I am just curious after looking at profiles on here, why a straight single guy would be looking for a bi or bi curious female?
I was thinking it could only be because they might want a FB to play with or he might feel he might hit lucky in that the female might ask if a female friend of hers could join them.
I thought the Bi female or Bi curious female option would be more useful for Bi females either single or as part of a couple looking for other Bi females.
I don't think any guy would turn down a female if they liked them on the basic of then finding out they are bi or bi curious so why not just put looking for a female or a couple?
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Why do straight males look for a bi or bi curious female?
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Because it's the man thing, we just haven't got our heads out of 3000 years of "I am the hunter/provider state, many men find it so much harder to admit that they are bisexual, and like some women they don't see themselves as bisexual because they only give or recieve oral and nothing more, none of that gay kissing or penetration stuff, personally I think whatever you are be happy and comfortable with it and if you play with the same sex you are bisexual, so what.
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Because it's the man thing, we just haven't got our heads out of 3000 years of "I am the hunter/provider state, many men find it so much harder to admit that they are bisexual, and like some women they don't see themselves as bisexual because they only give or recieve oral and nothing more, none of that gay kissing or penetration stuff, personally I think whatever you are be happy and comfortable with it and if you play with the same sex you are bisexual, so what.
I think you missed my point, they were asking for a Bi female that would hardly make them a Bi or curious male would it? :-D
Sex God
same a bifemales asking for bi males i suppose 
but thats the great thing about swinging you can dip your toe into anything at anytime
but thats the great thing about swinging you can dip your toe into anything at anytime
Warming the Bed
Is it not merely to spread the net wider?
Sex God
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Is it not merely to spread the net wider?
:welcome: to the forum!
I think there may be a bit of a mindset for some that says 'oooh, she'll be a bit naughty' when they see bi-something on a profile. But for most I agree with Ego_Free & think it's just a numbers thing.
Sex God
Quite a lot of the women i've met up with are bi, i didn't actively go looking for them- they just kinda turned up. Maybe its just that swinging attracts dirty trollops of both sexes who like to put it about a bit?
well, go back a couple of decades and if women had sex in a 'recreational' way, the expression was that 'they went lezzie', albeit for the duration of the experience.
But in order to avoid the distinction of being categorised as lesbian or homosexual, 'bi' has been adopted.
But the concept and expression avoids categorisation, as being bi is neither straight or homosexual. Its values can shift towards one or the other depending on the conditions and people involved.
as much as we can examine and reason the choice of becoming gay or bi, we also need to do the same for being hetero. Which in most cases people simply don't know how to or why they should.
you could say that they suit you if and when the circumstances determine them, but like many things sexual they often control you.
But in order to avoid the distinction of being categorised as lesbian or homosexual, 'bi' has been adopted.
But the concept and expression avoids categorisation, as being bi is neither straight or homosexual. Its values can shift towards one or the other depending on the conditions and people involved.
as much as we can examine and reason the choice of becoming gay or bi, we also need to do the same for being hetero. Which in most cases people simply don't know how to or why they should.
you could say that they suit you if and when the circumstances determine them, but like many things sexual they often control you.
Sex God
Quote by Ego_Free_Couple
Is it not merely to spread the net wider?
Almost certainly! If we're talking the little 'Who are you looking for?' tick boxes in profiles then yeah, you'd tend to tick all the female boxes if it's a female you're after, and probably don't care if she chooses to define herself for the sake of convenience on here as straight, bi or even gay. Max out the opportunities. You never know, do you? Stranger things have happened than gay females discovering they may be more open to offers than they thought. Worth a shot.
Welcome to the forums BTW. Enjoy your stay and stick around wont you? Not nearly as bad as we're made out sometimes, honest! ;)
And Minxy, there's no doubt the idea that pulling a single bi-fem might open up other avenues should you move beyond the one time only fuck and fuck off thing into occasional fuck buddy territory at work. Not in a totally mercenary way. Might well be mutually advantageous for the bi single fems as far as opening up possibilites they want to explore goes.
Neil x x x ;)
Sex God
I assume that by being a bi female the women concerned is quite happy shagging about with either male or female (or both at the same time) in which case as a guy looking for straight or bi women I would be looking to f*ck the woman not her sexual orientation. As ego free said .... spread the net wider.
Sex God
Bisexual women might be considered more likely to accept bisexuality in a man I guess..and as mentioned before the guy in question is hoping she's better at pulling another girl than he is..and as said before he's probably bi but won't admit it. One certainty is that bisexuality means non monogamous.
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....but thats the great thing about swinging you can dip your toe into anything at anytime
Ready when you are dah-link!
I think they just click any box that has female in it to be honest in the hope that some of it will stick... then there's always the chance that one of said bi females will find another bi female playmate and send said male a message to ask him to join them in an evening of pussy-and-cock-fest :twisted:
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Casanova
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One certainty is that bisexuality means non monogamous.
Tsk tsk skinny... :wary: How is that a certainty?
