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Why is it such a sin to be a single man?
Sex God
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Sandman, what's your point?
Sex God
Quote by sandman
Why is it such a sin to be a single man?
Because there's a hell of a lot of tar and only one brush?
Actually that's a bit unfair, there are quite a few people around here who don't think all single men are losers looking for an easy shag. That said, it's difficult not to notice that there are quite a lot of single men who are losers looking for an easy shag, and it would be easy to dismiss all single men as such, but fortunately, although that kind of prejudice would be understandable given the poor showing of some of the chaps, it's really not as common as you might think.
Ice
Actually that's a bit unfair, there are quite a few people around here who don't think all single men are losers looking for an easy shag. That said, it's difficult not to notice that there are quite a lot of single men who are losers looking for an easy shag, and it would be easy to dismiss all single men as such, but fortunately, although that kind of prejudice would be understandable given the poor showing of some of the chaps, it's really not as common as you might think.
There does seem to be a really confused view about single men. What actually separates a "good man" from a "loser"?
I have no experience at all, but it seems to me that "easy shag" is a bit of an oxymoron judging by the comments here of the number of sites that get disturbed, or couples that get put off, or times when there's no action. It would seem to be hard labour that occasionally gets lucky. So the appearance might be of an easy shag if one ignored the previous "x" number of failed outings.
For the purposes of all the pleasures (sic) here I am a single man, and actually I haven't decided whether I'm interested in a shag or not, probably not. It's the Clinton defence m'lud.
Lots of folk - not just single men, but couples & single women too - are fascinated, almost addicted, to the idea of an "easy shag". As you say, for a single man it's a Herculean labour, but they keep coming back, in just the same way that people keep going back to the casino after it's fleeced them for every penny; because next time, next time, they might get lucky.
Actually, that's a good metaphor. And remember: the house always wins.
(My advice to people with this attitude: learn to masturbate. It's free, you can do it in the comfort of your own home, and no-one will complain if you want to watch Sky Sports News immediately afterwards.)
Actually, that's a good metaphor. And remember: the house always wins.
(My advice to people with this attitude: learn to masturbate. It's free, you can do it in the comfort of your own home, and no-one will complain if you want to watch Sky Sports News immediately afterwards.)
Quote by sandman
Let me rephrase my question then - without seeming rude - but all the couples that want females only are generally gorgeous and the couples looking for a single guy generally aren't so......
Can I have my first rant? :fuckinghell:
My wife and I put an ad on here for single men, and she is F***ING Gorgeous.
And so is Vix (Already stated in another thread, pictures to prove it) also looking for single men.
(Sorry Vix. I just wanted to say again how fantastic you look)
So I do strongly object to that one!
The single guys who are members of this forum are nice guys, genuine, and well worth getting to know.
A good example is Love Commando who I "met" in the forums and talk to on Pm and in the chatroom on PM when we run into each other there.
Unfortunately we get a lot of single guys who do come here just for a quick shag - they make a post like they are making an ad, and then start PM-ing us after seeing our posts.
This puts "single guys" in general in a bad light in here, and while unfair on our genuine guys - almost necessary to ward off the losers.
The ads can be used to arrange a quick shag - if you are a male then advertise and answer some ads.
You say the couples are not so attractive
Well - are you?
Coz if you were a Brad Pitt lookalike or hung like a donkey, or had a great bod, you wouldn't have problems getting a girl on a night out at a club.
It's not about what you want, it's about what you can offer.
I always get the response to my ad - which is for bi-fems to join us - "don't you shag guys and couples?"
Of course I shag guys. I love MMF, and I love using my strap-on on a guys ass.
Of course we swing with other couples - we're swingers!
But we get to know people first, which is the whole point of this forum.
You can shag a stranger at a swinging party or club wthout even asking their name, and I often have, but that isn't why I post to the forum.
Same goes for munches - they are not orgies, they are a chance to meet face to face with other people we chat to on the forum.
If it leads somewhere from there - and lets face it, it probably will - then that's something you arrange.
