I just wonder how or why so much more paranoia has crept into the game. back then we set off reasonably confident in what we were doing and in most cases it was a success. now there is so much hesitation and delay and doubt about doing it. But in basic terms of what's needed it hasn't really changed that much.
Cut away all the internet and front of house stuff on the sites and what are you left with? basically people who want to get some extra sex into their lives usually in their own homes. What do you need to do that? people who are reasonably confident about what they are doing and have acceptable accommodation in which to do it.
So the internet has only helped slightly in the technicalities, people some how have convinced themselves that they are now more likely to meet the psycho who lives in a zoo.
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Would you meet someone without photos on profile?
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I have a question, one which only some will answer honestly, well done to those who will answer honestly (whichever way your answer goes) and to those who have already given opinions on here but choose not to answer my question or answer it dishonestly, I hope you will at least ask yourself the question and be honest with yourself.
Many here say that they don't care if there are pictures on a profile or not, some like to see them before they meet some don't care if they never see a picture, so my question is.
Of those without pictures on your profile who contact people with pictures "how many people do you contact because you like the pictures they show on thier profiles" ? "and do you look at people pictures on profiles at all or do you believe them totally irrelevant" ? and "do you contact as many people without pictures as you do the ones with them" ?
I have noticed when I look at the profiles of people with pictures that they have a lot of comments on thier profile saying to the effect "great pictures" many times from people who have no pictures whatsoever.
Many here say that they don't care if there are pictures on a profile or not, some like to see them before they meet some don't care if they never see a picture, so my question is.
Of those without pictures on your profile who contact people with pictures "how many people do you contact because you like the pictures they show on thier profiles" ? "and do you look at people pictures on profiles at all or do you believe them totally irrelevant" ? and "do you contact as many people without pictures as you do the ones with them" ?
I have noticed when I look at the profiles of people with pictures that they have a lot of comments on thier profile saying to the effect "great pictures" many times from people who have no pictures whatsoever.
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I have a question, one which only some will answer honestly, well done to those who will answer honestly (whichever way your answer goes) and to those who have already given opinions on here but choose not to answer my question or answer it dishonestly, I hope you will at least ask yourself the question and be honest with yourself.
Many here say that they don't care if there are pictures on a profile or not, some like to see them before they meet some don't care if they never see a picture, so my question is.
Of those without pictures on your profile who contact people with pictures "how many people do you contact because you like the pictures they show on thier profiles" ? "and do you look at people pictures on profiles at all or do you believe them totally irrelevant" ? and "do you contact as many people without pictures as you do the ones with them" ?
I have noticed when I look at the profiles of people with pictures that they have a lot of comments on thier profile saying to the effect "great pictures" many times from people who have no pictures whatsoever.
In answer to you question, the men we have met I have met via the chatroom. One I whispered to by mistake as the list name moved and I was meant to whisper the person below him who I had chatted to before having a laugh. I apologised for the whisper and we just got chatting and decided to set up a private room and just had a face to face chat on cam. We communicated on cam and phone over a period of a couple of months, we never stripped and played nor asked each other for photos a face and personality was all it took to decide we wanted to meet and play.
One day one mentioned about their profile, he was surprised I hadn't even looked at his profile, but I wasn't surprised to see he only had clothed pictures and face shots of himself there to. I do however have a look through profiles more out of being nosey and seeing what other write about themselves. I have never contacted people on the back of their profiles though.
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I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
you retweeted me
or reswinged or something like thatErmmm sorry I don't have a clue what you are asking, if that was a question.
Sex God
I would never meet anyone without seeing face pics first. We have done this once, it was our first ever house meet at our home, they turned up, we really didn't fancy them and I would never want to be put in that position again.
I understand that some people don't want face pics on their profile for privacy reasons, we don't have face pics in public either but I don't see why someone wouldn't add pictures to a private gallery allowing them to be attached to a message as and when required. I dont like the 'you can see me on cam' thing or giving out email addresses.