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Because it's the man thing, we just haven't got our heads out of 3000 years of "I am the hunter/provider state, many men find it so much harder to admit that they are bisexual, and like some women they don't see themselves as bisexual because they only give or recieve oral and nothing more, none of that gay kissing or penetration stuff, personally I think whatever you are be happy and comfortable with it and if you play with the same sex you are bisexual, so what.
I think you missed my point, they were asking for a Bi female that would hardly make them a Bi or curious male would it? :-D
Whoops silly billy me I did miss the point, I thought it was the old chestnut "why do straight men seek bi males" no excuse for not reading it properly.
I think in many cases the guys seek a bi-fem in the hope of getting another bi-fem to join them for a 3 some (many guys dream wish) or as a long term FB in order to make it easier to meet couples and they know that bi-fem couples are more popular than straight couples
Sex God
Straight males....or those who claim to be..will try any avenue open to them to get a shag! I know it seems too simple an explanation, but tis true! And if you are a female reading this....you know I love you..so let's have a shag.
Sex God
Quote by skinny
Straight males....or those who claim to be..will try any avenue open to them to get a shag! I know it seems too simple an explanation, but tis true! And if you are a female reading this....you know I love you..so let's have a shag.
To say all males might be a bit to broad a statement but I agree with skinny its a simple answer that became complicated in some above posts. Don't know why really.
Man wants to f*ck woman so would fu*k a woman whether straight bi. and a woman who fu*ks, or is open to fu*k either men or women means they they are open to the idea.
Same goes for women who are looking for bi and straight guys, Doesn't have to mean that they want a bi guy so they can swing with them for any other motive other than a bi guy would get his jollies with her as well as if she were another guy.
A woman known to J and I is completely bi and uses clubs quite often but will not entertain group scenarios so just plays one on one with other people whether male or female. Sometimes she's with a bloke and sometimes she's with a burd however the mood or opportunity takes her.
The labels "BI female or Bi Curious female" could mean almost anything from a woman who prefers sex with other women but doesnt mind a wee bit of cock through to a woman who cant really abide the idea of sex with another woman but thinks it convenient to adopt the label.
It would seem a wise move therefore to ignore the label when seeking female playmates.
It would seem a wise move therefore to ignore the label when seeking female playmates.
Sex God
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One certainty is that bisexuality means non monogamous.
Tsk tsk skinny... :wary: How is that a certainty?
Oh all right then...it's merely an assumption...based in part upon the site content; of course we all have a choice, in matters of monogamy, whatever our sexual orientation.
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One certainty is that bisexuality means non monogamous.
Hello i have only read the forums before never posted but this upset me a little bit. I am bisexual and perfectly capable of maintaining a monogamous relationship! Bisexuality for me does not equal I have an excuse to put out, I just find both sexes attractive but luckily I have enough self control not to jump every person I see, male or female! Also think the term non monogamous implies cheating, which is something I would never do and isn't really what swinging is all about(although even in my short time here Ive seen plenty use it as an excuse to cheat) Us bisexy girls have the same moral compass as the straight ones you know!
((Sorry rant over, off to lurk and read now lol ))
Sex God
Quote by kanda984
One certainty is that bisexuality means non monogamous.
Hello i have only read the forums before never posted but this upset me a little bit. I am bisexual and perfectly capable of maintaining a monogamous relationship! Bisexuality for me does not equal I have an excuse to put out, I just find both sexes attractive but luckily I have enough self control not to jump every person I see, male or female! Also think the term non monogamous implies cheating, which is something I would never do and isn't really what swinging is all about(although even in my short time here Ive seen plenty use it as an excuse to cheat) Us bisexy girls have the same moral compass as the straight ones you know!
((Sorry rant over, off to lurk and read now lol ))
Oh come on kanda', I've already adressed this point in response to the lovely pebble's post. tis true, we all have a choice of monogamy, no matter what our sexual preferences are. I'm a guy...we make wish based assumptions
Having re-read you first post, I don’t turn down any lady I like, but would a bi-guy?
I have am looking for bi-fem on my profile, that does not mean I am searching for a bi-fem to tick a box, more I will not turn a bi-fem down just because she is bi. I also have couple with bi-male, but I have said I would not be playing as a bi-guy myself. Just as I would not be looking for a bi-lady just to pair her off with another lady.
For me it’s all about not closing doors.
Travis
I have am looking for bi-fem on my profile, that does not mean I am searching for a bi-fem to tick a box, more I will not turn a bi-fem down just because she is bi. I also have couple with bi-male, but I have said I would not be playing as a bi-guy myself. Just as I would not be looking for a bi-lady just to pair her off with another lady.
For me it’s all about not closing doors.
Travis
Sex God
It's cos they got holes in em of course!
i think having a play about with the same sex in passing, is often down to high spirits and loss of inhibition, at that time. but in order to have any constancy in being bi one would need to require the presence of own and opposite sex, at the outset of any encounter. if one is to remain loyal to the type.
but quite often an encounter involves selective and structured partnering, and is not always a fully interchangeable action. and then it reverts to the classic threesome of partner sharing. and you could say that it was not really a bi event.
