I know I am new to this board but I didn't think is was naive also.
Hey Ho, it's all part of the learning curve I think.
Would love some advice if you seasoned pro's have any!
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Liam
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That was great - not!
If there were any reliable way to spot the timewasters, everyone would be using it. 
I don't think you need berate yourself for being taken in. Just remember, there's no shame in being too trusting - the shame would come if you were driving people away because you were too suspicious.
I'm sure one of the lovely ladies who frequents the forum will be along with a kiss in a minute - that'll make everything seem alright again.
I don't think you need berate yourself for being taken in. Just remember, there's no shame in being too trusting - the shame would come if you were driving people away because you were too suspicious.I'm sure one of the lovely ladies who frequents the forum will be along with a kiss in a minute - that'll make everything seem alright again.
no seasoned pro...but i always insist on mobile number before i set out...and i ring them first to confirm they are real. that way if they don't turn up you can at least fill up there answer machine with abusive remarks...not that i would ofcause condone such behaviour....but it is bloody annoying when you all rareing to go and its just one big let down...better luck next time buddy !!
Sex God
Yeah liam, it has happened to us all, it is bitch and does make you very wary for a long time afterwards. We have been swinging for quite some time and still can't spot the timewasters but the good meets outweigh the bad.
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from G from D Wow starting to feel at home already, thanks for the comments its very much appreciated.
Looking forward to one of those Lovely Ladies Roger
What was annoying Dean was the fact that I had a number to text when I got close, so playing by the rules I travelled then tried to ring, then text.
It was only then that I got the "youve been had mate" message! :twisted:
Looking forward to one of those Lovely Ladies Roger
What was annoying Dean was the fact that I had a number to text when I got close, so playing by the rules I travelled then tried to ring, then text.
It was only then that I got the "youve been had mate" message! :twisted:
Thought it happened to us once. Arranged a 'date' with a guy we had been communicating with for some time. We were at the meeting place and he wasn't. We (bless) waited for 2 hours.
Finally admitting to being 'stood up' we returned home to find answer phone messages that he was stuck on the motorway. He hasn't got a mobile, so he was calling from phone boxes in service stations. Finally manage to be in when he calls, and when we met up, some 4 hours after the planned time, we had a brill time, culminating in his stopping at ours for the night ;-) which was not planned.
Don't be disheartened.... be lucky.
Finally admitting to being 'stood up' we returned home to find answer phone messages that he was stuck on the motorway. He hasn't got a mobile, so he was calling from phone boxes in service stations. Finally manage to be in when he calls, and when we met up, some 4 hours after the planned time, we had a brill time, culminating in his stopping at ours for the night ;-) which was not planned.
Don't be disheartened.... be lucky.
I've deactivated the user who did this to Liam - we will not tolerate such stupid behaviour here.
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
Now, go forth and make friends!! :P
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
Now, go forth and make friends!! :P
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It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
TBH I havent actually tried that approach & therefore cant comment on its effectiveness.....
So,
Does anyone 'fancy a shag'???
Dx
Sex God
not sure i am lovely.. and am DEF not a lady.. but here is your kiss.
"xxxxx"
"xxxxx"
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It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
TBH I havent actually tried that approach & therefore cant comment on its effectiveness.....
So,
Does anyone 'fancy a shag'???
Dx
Then I suggest you DO try it.. works for most, and I can vouch for it!
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Does anyone 'fancy a shag'???
Dx
Yes please!!
And just to piss everyone off. I have used the 'fancy a shag?' request and it worked - but ONLY because we already knew each other pretty well. It wont work with strangers (unfortunately!)
I'm with dean, after several wasted evenings in car parks I now insist on a mobile number & arrange the meet on that phone.
Just to balance the view of single guys on here all of my wasted evenings were with couples, so it ain't just us who are time wasters. But I have to say I'm not bitter because the nicest people i've met in quite a long time have come from this site, so keep on trying it does work. Just make sure you target only the ads you actually meet the criteria for.
Good luck
Just to balance the view of single guys on here all of my wasted evenings were with couples, so it ain't just us who are time wasters. But I have to say I'm not bitter because the nicest people i've met in quite a long time have come from this site, so keep on trying it does work. Just make sure you target only the ads you actually meet the criteria for.