As for general pics on profiles, I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile. I don't expect pervy pictures but I do believe you figure out quite a bit about a person/people from pics of them (even dressed or with faces smudged). I also wouldn't contact someone who hadn't bothered to say a little bit about themselves (what they're looking for, etc.) on their profile. This can save a lot of time and energy in email tennis before discovering that they really aint for you!
Personally, I feel that a little effort is needed and I do believe that you reap what you sow.
I understand that some people don't want face pics on their profile for privacy reasons, we don't have face pics in public either but I don't see why someone wouldn't add pictures to a private gallery allowing them to be attached to a message as and when required. I dont like the 'you can see me on cam' thing or giving out email addresses.
As for general pics on profiles, I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile. I don't expect pervy pictures but I do believe you figure out quite a bit about a person/people from pics of them (even dressed or with faces smudged). I also wouldn't contact someone who hadn't bothered to say a little bit about themselves (what they're looking for, etc.) on their profile. This can save a lot of time and energy in email tennis before discovering that they really aint for you!
Personally, I feel that a little effort is needed and I do believe that you reap what you sow.
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I would never meet anyone without seeing face pics first. We have done this once, it was our first ever house meet at our home, they turned up, we really didn't fancy them and I would never want to be put in that position again.
I understand that some people don't want face pics on their profile for privacy reasons, we don't have face pics in public either but I don't see why someone wouldn't add pictures to a private gallery allowing them to be attached to a message as and when required. I dont like the 'you can see me on cam' thing or giving out email addresses.
As for general pics on profiles, I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile. I don't expect pervy pictures but I do believe you figure out quite a bit about a person/people from pics of them (even dressed or with faces smudged). I also wouldn't contact someone who hadn't bothered to say a little bit about themselves (what they're looking for, etc.) on their profile. This can save a lot of time and energy in email tennis before discovering that they really aint for you!
Personally, I feel that a little effort is needed and I do believe that you reap what you sow.
Hey Fun, You have seen me on cam but not my picture. We have even done pelvic floor exercises together on cam, isn't that enough? :sad:
We had the problem with our first meet on only seeing a face picture in that we met luckily for a drink first and it was only then we realised the photo he had up was in fact one taken 5 years earlier. We then insisted on the cam idea.
I guess we all do things based on our own experiences on what best works for us as couples or individuals.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have a question, one which only some will answer honestly, well done to those who will answer honestly (whichever way your answer goes) and to those who have already given opinions on here but choose not to answer my question or answer it dishonestly, I hope you will at least ask yourself the question and be honest with yourself.
Many here say that they don't care if there are pictures on a profile or not, some like to see them before they meet some don't care if they never see a picture, so my question is.
Of those without pictures on your profile who contact people with pictures "how many people do you contact because you like the pictures they show on thier profiles" ? "and do you look at people pictures on profiles at all or do you believe them totally irrelevant" ? and "do you contact as many people without pictures as you do the ones with them" ?
I have noticed when I look at the profiles of people with pictures that they have a lot of comments on thier profile saying to the effect "great pictures" many times from people who have no pictures whatsoever.
In answer to you question, the men we have met I have met via the chatroom. One I whispered to by mistake as the list name moved and I was meant to whisper the person below him who I had chatted to before having a laugh. I apologised for the whisper and we just got chatting and decided to set up a private room and just had a face to face chat on cam. We communicated on cam and phone over a period of a couple of months, we never stripped and played nor asked each other for photos a face and personality was all it took to decide we wanted to meet and play.
One day one mentioned about their profile, he was surprised I hadn't even looked at his profile, but I wasn't surprised to see he only had clothed pictures and face shots of himself there to. I do however have a look through profiles more out of being nosey and seeing what other write about themselves. I have never contacted people on the back of their profiles though.
I need to clarify our own feelings on this one, we don't often use the chatrooms and hardly ever go on cam, but I would class seeing someone on cam as the equivalent of HAVING pictures, the result being the same, you have seen the other person before you meet him/her/them, I guess the only difference is wether you would contact them outside the chatroom if they don't have pictures and you hadn't seen them on cam previously.
