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why is it so difficult for single guys to get a meet
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Sexpert
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
It is hard for anyone to get a meet not just single males, tho perhaps they have more disadvantages. In our experience its takes a lot of commitment and perseverance in the chat rooms, going to munches in sleazy locations, having a few bad meets before you get to the fun bit of swinging. Where you get invited to great parties, meet very sexy people and have lots of fun. My advice is to stick at, be witty in the chat rooms and never take this hobby or yourself too seriously.
Have fun
Have fun
Sex God
Quote by Ruthandswede
It is hard for anyone to get a meet not just single males, tho perhaps they have more disadvantages. In our experience its takes a lot of commitment and perseverance in the chat rooms, going to munches in sleazy locations, having a few bad meets before you get to the fun bit of swinging. Where you get invited to great parties, meet very sexy people and have lots of fun. My advice is to stick at, be witty in the chat rooms and never take this hobby or yourself too seriously.
Have fun
What munches have you been to then? I've yet to go to one at a sleazy location! I wouldn't describe any meet as 'bad' either and I don't think you have to experience bad ones before you get to the fun bit of swinging, if you choose carefully.
This comment is meant to present an alternative, so that people who haven't been to munches don't think they're sleazy, and that you don't have to have bad meets. It is not intended to be an argumentative or negative post. Hey ho.
Sex God
Quote by tomu
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
Phew... thought I was the only one scratching my head!!
Yeah, as tomu said, am intrigued... whaddya mean? (Love learning new stuff! - says Nola, ever the geek!!)
Nola xx
Quote by tomu
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
I would imagine that they mean that the swinging scene as it is now evolved from the wife-swapping scene where singles weren't really involved to any great extent because it revolved mostly round couples parties.
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
I would imagine that they mean that the swinging scene as it is now evolved from the wife-swapping scene where singles weren't really involved to any great extent because it revolved mostly round couples parties.
Ahhhhh.... obvious once you think about it!!
Must've been half asleep this morning!Nola x
Quote by noladreams30
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
I would imagine that they mean that the swinging scene as it is now evolved from the wife-swapping scene where singles weren't really involved to any great extent because it revolved mostly round couples parties.
Ahhhhh.... obvious once you think about it!!
Must've been half asleep this morning!Nola x
How can you be half asleep ........... :roll:
Quote by markz
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
I would imagine that they mean that the swinging scene as it is now evolved from the wife-swapping scene where singles weren't really involved to any great extent because it revolved mostly round couples parties.
Ahhhhh.... obvious once you think about it!!
Must've been half asleep this morning!Nola x
How can you be half asleep ........... :roll:
In the same way as you can be half a man. :roll:
Sex God
Quote by Ruthandswede
It is hard for anyone to get a meet not just single males, tho perhaps they have more disadvantages. In our experience its takes a lot of commitment and perseverance in the chat rooms, going to munches in sleazy locations, having a few bad meets before you get to the fun bit of swinging. Where you get invited to great parties, meet very sexy people and have lots of fun. My advice is to stick at, be witty in the chat rooms and never take this hobby or yourself too seriously.
Have fun
woah... the bit in bold immediatly set off a few alarm bells and now got my brain wracking.... in the 4 yrs of going to munches and socials all across the country from this site and having been to erm... way too many of them.... I have never been to one where the venue hasn't been nice or suitable.
so can i ask which one you are
Sex God
The problem is that what I class as sleazy and what someone else classes as sleazy can be two very different things. However Ruthandswede, do also make a good point that it can be difficult for ANYONE to arrange a good meet, whether you are a single male, single female or a couple.
I also agree that you do need to stick with it for the good times to come along, and you only get from this site (and any other site) what you put into it. There is the supply and demand thing to take into account, and as a single guy, you need to stand out from the others.
Good luck to anyone who is trying to arrange some meets (including me) :twisted:
I also agree that you do need to stick with it for the good times to come along, and you only get from this site (and any other site) what you put into it. There is the supply and demand thing to take into account, and as a single guy, you need to stand out from the others.
Good luck to anyone who is trying to arrange some meets (including me) :twisted:
hehehe, its only sleazy if you want it to be 
:lol: :lol:
anyway, its just a fact of life that there are more single guys in the swinging scene....the genuine ones who appreciate the scene for what it is a chance to make friends along the way, and maybe have some fun with likeminded, free spirited individuals.
and then there are those misguided singles who join the site thinking it guarantees you a shag with anyone because all swingers must be 'gagging' for it, or if youre a swinger you will shag anyone with a pulse regardless....right??
either way theres a LOT of competition, and its a 'pickers' market. The single fems/couples are the ones doing the choosing and you have got to give them a reason to pick you over any of the others.
Politeness, genuineness (is that even a word
) charm, wit, intelligence, good photos are all a good start in making yourself the 'chosen one'
But its not only single fellas you have to worry about....halves of couples are out there too when one or the other can't/wont play for various reasons.
Mr Bonedigger was free lastnight when I couldnt be arsed with anything, and even he lucked out!
welcome to the hit and miss, but ever so fun world of swinging :inlove:
having said all that good luck in your search mate, hope it happens for you one day
:lol: :lol:anyway, its just a fact of life that there are more single guys in the swinging scene....the genuine ones who appreciate the scene for what it is a chance to make friends along the way, and maybe have some fun with likeminded, free spirited individuals.
and then there are those misguided singles who join the site thinking it guarantees you a shag with anyone because all swingers must be 'gagging' for it, or if youre a swinger you will shag anyone with a pulse regardless....right??
either way theres a LOT of competition, and its a 'pickers' market. The single fems/couples are the ones doing the choosing and you have got to give them a reason to pick you over any of the others.
