I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
I don't know about others but I have never had photo's on profile but have never had a problem meeting from here and never suffered from no shows.
I decided not to have photos on profile when we joined, hubby said put some up but I said I want men to get to know me to want to meet and not want to meet me because they thought the photos were sexy. Likewise I never met men based on having photo's on profile.
I don't think photos can give you any idea about the people or person you intent meeting on the basis you found the photo's sexy. For me sexy is very much in the mind and you can't see that in pictures. I believe cam is a far better way to see a personality and sexiness within a person.
I have always insisted on having chats on cam, but never on photos. I would not meet anyone that never had a cam but had pictures.
I have believed if you don't want to cam you have a lot more to hide than not having photo's on profile. You can cam in a locked room here.
I have spoken to very sexy people that have no pictures but have cam.
I just wondered what other views are?
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Sex God
we wouldn`t meet anyone without seeing them in one form or another
Sex God
Wouldnt meet anyone unless we had seen them on cam 1st, at least that's an up-to-date look at them.
Some people on here put pic's on that are 10years old :eeek:
Some people on here put pic's on that are 10years old :eeek:
Sexpert
Yep I have met people without seeing a pic and cam.
People are like an iceberg; there's far more to them than what's on the surface
People are like an iceberg; there's far more to them than what's on the surface
To be honest if I put photos on my profile I'd be beating them off with a stick! :cool:
;-)
In fairness, the last meeting we had from here was with someone who showed very little of themselves in their photos, but we were still intrigued enough by the written contact to find out more and move forward.
;-)
In fairness, the last meeting we had from here was with someone who showed very little of themselves in their photos, but we were still intrigued enough by the written contact to find out more and move forward.
Warming the Bed
We would defiently have to see photos or webcame, prefer webcam to photos tho!
Orgasminator
I have had one or two meets without seeing a face pic, most of the time its not an issue as people are happy to provide one once they know you are genuine.
I always make it clear that both sides have the right to back out if we dont have any attraction to each other, I would not just go through the motions. If people choose not to provide a face pic, its inaccurate or out of date then I have no problem with saying:
"Sorry you dont do it for me, best of luck in the future"
If they are offended by that they should have given me the opportunity to decide before we arranged to meet, saying that its never happened yet - perhaps Im just lucky.
Has anyone ever had to let someone down because of this??
I always make it clear that both sides have the right to back out if we dont have any attraction to each other, I would not just go through the motions. If people choose not to provide a face pic, its inaccurate or out of date then I have no problem with saying:
"Sorry you dont do it for me, best of luck in the future"
If they are offended by that they should have given me the opportunity to decide before we arranged to meet, saying that its never happened yet - perhaps Im just lucky.
Has anyone ever had to let someone down because of this??
No, never, not a chance of us meeting without seeing reasonable pictures of those that want to meet us.
I agree 100% that it is personality that is going to be the biggest factor in wether people end up playing or not but for us personal physical attraction is an integral part of the playing, if we don't find people sexually attractive we won't play with them, that is the playing side, we have made great friends over the years with people we have met in clubs that we wouldn't play with because we don't find them sexually attractive or vice versa but for the meeting off the internet, nope got to see pictures first.
We respect that others don't want to put pictures up, that is thier choice, nobody is forcing them to contact us and we won't contact them asking for pictures. We don't mind if people only have hidden pictures and send them with thier messages.
We do not accept any excuse other than "don't want to put pictures up" as a reason for not having them, unless of course you work in a job where your work colleagues get to see you naked everyday and would therefore recognise you from pictures where faces and visible distinguishing marks have been removed.
We prefer clothed pictures that show body shape, (we like to unwrap our presents on the day)
Close up pics of body bits like cocks, boobs and pussies are not what we would consider acceptable pictures to tell us what you are like.
Cock n boob pics on profiles are fine if you want them, but if that is all there is it's not for us, makes us kinda wonder if the guy chats up women in supermarkets and nightclubs by whipping out his cock and saying "hi babe want some of this tonight" we wonder why they should think this would have a better effect on swingers ?