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I would never meet anyone without seeing face pics first. We have done this once, it was our first ever house meet at our home, they turned up, we really didn't fancy them and I would never want to be put in that position again.
I understand that some people don't want face pics on their profile for privacy reasons, we don't have face pics in public either but I don't see why someone wouldn't add pictures to a private gallery allowing them to be attached to a message as and when required. I dont like the 'you can see me on cam' thing or giving out email addresses.
As for general pics on profiles, I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile. I don't expect pervy pictures but I do believe you figure out quite a bit about a person/people from pics of them (even dressed or with faces smudged). I also wouldn't contact someone who hadn't bothered to say a little bit about themselves (what they're looking for, etc.) on their profile. This can save a lot of time and energy in email tennis before discovering that they really aint for you!
Personally, I feel that a little effort is needed and I do believe that you reap what you sow.
Hey Fun, You have seen me on cam but not my picture. We have even done pelvic floor exercises together on cam, isn't that enough? :sad:
We had the problem with our first meet on only seeing a face picture in that we met luckily for a drink first and it was only then we realised the photo he had up was in fact one taken 5 years earlier. We then insisted on the cam idea.
I guess we all do things based on our own experiences on what best works for us as couples or individuals.
Us pair doing pelvic floor exercises on cam was enough to put anyone off us I think!! It was funny though!
I get where you're coming from with the pics thing. We have been sent some before that are a tad out of date but you can get the general feel for if you will fancy them or not. If we are in chat and we look at cams then that's pretty much the same as seeing pics but I wouldn't go out of my way to arrange a time and date to cam to cam with people. I couldn't be arsed, and they usually want a little bit more than just seeing your face!
Sex God
Quote by Funlovers2009
I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile.
Slinks off, all hope finally gone :looks for solid beam and length of rope:
Sex God
In reply to the original question no would not meet wihtout seeing pics. Personalitys can be sexy thats great but there are certain body types neither of us find attractive so pics needed.
Web cams are great and if members need to cam before meeting thats cool but dont judge anyone that does not. I work I look after kids I make tea I sit down and watch TV. At the watching TV bit I dont want to sit by the PC and cam with someone. We dont need to do the getting to know you on cam thing can normally work that out with a few drinks before playing.
Web cams are great and if members need to cam before meeting thats cool but dont judge anyone that does not. I work I look after kids I make tea I sit down and watch TV. At the watching TV bit I dont want to sit by the PC and cam with someone. We dont need to do the getting to know you on cam thing can normally work that out with a few drinks before playing.
Sex God
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I wouldn't contact someone who did not have any pics at all, or just pics of one half of a couple on their profile.
Slinks off, all hope finally gone :looks for solid beam and length of rope:
Meeting someone in the flesh is much better than any picture. The image of you in your posh hat and glad rags will be burned into my retinas forever and a day! (It was a fab hat)
way better in person than any pic too :) Jay
Sex God
Most of the people I've had sex with are people I've never seen before.....sad but true....then of course some I'll never see again...well I never promised it would be good.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was just reading another thread when I read this "maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos?"
I don't know about others but I have never had photo's on profile but have never had a problem meeting from here and never suffered from no shows.
I decided not to have photos on profile when we joined, hubby said put some up but I said I want men to get to know me to want to meet and not want to meet me because they thought the photos were sexy. Likewise I never met men based on having photo's on profile.
I don't think photos can give you any idea about the people or person you intent meeting on the basis you found the photo's sexy. For me sexy is very much in the mind and you can't see that in pictures. I believe cam is a far better way to see a personality and sexiness within a person.
I have always insisted on having chats on cam, but never on photos. I would not meet anyone that never had a cam but had pictures.
I have believed if you don't want to cam you have a lot more to hide than not having photo's on profile. You can cam in a locked room here.
