Hi everyone
I have deliberately worded my profile/ad to specifically ask single men NOT to contact me.
Im sure many people will understand what im going to say next. I have received and keep receiving messages from single men.
I have to say, regretfully that at times i loose my temper and reply with a tirade of abuse. I know i should remain polite, but on the other hand, i DID point out my preference and anyone who disregards that request is then fair game for my wrath.
Why do men do this?
Do they think it doesnt apply to them as an individual?
Do they think i will find them irresistable, and make an exception?
Or do they have so little respect for women, they do as they please?
I have just logged on to find another message from a guy who quite frankly in the real world be prossecuted, convicted and on the sex offenders register for an unsolicited view of his penis, were he to do this in a public place
Before you all go off on one, Im not a prude nor am i under any illusions re the purpose and customs of this site, BUT, if i wanted to see his penis, i would ask and dont appreciate it being "thrust" in my face.
Were the curcumstances different, and I wanted to contact single men, i would hope any guy would have the decency to wait untill asked before flashing his bits.
If you ask/tell a guy you dont want sex and he continues without consent, that is .
If I ask/tell single men i dont want messages and they send me pix of their bits, what is that classed as?
Should i be a sport and just accept this lack of respect, as a "boys will be boys" thing or am i justified in being annoyed?
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unfortunately society is such that a large amount of the male population seems to have selected reading capability. Especially after "The Match" and a "bevey" or 3 or when holding the biggest member on the planet you absolutley HAVE to stuck in your mouth.
Your only real choice is to ban single men from sening you emails which you can find under the settings button.
for me all it does is drag the decent male members of this site down
Your only real choice is to ban single men from sening you emails which you can find under the settings button.
for me all it does is drag the decent male members of this site down
Hi Dammie and ukwineman
thanks for reminding me of the block and filter option, i may well resort to it.
I detest tony blair and his nanny state, i prefer to let grown adults use thier discrettion and run their own lives and im insulted by laws and rules which belittle my intelligence and integrity, and i had hoped i wouldnt have to play nanny.
As you say, a few fools spoil things and give a majority a bad name. I hope im savvy enough to see who the fools are and still admire and respect the majority of decent guys. Im not a man hating lesbo activist
thanks for reminding me of the block and filter option, i may well resort to it.
I detest tony blair and his nanny state, i prefer to let grown adults use thier discrettion and run their own lives and im insulted by laws and rules which belittle my intelligence and integrity, and i had hoped i wouldnt have to play nanny.
As you say, a few fools spoil things and give a majority a bad name. I hope im savvy enough to see who the fools are and still admire and respect the majority of decent guys. Im not a man hating lesbo activist
Mod
Thanks for your whinge. We get them frequently and there is little that can be done, other than block that individual once they have made contact. That way they can't contact you again. However, little can be done initially.
But be careful how you reply. The fact that someone contacts you and is not the right category you are looking for does not grant you carte blanche to abuse them. You could find yourself in trouble for that, whereby sending a cockshot has yet to be made a hanging offence.
Mal
But be careful how you reply. The fact that someone contacts you and is not the right category you are looking for does not grant you carte blanche to abuse them. You could find yourself in trouble for that, whereby sending a cockshot has yet to be made a hanging offence.
Mal
as much as we hate being in a nanny state and i completly agree, we are here and it will only get worse. In this country we do not stand up for what we believe as much as other countries do. We own our properties more that in a lot of other countries and we tend to have a lot more people ready to fill your job if you complain.
Hench why we have longer working hours than else where, we either start to stand up for what we believe in or adjust how we live, which means putting up with or ignoring certain aspects of society.
Hmmm hang on isnt that now being racist??????????
lets wind this one up and see it fly
Hench why we have longer working hours than else where, we either start to stand up for what we believe in or adjust how we live, which means putting up with or ignoring certain aspects of society.
Hmmm hang on isnt that now being racist??????????
lets wind this one up and see it fly
Quote by Geminifemale
Im not a man hating lesbo activist
Pity.
Anyway, after you've blocked single men, how are you going to block the single men whose profile says they're couples ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're gay ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're women ?
Or the single men whose profile says they've got 12 inches waiting to send you to heaven ?
Or the single men whose Jaguar is an escort ?
Oh, and it's not a nanny state if you don't want it to be.
The nanny state exists to give some something they wouldn't have otherwise, and to give others something to moan about. And as an excuse for many to moan that they could be king if it wasn't for the "nanny state".
Those that can, will.
Those that can't won't.
Those that can't be bothered, moan.
Quote by JTS
Im not a man hating lesbo activist
Pity.
Anyway, after you've blocked single men, how are you going to block the single men whose profile says they're couples ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're gay ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're women ?
Or the single men whose profile says they've got 12 inches waiting to send you to heaven ?
Or the single men whose Jaguar is an escort ?
