Time wasters!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

8 Sep 2007

OK right well I bet this subject has been covered about a hundred times by now but I'm going to have a bitch anyway :twisted: !
This weekend we had arranged a meet with 2 different cpls one Friday one Saturday (I know lucky us ) but when it came to meeting neither cpl showed up the cpl we were meant to meet Friday text us a hour after we were meant to meet and said they couldn't come and the other cpl after we waited for 40 min didn't even call text nothing to say if they would be late or if they were not coming mad

. It really does tick me off because in this day and age people can get in touch so much easier then 10 or 15 years ago so why is it people are still being stood up. Don't get me wrong I understand the cpl might getting cold feet but a courtesy text or phone call to say your not coming isn't to much to ask is it confused

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Has anyone been in the same situation? or have you just not showed if so did you text if not why???

8 Sep 2007

This comes up a lot and a search on the subject you will get dozens of threads, part of the life im afraid so dont expect a big response and you might find this gets locked anyway.
you would then become a memeber of an exclusive club if it does rotflmao

8 Sep 2007

yes it has been covered hundreds of times...but we do have a steam room!

8 Sep 2007

Yes this complaint HAS been covered loads of times, but we've never had anyone actually come on and say why they have been a "timewaster".
I think the last time the subject was aired, I asked the same thing, but no one wanted to enlighten us from an actual "timewaster"'s point of view.
And I don't suppose anyone ever will - unless they could ever post anonymously, and that's not possible.

8 Sep 2007

We have had to let a person down literaly 1hr before we were due to meet, but we did call him to explain. Curtosy doesn`t cost anything.

8 Sep 2007

Could it be possible to have a Hall of Shame and a Hall of Fame?
People could add to either and give their reasons. A no-show without even letting anyone know - Hall of Shame etc..... confused

8 Sep 2007

Quote by Jpsauce
Could it be possible to have a Hall of Shame and a Hall of Fame?
People could add to either and give their reasons. A no-show without even letting anyone know - Hall of Shame etc.....

Definately not...

8 Sep 2007

Curtosy doesn`t cost anything.

Exactly, shit happens we all know that, and people change their minds, we don't mind, but at least send a text with a feeble excuse, something, anything, just don't be a no show.....................

8 Sep 2007

Curtosy doesn`t cost anything.

Exactly, shit happens we all know that, and people change their minds, we don't mind, but at least send a text with a feeble excuse, something, anything, just don't be a no show.....................

8 Sep 2007

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
Curtosy doesn`t cost anything.

Exactly, shit happens we all know that, and people change their minds, we don't mind, but at least send a text with a feeble excuse, something, anything, just don't be a no show.....................
but would you still do a thread about them being timewasters even if they had texted you that night...some people have still been accused of timewasting even when they do let the other people know at short notice.

8 Sep 2007

Quote by Jpsauce
Could it be possible to have a Hall of Shame and a Hall of Fame?
People could add to either and give their reasons. A no-show without even letting anyone know - Hall of Shame etc.....

hall of shame...not a good idea...open to abuse!

8 Sep 2007

Quote by Jpsauce
Could it be possible to have a Hall of Shame and a Hall of Fame?
People could add to either and give their reasons. A no-show without even letting anyone know - Hall of Shame etc.....

Noooooooooooo :shock:

8 Sep 2007

Well we had arranged to meet a couple one evening on the way back from a trip; However, me in my haste had taken wrong number down, and we were texting the cpl (or so we thought) every 10 mins ; we didnt get an answer so thought they'ed changed their minds. It transpired that I had transposed two numbers of the phone no' and some vanilla was receiving weird text messages surprised

ops:
Mind you; we did sort it out( took weeks or grovelling) lol; but we would expect peeps to let us know if they not turning up.

8 Sep 2007

Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!