There is nothing wrong with the single guys in this community.
It's the "invaders" who think they come here just to shag the girls that get told to fuck off.
You see those guys that have made a couple of hundred posts and get to know us - those are the guys we're going to invite for a fuck.
Certainly not some guy with 3 or 8 posts who titles his posts
"I WANT a woman for ME to fuck"
Think that sums up the whole thing.
Rachel
A good example is Love Commando who I "met" in the forums and talk to on Pm and in the chatroom on PM when we run into each other there.
Unfortunately we get a lot of single guys who do come here just for a quick shag - they make a post like they are making an ad, and then start PM-ing us after seeing our posts.
This puts "single guys" in general in a bad light in here, and while unfair on our genuine guys - almost necessary to ward off the losers.
The ads can be used to arrange a quick shag - if you are a male then advertise and answer some ads.
You say the couples are not so attractive
Well - are you?
Coz if you were a Brad Pitt lookalike or hung like a donkey, or had a great bod, you wouldn't have problems getting a girl on a night out at a club.
It's not about what you want, it's about what you can offer.
I always get the response to my ad - which is for bi-fems to join us - "don't you shag guys and couples?"
Of course I shag guys. I love MMF, and I love using my strap-on on a guys ass.
Of course we swing with other couples - we're swingers!
But we get to know people first, which is the whole point of this forum.
You can shag a stranger at a swinging party or club wthout even asking their name, and I often have, but that isn't why I post to the forum.
Same goes for munches - they are not orgies, they are a chance to meet face to face with other people we chat to on the forum.
If it leads somewhere from there - and lets face it, it probably will - then that's something you arrange.
There is nothing wrong with the single guys in this community.
It's the "invaders" who think they come here just to shag the girls that get told to fuck off.
You see those guys that have made a couple of hundred posts and get to know us - those are the guys we're going to invite for a fuck.
Certainly not some guy with 3 or 8 posts who titles his posts
"I WANT a woman for ME to fuck"
Think that sums up the whole thing.
Rachel
The problem seems to be that every single male who replies to an add expects to get positive results every time. If he thought of his reply as an application for a job, he would realise that from the many applicants the employer is only likely to choose one, and then only if there was a suitable candidate. So what do you do in that situation? You've written the application and heard nothing after a few days?
Either, you give up and go on the dole for the rest of your life, or until the lack of finances forces you into putting your card in the local phone boxes, or, you take the view that you were too good for them anyway, and begin a more careful search of the adverts to find the couple, or single, you are more perfectly suited to, AND STOP MOANING.
Remember, until someone meets you the only thing anyone can judge you by is the way you come across in print, so be careful how you describe yourself, and always bear in mind that the truth usually shows through, even in print.
And there ends the second lesson from chapter 1. v. 27 of the original guide to swingers heaven as made up by me just now. :twisted:
Keith3006
Either, you give up and go on the dole for the rest of your life, or until the lack of finances forces you into putting your card in the local phone boxes, or, you take the view that you were too good for them anyway, and begin a more careful search of the adverts to find the couple, or single, you are more perfectly suited to, AND STOP MOANING.
Remember, until someone meets you the only thing anyone can judge you by is the way you come across in print, so be careful how you describe yourself, and always bear in mind that the truth usually shows through, even in print.
And there ends the second lesson from chapter 1. v. 27 of the original guide to swingers heaven as made up by me just now. :twisted:
Keith3006
We have an advert ... we state no single males. Two main reasons ... I'm bi curious and so my interest is in females ... the second reason is that we're not up for casual sex ... in that I mean the notches on headposts kind of people.
I have a male in my life, one that I am very much in love with and we want to enhance our lovemaking by getting intimate with another couple/female. We have a young family and so ideally we want someone who appreciates the problems this can cause and also to make similar friendships, not just for sex but for all round fun and appreciation.
That said, I have made a number of friendships with single males, those who appreciate that they might never get to be intimate, but are genuinely interested in either me or us. The males with the "want a shag" attitude get a firm "thanks but no thanks - read our ad"
I do have appreciative males added to msn/ because if they can take the time to reply to me after reading the ad in a thougtful, understanding way, then I would like to get to know them and if in the future we want to include a male ..... this will be the way we do.