OMG.. now this is getting silly, the poor lass is being inundated with unwanted attention and you're talking cars and the size of willies!... no wonder she's fed up! :shock:
Sex God
Quote by Geminifemale
I have just logged on to find another message from a guy who quite frankly in the real world be prossecuted, convicted and on the sex offenders register for an unsolicited view of his penis, were he to do this in a public place
This is the real world. A specific part of it. By joining the site, you surely expected to see some nudity that you wouldn't find in, say, the local supermarket? Just flashing a picture of his cock, doesn't mean that a swinger should be on the sex offender's register. If that were the case, websites such as this wouldn't be allowed and most of us would also need to be on the sex offender's register. Block single men or just ignore the private messages.
Quote by JTS
Pity.
Anyway, after you've blocked single men, how are you going to block the single men whose profile says they're couples ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're gay ?
Or the single men whose profile says they're women ?
Or the single men whose profile says they've got 12 inches waiting to send you to heaven ?
Or the single men whose Jaguar is an escort ?
Oh, and it's not a nanny state if you don't want it to be.
The nanny state exists to give some something they wouldn't have otherwise, and to give others something to moan about. And as an excuse for many to moan that they could be king if it wasn't for the "nanny state".
Those that can, will.
Those that can't won't.
Those that can't be bothered, moan.
And dont you think this is why i didnt use my block/filter option in the first place?
If we all start that, where does it lead to?
As I said, I had hoped people would use their (un) common sense and know when NOT to reply to someone, cos the answer to that is in the initial statment........NO single men
Quote by Geminifemale
If you ask/tell a guy you dont want sex and he continues without consent, that is .
If I ask/tell single men i dont want messages and they send me pix of their bits, what is that classed as?
how can you even put those two scenarios next to eachother for comparison? :shock: if you feel every time some bloke youre not interested in sends you a message then i worry for you
in my opinon, receiveing unwanted mail is classed as "part and parcel of being on a swinging site, get over it" :thumbup:
OMG.. now this is getting silly, the poor lass is being inundated with unwanted attention and you're talking cars and the size of willies!... no wonder she's fed up! icon_
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She's being inundated with attention, which is unwanted.
Everyone else knows it's going to happen.
It also HAPPENS to most others at some time.
If she goes to a party she'll be given unwanted attention.
Shit happens !
Just send them a pm:
"Hi. Thankyou for your personal message. Unfortunately, my post said that I do not want the attentions of single males which, because of your dyslexia, you obviously didn't understand. I realise that my avatar may have aroused some latent feelings in your loins, but please control your lust. Failing that you have my permission to practice the ancient art of manual self-relief"
Note: because of my advanced years the avatar had no effect on me.
Sex God
Quote by JTS
OMG.. now this is getting silly, the poor lass is being inundated with unwanted attention and you're talking cars and the size of willies!... no wonder she's fed up! icon_
_________________
She's being inundated with attention, which is unwanted.
Everyone else knows it's going to happen.
It also HAPPENS to most others at some time.
If she goes to a party she'll be given unwanted attention.
Shit happens !
Just send them a pm:
"Hi. Thankyou for your personal message. Unfortunately, my post said that I do not want the attentions of single males which, because of your dyslexia, you obviously didn't understand. I realise that my avatar may have aroused some latent feelings in your loins, but please control your lust. Failing that you have my permission to practice the ancient art of manual self-relief"
Note: because of my advanced years the avatar had no effect on me.
Love it!
Sex God
Ignore button is my best friend :twisted:
Quote by Freckledbird
OMG.. now this is getting silly, the poor lass is being inundated with unwanted attention and you're talking cars and the size of willies!... no wonder she's fed up! icon_
_________________
She's being inundated with attention, which is unwanted.
Everyone else knows it's going to happen.
It also HAPPENS to most others at some time.
If she goes to a party she'll be given unwanted attention.
Shit happens !
Just send them a pm:
"Hi. Thankyou for your personal message. Unfortunately, my post said that I do not want the attentions of single males which, because of your dyslexia, you obviously didn't understand. I realise that my avatar may have aroused some latent feelings in your loins, but please control your lust. Failing that you have my permission to practice the ancient art of manual self-relief"
Note: because of my advanced years the avatar had no effect on me.
Love it!
yup, im having that one
Have to agree with FB and sexkitten here
Its a swinging site and some males will send shots, yes it gets annoying at times, but to me purely because it says "no single males" and its usually the 'u cant refuse me types'.
If you browse the site for 5 mins you will find dozens of cock shots; be it profiles, the gallery, chatroom or mail. Sorry to say Gemini, but if you are so sensitive, maybe a site like this is not for you
Its a swinging site and some males will send shots, yes it gets annoying at times, but to me purely because it says "no single males" and its usually the 'u cant refuse me types'.
