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The thread title is a direct quote from Heidi Fleiss who is currently appearing on celebrity Big Brother. Heres her side of the conversation so not to take it out of context.
"I hope I never have babies. That would kill me. Every minute I'd be, 'Is the baby OK?' I'd worry too much.
"Thank God for abortion. I don't mean to offend anyone but I wouldn't be a good mother. I shouldn't have kids."
Great way to offend just about every Christian and anyone who is anti abortion. I will say that I am anti abortion in all but the most severe cases but thats not the point I am making here. I just cant think of a worse person to say that sentence. The world most famous Ex madam saying "Thank God for abortion". This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.
I just spell checked her name actually using Google and already lots of articles about this.
Well when the time comes I shall cast my telephonic vote :twisted:
MODS: Wasn't sure if this should have been current affairs or cafe dunno Subject matter seems a bit current affairs but Big Brother threads are normally in the cafe. I dont debate in the current affairs forum as a rule but if you feel the need to move this will make an acception on this occasion.
Quote by tweeky
Great way to offend just about every Christian and anyone who is anti abortion.

Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?
The various factions of god botherers international are always more than happy to give their opinion on how everyone should live.
The pope recently had the opportunity to change the catholic church's stance on the use of condoms but instead continued to promote thier use as wrong. So the caring, sharing church has effectivly helped condem hundeds of thousands of people to a life living with HIV/Aids and even more children born into a world struggling to support them, all so they can continue to 'save them' by brainwashing from birth......which of course allows them to tell the world how great the church is for looking after these poor unfortunates, accompanied by the rattle of the donation tin or the interference in everybodys life with political lobbying.
I have no time for organised religion, it's probably one of the most destructive things ever devised by the human race. neither do i have any time for BB, because its dull and tedious, but if people want to find the comment offensive as its against their beliefs then tough! I'm offended by many things pushed by the various religions.
"There is no greater argument for abortion, than anti-abortionists"
- Mark Thomas, political comedian
Too much been read into this already. The thread was not about being anti abortion pro abortion or. It was about considering who you are and therefore thinking before you speak. Also if you watched it live the way in which she said it to me at least it sounded like she had used the service for lack of a better word. Sounded very much like she whored it around using abortion when needed.
Whips, whilst abortion exists it will always be used as a form of contraception. As this has veered onto the pro anti abortion debate I will say my views then leave it as that. It would be pointless to debate them as my views on this will never change. If you dont want a baby, shut your legs plain and simple. If you dont like someone you can just walk out on the street and shoot them in the head its not allowed. I view abortion in exactly the same way. In my mind life once conceived is life and each one as valuable as next regardless of if it has been born or not. If you dont want a baby, give it to someone else people will que up to take it from you. To do that you have to go through 9 months of pregnancy :violin: same as before shut your legs.
Abortion is the most disgusting thing that we legally do as a society. One last thing to say cus its one that really gets my goat if people suggest it :twisted: No my anti abortion stance has nothing to with having used IVF ICSI or fertility treatment to have my own children. I have been anti abortion ever since I first heard about it for as long as I can ever remember.
Ive had to type this fairly quickly (taps watch) so its not the best or most sensitively put down I could do but it is a fair reflection of my feelings. As I say feel free to dissect it make points blah blah I wont be replying on this issue any more Ive done the debate on this many times before and never changed one Iota of how I think about it. I will still reply to points about the remarks made by Heidi Fleiss.
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Sounded very much like she whored it around

You mean she had sex with people other than a long term partner? What a strange concept to suggest on a swinging site.
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Sounded very much like she whored it around

You mean she had sex with people other than a long term partner? What a strange concept to suggest on a swinging site.
nah, I am sure that what he meant was that she was getting paid for it and that is just plain wrong. rolleyes
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Great way to offend just about every Christian and anyone who is anti abortion.

Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?
The various factions of god botherers international are always more than happy to give their opinion on how everyone should live.
The pope recently had the opportunity to change the catholic church's stance on the use of condoms but instead continued to promote thier use as wrong. So the caring, sharing church has effectivly helped condem hundeds of thousands of people to a life living with HIV/Aids and even more children born into a world struggling to support them, all so they can continue to 'save them' by brainwashing from birth......which of course allows them to tell the world how great the church is for looking after these poor unfortunates, accompanied by the rattle of the donation tin or the interference in everybodys life with political lobbying.
I have no time for organised religion, it's probably one of the most destructive things ever devised by the human race. neither do i have any time for BB, because its dull and tedious, but if people want to find the comment offensive as its against their beliefs then tough! I'm offended by many things pushed by the various religions.
well said that man!
i'm very pro abortion. not as a form of contraception but things happen and not everyone should be forced to have a child they don't want or can't look after. the theory of the gift of a child is all very twee, but the reality can be horrendous for some. i never wanted children as i wanted a career. i became pregnant quite by accident and it was a now or never situation. i listened to my then husband who told me it would all be ok and he would help. in reality it consisted of me giving up everything and having no help at all. suffering with post natal and clinical depression as well as losing my identity and a baby i didn't want was the worst thing that could have happened for me.
as my son is now i wouldn't change him for the world and i couldn't love him more. but with hindsight.......would i do it again? no.
religion has no place in dictating what a person's life should be, be it the woman or the unborn.
the only problem i do have with abortion is the time limit. i do think it should be lowered except for extreme cases. as for this woman making the statement, why souldn't she? we live in a modern age and she has the right to say that she is for abortion.
whips
wow amazingly honest of you hun much kudos :thumbup:
If abortion didn't work, I can think of quite a few where strangulation at birth would have been a suitable option.. :whistle:
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Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?

I never said she shouldn't.
Quote by tweeky

Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?

I never said she shouldn't.
Isn't that the basis of the thread, or can she only express it out of the hearing range of anyone who might find it offensive? dunno
I'm an anti-abortionist as Tweeky is for the most part and have always been so although as a man I feel I have little legitimate say in the act however much one could profess to be part of the whole process and until I've walked a mile in a womans shoes, not literally but metaphorically, I believe all I have the right to do is disagree with it if asked my opinion. Its one debate that I feel ill equiped to take part in.
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Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?

I never said she shouldn't.
Isn't that the basis of the thread, or can she only express it out of the hearing range of anyone who might find it offensive? dunno
No the point was maybe considering who you are before speaking. I also said what my line of action will be
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This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.
Well when the time comes I shall cast my telephonic vote :twisted:

Maybe it was just her reaction or maybe she set out to say something controversial. Regardless of either it will spark huge debate and publicity for her.
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Why shouldn't she express her opinion on it?

I never said she shouldn't.
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Isn't that the basis of the thread, or can she only express it out of the hearing range of anyone who might find it offensive? dunno
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No the point was maybe considering who you are before speaking. I also said what my line of action will be
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This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.
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Well when the time comes I shall cast my telephonic vote :twisted:

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Maybe it was just her reaction or maybe she set out to say something controversial. Regardless of either it will spark huge debate and publicity for her.
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No the point was maybe considering who you are before speaking.....
This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.
Maybe it was just her reaction or maybe she set out to say something controversial. Regardless of either it will spark huge debate and publicity for her.

Maybe it will spark huge debate, maybe that could be a good thing?
25 years ago racism, homophobia and drink driving were all big problems, all of which have been debated and discussed and to some degree all reduced within society.
While we might have different views on the subject, discussion and debate and evolution is better than stagnation.....without that we might still be ameobas in a big soupy pond :mrgreen:
I personally think its upto the individual concerned........remember each have their own reasons, as it is said..........'dont judge a book by it's cover' - every case is different.
I apologise if this offends anybody,.......... nope i have never nor would i want too, but i cant see into the future so who is to say that you or i would or wouldnt do it if it was necessary. I'm catholic and in all fairness i can see where the catholic church is coming from, but i also believe that it is upto the individual or indivduals concerned and therefore it should be their choice.
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I personally think its upto the individual concerned........remember each have their own reasons, as it is said..........'dont judge a book by it's cover' - every case is different.
I apologise if this offends anybody,.......... nope i have never nor would i want too, but i cant see into the future so who is to say that you or i would or wouldnt do it if it was necessary. I'm catholic and in all fairness i can see where the catholic church is coming from, but i also believe that it is upto the individual or indivduals concerned and therefore it should be their choice.