8 Sep 2007

Your all heart Lilmiss :giggle:

8 Sep 2007

Quote by Lilmiss
Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!

i agree its all part of swinging, my advice is go to social meet where you can get to know people first before you arrange to meet them on a more personal level, i have never been stood up by anyone i have met at a social meet

8 Sep 2007

I'm really sorry for that... but come on... how many time do we hear the same thing???!!!!
And you know me.... Say what i think!!!!

8 Sep 2007

I am at an atvantage Lilmiss as we have met and I know you quite well from the chatroom... Like quite a few people on the forum you can come across quite harsh but I know you didn't really mean to be, like you we have heard it all before :lol2:
Sometime a little tolerance for people new to the experience could be given??
Anyway I still luffs ya kiss

Even if you are a mardy cow :giggle: bolt

8 Sep 2007

but would you still do a thread about them being timewasters even if they had texted you that night...some people have still been accused of timewasting even when they do let the other people know at short notice.

No, if they sent us a text, even if it was at the very last minite, we would not complain. At least we would know, and not sit in a pub for 45mins wondering if the were coming ...............

Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!
i agree its all part of swinging, my advice is go to social meet where you can get to know people first before you arrange to meet them on a more personal level, i have never been stood up by anyone i have met at a social meet

We do go to socials, went to one on Friday, and will/have moved on, it just anoyed us when its so easy to say "sorry, carnt make it"

8 Sep 2007

I've only once had to cancel a meet, but I phone the person the day before.
However very recently I stood standing in the cold waiting for someone, who to this day hasn't explained why she didn't turn up.
sad

9 Sep 2007

You've been reading this thread havent you Donna?? :lol2: :lol2: wave

http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/193301.html
wink

Good luck for the next meet... cant get any worse eh? :smile: Someones bound to say yes now lol

9 Sep 2007

This is probably not as bad, but it is just as irritating.
I 'know' many people in the chatrooms with whom I enjoy a good chat, some I have met.
However there are some who I've been chatting to for a while who tell how much they want to meet and how much they love your profile. Then the subject moves round to arranging a possible meet, and guess what??? Just as you get to the phone numbers, venue and time bit, they vanish.
It's the same people and it happens at tabout the same point inthe conversation. Is this a new game? Well it's still timewasting.
And yes I must be stupid cos I fall for it everytime :cry:

9 Sep 2007

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!

i agree its all part of swinging, my advice is go to social meet where you can get to know people first before you arrange to meet them on a more personal level, i have never been stood up by anyone i have met at a social meet
Gotta be the way forward we totally agree with you guys

9 Sep 2007

Quote by Lost
Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!

i agree its all part of swinging, my advice is go to social meet where you can get to know people first before you arrange to meet them on a more personal level, i have never been stood up by anyone i have met at a social meet
Gotta be the way forward we totally agree with you guys
This can be a good plan but its not for everyone, its not often we can get out these days and we personally would choose not to spend it at a social getting to know people and chatting all night, we like to have chat and then if all get along have some fun.......and yes we realise this isnt the same for everyone.
I think there are alot of people that can relate to the couple who ave been let down and may realise that the post has been covered before but hey it feels good to have a moan every now and again and why shouldnt you be able to?
if people are sick of seeing the same posts over and over again then they are getting an idea of how the original poster feels at the time of posting
xx

9 Sep 2007

Quote by tina1
Moan Moan Moan!!!!!!!!!
Sorry!!! but we all get them..
Just move on!!

i agree its all part of swinging, my advice is go to social meet where you can get to know people first before you arrange to meet them on a more personal level, i have never been stood up by anyone i have met at a social meet
Gotta be the way forward we totally agree with you guys
This can be a good plan but its not for everyone, its not often we can get out these days and we personally would choose not to spend it at a social getting to know people and chatting all night, we like to have chat and then if all get along have some fun.......and yes we realise this isnt the same for everyone.
I think there are alot of people that can relate to the couple who ave been let down and may realise that the post has been covered before but hey it feels good to have a moan every now and again and why shouldnt you be able to?
if people are sick of seeing the same posts over and over again then they are getting an idea of how the original poster feels at the time of posting
xx
I can relate to it 1st hand... I once had 3 let downs in 1 week.... but i didn't come on here and start yet ANOTHER topic about timewasters! Could you imagine what it would be like on here if we all did???!!!
Without sound offensive... Coming on here moaning about it doesn't get rid of them.. it just makes the person posting the topic look like a whinger!!
As for not being able to get out much... I don't either, being a single parent with no sitters can be really hard but i make the effort to attend certain socials or nites out when i can and i always have a fab time.
For me its not all about having a quick chat and jumping into bed and no doubt i'm not only speaking for myself, but i love the social side of it too and it means more to me to get to know somebody first.