If you browse the site for 5 mins you will find dozens of cock shots; be it profiles, the gallery, chatroom or mail. Sorry to say Gemini, but if you are so sensitive, maybe a site like this is not for you
Quote by JTS
OMG.. now this is getting silly, the poor lass is being inundated with unwanted attention and you're talking cars and the size of willies!... no wonder she's fed up! icon_
_________________
She's being inundated with attention, which is unwanted.
Everyone else knows it's going to happen.
It also HAPPENS to most others at some time.
If she goes to a party she'll be given unwanted attention.
Shit happens !
Just send them a pm:
"Hi. Thankyou for your personal message. Unfortunately, my post said that I do not want the attentions of single males which, because of your dyslexia, you obviously didn't understand. I realise that my avatar may have aroused some latent feelings in your loins, but please control your lust. Failing that you have my permission to practice the ancient art of manual self-relief"
Note: because of my advanced years the avatar had no effect on me.
OOOOOOOOOOooohhh.. get you!. guess what? my avatar wasn't supposed to get you going sweetheart, it's an avatar pure and simple. But really JTS you didn't have to be patronising with the car bit, that was what I was pointing out. At the end of the day her thread is about her feelings and she's entitled to it.. I sense a slight bit irony and anger in your reply posts? I think your point has been made and by the way, I did find the irony of your ignore statement very funny!
Have to agree with FB and sexkitten here
Its a swinging site and some males will send shots, yes it gets annoying at times, but to me purely because it says "no single males" and its usually the 'u cant refuse me types'.
If you browse the site for 5 mins you will find dozens of cock shots; be it profiles, the gallery, chatroom or mail. Sorry to say Gemini, but if you are so sensitive, maybe a site like this is not for you
D......as i said, im no prude, ive experienced a few cocks in my time, ive worked with men most of my life and know ALL there is to know and when im the only woman on a building site, i accept im the minority.
But, when i make a specific request on here, i dont think im being naieve or sensitive, so forget i ever said anything, my mistake.
Lock this thread please
Its a swinging site and some males will send shots, yes it gets annoying at times, but to me purely because it says "no single males" and its usually the 'u cant refuse me types'.
If you browse the site for 5 mins you will find dozens of cock shots; be it profiles, the gallery, chatroom or mail. Sorry to say Gemini, but if you are so sensitive, maybe a site like this is not for you
D......as i said, im no prude, ive experienced a few cocks in my time, ive worked with men most of my life and know ALL there is to know and when im the only woman on a building site, i accept im the minority.
But, when i make a specific request on here, i dont think im being naieve or sensitive, so forget i ever said anything, my mistake.
Lock this thread please
Quote by dambuster
Well, I've just looked at her profile.
Nothing about no single men.
While I think everybodyin this thread as slightly over reacting - to varying degrees, I read it and saw the "NO single men" reference.
So if it wasn't there
- it is now.Quote by blonde
Just ignore them sweetie................ it happens to us all.
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Dammy not wishing to tell you off but ...................................
NOT everybody!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by blonde
Just ignore them sweetie................ it happens to us all.
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Dammy not wishing to tell you off but ...................................
NOT everybody!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I stand (sat on the floor) corrected.
Forgive me or spank me
In edit - mostpeople.
Sexlightened
is defined as the informed mens rea of one agent to disregard, ignore or hinder the consent of another individual when performing certain acts - namely penetration of orifices with an object / part of the body.
Whilst I see the tenuous logical connection - you cannot connect the two. These guys are merely looking for attention and not paying heed to your desires.
As they are contacting you in an opening of dialogue, one you do not wish to have, why bother to go into it with them. Delete or ignore, they won't be offended and you can have a chuckle at their tiny cocks...
Whilst I see the tenuous logical connection - you cannot connect the two. These guys are merely looking for attention and not paying heed to your desires.
As they are contacting you in an opening of dialogue, one you do not wish to have, why bother to go into it with them. Delete or ignore, they won't be offended and you can have a chuckle at their tiny cocks...
Quote by Geminifemale
D......as i said, im no prude, ive experienced a few cocks in my time, ive worked with men most of my life and know ALL there is to know and when im the only woman on a building site, i accept im the minority.
At no point did i accuse you of being a prude nor imply it, but i am glad you know all there is to know about men - it may help you with this pm problem.
Quote by Geminifemale
But, when i make a specific request on here, i dont think im being naieve or sensitive, so forget i ever said anything, my mistake.
Lock this thread please
Gemini, i am not having a go at you, just giving my own thoughts and opinion, which is what i thought you asked for, with it being in the open forum
Quote by ambervixen
Whilst I see the tenuous logical connection - you cannot connect the two. These guys are merely looking for attention and not paying heed to your desires.
As they are contacting you in an opening of dialogue, one you do not wish to have, why bother to go into it with them. Delete or ignore, they won't be offended and you can have a chuckle at their tiny cocks...
Amber.........just think on and apply this senario to your stalker problem, .......youve asked him to stop and he takes no notice and carries on regardless.
NO means NO
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