I have spoken to very sexy people that have no pictures but have cam.
I just wondered what other views are?
i have commented on this previously, however i would like to make one observation, why do people state "no face pic, no reply" when they do not actually place face pic of themselves? Or do they derive some wierd pleaseure from collecting them?
Sex God
Quote by Onthebeach_1
i have commented on this previously, however i would like to make one observation, why do people state "no face pic, no reply" when they do not actually place face pic of themselves? Or do they derive some wierd pleaseure from collecting them?
I would say that this is because some couples and single girls especially get inundated with messages from single guys and couples and there needs to be some attraction there.
If a single guy or a couple sends a message and has no face pics attached to the message or in public on their profile, the recipient would then have to ask for some as they couldn't say that they're interested if they don't know what they look like. Multiply this by the gazillion messages that a single girl may get each day and it takes up a lot of time and effort when she may actually not fancy most of them.
Quote by Funlovers2009
i have commented on this previously, however i would like to make one observation, why do people state "no face pic, no reply" when they do not actually place face pic of themselves? Or do they derive some wierd pleaseure from collecting them?
I would say that this is because some couples and single girls especially get inundated with messages from single guys and couples and there needs to be some attraction there.
If a single guy or a couple sends a message and has no face pics attached to the message or in public on their profile, the recipient would then have to ask for some as they couldn't say that they're interested if they don't know what they look like. Multiply this by the gazillion messages that a single girl may get each day and it takes up a lot of time and effort when she may actually not fancy most of them.
i understand your argument but logically it does not make sense. Why ask for a face pic, to decide whether you you fancy them,when you do not post one, you are therefore assuming that everyone will fancy you/them purely based on what they put on their profile. As you say there has to be some attraction, surely it works both ways? On that basis, i or a couple should send a message and automatically ask for a face pic where none are shown? Surely that will not happen generally.
Sex God
Quote by Onthebeach_1
i have commented on this previously, however i would like to make one observation, why do people state "no face pic, no reply" when they do not actually place face pic of themselves? Or do they derive some wierd pleaseure from collecting them?
I would say that this is because some couples and single girls especially get inundated with messages from single guys and couples and there needs to be some attraction there.
If a single guy or a couple sends a message and has no face pics attached to the message or in public on their profile, the recipient would then have to ask for some as they couldn't say that they're interested if they don't know what they look like. Multiply this by the gazillion messages that a single girl may get each day and it takes up a lot of time and effort when she may actually not fancy most of them.
i understand your argument but logically it does not make sense. Why ask for a face pic, to decide whether you you fancy them,when you do not post one, you are therefore assuming that everyone will fancy you/them purely based on what they put on their profile. As you say there has to be some attraction, surely it works both ways? On that basis, i or a couple should send a message and automatically ask for a face pic where none are shown? Surely that will not happen generally.
I do see where you're coming from. I always send face pics of us with messages when we are interested in someone.
What I'm saying is that people who get lots of mail asking for meets probably cant be arsed to reply to them all asking for face pics as that may double the amount of mail. It's easier for them to delete the ones that don't send them in the first place. If it's written on their profile that they wont reply without face pics, it probably says to them that people haven't bothered to read their profile too.
Quote by Funlovers2009
i have commented on this previously, however i would like to make one observation, why do people state "no face pic, no reply" when they do not actually place face pic of themselves? Or do they derive some wierd pleaseure from collecting them?
I would say that this is because some couples and single girls especially get inundated with messages from single guys and couples and there needs to be some attraction there.
If a single guy or a couple sends a message and has no face pics attached to the message or in public on their profile, the recipient would then have to ask for some as they couldn't say that they're interested if they don't know what they look like. Multiply this by the gazillion messages that a single girl may get each day and it takes up a lot of time and effort when she may actually not fancy most of them.
i understand your argument but logically it does not make sense. Why ask for a face pic, to decide whether you you fancy them,when you do not post one, you are therefore assuming that everyone will fancy you/them purely based on what they put on their profile. As you say there has to be some attraction, surely it works both ways? On that basis, i or a couple should send a message and automatically ask for a face pic where none are shown? Surely that will not happen generally.
