendliest and probably the most diverse .... and yet you think otherwise
I'm with Jags, if the topic of conversation bores you so much then start a conversation yourself or sod off!
C

22 Jun 2005

Isn't SH a Swingers Community? It is a place for people who are open minded to come and meet new people?
Fair enough, there is a lot of personal stuff that does not have anything to do with swinging, but they do give you an insight into some of the people, their likes and dislikes, their preferences wink

etc.
if you dont like listening to people who know eachother waffling on about their personal lives or other things not related to sex, don't open the thread? It's like Mary Whitehouse watching all that porn then complaining about it. Turn the bloody thing off then!! confused

There does seem to be a bit of an old boys network, which differs depending if you are in the chat room and the forum and people do seem to know eachother pretty well but some of them have never even met eachother. They get to know eachother by communicating either in here or in the chat room and get to know and like eachother.
Surely it is human nature if those that know eachother well speak to eachother on here? rolleyes

At the end of the day, most of the people I have "met" in here have been more than interested in meeting people with sex in mind.
If it is just hooking up for sex that you have in mind, surely the "lets meet up" forum has everything you need?
However, I did post a thread on foot fetishes the other day which only got 4 replies (I was sooooo dissapointed) :P so yes it does take a while for you to get into the "gang" but it is fun sticking around anyway. :twisted:

22 Jun 2005

Quote by garden
Some off-topic things are fine, I think (help with computer difficulties, as a for instance).... but all this personal chit-chat surely to God ought to be kept in the chatroom, or in PMs, or on that well-known website There are loads of sites that do this "fun" stuff.
(........puts on tin hat)

isn't the ironic thing about this, it that was what the chatroom use to say about the forum in the old days...." people in the chatrrom got pissed that people were having conversations, where others wanted to sort out meets..... take it into the forum!!"
p.s....
i think you'll find that a lot of people have fun at the yorkshire munch on saturday... and a lot of people will have fun at the sparkle meet on saturday.....and so on and so on,
so to suggest that all the people who chatter "gibberish" don't meet is so far off the mark that you probably don't realise how funny it is.....
so i take it you won't be wanting to come to one of the munches or parties then......
sean.............
TnH.. mate forget the shovel... think this mate need a digger.....

22 Jun 2005

Just keying off what others have said, the: "same clique of smug chummy old cybermates, yammering on and on and on about eff-all. " are the regs on the cafe here...
I have not met them all, I am known to them and them to me by our posts. Stick around and soon you to will be accused of being in the "same clique of smug chummy old cybermates" because if you take the time to get to know people you make friends... isn't that the point?
EDIT: maybe Sean smile

p.s. following Seans post I may not have met them all, but I now met a lot of em, those cybermates you insultingly refer to, and they just as great in person... roll on Notts Munch!!

22 Jun 2005

Well, just to point out the fact that you kept saying "we dont want this", "we dont like that"
Well WE do want it in fact, and its a good way to get to know people before pming them a 'fancy a shag' message! rolleyes

22 Jun 2005

I don't think I ever DID pm you, Hertcpl. Just in case anyone should misunderstand.
Gosh, aren;t there a lot of very blue bands here!

22 Jun 2005

Oooo what a thread to come back to :shock: I would like to comment but couldn't get past reading the first few sentences of the original post as the plethora of the word 'buggery' and its kind just put me off.

22 Jun 2005

Quote by fabio grooverider
.....
sean.............
TnH.. mate forget the shovel... think this mate need a digger.....

Fabio Mate = May I refer you to me previous post on this subject lol

:lol: Up above.
Fred wink

22 Jun 2005

Quote by garden
Some off-topic things are fine

Ah. So if you personally are interested, it's OK, but only if you approve?
OK, well that seems fair, after all, you're in charge, but just so we can avoid annoying you in future, perhaps you'd care to furnish us with a comprehensive list of what you will and won't allow us to talk about?
Oh, by the way, congratulations on acquiring SH, I wasn't aware that the ownership had changed hands. smile

Oh, and welcome to the site. I can't imagine how I never noticed you before, what with you being the owner and everything.