with you on that.
each person must do what is right for them. its just a very sad situation women can find themselves in and the stress,worry of it all.
I have very mixed, confused views on abortion. I have very clear views on religion. But this is about neither, so I won't elucidate.
I am utterly baffled as to why Fleiss' occupation has any bearing on what she said. She has facilitated the selling of sex. You're a swinger. Neither of you are abiding by the "rules" of either the church, or western society.
You're both up for sex as a recreational pastime. You're not doing it in order to conceive. Why does the fact that she makes money from the pastime you partake in mean she gives up the right to an opinion on abortion? dunno
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i'll remember to tell my friend next time she is and ends up pregnant that she should have kept her legs shut, silly girl

I will say that I am anti abortion in all but the most severe cases
Could have bet a million quid on this coming up page one always does. Though its not unheard of for Woman to keep the baby even in that circumstance abortion should be offered as a choice
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or my neighbour's daughter who has tried the pill, the coil and implants and yet still concieved 6 children before she was thirty. she just couldn't cope having a seventh, silly girl should have kept her legs shut though eh?

Wouldn't you? I would. Not that I go a great deal on the contraception didnt work or we did use some honest debate. I mean are you there do you watch them? According to my in laws there are 4 children in the family conceived whilst on contraception, statistically just does not add up. More like missed a pill, used it wrong. Separate debate in all honesty.
I am a man by the way which has never been a secret as I often refer to Mrs Tweeky. Not that it makes a lot of difference as Mrs Tweekys view on abortion is almost identical to mine
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I have very mixed, confused views on abortion. I have very clear views on religion. But this is about neither, so I won't elucidate.
I am utterly baffled as to why Fleiss' occupation has any bearing on what she said. She has facilitated the selling of sex. You're a swinger. Neither of you are abiding by the "rules" of either the church, or western society.
You're both up for sex as a recreational pastime. You're not doing it in order to conceive. Why does the fact that she makes money from the pastime you partake in mean she gives up the right to an opinion on abortion? dunno

You are taking the whole point of the thread out of context as are most people. Sadly mention the word abortion and most people cant see past the Pro or against debate.
"Thank God for abortion". This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.

She's in Big brother. The ideal of the show is to win by having the most votes at the end of the series. I doubt very much the above sentence from the worlds most famous madam will do much for her to that end. Like I said I have my opinion of what she said and I'll use my vote when the time comes.
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i do get where you are coming from on your opening post, however, it's an emotive subject and so it will be discussed whether you want it to be or not.

The thread topic is not being discussed at all and has not from almost the first three posts. Ive done the abortion debate xxxxxxxxx amount of times. I could quote all of your post above and make points a it but I cant be arsed. I have found that my view never changes and rarely that of anyone else so its just a waste of my time. Anyone else wyho wants to can debate abortion, I'll answer anything I can around the Heidi Fleiss original thread topic.
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Great way to offend just about every Christian and anyone who is anti abortion. I will say that I am anti abortion in all but the most severe cases but thats not the point I am making here. I just cant think of a worse person to say that sentence. The world most famous Ex madam saying "Thank God for abortion". This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.

Trying to avoid the pro or anti debate, what I can't understand is why you take such offence at Heidi Fleiss saying this? Yes, she used to be a prostitue and yes, she was a madam but what does that have to do with abortion? I actually don't see the link.
However the fact is it is the last series of Celebrity Big Brother and they need ratings. They have clearly chosen people who they feel will be either controversial or scandalous etc etc. The point of the 'game' as I see it is not to be the most popular and therefore keep housemates and public happy, the point is to generate publicity and column inches for Endemol and Channel 4.
I think no matter who we are we can offend people everyday with our thoughts and words, you dont have to be an ex-madame to do that and if you`re really looking for people who should put their brains into gear first have you ever heard of politicians? prime ministers? presidents of the united states? George Bush maybe? Prince Philip? shall I go on??
Fleiss is only known to us through sensational media, so would her opinion really count to any of us? the people I listed are supposed to be held in high regard and respected yet they faux pas all the time.
Personlly I don`t hold any views on abortion as everycase should be taken for what it is but I can honestly say that I would be mortified if I found I was pregnant and not in a situation to have another child or for that matter want to be having another child, this probably offends too but it is MY opinion and I like to make my own rules.
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I have very mixed, confused views on abortion. I have very clear views on religion. But this is about neither, so I won't elucidate.

I am utterly baffled as to why Fleiss' occupation has any bearing on what she said. She has facilitated the selling of sex. You're a swinger. Neither of you are abiding by the "rules" of either the church, or western society.
You're both up for sex as a recreational pastime. You're not doing it in order to conceive. Why does the fact that she makes money from the pastime you partake in mean she gives up the right to an opinion on abortion? dunno

You are taking the whole point of the thread out of context as are most people. Sadly mention the word abortion and most people cant see past the Pro or against debate.
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"Thank God for abortion". This really does promote Thinking before you open your mouth.