9 Sep 2007

it costs nothing to let people know........ but what if they just couldnt think of a good reason or think you would see right thru it??? its a scary thing this swinging :shock: :shock: :shock: or of course something could of happened with family am bloody sure if my son was rushed into hospital close to a meet i dont think i would be thinking about letting the person(s) know i could not make it i would be making sure my son was ok and then think about them as an afterthought sounds blunt but its the way it is family comes first in my book move on if the same thing happened with same person a couple of times then you could start getting pissed of

9 Sep 2007

shit happends it is nice to be told though
BUT
what if they couldnt find the right words to say look were nervous or were not ready ????? i know ive felt like that plenty let downs happen and normally they are blown out of all proportions
Another thought is maybe something came up they could not get out of or a family was ill and had to go to hospital etc.... if my son was ill and i was worried the last thing i would be thinking was "gotta let these people ive never met before know that i cant show up" cos it just dont work like that they would get thort about when my son was ok and as an afterthought
blunt but just the way it should be

9 Sep 2007

Yes its happened to us amd yes its annoying but unfortunately its a part of SH life!!
Just a question Dizzy Donna, did you have a fem/fem chat with both couples before arranging to meet up? Sometimes when this isn't done there is always the possibility that one half (or indeed the only half) who is chatting/messaging either hasn't informed the other half or that one half isn't quite as keen!!
The best way forward is SOMETIMES a social meet, however, if the other couple lives a fair distance away this isnt always possible, and i dont think we would arrange to meet another couple who we had chatted to online somewhere reasonably far away that involved us or them having to get a hotel just for a social chat etc!!
We tend to only meet with people that we get along with well online, we are quite selective and always ask for a fem/fem phone chat and photos early on, this way we know wether the physical attraction is there or not. We then maybe chat a few more imes and try to inject a bit of our own sense of humour and the stuff we are into into the online and phone conversations, if the response is good and the other couple are on our wavelength we start to arrange meeting up!!
We are definitely quality over quantity people and need there to be a good social rapport and good chemistry to swing with the couple.
Anyway hope this helps a bit Donna and good luck next time lol

9 Sep 2007

Yes its happened to us amd yes its annoying but unfortunately its a part of SH life!!
Just a question Dizzy Donna, did you have a fem/fem chat with both couples before arranging to meet up? Sometimes when this isn't done there is always the possibility that one half (or indeed the only half) who is chatting/messaging either hasn't informed the other half or that one half isn't quite as keen!!
The best way forward is SOMETIMES a social meet, however, if the other couple lives a fair distance away this isnt always possible, and i dont think we would arrange to meet another couple who we had chatted to online somewhere reasonably far away that involved us or them having to get a hotel just for a social chat etc!!
We tend to only meet with people that we get along with well online, we are quite selective and always ask for a fem/fem phone chat and photos early on, this way we know wether the physical attraction is there or not. We then maybe chat a few more imes and try to inject a bit of our own sense of humour and the stuff we are into into the online and phone conversations, if the response is good and the other couple are on our wavelength we start to arrange meeting up!!
We are definitely quality over quantity people and need there to be a good social rapport and good chemistry to swing with the couple.
Anyway hope this helps a bit Donna and good luck next time lol

9 Sep 2007

i am a time waster!
well not in my opinion , but in those of some others.
i commited the sin of not wanting to meet someone who had wasted a whole 30 seconds writing me a pm lol