But I think its all you can ask for. To ask for a gay to participate in a predominantly hetero scenario doesn't quite make sense. perhaps a gay could well participate, but would it qualify as a bi encounter?
bi is just the shortest way of saying, 'yes folks, i do have sex with either and or both sexes as and when it suits me or whenever i am lucky enough to get it, but i may or may not expect it or make provision for it; on the basis of the above; but would gladly welcome it, help organise it and participate in it'.
but quite often an encounter involves selective and structured partnering, and is not always a fully interchangeable action. and then it reverts to the classic threesome of partner sharing. and you could say that it was not really a bi event.
But I think its all you can ask for. To ask for a gay to participate in a predominantly hetero scenario doesn't quite make sense. perhaps a gay could well participate, but would it qualify as a bi encounter?
bi is just the shortest way of saying, 'yes folks, i do have sex with either and or both sexes as and when it suits me or whenever i am lucky enough to get it, but i may or may not expect it or make provision for it; on the basis of the above; but would gladly welcome it, help organise it and participate in it'.
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but quite often an encounter involves selective and structured partnering, and is not always a fully interchangeable action. and then it reverts to the classic threesome of partner sharing. and you could say that it was not really a bi event.
I have been asked by 'bi-guys' for a 'bi-meet' and it's only men there. so the guys may be bi, but the meet is not bi.
Well that brings in another look at the world of bi. Is the outcome of a meet a homosexual action or bi/hetero? Also what is its intention?
For example is a TV gang bang a bi action or is it homosexual? It probably provisions for both, whilst the intentions of either are private. i think it caters for a higher percentage of heteros who are willing to perform homosexual acts. But may not arouse the required interest for committed gays.
And in sheer numbers the majority of ordinarily hetero men will go on to perform sex with men under the umbrella of bi, but would not consider it, if its intended as homosexuality. this is a more observable aspect of adult sexual behaviours. perhaps some of the women can come forward and demonstrate their insight into how women conduct their bi sex lives, as it seems they don't charge about quite so obviously as we men.
So again lots of mixed thoughts and feelings at play. But its fun and it's okay if it stays in the right place.
For example is a TV gang bang a bi action or is it homosexual? It probably provisions for both, whilst the intentions of either are private. i think it caters for a higher percentage of heteros who are willing to perform homosexual acts. But may not arouse the required interest for committed gays.
And in sheer numbers the majority of ordinarily hetero men will go on to perform sex with men under the umbrella of bi, but would not consider it, if its intended as homosexuality. this is a more observable aspect of adult sexual behaviours. perhaps some of the women can come forward and demonstrate their insight into how women conduct their bi sex lives, as it seems they don't charge about quite so obviously as we men.
So again lots of mixed thoughts and feelings at play. But its fun and it's okay if it stays in the right place.
Duncan I think you made some really interesting points, particularly about labelling as bi sexual at meets that to an outsider with no knowledge of the participants sexual orientation would be classed as homosexual.
However I think that when referencing to women and bisexuality, assuming it is a choice as and when it suits to be bisexual is not really the case. Whether sexually active with either sex I have always remained sexually attracted to the other sex and therefore I class myself not as constantly interhanging between gay and straight but bisexual, even if the current sexual scenario could easily leave me being classed as either.
Maybe the scenarios you refer to as occasionally indulging as the moment takes someone-that would be better classed as bi curious or even just plain adventurous! I dont think that to be truely bi you need to have a male and female presence at every sexual encounter-but the fact that one or either would be equally satisfying to that person is probably a good indicator that someone is bisexual.
Hope that makes sense!
However I think that when referencing to women and bisexuality, assuming it is a choice as and when it suits to be bisexual is not really the case. Whether sexually active with either sex I have always remained sexually attracted to the other sex and therefore I class myself not as constantly interhanging between gay and straight but bisexual, even if the current sexual scenario could easily leave me being classed as either.
Maybe the scenarios you refer to as occasionally indulging as the moment takes someone-that would be better classed as bi curious or even just plain adventurous! I dont think that to be truely bi you need to have a male and female presence at every sexual encounter-but the fact that one or either would be equally satisfying to that person is probably a good indicator that someone is bisexual.
Hope that makes sense!
Well I think that in most cases it is down to how committed and convinced you feel within yourself that you are what you do. in which case you can say with great confidence that you are bi. You believe what you do and you are a happy bunny.
But in other cases of temporary involvement, or incidents brought on; to a certain extent by going with the crowd, its probably not so committing. afterwards you may feel you might want to shake it off instead of relishing in it.
But often what defines hetero and gay is what they don't do. And each has a well established culture to support this. Whereas with bi it is less so as one is open to both sexes. its culture is more subtle.
So perhaps when people are using ads they are just casting out ground bait and waiting for a bite.
But in other cases of temporary involvement, or incidents brought on; to a certain extent by going with the crowd, its probably not so committing. afterwards you may feel you might want to shake it off instead of relishing in it.
But often what defines hetero and gay is what they don't do. And each has a well established culture to support this. Whereas with bi it is less so as one is open to both sexes. its culture is more subtle.
So perhaps when people are using ads they are just casting out ground bait and waiting for a bite.
