I was talking to a friend last night when we got talking about feelings and emotions.
I was saying to him about how men feel they have to be strong and hide their innermost feelings and how I felt sorry for men in a way.
As a women I think we like to see men be strong when emotions and feelings take over but then I said I think most men I feel are very emotional and just hold it all in.
He said he felt women are much stronger emotionally than men.
He asked if I would conduct a poll to see what others thought.
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who are the stronger emotionally?
Are men or women stronger emotionally?
Sex God
I've voted that women are.
Not because we are naturally stronger, but that we use our emotions more positively. Many men of my acquaintance are not familiar with their own emotions - especially the strong ones - and as a result bury them.
They are often brought up in an environment that doesn't encourage expressing their emotions as they are either seen as weak (or weakening) or dangerous. Once they are adults they find dealing with emotions in themeselves and others quite difficult.
This isn't true of all men in all situations, but in enough to make life harder for them.
Not because we are naturally stronger, but that we use our emotions more positively. Many men of my acquaintance are not familiar with their own emotions - especially the strong ones - and as a result bury them.
They are often brought up in an environment that doesn't encourage expressing their emotions as they are either seen as weak (or weakening) or dangerous. Once they are adults they find dealing with emotions in themeselves and others quite difficult.
This isn't true of all men in all situations, but in enough to make life harder for them.
Sex God
Emotionally - Women hands down. and the ability to pick themselves up after being down is awesome. Guys can't do.
Ok sweeping generalisation but i think on balance it'd worl that way. Though how objective one could be about how the other sex feels is debateable i guess
Ok sweeping generalisation but i think on balance it'd worl that way. Though how objective one could be about how the other sex feels is debateable i guess
Sex God
I'm not entirely sure I understand the question. Stronger in terms of what?
I think men and women fundamentally experience the same emotions, but there is a difference in the way that men and women express their emotions. However I'm not sure it's a question of being stronger or "being more in touch with your emotions". I think it's just different.
*lover*
I think men and women fundamentally experience the same emotions, but there is a difference in the way that men and women express their emotions. However I'm not sure it's a question of being stronger or "being more in touch with your emotions". I think it's just different.
*lover*
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I'm not entirely sure I understand the question. Stronger in terms of what?
I think men and women fundamentally experience the same emotions, but there is a difference in the way that men and women express their emotions. However I'm not sure it's a question of being stronger or "being more in touch with your emotions". I think it's just different.
*lover*
I agree.. cool subject by the way, but are we talking about expressing emotions or emotional intelligence?
I think a lot of women tend to be a lot more emotionally intelligent than men - i.e. in terms of their ability, capacity, skill or a self-perceived ability, to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups ... (not my words - Google Goleman) Even if it’s in a manipulative way – e.g. the late HRH Lady Diana Spencer was a master of this and had the press wrapped around her finger (in my opinion) and was SO clever with how she managed them – that Panaroma interview was class. Then you get the likes of Katie Price right now who’s trying to do it but failing miserably as she lacks the ability, skill and capacity to do it in a mature way. Again, just my opinion.
A lot of men I’ve come across in an emotionally charged situation will argue from a point of thought/logic as opposed to feeling/emotion - hence the ‘men are from mars and women are from venus’ kinda thing. I think society has pre-programmed many men to believe it’s weak to show their emotions, and this goes way, way back. I know there’s also some science/hormone stuff involved that I don’t know anything about which is why some gay men are said to be more in touch with their ‘feminine’ side (and straight ones too I guess).
Off to ponder this some more....
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Not many see my emotions, Yes I hide them. Not as much here as other places. The only person to see my emotions constantly is my wife.
If I ever confide in you feel very flattered, If I let you see what I feel be flattered.
Now lust, yes at the right time in the right place I freely show lust. Is that just a bodily need?
Who has stronger emotions, I do not know. As a whole women show them more, and sometimes use them as a weapon.
Travis
If I ever confide in you feel very flattered, If I let you see what I feel be flattered.
Now lust, yes at the right time in the right place I freely show lust. Is that just a bodily need?
Who has stronger emotions, I do not know. As a whole women show them more, and sometimes use them as a weapon.
Travis
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I'm not entirely sure I understand the question. Stronger in terms of what?
I think men and women fundamentally experience the same emotions, but there is a difference in the way that men and women express their emotions. However I'm not sure it's a question of being stronger or "being more in touch with your emotions". I think it's just different.
*lover*
I agree.. cool subject by the way, but are we talking about expressing emotions or emotional intelligence?
I think a lot of women tend to be a lot more emotionally intelligent than men - i.e. in terms of their ability, capacity, skill or a self-perceived ability, to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups ... (not my words - Google Goleman) Even if it’s in a manipulative way – e.g. the late HRH Lady Diana Spencer was a master of this and had the press wrapped around her finger (in my opinion) and was SO clever with how she managed them – that Panaroma interview was class. Then you get the likes of Katie Price right now who’s trying to do it but failing miserably as she lacks the ability, skill and capacity to do it in a mature way. Again, just my opinion.
A lot of men I’ve come across in an emotionally charged situation will argue from a point of thought/logic as opposed to feeling/emotion - hence the ‘men are from mars and women are from venus’ kinda thing. I think society has pre-programmed many men to believe it’s weak to show their emotions, and this goes way, way back. I know there’s also some science/hormone stuff involved that I don’t know anything about which is why some gay men are said to be more in touch with their ‘feminine’ side (and straight ones too I guess).
Off to ponder this some more....
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Bloke I would like to say Thanks on what you have written here, I have often wondered in certain times in my life why I have felt let down by my husband’s reaction to situations.
We have just discussed your point and although guess we both know we are different that way, never really discussed it in the way you have put.
I when undergoing situations in places where I feel no emotional connection I never feel hurt or anger by others, but placed in a situation where there is a emotional connection I can become upset and anger and feel let down normally by my husband whom I have been together with for 30 years and love deeply.
These times are very rare but do occur from time to time, now him realising he treats all situations in a logical and thought way and never it seems in an emotional way as I feel he should is the cause of me feeling let down.
We have decided to put this to the test, as I can think very logical and thoughtful in business like situations and someone that others turn to as strength. I am going to try to use these skills in more personal and emotion situations.
He works only in logic and strength in all situations and is going to try applying emotion and feeling in more personal situations.
So I would like to say thanks for making us see something that is so basic really maybe help us to stop saying you just don’t understand me. Lol
In nearly all areas in our life together we have it so right for us, it was this area I have felt there has been from time to time little grey areas.
I will keep you posted! :thumbup:
I do think most women are stronger in approaching emotional situations and deaaling with them after in a logical way.
Men I feel deal with them in a logical way and hardly ever deal with the emotion so it becomes suppressed and eats away.
This is based on my own expiernaces not just on the way my husband deals with things but most men I know