She's in Big brother. The ideal of the show is to win by having the most votes at the end of the series. I doubt very much the above sentence from the worlds most famous madam will do much for her to that end. Like I said I have my opinion of what she said and I'll use my vote when the time comes.
How on earth did you conclude the green bit after reading the blue bit? :dunno: I state I have mixed views on abortion, but from that you infer that I can't see past the pro/anti debate? And despite the fact that I've kept that to three sentences, and then said "this thread is about neither" and gone on to raise questions about that which I believe is the point you're trying to make...you come up with "you are taking this whole thread out of context" :dunno: :dunno:
If the thread is about her job in relation to her comments, then I'd genuinely like to hear your views on the questions I just asked.
If it's just about this:
Like I said I have my opinion of what she said and I'll use my vote when the time comes.

...on it's own merit, then surely it's a pro-anti debate?
If she is so set against having kids and would consider an abortion if she got pregnant then why doesnt she just get sterilizated.
Thank God for the right to offend people........treasure it you may not have it much longer
Oh and abortion is for the individual concerned to decide no-one else....no-one has the right to impose any kind of quasi religious bull on anyone else
i am anti abortion
always have been, always will be
i am so anti abortion that i have campaigned against it
i feel that life is created at the point of conception and should be protected from that moment
i am a woman i have had 2 live babies and one miscarriage so i do know about being pregnant etc
one of those pregnancies was unplanned, i was using contraception plus it was less than 8 weeks after having another baby and hadnt yet had a period, and i had no money, no help, wasnt housed in a decent place and was terrified of having another baby so soon after another but i never for a minute even thought about having an abortion
i was anti abortion long before i had my own children
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i am anti abortion
always have been, always will be
i am so anti abortion that i have campaigned against it
i feel that life is created at the point of conception and should be protected from that moment
i am a woman i have had 2 live babies and one miscarriage so i do know about being pregnant etc
one of those pregnancies was unplanned, i was using contraception plus it was less than 8 weeks after having another baby and hadnt yet had a period, and i had no money, no help, wasnt housed in a decent place and was terrified of having another baby so soon after another but i never for a minute even thought about having an abortion
i was anti abortion long before i had my own children

well for you danne it's wonderful that you feel that way. just maybe those of you who do are very priviledgd to have the luxury of feeing that way. some though, like myself, just don't. like religion, no-one has the right to dictate to another what they should believe. i respect your views even if i don't agree with them, in turn you should repect the views of others too. it's not up to any of us to say whether one woman is right or not for her choice.
whips
To be fair, I read danne's post as her expressing her opinion, as you had earlier. I didn't read that she was saying someone is right or not for any choice. dunno
when in doubt, cut it out.
(I refer to the church)
lp
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Thank God for the right to offend people........treasure it you may not have it much longer
Oh and abortion is for the individual concerned to decide no-one else....no-one has the right to impose any kind of quasi religious bull on anyone else

For the third time today, for me, Staggerlee has nailed it. lol
Can I be inducted into the Staggerlee school of thought? dunno
This is something that I have thought about many times, not having an abortion myself lol, but the actual concept of scraping a live human fetus out of the womb. I have long concluded that abortion should be legal, but regulated. I didn't reach this conclusion lightly as I'm not a great believer in regulations or means testing.
BUT
Why should a perfectly healthy fetus that is very likely to go full term and become another precious life, be removed before he /she ever had the chance to take a breath just because the mother doesn't want it?
People are binning babies for convenience or even cosmetic reasons. Those people who have no real reason not to go full term, should be made to have their babies and give them up for adoption. Perhaps the inconvenience of being pregnant for nine months, plus the heartache of having to bring a new life into the world then be forced to give it up, might make them take the subject of contraception a little more seriously in the future.
ON THE OTHER HAND
If a young girl is pregnant because of some , or a woman because she has been . If there is proof that the baby will be born with some awful disease or horendous mental or physical disability, then surely one should understand why they should be allowed a termination.
ITZ NEVER THAT SIMPLE IS IT?
All cases should be looked at by doctors and midwives, and judged on an individual basis.
BG.