There's always lots of criticism in swinging about single guys but I've got to say whenever we've met a single guy they've been very respectful and we've never had a bad experience with one.
I just wondered if any single guys or single girls had had a bad experience with couples they've met?
Mrs Secksy
The threesomes I tend to have are slightly different, in that no two out of the three are in a couple. I tend to play with a friend in that situation and the guys we have met have all been very cool.
Possibly it is the fact that the emotional ties are not there, so that all parties concerned can really just enjoy the sex rather than worry about overstepping any unspoken rules, I don't know.
But hey, as a single gal on here, I meet heaps of single guys in varying different capacities - for meets, with my threesome buddy and also at socials/munches - and I would say the vast majority (99.9%?) appear to be pretty cool.
Nola x
Only been lucky enough to partake in 1 3sum and I have to say the cpl were both fantastic...
They took the time to make me feel comfortable and at every opportunity checked to see if all was ok with me....
Which of course it was :rascal:
Yes, I have. On a few occasions. I won't go into details as I don't know if those people might be on here - all situations a long time ago, so it's possible they are here and I don't know.
Anyway - I have had all sorts, from one part of the couple freaking out resulting in a row between them, one situation where one partner wanted to see me on my own without the other half and began to ring and text at all hours of the night even though I said no, one situation where one part of the couple was extremely pushy with his partner, who clearly was not ready for swinging. And others. Oh and quite a few that don't turn up at all.
So much so, you know what, unless I know a couple socially already, or it's a random event in a club, I WILL NOT meet couples. They are much harder work than swingles. IMHO
Meeting a couple in a coffee shop... discussed all the angles of what could possibly happy and what we all wanted to happen. All was well. I arrive at their house we do lots of things that we had all planned. It was all very exciting.
The initial dislike of being relegated to the spare (tiny) bedroom for us all to fuck was a niggle that was almost forgotten until when asked by the female of the couple what position I would like to do now..... I said ummm missionary (half because that was the only thing we hadn't done and half because I bloody like it) He said... 'o.k.' she said... 'ummmm no, I would rather we keep that just for us'.
I felt cheapened and made a sharp exit.
Another time, another couple.... I was nervous and chatted to the lady on the phone- all was well, chatted to him, all was well. Met him for a coffee (with her permission) and all was well.
I then got a text off him saying that she didn't know that he and I had met for a coffee and could he meet for sex without her. I declined and told him that he was a twat. I saw her a couple of times in chat and left straight away as I was mortified that I knew something about him that she didn't. I should have just told her really... but didn't want, in anyway, to be responsible for a break up or argument.
I have only met another two couples, one set on my own and then with worlass a couple of times. The other couple just with worlass... both have been exceptional.
I don't meet couples now unless worlass is with me. They scare me.
We go out of our way to include any single people into our lives and ensure they feel totally part of everything. We would never want them to feel anything but part of our lives for whatever length of time they are in it.
We've had several 3sums with both single guys and single females, most of them we're very pleasurable for all concerned but on the odd occassion problems have arose it's been with a single female never a single guy.
Saying that there are several single females we have had the luck of enjoying lots of fun with on several occassions. The odd couple were ones with hidden agendas that showed up further down the line. This said it hasn't put either of us off still enjoying 3sums with females quite the opposite, just a little more weary before playing ( as in taking more time to get to know what sort of things they are actually looking for).
Without going into detail I'll just say that my early 3some experiences were not very enjoyable. They have got a lot better over the years.............especially the last one :twisted:
with most of the 3 somes ive had ive found that the couple has been very polite towards a single male
been a single male we have spoken many a time on msn, and to these people about our dislikes and what we would want to do within the 3 some meets finding out each others comfort zone
on ocassion sometimes in these meets we have gone further than what was spoken about and being propossioned to doing a bit more while in the heat of the moment but it has never gone too far
after all said and done you can allways say no if you go out of your depth or comfort zone
with further meets after as you get to know each others comfort zone and has been fun and enjoyable over the years
a failed 3 some meet of which ive had
i contacted the people for a meeting with due to there distance from me i found to my surprise that they had changed the distance for some reason to alot further away ( a bit strange to do this )
so i politely cancelled the meet as i thought they had something to hide with them changeing the distance
I would have to admit to partaking in a fair few threesomes with couples.
None have ever been a disaster but a few have been a bit unusual.
One that springs to mind was at a club – I was invited to accompany a couple into a private room – and after about 1 millisecond of thought followed them to the room. She walked in I followed then she turned around and closed the door leaving her partner on the other side. I checked that she intended that and she said oh he wouldn’t be joining us. Well after the initial shock I managed to settle into the liaison and had a great time. I never did manage to catch up with them both afterwards – Is this common ?
Another strange time with a couple was during the event she managed to gush a little – nothing too explosive. Well clearly this wasn’t a usual occurrence as her partner jumped up wondering what was going on with a panicked look on his face. After she had calmed down she explained and he was fine with it – I was rather nervous for a time though !
So generally fantastic times with couples – and generally with singles.
Dull really – oh well :-)
I don't really get this idea of everything being "equal" in a threesome... how the feck do you measure that?
"Well, I've spent 15.2 minutes manipulating her left nipple, now I'll set the stopwatch PLEASE! Don't touch bits of me, that's a 3 second penalty when it comes to the oral..."
Surely you are all there to enjoy yourself. If someone is there for any other reason, or under duress, then it is almost guaranteed to go tits up.
I think probably to enjoy a threesome you have to enjoy watching as much as playing and if you can't handle taking a back seat at times and not being at the centre of everything, you may well struggle to enjoy it, especially if you are insecure about seeing a loved one enjoy it with someone else.
What puts me off more than anything is when the other woman shows any kind of jealousy when you and 'her man' are showing each other any attention. If you don't like to see your man kiss/lick or fuck another woman then don't share him - simple as!
I know someone though who is so safe in her relationship, she positively encourages it :twisted:
Wow, I didnt realise us couples were so hazardous :twisted:
I have been the single fem myself in days of old, and met a fabulous couple from Yorkshire, who still remain good friends to this day.
As a single I just was lucky I guess.
As a couple we are very, very lucky I guess, to have met the most wonderful, sexy and cute people.....can think of one in particular.......oohh must stop thinking!
Mistress_39
Edited for a rather bad spelling mistake!
I love sharing Si with other women....and often encourage them to go for it and I just sit back and enjoy watching after the initial 3sum fun....going back and joining in now and then....and he's the same with me.
We find it's great to share mmmmmmmmmmmm
I have played as a couple and as a single with a couple and none of the meetings have been bad, I enjoyed them all!
Speaking as part of a couple I fee that you need to be 100% relaxed about what ever is going to happen, I have worked with the other chap to make A_tre as turned on as possible, both pleasuring her form different ends ;) But I have also just sat back and left them to it, no rules (apart from condoms).
Just have to be chilled folks and it works fine.
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