Ok this is a hard one to write but i just want people to know that my partner of over 4 yrs, passed away very suddenly this afternoon. His user name on here was Bartdutch, we went to many socials and munches together. I hope some of you do know him, he was the love of my life and im just in total shock. I dont know what to do...
Suze xx
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Very sad news about BARTDUTCH
Sex God
Really sorry to hear that Suze. My thoughts are with you and your family. So sad. 
Sex God
Sorry to hear such sad news. My thoughts are with you
Sex God
What? :shock: Oh Suze, I've just read this out to Gem, and she is every bit as shocked as I. We're so very sorry. He was a thoroughly nice guy, and a genuinely decent fella. Words fail us. Our sincerest condolences to you, and Bart's family.
Neil & Gem x x x
Neil & Gem x x x
Sex God
Suze, I don't know what to say. My thoughts are with you. Nola x
Sex God
very sorry to hear hunni our thoughts are with you
Sex God
I'm very sorry to hear about this. Bart was a pleasant friendly guy.
Sex God
So sorry to hear your sad news.
We had the pleasure of talking to you although briefly at a munch some time ago. Thinking of you. Make sure you have plenty of people to talk to when you need them
We had the pleasure of talking to you although briefly at a munch some time ago. Thinking of you. Make sure you have plenty of people to talk to when you need them
Thanks everyone for your messages, altho reading them makes me cry every time. I dont know what to do .. i dont know how to act... i mean is it wrong to be on here? Ive been walking aimlessly round the house all afternoon and evening, crying, hurting so much its like my heart is breaking. I just feel like i need to talk about him?
It was strange this morning, we had arranged a nye party but due to lack of interest, i cancelled it last night .... took it really personally but as usual Bart cheered me up and said we would celebrate it by going out for a meal and just being together. He even called me back to bed this afternoon and we had a bit of fun in bed. First time for ages! Then we just stared at each other and he told me he really loved me. We have had our fair share of problems and bart was a total flirt... he couldnt help himself and even today ive found texts on his phone from a woman we both know. But i know he loved me and he loved our life together. We were just a normal couple.
Then he got up and took a shower. Later, he was out bringing in the bins after collection and he said he felt breathless and sweaty. He even threw up in the garden. He sat down for a few mins and said he would be ok in a bit... then i heard this awful noise coming from the lounge, i couldnt even look at him, i knew it was bad... my daughter was home from work and i screamed at her to come and see him. I called an ambulance and we did everything we could... i gave him the kiss of life, i begged him to breathe... i told him i loved and needed him so much. The paramedics tried everything, drugs, cpr but they then told me he had gone. Bart, the love of my life, had gone.. just like that... its not fair. The coroner will be in touch on monday but in the meantime hes gone to the hospital and i cant bear to think of him all alone.... i want him here like he always has been.
How do i go on? How do i manage without my rock? He was the love of my life whatever shit life threw at us.
I had to type this, its a message from me to say PLEASE dont take life for granted, i did. Tell your loved ones u love them every day. Life is just too short.
Suze xx
It was strange this morning, we had arranged a nye party but due to lack of interest, i cancelled it last night .... took it really personally but as usual Bart cheered me up and said we would celebrate it by going out for a meal and just being together. He even called me back to bed this afternoon and we had a bit of fun in bed. First time for ages! Then we just stared at each other and he told me he really loved me. We have had our fair share of problems and bart was a total flirt... he couldnt help himself and even today ive found texts on his phone from a woman we both know. But i know he loved me and he loved our life together. We were just a normal couple.
Then he got up and took a shower. Later, he was out bringing in the bins after collection and he said he felt breathless and sweaty. He even threw up in the garden. He sat down for a few mins and said he would be ok in a bit... then i heard this awful noise coming from the lounge, i couldnt even look at him, i knew it was bad... my daughter was home from work and i screamed at her to come and see him. I called an ambulance and we did everything we could... i gave him the kiss of life, i begged him to breathe... i told him i loved and needed him so much. The paramedics tried everything, drugs, cpr but they then told me he had gone. Bart, the love of my life, had gone.. just like that... its not fair. The coroner will be in touch on monday but in the meantime hes gone to the hospital and i cant bear to think of him all alone.... i want him here like he always has been.
How do i go on? How do i manage without my rock? He was the love of my life whatever shit life threw at us.
I had to type this, its a message from me to say PLEASE dont take life for granted, i did. Tell your loved ones u love them every day. Life is just too short.
Suze xx
Sex God
Quote by Suze43
Thanks everyone for your messages, altho reading them makes me cry every time. I dont know what to do .. i dont know how to act... i mean is it wrong to be on here? Ive been walking aimlessly round the house all afternoon and evening, crying, hurting so much its like my heart is breaking. I just feel like i need to talk about him?