Good luck
Quote by surreycouple2003
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
TBH I havent actually tried that approach & therefore cant comment on its effectiveness.....
So,
Does anyone 'fancy a shag'???
Dx
Well I can testify to its effectivness. It has taken me over several months to make my first contact with a person from this site and that was in a non sexual context, just a drink and a chat. That was less than a month ago. Since then I have been to a munch, two swingers clubs and a party. In order to get this far I have had to put in thousands of hours and written thousands of words in the forum and via PM. I have helped some with their software problems. I have counselled others with their personal problems and doubts. I have lost sleep chatting to people I care about and want to know. I've had some fantastic laughs and met some great people. But in order to do this I have had to work extremly hard at it, in order to gain peoples trust and respect! However, it's all been worth it in the end and I have gotten more back than I have put in really. I have met some of the most friendly, funny, kind, generous and interesting people I have ever come accross in my life and that in itself is priceless.
LC
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I've deactivated the user who did this to Liam - we will not tolerate such stupid behaviour here.
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
Now, go forth and make friends!! :P
How about the first two letters of their user name as a warning? Still I suppose de-activated it won't help when they come back with another name.
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I've deactivated the user who did this to Liam - we will not tolerate such stupid behaviour here.
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
Now, go forth and make friends!! :P
How about the first two letters of their user name as a warning? Still I suppose de-activated it won't help when they come back with another name.
They only had a THREE letter name :shock:
Sex God
don't worry about it mate....i think it has happened to the best of us, just put it down to experience and move on...... 
i think the biggest thing it taught me, was to take my time and get to know people first... no point in rushing anything......
sean xxxxxx
i think the biggest thing it taught me, was to take my time and get to know people first... no point in rushing anything......
sean xxxxxx
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Just spent an hour going to a meet and it turned out to be a wind up.
I know I am new to this board but I didn't think is was naive also.
Hey Ho, it's all part of the learning curve I think.
Would love some advice if you seasoned pro's have any!
No how you feel mate. There is a pub near where I live (with excellent beer, but don't think that is relevant!), where I usually arrange to meet the occasional ladies or couples who agree to meet, & I think more often than not... I have been left standing outside, stood up. There are times when I think that maybe the pub is cursed, or perhaps I should wise up & realise its... No, shouldn't be that negative (hopefully someone will agree here
)!!!!!! Still at least I can have a pint to drown my sorrows next time. As so many have said before me, this happens. It happened to me too, with my first meet with someone from this site.
From that point on, I've only arranged to meet with people I've got to know first in the forum and the chatroom. Since then, I've had a 100% "show rate", and even better than that, they're all lovely people.
Good luck for your next meet.....
From that point on, I've only arranged to meet with people I've got to know first in the forum and the chatroom. Since then, I've had a 100% "show rate", and even better than that, they're all lovely people.
Good luck for your next meet.....
Sex God
Damn... did I miss a de-activation 
Sorry to hear that Liam...... there are LOTS of genuine people around here.............. hope this doesn't put you off forever
Sorry to hear that Liam...... there are LOTS of genuine people around here.............. hope this doesn't put you off forever
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I've deactivated the user who did this to Liam - we will not tolerate such stupid behaviour here.
It has to be said again, the only real way to have meets is to get known here, be trusted and be known to be a 'real' user of the site, not one who only posts the same one line every time saying the equivalent of 'fancy a shag'!!
Now, go forth and make friends!! :P
How about the first two letters of their user name as a warning? Still I suppose de-activated it won't help when they come back with another name.
What iof it is ....Si...you will think it is me..lol :shock:
Sex God
Happened to me today too, arranged to meet as guy this afternoon and he never showed, bloody annoying as I'd had to rush back from other things I'd had planned in the morning
Well they don't get a second chance and he hasn't even bothered to try and explain why he didn't show
Where have people's manners gone???
:twisted:
Well they don't get a second chance and he hasn't even bothered to try and explain why he didn't show
Where have people's manners gone???
:twisted:
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