I agree 100% that it is personality that is going to be the biggest factor in wether people end up playing or not but for us personal physical attraction is an integral part of the playing, if we don't find people sexually attractive we won't play with them, that is the playing side, we have made great friends over the years with people we have met in clubs that we wouldn't play with because we don't find them sexually attractive or vice versa but for the meeting off the internet, nope got to see pictures first.
We respect that others don't want to put pictures up, that is thier choice, nobody is forcing them to contact us and we won't contact them asking for pictures. We don't mind if people only have hidden pictures and send them with thier messages.
We do not accept any excuse other than "don't want to put pictures up" as a reason for not having them, unless of course you work in a job where your work colleagues get to see you naked everyday and would therefore recognise you from pictures where faces and visible distinguishing marks have been removed.
We prefer clothed pictures that show body shape, (we like to unwrap our presents on the day)
Close up pics of body bits like cocks, boobs and pussies are not what we would consider acceptable pictures to tell us what you are like.
Cock n boob pics on profiles are fine if you want them, but if that is all there is it's not for us, makes us kinda wonder if the guy chats up women in supermarkets and nightclubs by whipping out his cock and saying "hi babe want some of this tonight" we wonder why they should think this would have a better effect on swingers ?
Like Big Frasers thoughts on this. Thanks.
Never met without seeing pics. We don't have a cam and I find them spooky (can't describe why) so don't look at them and can't show you what we look like on one.
We have arranged to meet without seeing pics and then exchanged pics and gone to a social meet knowing it will never go any further.
Have also met after seeing pics and feeling I was attracted to one half of a cpl but not the other. When we met we changed our minds to me fancying the non attractive one but not the one who looked good in the photos so you never can tell. Guess thats part of the fun x
Never met without seeing pics. We don't have a cam and I find them spooky (can't describe why) so don't look at them and can't show you what we look like on one.
We have arranged to meet without seeing pics and then exchanged pics and gone to a social meet knowing it will never go any further.
Have also met after seeing pics and feeling I was attracted to one half of a cpl but not the other. When we met we changed our minds to me fancying the non attractive one but not the one who looked good in the photos so you never can tell. Guess thats part of the fun x
As a single male (without a public photo on profile) I have found that there is a better chance of getting a meet with a couple or single woman who do not have a photo on profile. They must get less swamped by messages than those with sexy pics, so if you're not having much luck, concentrate on those without pics and you might get lucky!
Orgasminator
Quote by chief-kaiser
As a single male (without a public photo on profile) I have found that there is a better chance of getting a meet with a couple or single woman who do not have a photo on profile.
The phrase 'munter hunter' springs to mind :lol2:
only kidding, I think you have a valid point, plus the added chance of finding a dirty celeb up for some fun.
I am well aware that people in certain professions will not put their position at risk by providing a pic to a stranger, especially one 'watermarked' with swingingheavens web address!
Quote by tinytimmy
Like Big Frasers thoughts on this. Thanks.
Aww thankyou ;)
Sex God
The only thing I'd seen of BB before I met her ......http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/bustyblonde1962/profile/..... We'd chatted quite a lot, I liked her, she invited me to visit, it really didn't occur to me that what she looked like was important,it still doesn't.
Sex God
Quote by Cubes
To be honest if I put photos on my profile I'd be beating them off with a stick! :cool:
;-)
So you don't think they'd let you actually touch them then ??? Is there a specific technique required ?? (I have googled and can't find any useful instructions)
Orgasminator
Quote by Staggerlee_BB
The only thing I'd seen of BB before I met her ......
with a photo and caption like that what else would a discerning man like yourself need to see!? :lol2:
Sex God
Quote by Big_Fraser
The only thing I'd seen of BB before I met her ......
with a photo and caption like that what else would a discerning man like yourself need to see!? :lol2:
I'm ashamed to have to admit I'd never actually noticed the caption before
ops: Orgasminator
Quote by Staggerlee_BB
I'm ashamed to have to admit I'd never actually noticed the caption before
No shame there staggs, sometimes its best to find these things out for yourself - otherwise its like knowing what you are getting for christmas before you tear the packaging off and find out :lol2:
Im assuming she wasnt mis selling the goods, but would never expect a gentleman like yourself to reveal the answer to that :rascal:
Sex God
I have met a couple of people who didn't have pics.
