When does Bi-Curious become Bi-Sexual?

We couldn't care less. Just wish people would be honest about their preferences.

Quote by osemlover
We couldn't care less. Just wish people would be honest about their preferences.

Yes a plain I will, I won't, I want, is a fair expectation of an actual conversation upfront. The few options under the profile statuses don't really tell the whole story. 

Everyday straight, domestically / socially within daily life we do not fancy or get turned on with the same gender. It's only within a threesome+ adventure that we enjoy bi activities, it's a relaxed experience, let the pleasure flow naturally, as long as it's safe and painless. We believe that bi curious is being open to same sex interaction, if the moment presents itself, bi sexual is obviously having tendencies towards both genders 24/7, equally (ish!). As Woody Allen once said.....I'm only bi sexual at the weekends, as it doubles my chances....

I class myself as Bi curious because I have only gone as far as oral sex with a man. If and when I go all the way (anal) I would then class myself as fully bi. When we meet another couple same she’s sex isn’t important for me. Mrs Brum is bisexual as she has done most things with another woman and for her it’s a key part of any meet. 

That’s how we see it, but that’s our interpretation 

i have never worked out what i am i dont fancy guys i cant kiss a guy i could never fuck a guy i couldn't take a cock up the bum but i love to dress as a girl and suck cock

Much of the problem lies in needing labels for everything then demanding that people have to fit the labels someone has created

I couldn’t fuck or rim a guy but he can rim me but don’t push anything in me except your tounge  and I don’t fancy men but I do like sucking young mans cut cock and the feel of shaven balls and very happy to clean a guys cum from a sticky pussy. Sadly I don’t get many chances to be sucked or gobble a guy off these days even if I am a slut and willing to get it out if asked 

Its very difficult to say, men are often attracted to other men and some women are equally enamoured by other women.

Have given this some thought recently. I find in a swinging context "curious" is that you are comfortable with people of the same sex in a setting including people of the opposite sex. Bisexual is a more fundamental interest in the same sex and would even consider meeting or having a relationship with them. 

I think the meanings we attach to them inside the "lifestyle" are slightly different to out in the "real" / other world.

Hey I have to agree, I’m a bisexual guy. I’ve experienced lots of fun times. Although I am more attracted to women, I do like to play with cocks. 
I have met shemale escorts and found I was more attracted to them in a sexual meeting than men them selves. I do have my attraction to men in a different way. But I’m completely comfortable with my sexuality in all the bisexual aspects. Xx

Speaking as a Bisexual man the movement from curious to bisexual i dont think of as a hard(har har) line. Ive always been extremely comfortable in group scenes and the presence of cock close to me never had me upset. I think it was in my thirties that I became more curious and actively interacted with another man in a group scene which started with a cuddle and as his wife encouraged us to both kiss and from there it wasnt long until I was on my knees feeling  cock inside me and then later in another session topping a guy whod joined the group.  In my fourties I found myself far more relaxed and actively flirted with men I found personally attractive and if they reciporcated id feel no worry about suggesting we make time to find a space and play. That was my own  sexual journey and now I find myself heading into my fifties with at least one or two other male firends whom we share a mutual enjoynent for each other much to some of  their friends delight.   This pandemic though has been a true kick in the balls for progressingthat experience and expression. I hold out hope though. 

As a couple we play bi curious, we've found it more relaxing, even if the curious side is light within a given scenario, it's the freedom of knowing that you can naturally enjoy the pleasure of a threesome three-way, no awkward hesitation or unsure contact. 

We are everyday straight, with the bonus of being bi curious+ when the moment is sensually right, and our fellow swingers are totally playing in the same direction.

As long as it's painless and safe, respectful and fun, we are all adults....so just enjoy xx

I guess it is when you put your mouth on someone who is the same gender as you or let someone who is the same gender as you put their mouth on you.

I guess the smart answer is when you have indulged in actual physical bi sexual activity

Surely you can only be curious once.

Once you satisfy your curiosity, you are no longer curious.

Unless amnesia is an issue... lol

When I read all this stuff, for all my pervy soul I'm really a very simple man with very simple needs and desires. Don't even talk to me of rimming, or licking up another guys cum, each to their own, I approve of that, just saying it's not me.