It was strange this morning, we had arranged a nye party but due to lack of interest, i cancelled it last night .... took it really personally but as usual Bart cheered me up and said we would celebrate it by going out for a meal and just being together. He even called me back to bed this afternoon and we had a bit of fun in bed. First time for ages! Then we just stared at each other and he told me he really loved me. We have had our fair share of problems and bart was a total flirt... he couldnt help himself and even today ive found texts on his phone from a woman we both know. But i know he loved me and he loved our life together. We were just a normal couple.
Then he got up and took a shower. Later, he was out bringing in the bins after collection and he said he felt breathless and sweaty. He even threw up in the garden. He sat down for a few mins and said he would be ok in a bit... then i heard this awful noise coming from the lounge, i couldnt even look at him, i knew it was bad... my daughter was home from work and i screamed at her to come and see him. I called an ambulance and we did everything we could... i gave him the kiss of life, i begged him to breathe... i told him i loved and needed him so much. The paramedics tried everything, drugs, cpr but they then told me he had gone. Bart, the love of my life, had gone.. just like that... its not fair. The coroner will be in touch on monday but in the meantime hes gone to the hospital and i cant bear to think of him all alone.... i want him here like he always has been.
How do i go on? How do i manage without my rock? He was the love of my life whatever shit life threw at us.
I had to type this, its a message from me to say PLEASE dont take life for granted, i did. Tell your loved ones u love them every day. Life is just too short.
Suze xx
This was so painful to read
I can only try and imagine how you feel I think you need to be with other people right now? So they can look after you at this time. I dont think anything will make it any easier but its good to talk about how you feel.
You knew what your partner was like as you said so dont worry about those things right now. Concentrate on what you know and that was he loved you, I am sure that is what he would want.
I am sure others are around but I'll hang here for a bit. I'll try to be of any help I can so feel free to reply send a pm or whatever you want.
Master of Sex
What tragic news ... sending our deepest condolences Suze xx
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Suze,
such a tragedy to happen and our condolences to you. Take strength from all support from whatever avenue and take solace that people do care.
Mal and Sarah
such a tragedy to happen and our condolences to you. Take strength from all support from whatever avenue and take solace that people do care.
Mal and Sarah
Orgasminator
There are never the rights words at times like this.
Thinking of you Suze, just remember the good times you had together.
x
Thinking of you Suze, just remember the good times you had together.
x
Master of Sex
Suze,although I've never met you or your partner,my condolencies go out to you and your family and friends,you need to be surrounded by your friends and family to comfort you at this very sad time,but we,on here ,are also your friends,no one ever knows how they are going to act when something like this happens,do what ever you heel like doing,my thoughts are with you at this time,all the best,john
Sex God
We're both totally shocked !!!
It was our privilage to know Bart, to chat to him about all sorts of subjects, he was such a knowledgeable man and a very warm person. We used to look out for Bart (and you Suze) on the guess list to do's. We'd know then that we'd certainly be with good company.
We used to meet up a few times a year a various "dos", but one that sticks in my mind is Bart singing "Behind Blue Eyes" at S&Ts last year. And if you read that and it brings a tear to your eye, well, that's ok cos thats what it does to us as well.
With deepest sympathy, John & Shel
It was our privilage to know Bart, to chat to him about all sorts of subjects, he was such a knowledgeable man and a very warm person. We used to look out for Bart (and you Suze) on the guess list to do's. We'd know then that we'd certainly be with good company.
We used to meet up a few times a year a various "dos", but one that sticks in my mind is Bart singing "Behind Blue Eyes" at S&Ts last year. And if you read that and it brings a tear to your eye, well, that's ok cos thats what it does to us as well.
With deepest sympathy, John & Shel
Sex God
Suze what awfully sad news!! I wish I could say something that could help, but I really don't think I can. I've no idea how u must be feeling now, how lost u must feel, how shocked u must feel.
All I can say is talking is one of the best therapies. Talk all you want to anyone - your friends, your family. Keep his memory going.
I really am thinking about you all and I send u many virtual hugs your way ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Stay strong as best as you can.
All my love
All I can say is talking is one of the best therapies. Talk all you want to anyone - your friends, your family. Keep his memory going.
I really am thinking about you all and I send u many virtual hugs your way ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Stay strong as best as you can.
All my love
I saw this last night when I returned from celebrating my New year with my partner and I just can't imagine the pain you must be enduring right now.
Although my sorrow for your loss is no salve. It is the only way I have to empathise with you.
Please contact CRUSE as they can help. Grieving is, like every other human emotion, a process that they can help you navigate safely and healthily.
Although my sorrow for your loss is no salve. It is the only way I have to empathise with you.
Please contact CRUSE as they can help. Grieving is, like every other human emotion, a process that they can help you navigate safely and healthily.
Orgasminator
We were very sorry, and of course shocked, to hear this news, yesterday.
It was a pleasure to have known Bart for as long as we have, and we shall always remember him.
Our thoughts are with you, and your family, Suze, at this very sad time.
xx
It was a pleasure to have known Bart for as long as we have, and we shall always remember him.
Our thoughts are with you, and your family, Suze, at this very sad time.
xx