It isn't something I'd do often but wouldn't rule out doing it again.
It isn't something I'd do often but wouldn't rule out doing it again.
Sex God
In the days before the internet, when meets were arranged by classified ads and the phone, it was quite common to arrange to meet someone without seeing a pic. It made it slightly more exciting in a way, adding a certain mystique. But those days have gone now. Although I might still be prepared to meet someone without seeing a pic, I've always been asked for a pic myself.
I find the issue of photos interesting in so much as I do not have any on my profile. The reason for this is that I tend to be a rather private person, particularly in respect of the nature of this website and to avoid complications to my present employment.
Neither does being private detract from what decisions I make about how I may want to live my life. I am however, more than happy to supply photos to anyone interested prior to a meet. No photos or cam does not always mean you have something to hide.
However I would like to know how to attach photos to an e mail response, without uploading to the websight. I am not computer illiterate, but if it can be done I would like to know how.
Neither does being private detract from what decisions I make about how I may want to live my life. I am however, more than happy to supply photos to anyone interested prior to a meet. No photos or cam does not always mean you have something to hide.
However I would like to know how to attach photos to an e mail response, without uploading to the websight. I am not computer illiterate, but if it can be done I would like to know how.
Sex God
Quote by Onthebeach_1
I find the issue of photos interesting in so much as I do not have any on my profile. The reason for this is that I tend to be a rather private person, particularly in respect of the nature of this website and to avoid complications to my present employment.
Neither does being private detract from what decisions I make about how I may want to live my life. I am however, more than happy to supply photos to anyone interested prior to a meet. No photos or cam does not always mean you have something to hide.
However I would like to know how to attach photos to an e mail response, without uploading to the websight. I am not computer illiterate, but if it can be done I would like to know how.
:welcome: to the forum!
If you are sending private messages on the site then, as far as I am aware, only pictures that are on your profile can be sent.
You can upload pics and make them private and only invite those you wish to view them. The good thing about pics uploaded here is that they have your username watermarked on them so there's less of a chance they'll be passed off as someone else.
But totally understand the need for privacy!
Nola x
Sexlightened
Quote by duncanlondon
yeah does anyone remember Rendezvous? Black and white 3/4 inch photos and a brief few words. there was no fine detail and no internet stuff, but we managed in those days.
Yes, some people are still using the same pics on their profiles here
Quote by Mr_Lilly
yeah does anyone remember Rendezvous? Black and white 3/4 inch photos and a brief few words. there was no fine detail and no internet stuff, but we managed in those days.
Yes, some people are still using the same pics on their profiles here
Good grief. I mean I was using rendezvoue at least 20 years ago. There were some other ones as well. It was Goldstar Publications and such like?
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
yeah does anyone remember Rendezvous? Black and white 3/4 inch photos and a brief few words. there was no fine detail and no internet stuff, but we managed in those days.
Yes, some people are still using the same pics on their profiles here
Good grief. I mean I was using rendezvoue at least 20 years ago. There were some other ones as well. It was Goldstar Publications and such like?
There were also Experience, Vibrations, Silk Swingers, and Exposure, all published by Kentfern. There were about 20 ads to a page, but only very few had a pic with the ad.
Sexlightened
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
you retweeted me
or reswinged or something like that Sexlightened
Quote by duncanlondon
yeah does anyone remember Rendezvous? Black and white 3/4 inch photos
black and white photos now days means they are ginger