I would suggest that if you are looking for a quick shag, aren't prepared to get to know the couple/female they are approaching, have no understanding of what "swinging" means and just want "no ties sex" then ........... hop onto the nearest bus, get drunk and shag the first desperate girl you meet!
I have a male in my life, one that I am very much in love with and we want to enhance our lovemaking by getting intimate with another couple/female. We have a young family and so ideally we want someone who appreciates the problems this can cause and also to make similar friendships, not just for sex but for all round fun and appreciation.
That said, I have made a number of friendships with single males, those who appreciate that they might never get to be intimate, but are genuinely interested in either me or us. The males with the "want a shag" attitude get a firm "thanks but no thanks - read our ad"
I do have appreciative males added to msn/ because if they can take the time to reply to me after reading the ad in a thougtful, understanding way, then I would like to get to know them and if in the future we want to include a male ..... this will be the way we do.
I would suggest that if you are looking for a quick shag, aren't prepared to get to know the couple/female they are approaching, have no understanding of what "swinging" means and just want "no ties sex" then ........... hop onto the nearest bus, get drunk and shag the first desperate girl you meet!
Orgasminator
Quote by Calista
I have a male in my life, one that I am very much in love with and we want to enhance our lovemaking by getting intimate with another couple/female. We have a young family and so ideally we want someone who appreciates the problems this can cause and also to make similar friendships, not just for sex but for all round fun and appreciation.
Whos that then?? :twisted:
Quote by morbiusUK
I have a male in my life, one that I am very much in love with and we want to enhance our lovemaking by getting intimate with another couple/female. We have a young family and so ideally we want someone who appreciates the problems this can cause and also to make similar friendships, not just for sex but for all round fun and appreciation.
Whos that then?? :twisted:
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Calista XXXXXX
I like your words. i find a great deal from chatting and flirting on here and can cut around the fact I feel down at times. Ok not the sex contacts but I get out of this site what I need and that is fine. Labels always stick and when you get to be around the site you WWILL find the odd contact closer than you think What you find is it is a nicer way to have a date without the crap you normally get. Stick with the posts and chat to people and let them know you. OODLES of people I chat with and flirt on here with are married...NOT into other single males, are maybe bi and not after fellas OR even attracted to me, yet I can talk and be quite enlightened by their chat each day. There is only ONE guaranteed way to get sex in this world... and it involves a phonecall...but a decent time involves hard work from yourself and having patence to be special...! Lets face it you have competition!
I like your words. i find a great deal from chatting and flirting on here and can cut around the fact I feel down at times. Ok not the sex contacts but I get out of this site what I need and that is fine. Labels always stick and when you get to be around the site you WWILL find the odd contact closer than you think
What you find is it is a nicer way to have a date without the crap you normally get. Stick with the posts and chat to people and let them know you. OODLES of people I chat with and flirt on here with are married...NOT into other single males, are maybe bi and not after fellas OR even attracted to me, yet I can talk and be quite enlightened by their chat each day. There is only ONE guaranteed way to get sex in this world... and it involves a phonecall...but a decent time involves hard work from yourself and having patence to be special...! Lets face it you have competition! thanks for all your comments - you really are a brainy crew!!!!
just to clear the air -i'm not on here just for a 'fuck' i'm on here to gain new and exciting experiences with people who have realised life is too short to have hang ups! Thanks for your comments
just to clear the air -i'm not on here just for a 'fuck' i'm on here to gain new and exciting experiences with people who have realised life is too short to have hang ups! Thanks for your comments
"lets all get together and have a mass debate" xxx
couldnt have put it better myself,but lets face it ,ive seen some of the replys that my mrs has got from single blokes and theres a lot of unusal people there,from one ad she got over 200 replys and all of them were timewasters,mad world init..........just bare with it mate,she might pick you if you reply to her photo ad