The moment you put your mouth on a set of genitals that are the same as your own, you are beyond curious.

I don’t fancy guys and would never kiss or caress one. But I do like the sex you can have with one. Sucking a cock through a glory hole is a favourite of mine but I do meet with guys

Sex can be so much dirtier with them. Doing things such as arranging with a guy to walk into my hotel room and find me on my knees just wearing hold up stockings then feeling his tongue in my arse and it develops from there

Still consider myself to be more bi curious than bi

Trying it is to satisfy curiosity.

Trying it more than once makes a person bisexual in my opinion.

Sometimes there are just to many labels, i just enjoy sex don't care if male female, life is to bloody short

I think "bi" and "bi curious" are just rather silly terms. I do not believe that it is possible to be both emotionally and sexually attracted to both sexes. As someone has already pointed out there are not many (if any at all) gay men who are "bi curious" I have never encountered any. I think the best description of "bi" is, the gay waiting room!

Quote by marcusb

I think "bi" and "bi curious" are just rather silly terms. I do not believe that it is possible to be both emotionally and sexually attracted to both sexes. As someone has already pointed out there are not many (if any at all) gay men who are "bi curious" I have never encountered any. I think the best description of "bi" is, the gay waiting room!

Well, you are entitled to your opinion, but we both think you are just making excuses.

Could you please point out where I was making "excuses" for anything. I can only assume you have misread or misunderstood my post.

Emotionally straight and sexually bi fits me and probably a lot of people. I think it is quite possible for some people to fall in love with people of both sexes. I also think that people can set out when young falling for one sex and far later in life switching their affections. But I am always uncomfortable fitting people to names and labels rather than fitting names and labels to how people actually are.

I personally think there is a distinctive line between Bi Curious and Bi Sexual. Like the Heterosexual and Homosexual. I thin the sexual terminology means you could be in a relationship mentally and physically with a person as a partner. I think Bi Curious is someone who likes to have sexual encounters only with both sexes.

Although I've stopped saying never I still can't picture myself having a relationship with another guy and I still don't have an interest in meeting guys one on one. That said if I was already seeing a bi or cuckold couple on a regular basis I can picture myself occasionally meeting hubby for some suck and go fun if one of us had blue balls and the Mrs was unavailable.

Quote by Bicpleastmids

We are new here so sorry for diving right in on one of the biggest burning issues of modern life and I am going to write a long reply this time, just as it's a pet subject of mine and I'm bored Feel free to skip to the tl/dr bit if you can't be bothered to read it all.

(Incidentally, we have started a group for anyone wanting to explore their bi side a bit more, so go check that out if it's of interest, only just started but from tiny acorns etc....)

I guess everyone has their own slant on the definition, so I'll give *my* view but remember I'm not saying this is the same for everyone. [I'll mainly be referring to bi-males below, as we all know that bi-female play has become largely normalised on the scene and appears to carry none of the baggage or mental anguish although I'm sure that's not actually true in reality!]

1. I believe a vast majority of people are on the bisexual spectrum somewhere. Certainly I think a very high percentage of people on the swinging scene are (just from observation over the years) however if you asked people to self classify it would look instead like a tiny percentage. It's a hangover from swinging being synonymous with the painfully heterosexual pastime of "wife swapping" I think. In reality the scene is very different now, with varied participants - from the wife-swappers of yore, to soft play, cuckold, bdsm and all types of fetish and kink in between. And yet despite this shift in acceptance, so many think that being really honest about what they like will severely limit their play with others who are 'openly anti bi' or perceived to hold homophobic views as they will be seen by these individual as gay and ostracised. Some others hold those prejudices themselves and self-stigmatise without the help of anyone else. Others worry about their partners perception and like to introduce the concept gently... End result - most people hide or play down their actual preferences but for a multitude of reasons. 

