Well I am glad I did it. It has also given me a new fantasy - to go with a couple. The fantasy now is to be having sex with the woman while sucking the guy off and taking cum in my mouth and sharing it with the girl.
If you fulfill your fantasy you will always find another.
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To any guys who were bi-curious and tried it
Warming the Bed
let's hope so. my worry is that the fantasies will run out!
so thank blog for this site....
so thank blog for this site....
Warming the Bed
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It comes down to what the fantasy is. Is it to give a blow job or something more. Mine was always just the blow job. The fact that you are considering the question could be the answer itself.
My advice would be to think long and hard about what, if anything, you want to try. Have you ever seen any gay videos or pictures? This may help. At the end of the day, if you try it and dont like it you dont have to do it again if you dont want to.
So make it clear what you are looking for. If you just want to experience giving a blow job, just say so. In our (limited) experience, honesty is the best policy. You can always change your mind or take it further as the mood suits u - in our case I wasn't expecting any more than that, but was happy with it when it happened and took it further.
Re gay videos, I don't think they help at all - maybe our experience of these is again limited but the real thing is nothing like those in our opinion!!
Warming the Bed
hijacking yet again, it would still be interested in making my first steps forward in this realm.
need to build up a little trust though...
need to build up a little trust though...
Warming the Bed
Ok for a change but pussy tastes sweeter
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does it there for mean when i was curious i was bi curious
and now i have tried it
as im not curious i must now be bi
just wondered so i know for the future
Ah, well there's a whole new thread here, which I might start off if I get the time. What defines str8, gay and bi? Are there any simple dividing lines? Are all these seemingly different and discrete 'sexualities' just temporary social constructs? Discuss... ;-)
In brief, I've always believed that we're all 'bisexual' to some degree or other, but there's enormous pressure on people to join str8 and gay camps or be accused, particularly by political gays, of being a "cop-out". I've never fancied men in the same way as I fancy women. That is, when I meet a woman I fancy and who seems to fancy me, I get butterflies, groin tightening, dry throat, and the rest of it, but I've never had that feeling with a bloke, even though I might think, almost abstractly, "he's pretty" or "he's got a nice arse" or similar, especially in the swimming pool changing room. However, I do quite fancy one day taking it up the arse from a guy, especially whilst shagging a woman (though that could require some coordinated thrusting methinks), I'd be game to suck one or more cocks and swallow, and wouldn't mind shagging (non-hairy) male arse myself.
So, does that make me bisexual, or even closet gay? Many gay men would say that I'm the latter, but not only have I never fancied men, I don't even like their company most of the time. So maybe I'm bi, but what on earth does that mean? I still define myself as str8 for the sake of a quiet life, but I'm pretty sure that I'm not unusual and that most other folk have some degree of attraction for their own sex, and that only a few are 100% gay or str8.
As for yourself, Rob, I'd have thought that if you get the collywobbles with men as well as women, then you're "bi", otherwise if you go for 'man on man action' but only fancy women then you're still str8. At least, by current standards - in previous centuries things were very different, and bisexual dalliance was not at all unusual.
Is it worth starting a thread on this, do folk think, or has it been done to death already?
Mr Licks
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Is it worth starting a thread on this, do folk think, or has it been done to death already?
Mr Licks
It's probably been done to death already. I would agree with much of what you say though. The next question is, can your sexuality change from straight to bi, or gay to bi, or vice versa? If you "discover" your bi side, was it always there or did it appear? And if it was always there, does that mean everyone has a bi side but most never discover it? I definitely feel I have become more physically attracted to men over the years, but that's maybe because I've been curious about whether I could enjoy sex with a man for a long time. So did I always have the ability to be attracted to men or did I develop it? I don't know the answers but I'd love to learn more about it all.
Personally, although this is very much a 'permissive sixties' type of view (I was only a wee babby then, honest!), I don't think that the discrete categories hetero, gay, and bisexual exist except as social constructs. I think we all have the ability to be attracted to both sexes, and like yourself the attraction can ebb and flow over time. And we're not just talking the 'holy trinity' of str8, gay and bi - what about folk who are, or are into, transsexuals? I get off on transsexual porn and love the 'ladyboy' idea of male and female in one body, but the standard 'line' on blokes who like a bit of TS is that we're closet gays who're afraid to admit it, which for myself is certainly not the case. What about women who go for transsexuals, m->f and f->m? What sexuality do they fit into?
I personally hate it that we're shoehorned into these fixed social categories as it seriously limits the range of our experiences and the full expression of our sexualities. I think in future centuries people will look back on us and shake their heads sadly, wondering at how we could straitjacket ourselves so much and deny ourselves so much.
A couple of Press articles that may interest you:
Queer London ( a review of a book describing a time when 'straight' men would regularly indulge in what's now considered to be exclusively gay behaviour, such as cruising.
"If we wanted to be straight, we would be" ( An article by a lesbian activist attacking the idea of the 'gay gene' and arguing that people can choose their sexualities.
I've been promising to write a weblog article about this at some point, based on these articles, so maybe this'll prompt me to get round to it at last...
Nice nic, btw
Mr Licks
i dont think that you could turn from being straight to gay. . . but i do think that given enough curioisty and hormones you can turn from not wanting to try same sex, to trying same sex.
ive dabble with males but i still dont see a guy on the street or the television and have any feelings for him. . .
sex and emotions are very different
ive dabble with males but i still dont see a guy on the street or the television and have any feelings for him. . .
sex and emotions are very different