22 Jun 2005

well im one of these new ppl ur talking about only been here a few weeks , but frankly im glad it isnt all about sex and such as that would have put me and crystal off
yeah we like reading and writing about sex almost as much as we like doing it , but if all i saw was lets meet for a shag msges i would have left the site for certs coz yes swinging is about sex but its also about friendship and id prefer to sit on the cafe for a few weeks making friends witha person before inviting them for a meet ,than say .".hmm u said fancy a shag in a nice way , c'mon into ma bed and get it on with my wife"
so which would u really prefer hun , reading some posts unrelated to sex that give u an insight to the person , or see a string of treads all about ppl wanting sex ?
i know which i prefer and which crystal prefers , if you prefer the other way then as is said above theres a forum called lets meet up thats good for those threads smile

and please dont take this as a flame its just my opinion im explaining not me trying to make u have the same opinion as we are all different in what we want hun

22 Jun 2005

Quote by garden
I don't think I ever DID pm you, Hertcpl. Just in case anyone should misunderstand.
Gosh, aren;t there a lot of very blue bands here!

Yes it is because your are pissing off the very community you want to join... interesting tactic... Thought people were being quite reserved really and maybe the speed of the responses and the detail would give you a hint about how deeply people disagree with your point...
Also how much response you could have got from a decent sexual thread, if you actually started one...

22 Jun 2005

Hello Garden,
Guess someone forgot to ask you, wanna fuck?
:doh: Shit almost forgot, I don't swing anymore, don't suppose I should be reading never mind even posting here.
The dirty stories are over there <<<<<<<<<<<
And if all you wanna read about is sex use your good ol' friend google. :doh:

22 Jun 2005

Quote by GenHertsCpl
Well, just to point out the fact that you kept saying "we dont want this", "we dont like that"
Well WE do want it in fact, and its a good way to get to know people before pming them a 'fancy a shag' message!

I abolutely agree - btw Wanna shag hump

?
oops - that should've been a pm
You just knew somebody would do it :roll:

22 Jun 2005

we havent got time to sit on here and moan as we're too busy shagging thank you.
ok..... and back to the shaggin, c ya wave

x rache n peaches x

22 Jun 2005

Think we have a troll here!
Throws a grenade and then ducks out of sight - another one!!
rolleyes

:roll: :roll: :roll:

22 Jun 2005

I've only been getting to know people the last 6 weeks or so and I am glad all the talk isn't sex. I have found in my time in the chatroom and the cafe that people on here are normal everyday people and not the sexaholics who would shag anyone, that I thought they would be (ok, we are all sexaholics, but you know what I mean!!!!)
Thank you for the warm and friendly welcome
I DO look forward to meeting somemore of you. biggrin

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

22 Jun 2005

OOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! So who got out of the wrong side of bed this morning? wink

22 Jun 2005

Well as I having soo much fun just thought a bit more pointless bable would get the message across:
There is an old practice when a wizard is looking for an apprentice, he holds his hand in front of the prospects and asks 'In which finger is the power to change the world'...
The correct answer is of course your own... If you want different topics you better post them.... Otherwise beware of inbound hand grenades from Jags...

22 Jun 2005

Quote by Alleyson
OOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! So who got out of the wrong side of bed this morning?

more to the point... i don't think the digger is big enough anymore.... smile

:) :)
and i have just managed to accidently delete my ad in a rage......
the day was going sooo bloody well!!!!! the sun is shining.. i have just finished a tub of ice cream!!!!
i'll might be a few hours doing a new one!!!!

22 Jun 2005

: :?: :?: Occupation: Professional :?: :?: :?:
Professional What ????? may one ask ?

22 Jun 2005

Quote by tallnhairy
.... Otherwise beware of inbound hand grenades from Jags...

More likely to be OUTbound grenades - as in OUT of the door and it slammed behind him (for a him it is!!)
rolleyes

:roll: :roll:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

22 Jun 2005

Quote by Maia
Oooo what a thread to come back to :shock: I would like to comment but couldn't get past reading the first few sentences of the original post as the plethora of the word 'buggery' and its kind just put me off.

Eyoop y'owld bugger!
Maia, it's a northern thing, not to be understood literally.
Good to see you back.
Mike.

22 Jun 2005

Quote by Mark
compelled to quote TnH's first post on the matter.

Apologies to all for rambling on after first post, must be the heat smile

Off for a cold bath and promise to stop falling for troll type tactics in future...

22 Jun 2005

Think I'll just deactivate the tosser - that would make be feel so much better about his stupid post.
lol

:lol: :lol:

22 Jun 2005

Quote by Jags
Think I'll just deactivate the tosser - that would make be feel so much better about his stupid post.
:lol: :lol:

jag... don't do that hunny....
i want to see the looks on there faces when they see the boss replied in there thread....
i want to see them ask for party and munch invites and someone showing them exactly what they think of us....
i want to see the apology..... because it better be a good one.... smile

:) :) :)
sean