Politeness, genuineness (is that even a word
) charm, wit, intelligence, good photos are all a good start in making yourself the 'chosen one'But its not only single fellas you have to worry about....halves of couples are out there too when one or the other can't/wont play for various reasons.
Mr Bonedigger was free lastnight when I couldnt be arsed with anything, and even he lucked out!
welcome to the hit and miss, but ever so fun world of swinging :inlove:
having said all that good luck in your search mate, hope it happens for you one day
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
hehehe, its only sleazy if you want it to be
anyway, its just a fact of life that there are more single guys in the swinging scene....the genuine ones who appreciate the scene for what it is a chance to make friends along the way, and maybe have some fun with likeminded, free spirited individuals.
I think the friendship side of swinging is just as, if not more, important to me than the physical side of it all. I have made some friends along the way, who I would do anything for and who I know, would also do anything for me.
Quote by Bonedigger
and then there are those misguided singles who join the site thinking it guarantees you a shag with anyone because all swingers must be 'gagging' for it, or if youre a swinger you will shag anyone with a pulse regardless....right??
What!!!! Now you tell me
Quote by Bonedigger
Mr Bonedigger was free lastnight when I couldnt be arsed with anything, and even he lucked out!
Seriously, I do agree about it being a little easier for couples, but it is still not easy.
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Good luck to anyone who is trying to arrange some meets (including me) :twisted:
you know where my pm box is.... and i am available all weekend if you fancy a trip across the pennines....
if you ask nicely i'll even have a brew waiting for you....
Sex God
Quote by fabio
if you ask nicely i'll even have a brew waiting for you....
Talking about brews, and sorry for the hijack but I got one of them new fancy coffee making techno gadgets the other day, the ones with the 'pod' thingy. I cant stop drinking the bloody stuff! Im on a permanent coffee high :P
Sorry for hijack
. Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
Good luck to anyone who is trying to arrange some meets (including me) :twisted:
you know where my pm box is.... and i am available all weekend if you fancy a trip across the pennines....
if you ask nicely i'll even have a brew waiting for you....
jaffa cakes n all???????
i'd go down the shops and get some jaffa cakes in....since it has stopped snowing now....
edit.... spoke too soon.... snow shower is starting....
Quote by winchwench
What naughty said.
The more complex answer is look at the origins of the scene from the 60s
That's interesting, what do you mean?
I would imagine that they mean that the swinging scene as it is now evolved from the wife-swapping scene where singles weren't really involved to any great extent because it revolved mostly round couples parties.
Ahhhhh.... obvious once you think about it!!
Must've been half asleep this morning!Nola x
How can you be half asleep ........... :roll:
In the same way as you can be half a man. :roll:
even half is plenty for you............. :roll:
Quote by Plimboy
But there is another aspect to this. Society has always frowned on the single man, especially the older men get.
I suppose it has to do with the fact that men are expected to do all the chasing and the asking. For some men, "chasing" seems to be wrong.
Plim
It might look like a frown but it's actually my best "come hither" look. Cheek! :P
Sex God
In answer to the OP.......I have no idea.....Wish I did...
And what all this baloney about munches in "sleazy" locations
None of the ones I have been to have been so and have never heard or seen any complaints to that effect (untill now of course ;-) )
And what all this baloney about munches in "sleazy" locations
None of the ones I have been to have been so and have never heard or seen any complaints to that effect (untill now of course ;-) )
After we placed an advert we had over 300 replies, and only managed to met two people. Most people think that would be great having that many messages, however alot of the people weren't telling the truth about their age or they just looked older than they did, half didnt even bother to send face pictures and some just sent the standard wink and had no detail on their profiles.
So after finally narrowing it down to 10 people that looked like they match what we are looking for, we tried to make contact with them, most of them had sent messages saying they dont like the the time wasters on here and when we tried to contact them to get a mobile number they didnt even bother to return the message.
Finally we arrange to meet 2 people at different times and we get text messages to say they cant make it. So again we contact another 2 and yes we final meet 2 people and had lots of fun, 1 of them we have met twice and will probably met up with again.
We think putting an advert on is a waste of time for us, so instead we are now making contact direct with people that we think match what we are looking for in the hope that we can meet more people for fun.
Also the chat room is a great place to meet people and already we have found one or two people we chat to and might arrange to meet in the near future.
Mods edit - Avatar removed, no genital shots please :thumbup:
So after finally narrowing it down to 10 people that looked like they match what we are looking for, we tried to make contact with them, most of them had sent messages saying they dont like the the time wasters on here and when we tried to contact them to get a mobile number they didnt even bother to return the message.
Finally we arrange to meet 2 people at different times and we get text messages to say they cant make it. So again we contact another 2 and yes we final meet 2 people and had lots of fun, 1 of them we have met twice and will probably met up with again.
We think putting an advert on is a waste of time for us, so instead we are now making contact direct with people that we think match what we are looking for in the hope that we can meet more people for fun.
Also the chat room is a great place to meet people and already we have found one or two people we chat to and might arrange to meet in the near future.
Mods edit - Avatar removed, no genital shots please :thumbup:
Sex God
Well your not doing too badly then :lol2:
2 meets in 2 months and one possibly becoming more regular than casual is not a bad strike rate ;-)
2 meets in 2 months and one possibly becoming more regular than casual is not a bad strike rate ;-)