2. We are big advocates of just being honest on profiles. Elsewhere, we are inundated with guys who are listed as straight but are happy to shag us both, to the point where we start to wonder if they are so brazen about being dishonest around their sexuality, what other things are said that may not be quite true? And is claiming to be bi just a ruse to get access to the female?....as a result when we meet people outside the club environment (and therefore can 'pre vet' possible meets), we now have a policy of not meeting anyone knowingly listed as straight, and that can include couples too. A few guys have challenged us and said  it's because they don't want to alienate some women who don't like bi-guys, but I take the view that if someone is bigoted enough to 'not like bi guys' then they are not someone I'd want to have sex with anyway so it can actually be a good filter. Plus, surely the purpose of a profile is to get to have sex with people who are really in tune with you so it can be a mind blowing experience? Pretending you are not into something you really do want can only possibly lead to a higher percentage of less satisfactory meets over time, so it seems counter intuitive to me. 

3. What does 'Bi-Curious' mean? I'd see it as meaning you are open to trying same-sex play but are not sure if it's something you will actively seek out long-term. Now it may take a few experiences to really solidify your view, after all playing with different people can give very different experiences, so why decide after the first time? But I'd say anything much more than 3 or 4 times will be stretching the 'curious' definition a bit! In fact I sometimes find a profile with someone who is clinging onto the 'bi-curious' status despite many bi meets as a bit of a turn-off, as it starts to make you wonder why they don't want to admit it, and if *they* have a problem with bi guys/gals themselves or are trying to be all things to everyone just to improve their hit-rate!

4. There IS a distinction between 'real life' and 'swinging scene' which broadly relates to how much the bisexuality relates to physical or sexual attraction and can confuse some. Take me (male) for example - I walk down the street on a normal day and I barely register the existence of males, let along any that are supposed to be attractive. But I would find the opposite with women - I'd be aroused at curves, cleavage, showing leg, clothes, hair..... Not that I ever want another relationship in my life, but if I were forced at gunpoint, It would be with a female - I have a strong physical and emotional attraction to the opposite sex, which is why if I had to define myself in a vanilla 'real world' setting, I would say 'straight'. Sexually however, it's a different ball game. When things are getting hot and heavy then I find the idea of playing with a male - especially with women present - a huge turn on. I like the idea of not having restrictions or places that are off-limits, where everyone can play with eveyone else and yes, in a sexual setting I find a cock stupidly arousing, and as for anal - well I shattered that particular more years ago than I care to remember! Sexually, from a play perspective I'd be hard pushed to choose a preference - I'm clearly bisexual and get turned on playing with both sexes equally. I only mention this as I suspect a lot of guys have the same internal dilemma of trying to categorise themselves for ALL situations, rather than accepting that what turns you on in a purely sexual setting may be different to what you gravitate towards in the rest of your life and they end up in some half-way house 'bi curious' category as a result.

5. We prefer to be open about being fully bi, as we have more chance of meeting the kind of people we are ideally looking for, and can scare some of the more ignorant people away. Bottom line though, is that for us 'bisexual' as a label is not telling the whole story, as in reality we would probably prefer to just be thought of as 'hedonists' - we are open minded to try new things and if it feels good, we keep going and if it doesn't we don't. There will be times when I'm really into the MF play side of things and really don't fancy any bi-play at all and times when I am so horny and I crave a good hard pounding myself or fancy losing myself for a while with our playmates regardless of gender. If it feels good, we do it - regardless of labels or anything else. We've had some amazing experiences and met some amazing people over the years, so have never personally found being 'bisexual' as a handicap and in many cases the openness improved meets. Some of our best and loveliest friends on the scene are straight, and some are the filthiest, most deviant bisexual pleasure-seekers on the planet. Variety is the spice of life, as they say! At the end of the day though 'Bi Curious' is not an orientation in itself - it's an indication of a direction you may be heading, and the ultimate destination should still be 'Straight' or 'Bisexual' eventually (and lets be honest, in most cases it will be bisexual).

So, If you made it this far, thanks for hanging in there....I mostly write one liners, honest!

too long;didn't read : 

PEOPLE LIE and for a multitude of reasons, but they would probably have more fulfilling and mind blowing time if they didn't. Oh, and I'll call BS on any bi 'curious' guy who has entertained a cock on more than a handful of occasions

A very well thought out and honest description of bi curious people and their situations. I know it resonates with me.

I call myself bi curious as I am not attracted to guys at all but do like to play with another cock. Semi bi would be more accurate but that appears not to be a classification.

After you have had it (a nice cock|} in and well up - like it and want more