Are you good at taking compliments, and understanding what they mean?
A couple of threads recently have got me thinking about the way we interpret compliments (honk thread) :idea:
Also about the way we read people in general. You see a few times in the past couple of days ive had to pm someone and say to them "did you really mean that".
Now is it a confidence thing, im beginning to wonder. Or am I just crap at taking compliments.
Is it a girl thing or do the men think like this too.
Are you more likely to believe a compliment depending on who it comes from.
I tend to believe the compliments more that come from the ladies. I dont know why that is.
What do you think?
Do you take compliments well?
Louise
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Taking Compliments
Sex God
I like recieving compliments but i had a girlfriend who hated it, she used to get cross if i ever made a nice comment lol. She said that compliments made her feel like an object
all my life i have been crap at taking compliments, its only recently that i have been getting better at it, and yes, i think its a confidence thing, i have always hated what i see in the mirror, and that hasnt changed, i would often reply to a confident with a self-putdown, but i was told a while back that i should bear in mind that if someone is giving me a compliment, its because they have seen something that they feel the need to comment on, and if they can take the time and effort to say something, then show them the courtesy and respect to say thank you, even if you dont agree with the compliment
Sex God
Quote by Drewxcore
I like recieving compliments but i had a girlfriend who hated it, she used to get cross if i ever made a nice comment lol. She said that compliments made her feel like an object
You should never have believed her Drew. A woman never means that when she says it. It's a defence mechanism just in case she does'nt receive any
Does anyone ever wonder how sincere compliments are in the swinging sense too.
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
Quote by louise_and_joe
Does anyone ever wonder how sincere compliments are in the swinging sense too.
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
no, because people dont give me compliments with a view to getting into the panties that i dont wear, they are often by people i consider friends, therefore they have taken the time to get to know me
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:I am terrible at taking compliments, always have been, from any source. I'm pretty insecure about most things and use the way I look to disguise that fact. I know I do the look I have well, but underneath that I have no confidence at all most of the time. I'm getting a bit better, but any knock usually sets me back far more than it should. It's an aspect of myself that really annoys me.
Sex God
Quote by firelizard
I like recieving compliments but i had a girlfriend who hated it, she used to get cross if i ever made a nice comment lol. She said that compliments made her feel like an object
You should never have believed her Drew. A woman never means that when she says it. It's a defence mechanism just in case she does'nt receive any
oh trust me, she meant it
Warming the Bed
I've actually got better at taking compliments since I started swinging. The way I look at it, if they say something nice to you after they've got you into bed then they must mean it
I used to regularly put myself down in reply to a compliment, but these days I say "thank you" and try to say something appreciative back - if I can
I think I'm better at accepting them because of the extra confidence swinging gives me, which just wasn't there in my vanilla life.
I used to regularly put myself down in reply to a compliment, but these days I say "thank you" and try to say something appreciative back - if I can
I think I'm better at accepting them because of the extra confidence swinging gives me, which just wasn't there in my vanilla life.
Warming the Bed
Bluddy duplicate posting....
I like it when people tell me I have nice eyes, I like it when people say I have a nice personality and I welcome compliments like that because deep down I know I do..however, if someone compliments me on my looks, body etc., I tend to brush them off as I don't go along with what they say and would rather they didn't compliment me.
Jay gets mad as hell because he thinks I'm pretty and I don't.
Jay gets mad as hell because he thinks I'm pretty and I don't.
Sex God
Quote by louise_and_joe
Does anyone ever wonder how sincere compliments are in the swinging sense too.
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
I dont tell lies ;-)
I used to be terrible at taking compliments to the point that it used to really unnerve me. Even now I tend to say something self depreciating in return. However, it wasn't until a member in the community when we talked about this subject said that not accepting a compliment could be taken by the giver as an insult - that what they said was false, that I realised that I needed to start accepting them.
I'm better at it now.....always room for improvement though
I'm better at it now.....always room for improvement though
Quote by Mallock2006
Does anyone ever wonder how sincere compliments are in the swinging sense too.
