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Is it possible the code(where it is applied) has an age limit to it 
It occurred to me that I know quite a few divorcees (aged 30+) who have hooked up with other divorcees from within their own circle of friends (ie a mate's ex) – sometimes the hooking up was the cause of one or both becoming a divorcee, but not in the majority of cases.
It occurred to me that I know quite a few divorcees (aged 30+) who have hooked up with other divorcees from within their own circle of friends (ie a mate's ex) – sometimes the hooking up was the cause of one or both becoming a divorcee, but not in the majority of cases.
If you do decide to persue things with this woman, just tell your friend that you knew how badly she had treated him, and so you are getting his revenge for him.
You don't have to treat her badly of course, but it might delay him becoming an ex friend whilst you see if you and the young lady get along!
You don't have to treat her badly of course, but it might delay him becoming an ex friend whilst you see if you and the young lady get along!
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Is it possible the code (where it is applied) has an age limit to it
It occurred to me that I know quite a few divorcees (aged 30+) who have hooked up with other divorcees from within their own circle of friends (ie a mate's ex) – sometimes the hooking up was the cause of one or both becoming a divorcee, but not in the majority of cases.
Are you implying that after 30, life's too short - so fuck the code? (That's the polite version)
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Quote by westerross
Is it possible the code (where it is applied) has an age limit to it
It occurred to me that I know quite a few divorcees (aged 30+) who have hooked up with other divorcees from within their own circle of friends (ie a mate's ex) – sometimes the hooking up was the cause of one or both becoming a divorcee, but not in the majority of cases.
Are you implying that after 30, life's too short - so fuck the code? (That's the polite version)
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No – but if I was to imply anything it would be… may be it is easier to form couple relationships with people you have already formed or started to form a social relationship. People get to know their friends partners.
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Is it possible the code (where it is applied) has an age limit to it
It occurred to me that I know quite a few divorcees (aged 30+) who have hooked up with other divorcees from within their own circle of friends (ie a mate's ex) – sometimes the hooking up was the cause of one or both becoming a divorcee, but not in the majority of cases.
Are you implying that after 30, life's too short - so fuck the code? (That's the polite version)
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No – but if I was to imply anything it would be… may be it is easier to form couple relationships with people you have already formed or started to form a social relationship. People get to know their friends partners.
In which case - I think there is something in that but I think it is more likely to be driven either by laziness (you've got enough of a pool of acceptable people in your circle so why struggle to find more) or the fact that other people of similar age are already fixed up.
Incidentally, I reckon the 'laziness' (harsh word on reflection) syndrome is prevalent here as well. One of the reasons why some people fade away is that they have found a circle of friends that they 'meet' in places other than the Forum.
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Quote by Drewxcore
Shes a nice girl, i get along with her better than he ever did and although he was smitten with her they only dated like a week
If they had been dating for a while then I would have said leave well alone if you value your mate's friendship but this was hardly the romance of the year after a week so I don't see the problem.
There should always be a 'code' between mates but they weren't together long enough for the 'code' to come into play.
you say your mate's heart was riped out when they broke up. now i'm sure we have all been in that situation of feeling like shit when a relationship falls apart. the last thing..I would want in that situation was a so called freind rubbing my nose in it by shagging her.
If you call yourself a friend, then you wouldn't do it.
If you call yourself a friend, then you wouldn't do it.
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Shes a nice girl, i get along with her better than he ever did and although he was smitten with her they only dated like a week
If they had been dating for a while then I would have said leave well alone if you value your mate's friendship but this was hardly the romance of the year after a week so I don't see the problem.
There should always be a 'code' between mates but they weren't together long enough for the 'code' to come into play.
:thumbup: That would have been many people's reaction if the snippet of Drew's mates brief encounter was stated at the beginning.
Ever feel as though manipulation by dripfeed is afoot?
P'raps that's unfair?.
Sex God
My friend goes on about his so called code because he was so in love with her for ages before thier very brief stint together 
He says hes over her now, so as far as i'm concerened, fuck the code x
He says hes over her now, so as far as i'm concerened, fuck the code x Do you just want to fuck her....or date her aswell?
How long have you and your mate been friends?
Will you continue to be friends with your mate if you fuck her?
will it bother you if your no longer friends with your mate after this?
what is more likely to have lasted longer...your friendship with your mate....or this girl?
How long have you and your mate been friends?
Will you continue to be friends with your mate if you fuck her?
will it bother you if your no longer friends with your mate after this?
what is more likely to have lasted longer...your friendship with your mate....or this girl?
Sex God
A serious post aimed at me, im impressed!
bottom line, if hes as good a mate as he says he is then surely he would want me to be happy
Quote by Mr-Powers
Do you just want to fuck her....or date her aswell? Date her
How long have you and your mate been friends? nearly two years
Will you continue to be friends with your mate if you fuck her? it'll piss him off but i'm sure he'll live
will it bother you if your no longer friends with your mate after this? i would expect a bit of a problem at first but im sure hed be fine with it eventually, it would bother me if he couldnt forgive
what is more likely to have lasted longer...your friendship with your mate....or this girl?]who knows?
bottom line, if hes as good a mate as he says he is then surely he would want me to be happy
Quote by Drewxcore
A serious post aimed at me, im impressed!
Do you just want to fuck her....or date her aswell? Date her
How long have you and your mate been friends? nearly two years
Will you continue to be friends with your mate if you fuck her? it'll piss him off but i'm sure he'll live
will it bother you if your no longer friends with your mate after this? i would expect a bit of a problem at first but im sure hed be fine with it eventually, it would bother me if he couldnt forgive
what is more likely to have lasted longer...your friendship with your mate....or this girl?]who knows?
bottom line, if hes as good a mate as he says he is then surely he would want me to be happy
sounds to me you know what you are going to do....regardless of what your mate might think!
Quote by westerross
I think the notion that swingers are immune from this sort of thing is not necessarily the case.
I have fallen out with someone here and sometime later started conversing with a very good friend of theirs. It was mutual until all of a sudden it cut off for no reason at all. Friends had been talking methinks.
Not so much a code - but friends will be friends.
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Can very much relate to that one!! but, am I bovvered...
Quote by peenut
My wife ran off with my best mate....An I really miss him!
tickled me did that
As for unwritten codes..... yep they certainly exist but boy are they confusing if you dont know the rules!!
xanaisx
Sex God
Quote by Mr-Powers
A serious post aimed at me, im impressed!
Do you just want to fuck her....or date her aswell? Date her
How long have you and your mate been friends? nearly two years
Will you continue to be friends with your mate if you fuck her? it'll piss him off but i'm sure he'll live
will it bother you if your no longer friends with your mate after this? i would expect a bit of a problem at first but im sure hed be fine with it eventually, it would bother me if he couldnt forgive
what is more likely to have lasted longer...your friendship with your mate....or this girl?]who knows?
bottom line, if hes as good a mate as he says he is then surely he would want me to be happy
sounds to me you know what you are going to do....regardless of what your mate might think!
Maybe its just too much hassle, i'll see
