Its ages since I have done a serious post.. or many posts at all to be honest, but this is something I needed to do.
As lots of you know – we have been quite actively involved in the swinging scene for a while and have always fitted in here as such.
Things have changed lately which have meant that everything has been re-assessed and tongue and I have come to the decision that for now (and possibly not ever ) we are not going to swing.
This decision was made partly due to the fact that we needed to move on with our own relationship and just concentrate on the two of us, it was also partly to do with the fact that things have recently happened that mean that one of us needs to concentrate on making the other feel happy and putting things right. The other needs to concentrate on being happy again and getting over what’s already done.
This does not leave any room for other people. But we have both made a lot of friends on here.
I am aware that there are people on here who never have and never will be swingers and they have been accepted wholeheartedly.
This is slightly different though as we have changed our boundaries – and feel that it may make other people uncomfortable with how they feel they should treat us.
Ideally we would like to still go to social events but just not the “playing†kind,
what I guess I am trying to say is that I am worried that people will feel like they cant come over and say hi to me – as its so much different from last time when they saw me and were lying next to me naked.
I just wondered what other people felt about this.
WBB
xxx
WBB .......... boundries do change but you not swinging does not change the person that you are.
I for one would still come up to you and say hello, you daft thing you. :therethere:
We’ve never met so I can’t come at this from the perspective of knowing you, but I would say it shouldn’t matter whether you are looking to play or not.
When I first came on to the site I was surprised that there were regular contributors that weren’t looking to swing at all. Having been around for a while I can now see why they would still contribute to this site.
However, I think it was Lil Bunny who stated that she was perhaps disappointed that some of the people she thought to be friendly were no longer there when she decided not to swing. Your true friends, as has been shown, will not care whether you swing or not, just that you stick around.
hi well_busty_babe havn't met you yet but enjoy your posts. The thing we like most about the swinging scene is that everyone can be totally relaxed and be themselves. Not out to prove anything to anyone. There are so many diversities within the scene that you will be totally accepted whatever you both want to do. Not swinging yourselves does not make a hoot of difference, the fact that you are tolerant of the lifestyle still makes you part of the scene (for want of a better word). If people don't accept your new boundaries, then they are the ones who should ask " where do they stand " ? Chill out, relax and have fun, a lot of good comments about you both here, hope to meet you at our first munch. :rose:
:love: xxx
One of the best things about SH is that you can be who you are............
So be who you are ! Do whatever works for you and makes you happy........
See you at a social gathering. xxxxxxxxx
hiya
we haven't met... in fact, we haven't met anyone, but we wanted to send you hug about your post and your decision and say two things.
one: as "swingers" we feel we live this lifestlye and wnat tbe part of this community just as much for openminded, non-judgemental behavior as for anything else. That we can meet and share something as simple as friendship with people from all walks of life, tastes, backgrounds who feel comfortable about who they are is something special.
two: even tho we haven't met anyone in person yet, we get this feeling this is a supportive and loving place and we know you will not lack in support here for what you need to do.
mr and ms ocky.
:lol: 
for both of you
hwoar: 
....couple of bottles of Asti Spumante with some cheese and pineapple chunks on sticks...should be a riot!