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
I dont tell lies ;-)
I didnt mean you ya numpty
louise xx
Sex God
Quote by louise_and_joe
Does anyone ever wonder how sincere compliments are in the swinging sense too.
What I mean is, sweeten the other person up with a few compliments and their mine tonight. Thats just an example, im not saying everyones like that. far from it.
Do you treat compliments from swingers a little different to how you do in real life? maybe depending on how well you know them.
Louise xx
I dont tell lies ;-)
I didnt mean you ya numpty
louise xx
I guessed that but I was just paying you a cryptic compliment ;-)
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
I'll take a compliment-anyones compliment-I don't care who they're aimed at, I'll just intercept & nick 'em!
You most likely get compliments aplenty.....
If you dont you ought to ;-)
Quote by essex34m
all my life i have been crap at taking compliments, its only recently that i have been getting better at it, and yes, i think its a confidence thing, i have always hated what i see in the mirror, and that hasnt changed, i would often reply to a confident with a self-putdown, but i was told a while back that i should bear in mind that if someone is giving me a compliment, its because they have seen something that they feel the need to comment on, and if they can take the time and effort to say something, then show them the courtesy and respect to say thank you, even if you dont agree with the compliment
spot on am exactly the same :rose:
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
all my life i have been crap at taking compliments, its only recently that i have been getting better at it, and yes, i think its a confidence thing, i have always hated what i see in the mirror, and that hasnt changed, i would often reply to a confident with a self-putdown, but i was told a while back that i should bear in mind that if someone is giving me a compliment, its because they have seen something that they feel the need to comment on, and if they can take the time and effort to say something, then show them the courtesy and respect to say thank you, even if you dont agree with the compliment
Thats pretty much how I feel as well...
As for the highlighted part.....
I never looked at it that way.......It makes sense though...
I'm terrible at taking compliments. And I have no idea why. Why is it so hard to accept it if someone says you look nice? Maybe because I don't really believe them, maybe bacause if it's in a swining situation I think they're just saying it. Who knows, if someone figures it out can they let me know?
H.x
H.x
I think our self-image is very different to the image we portray to others. Im absolutely terrible and always think omg look at my belly, my hair is crap, im looking older, ewwwww my arse etc etc. But tbh my partner and others do compliment me and im trying very hard to accept them even tho most of the time im thinking "yeah right".
Suze x
Suze x
Quote by jaymar
I like it when people tell me I have nice eyes, I like it when people say I have a nice personality and I welcome compliments like that because deep down I know I do..however, if someone compliments me on my looks, body etc., I tend to brush them off as I don't go along with what they say and would rather they didn't compliment me.
Jay gets mad as hell because he thinks I'm pretty and I don't.
You remind me of someone, very close... but I never get mad.
Quote by H-x
I'm terrible at taking compliments. And I have no idea why. Why is it so hard to accept it if someone says you look nice? Maybe because I don't really believe them, maybe bacause if it's in a swining situation I think they're just saying it. Who knows, if someone figures it out can they let me know?
H.x
Someone said, and he had letters after his name, so it must be true. "Most people think less of them selves than others do."
So if every one says you look good you just may look good.
I'm crap at taking compliments - particularly personal ones (ooo, you look nice type stuff) because I either think 'yeah right' or 'hmm, so, what you after then? 
' Its a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy really, because after a while, people stop paying the compliments and then that plays on the 'yeah right' doubts :lol: :crazy:
and picking up on Louise's post... second-hand compliments are just the worst thing to me...you accept a compliment from someone and then find out that's just their nature and they're saying the same thing to several other people :? it becomes a fishing 'line'to see what you can catch with, not a compliment, if that makes sense
' Its a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy really, because after a while, people stop paying the compliments and then that plays on the 'yeah right' doubts :lol: :crazy:and picking up on Louise's post... second-hand compliments are just the worst thing to me...you accept a compliment from someone and then find out that's just their nature and they're saying the same thing to several other people :? it becomes a fishing 'line'to see what you can catch with, not a compliment, if that makes sense
