maybe they are all leaving the area for some reason.
have all the married guys got the jobs?
are there too many women?
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Why is it so hard..............
Sex God
Quote by Optix
Hmmmm.......
so if a Single guy works weekends and was actually only available in the weekday.. would this make you think he was cheating?
i'll add my views as a single male.
like a lot of couples complain that "guys expect you to meet at the drop of the hat"... there are a lot of couples that expect that of Single guys or Girls when they have all of a sudden got a "free weekend". just because we are single.. it doesn't meant we are free 100% of the time... Work, family, prior Non Swinging arrangements.
the only way to find the good single guys.. is to chat to them, and watch how they chat to others... the decent Single guys will make the effort to get to know people, they know that to get a "meets" you need to put the effort in, they will also chat to both parts of a couple, and not just the female there are a lot of decent single guys about, and we are not all liars, cheats and carrying the plague. (some of us.. do actually know how to tell the truth)
Well said that man :thumbup:
I don't think i've ever had a 9-5 job, even when i have had something resembling those hours there's always been a degree of flexibility needed as part of it.
I work in several similar fields which are mainly connected around media and entertainment events, which means when you lot have finished your 9-5 and want to go to a show/concert/festival/other event, i'll be one of the team providing some of the technical infrastructure and services so you can relax and enjoy yourselves. this means its much easier for me to find time during the day in the week as its often spent on the phone tarting for work or doing parts of my jobs which are flexible, so i can arrange by schedule to suit. Also, being self employed means that i sometimes have to cancel if work comes in- bills to pay and all that- many of the women i've met have kids and are therefore in a similar position where things can change at the last minute- its all about give and take and not being too sensitive if things don't work out 1st time.
As an example, i have a friend on here i've been trying to meet for a drink for about two months now, she works normal hours and i don't, between us we've cancelled 3 times and been busy when asked at least 6 times....we will meet up at some point, it just needs some patience
Next time you get back from work and pick up the phone for a take away, switch on the telly, turn up the heating and log onto the internet etc, remember that theres someone at the other end who isn't in the 9-5 club ;-)
Master of Sex
I hold my hands up duncan as it seems you have already drawn your own conclusions and in truth given the chance yes I would "bash" a single guy in my locality but not necessarily in the way you think
Sex God
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent 
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
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If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
Quote by noladreams
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
do u like older men then lol nola?
wanna share my bus pass to heaven and back?
Sex God
Quote by redwine_lover
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
do u like older men then lol nola?
wanna share my bus pass to heaven and back?
Older? Don't you mean ancient?! :giggle:
Quote by Dirtygirly
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
do u like older men then lol nola?
wanna share my bus pass to heaven and back?
Older? Don't you mean ancient?! :giggle:
dont u mean 'mature' ...oh great idyiosyncratic one lol hehe
Sex God
Quote by flower411
I`m not sure that this really has turned into a "single male bashing" thread ....
It just appears to me that some people are airing some views and there have been some very clear and refreshing explanations put forward for certain situations.
We recently contacted a single guy who had an ad running that contained a very specific scenario that interests us ...... he gave me (mr flower) his mobile number and gave me a rough timescale on a specific day for calling ..... I called a bit late :doh: so wasn`t surprised or upset when I got an answerphone......
I left a message .....without mentioning SH so that there would be no embarrassment if anybody else overheard !!
Now, let`s be clear ...we don`t have any moral objection to guys pretending to be single but we do object to people who may cause a situation that brings problems to our lives.
So, after leaving a message on a Friday afternoon it took three days for a reply to come in and of course, you`ve guessed it !! He got my answerphone .
So now ....I have vague suspicions that he isn`t entirely in control of whatever the situation is and he`s probably thinking ....."oh god, that bloke hasn`t rung back, probably some fantacist"
Neither of us has messaged on here .....I don`t want to cos I am in couple and feel superior :giggle: and he doesn`t want to because .........?? I dunno
Worst of it is ...he actually sounded normal in his message that he left me
Anyway, before anybody jumps down my throat ...it seems that all sorts of things can make us suspicious and the bottom line for me is that many of us are guilty of wanting immediate gratification because in so many other parts of our lives that has been made possible by 24 hour shopping and the internet but when it comes to having a nice comfortable bit of gratuitous shagging with people we actually fancy shagging it takes a bit more time .
Let`s face it ....it might take 6 months to meet somebody that you`ll be shagging for ten years to come or even the same amount of time for someone that`ll be a one off but loads of fun and a memory for life.......
:thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by redwine_lover
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
do u like older men then lol nola?
wanna share my bus pass to heaven and back?
Older? Don't you mean ancient?! :giggle:
dont u mean 'mature' ...oh great idyiosyncratic one lol hehe
You? Mature? Christ that's a bigger fib than your age!! :giggle:
Quote by Dirtygirly
I never have that much difficulty... but then I will travel for a meet so I guess that opens up a wider pool of talent
If I want a meet I look through the ads of men in my area and favourite all those I'm interested in. Then I do a profile search in the area and do the same favouriting. Then I have a look and cull my list of favourites.
Then I might place an advert of my own - and I'm *very* specific (possibly pedantic!) about what/when/where etc. I respond to all messages and if people charm or amuse me then I'll pursue.
If no good responses, I pull the ad and message some of my favourited hot men.
It works for me!
:thumbup:
do u like older men then lol nola?
wanna share my bus pass to heaven and back?
Older? Don't you mean ancient?! :giggle:
dont u mean 'mature' ...oh great idyiosyncratic one lol hehe
You? Mature? Christ that's a bigger fib than your age!! :giggle:
u got nothing better to do than to stalk me on these forums!!!... get back on the smokers ledge!! lol
Sex God
Quote by redwine_lover
u got nothing better to do than to stalk me on these forums!!!... get back on the smokers ledge!! lol
The smokers ledge is no more! I stopped 31 days ago! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
