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the end what would you do ?
if a relationship isnt working out then with tact you have to be honest and say so, no false hopes,
as for the stalker thing i think both parties sometimes have to take the responsibility in this one, it can be the pussy footing around and the avoidence that may lead the soon to be dumped, or the dumped "with no clear reasons" to doing what could be considered stalkish things.
does any of that make any sense?
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as for the stalker thing i think both parties sometimes have to take the responsibility in this one, it can be the pussy footing around and the avoidence that may lead the soon to be dumped, or the dumped "with no clear reasons" to doing what could be considered stalkish things.
does any of that make any sense?
xx fem xxx
Quote by sercher01
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I started this thread because I am at a loss and don’t know how to help him ...
Point 1: You didn't ask for advice on how to support your friend
You asked people what they would do in a hypothetical (though not) situation. Stringing a huge list of "if I were you..." suggestions together is not the best way to help him - and in the worst case could result in him doing something not in his nature, which he later regrets and blames you for coz you stuck your nose in.Quote by sercher01
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I knew that my friends on here would help and give me some ideas on how to deal with this situation
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Point 2: It is not your situation... you don't have to deal with it (not in the way the replies suggest)
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
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I started this thread because I am at a loss and don’t know how to help him ...
Point 1: You didn't ask for advice on how to support your friend
You asked people what they would do in a hypothetical (though not) situation. Stringing a huge list of "if I were you..." suggestions together is not the best way to help him - and in the worst case could result in him doing something not in his nature, which he later regrets and blames you for coz you stuck your nose in.Quote by sercher01
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I knew that my friends on here would help and give me some ideas on how to deal with this situation
...
Point 2: It is not your situation... you don't have to deal with it (not in the way the replies suggest)
point 1 polo this go's alot deeper than you think an would take ages to put in a post
point 2 i didnt want to start a "i have a friend " thread cos i thought you would all think it was me (as it happened thats what went down anyway)
point 3 you have all helped by telling me things i would have never thought of espesialy you polo and as iv sed i thank you all for the input it will help
hope you understand that telling the hole story would have taken to long
i may have made a mistake putting it the way i did but it had the desierd responce
once again i thank everyone for there input
please continue
Quote by sercher01
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I started this thread because I am at a loss and don’t know how to help him ...
Point 1: You didn't ask for advice on how to support your friend
You asked people what they would do in a hypothetical (though not) situation. Stringing a huge list of "if I were you..." suggestions together is not the best way to help him - and in the worst case could result in him doing something not in his nature, which he later regrets and blames you for coz you stuck your nose in.Quote by sercher01
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I knew that my friends on here would help and give me some ideas on how to deal with this situation
...
Point 2: It is not your situation... you don't have to deal with it (not in the way the replies suggest)
point 1 polo this go's alot deeper than you think an would take ages to put in a post
point 2 i didnt want to start a "i have a friend " thread cos i thought you would all think it was me (as it happened thats what went down anyway)
point 3 you have all helped by telling me things i would have never thought of espesialy you polo and as iv sed i thank you all for the input it will help
hope you understand that telling the hole story would have taken to long
i may have made a mistake putting it the way i did but it had the desierd responce
once again i thank everyone for there input
please continue
You are missing the point.
You have been given lots of suggestions about what other people would do (based on a fraction of the info) - what are YOU going to do with them (the suggestions) now? I ask because as stated above - it is not your situation to deal with... it is someone elses.
You said you started the thread because you didn't know how to help your friend - but you have not had any advice on how to help and support your friend or how to help him come to a decision that is right for him.
To spell it out - you asked the wrong question.
PS - you may not have wanted it to be a "I have a friend" thread - but it didn't take long for you to crack :grin:
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
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I started this thread because I am at a loss and don’t know how to help him ...
Point 1: You didn't ask for advice on how to support your friend
You asked people what they would do in a hypothetical (though not) situation. Stringing a huge list of "if I were you..." suggestions together is not the best way to help him - and in the worst case could result in him doing something not in his nature, which he later regrets and blames you for coz you stuck your nose in.Quote by sercher01
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I knew that my friends on here would help and give me some ideas on how to deal with this situation
...
Point 2: It is not your situation... you don't have to deal with it (not in the way the replies suggest)
point 1 polo this go's alot deeper than you think an would take ages to put in a post
point 2 i didnt want to start a "i have a friend " thread cos i thought you would all think it was me (as it happened thats what went down anyway)
point 3 you have all helped by telling me things i would have never thought of espesialy you polo and as iv sed i thank you all for the input it will help
hope you understand that telling the hole story would have taken to long
i may have made a mistake putting it the way i did but it had the desierd responce
once again i thank everyone for there input
please continue
You are missing the point.
You have been given lots of suggestions about what other people would do (based on a fraction of the info) which is exactley what i wanted- what are YOU going to do with them (the suggestions) now? I ask because as stated above - it is not your situation to deal with... it is someone elses.it is my situation or are you saying i shouldnt help a very good friend if i can?
You said you started the thread because you didn't know how to help your friend - but you have not had any advice on how to help and support your friend or how to help him come to a decision that is right for him. i think i have and once again i thank all the people who have contriduted to this thread
To spell it out - you asked the wrong question.
no i didnt as i got the answers i was looking for
PS - you may not have wanted it to be a "I have a friend" thread - but it didn't take long for you to crack :grin:i was asked by a mod to point out more clearley that it wasnt about me
polo please dont make this into a " sercher is stuped " thread hun as you have been very helpfull to me an pointed out some very valid points on this thread
i have sleped on all that has been posted an i think the best thing to do is just be there for him at the mo !
thank you all
anymore segestions will be greatfuly excepted :wink:
Quote by sercher01
polo please dont make this into a " sercher is stuped " thread hun as you have been very helpfull to me an pointed out some very valid points on this thread
Read it how you want - but from my point of veiw I didn't think I was doing that, so please don't assume.
Quote by sercher01
i have sleped on all that has been posted an i think the best thing to do is just be there for him at the mo !
Now if you actually read what I have put without the blinkers you may just see that what you have written above is part of the point I was making. It is not about working out what others would do if they were in your friends situation - the focus should be on what you can do for your friend.
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
polo please dont make this into a " sercher is stuped " thread hun as you have been very helpfull to me an pointed out some very valid points on this thread
Read it how you want - but from my point of veiw I didn't think I was doing that, so please don't assume.
Quote by sercher01
i have sleped on all that has been posted an i think the best thing to do is just be there for him at the mo !
Now if you actually read what I have put without the blinkers you may just see that what you have written above is part of the point I was making. It is not about working out what others would do if they were in your friends situation - the focus should be on what you can do for your friend.
i have agreed with you alread polo
if you have anymore comments pertaining to this thread and subject ( how i can help my m8) please feel free to post them hun
