Well, I'm a single male, so I'm not too qualified on the couples thing, but I would say it seems perfectly reasonable to ask for a fem/fem chat, to weed out imposters. Sadly there are some fella's who'll pose as a couple to get their kicks and pics...
I guess if they are genuine as well they will have the same concerns as you and wouldn't want their time wasted either, so get the phone call in early.
On a more serious note, you say you met them on here, and if it is a case of a male pretending to be a couple, then I'd notify a Mod so they are aware of it. I know in the chatroom you can't pretend to be a female (or vice-versa) so I'm guessing it'll be in the AUP's somewhere that this is not allowed either..
I hate to generalise , but in my experience those who want an endless supply of pics rarely move onto the next stage
after all how many pics do you need to see before deciding if they are suitable ??
i dont think your wrong to ask for a telephone number to confirm they are who they say
No, it's certainly not rude to ask for a phone number of someone you are thinking of meeting, nor is a fem/fem chat unusual - I think it is very much the norm these days. Anyone who will not give a phone number or who is not willing to chat before the meet is dodgy in my book. Trust your instricts on this, they are most probably right.
just to add form the male perspective...though i would guess this is not the norm..
i have in the past (not on SH)spoken to a single female (or as i thought) and went from chat on MSN to normal photos..she** asked for a nude photo and i asked if we could talk via phone before that just for us both to have a chat...the MSN went off immediatley ...
it was at this point i had strong suspicions (see bluexxx)
i would send my photo to any 1 as a hello but draw the line there until ive talked on the phone or met...
of course im relatively new to SH but just thought id pop in my experience
hope you have more genuine people in future
dargento
We think if they won't comfirm who they are on cam or phone then don't bother!
You can get pics from anywhere on the net!!
We always insist on a fem to fem phone call before arranging a meet, the conversation does not have to be sparkling, just good enough to hear a female voice and verifiy that she does know what the meet is all about.
On the subject of photos, we never send out facial photos, nor do we ask for them. We have had instance where a "couple" have sent, unrequested, naked photos of themselves with faces not hidden. When we say we will not send the same back, but are quite willing to meet in the flesh they get real huffy!! But I could easy find naked photos on the net and send them out saying they were us, so who's to say the sent ones were genuine?
For us its, initial emails, phone call, then arrange to meet in the flesh for a drink or at a club. That normally sorts out the picture collectors and the dis-genuine (is that a real word)?
John & Shel
I have meet people as a couple and single
My opinion is if the female (or anybody) is 2 shy to chat to you on the phone they will not meet up.
If they find it hard to chat on the phone can you imagine them getting naked and having sex with you
I think not
Having said that i do know 1 cpl where the female can not chat on the phone but they did explaine that during chat and they are well known to be a genuine nice couple
But normaly I would not agree to meet anybody unless we had chatted on the phone first unless they was recomended by a friend
Saves time and petrol lol
Bi-Guy-Notts
I just give the person my number and explain that they are welcome to withold the number and don't have to speak long if they don't want to as its no more than a "hello" call to prove i'm genuine....
If they don't after a week or so then they are probably fakes... especially if we've been talking quite a lot.
Likewise if someone starts saying how horny they are feeling and look as though they want to cyber... I just say I don't I only do real life sex (actually I do cyber, but only with people I've already slept (or met) with as part of the ongoing sexual play, it can be great to come up with fantasy ideas to then try out on the next meet!) if they get huffy or go off line... they are probably fake.
We tend to prefer webcam chat to phone conversation, simply because phone conversations can be awkward and we don't like to give out our number. Also since we dont show face pics online, people get to see the real us and if they are not feeling too queasy continue the conversation ;)
We have been quite surprised though at the number of people who don't seem to have a cam. Given that cam costs are now quite low (£10-£15) we would think they would almost be de-rigeur for real couples, however we know this isn't always the case and just wondered why really? Perhaps its harder to justify if there are kids in the household etc?
We agree that chatting in the fone can be a bit strange. One time we were chatting to a 'couple' on MSN for some time. When we went cam to cam only the 'girl' was there. It was clealy a guy.. with huge calfs and hairy legs! He still tried to keep up the pretence which was laughable. We've had w great meets off the internet but finding genuine cpls involved hours of chatting to timewasters at first.
To anyone starting out it becomes much easier to spot fakers after time. As mentioned earlier looking for lots of pics after youve send one or two good ones is a definate sign. Webcam probles and wives constantly at work is a no brainer too.
We have yet to experince a club and that is what we are looking forward to most. It will take the guessing element out of it. Just wish there was a club in Ireland.
hiya
i always ask for a fem on fem phone check
i dont even send pics out till ive had that
but must admit tho i have my own personal swingers mobile phone which i only give out to swingers so i can turn it off and on when i want
thanks jo xx
, we had no more contact for a while and when it resumed we had become suspicious so asked again for a fem/fem phone chat to confirm before we chatted any further......
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I can just hear it now.. sounding like terry jones as Brians mum in Life of Brian... 
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