I do see where you're coming from. I always send face pics of us with messages when we are interested in someone.
What I'm saying is that people who get lots of mail asking for meets probably cant be arsed to reply to them all asking for face pics as that may double the amount of mail. It's easier for them to delete the ones that don't send them in the first place. If it's written on their profile that they wont reply without face pics, it probably says to them that people haven't bothered to read their profile too.
i get your point, inundated! i cant wait ! Haha
good heavens no of course not! Wouldn't dream of meeting anyone without a full portfolio of photographic evidence of their suitability for rumpy pumpy.
Of course I do accept that there are those of us with serious weight problems and some hair loss (the wig is guarenteed 5 years and not really noticable), loose fitting dentures, a slight squint, acne (medicated though, and it's not contagious) that to save embarrassment are excluded from this 'something to hide' statement and should be told to hide their afflictions. Any mega hot babe withing 50 miles of norwich should be encouraged to contact such individuals asap to see if a style makeover a la gok could make a difference.
Those that are george clooney lookalikes have to keep the fanmail down to a minimum too.
Of course I do accept that there are those of us with serious weight problems and some hair loss (the wig is guarenteed 5 years and not really noticable), loose fitting dentures, a slight squint, acne (medicated though, and it's not contagious) that to save embarrassment are excluded from this 'something to hide' statement and should be told to hide their afflictions. Any mega hot babe withing 50 miles of norwich should be encouraged to contact such individuals asap to see if a style makeover a la gok could make a difference.
Those that are george clooney lookalikes have to keep the fanmail down to a minimum too.
Sexpert
This does make me chuckle; I meet new people every day. In fact everywhere I go there are new people just littering the streets I reckon amongst all the people I meet there might even be a few swingers! Wehey!
Now I'm the same person; with the same values, ideals and morals.
So meeting people that I have never met before doesn't phase me at all, in fact it is quite exciting.
The odd thing about the internet is that you can find out about people before you actually meet. This is good to get to know people but it's bad because you can lose the "social dance" that can happen in person.
Now I understand that it's good to get an idea if people are "for you", but I have enough time to have a drink with people and not worry if there's no "action" afterwards
Just to throw a small spanner in the works; in my experience everyone I have met look better than there pics...
Hopefully food for thought :jagsatwork:
I reckon amongst all the people I meet there might even be a few swingers! Wehey!Now I'm the same person; with the same values, ideals and morals.
So meeting people that I have never met before doesn't phase me at all, in fact it is quite exciting.
The odd thing about the internet is that you can find out about people before you actually meet. This is good to get to know people but it's bad because you can lose the "social dance" that can happen in person.
Now I understand that it's good to get an idea if people are "for you", but I have enough time to have a drink with people and not worry if there's no "action" afterwards
Just to throw a small spanner in the works; in my experience everyone I have met look better than there pics...
Hopefully food for thought :jagsatwork:
Casanova
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I want men to get to know me to want to meet and not want to meet me because they thought the photos were sexy.
:thumbup: (Substitute "men" for "people")
I love having pictures on my profile and seeing other people's, not only because I am curious to see what people look like but also because just by looking at what they have chosen to display gives an idea of what what they are like, their aesthetics, how tightly they like to control their image etc. So it pains me that it can be such a hassle. Everytime I have pictures up I get so many mindless "you are what I am looking for" that if I had a pound for each I would buy you all a drink! And the same with being on camera, for that matter. Show nothing... and suddenly I am not quite as attractive ;)
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The only thing I'd seen of BB before I met her ......http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/bustyblonde1962/profile/..... We'd chatted quite a lot, I liked her, she invited me to visit, it really didn't occur to me that what she looked like was important,it still doesn't.
That's the spirit - and what Fraser said! What an amazing picture.
Enjoyed this thread!
