well to a degree the title says it all......just interested really in as much as the whole idea of swinging really is no emotional link with anyone other than your own partner....( otherwise there would be complications)...so basically it is about good, erotic and sexy fun. So therefore do looks count. If you had a meet and you thought the other person looked like a bag of spanners, would you make excuses..or would you say bugger it... its not emotional its SEX. Have done a poll to see also see if any differance between the men and the ladies.
Have to hold my hand up and say I have had my wicked way with quite a few ladies that to be honest didn't look the best....but still enjoyed the sex.
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would you shag an ugly one....
would you shag an ugly bugger
Sex God
Depends how desperate I am 
From a female point of view, there has to be some sort of attraction whether you're meeting males or females. That doesn't mean they have to be Gods gift. We have met some very nice people who are not that great looking but are gen lovely.
I think personality is far more important than looks, though everyone has standards (i think) lol.
I think personality is far more important than looks, though everyone has standards (i think) lol.
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From a female point of view, there has to be some sort of attraction whether you're meeting males or females. That doesn't mean they have to be Gods gift. We have met some very nice people who are not that great looking but are gen lovely.
I think personality is far more important than looks, though everyone has standards (i think) lol.
and hygene !!! a clean smelling or nicely perfumed person is highly preferable
Sexpert
If someone was very smelly and nasty then I couldnt be intimate with them but I think this poll is a bit offensive to people who are not "classically beautiful" as the media defines and demands.
I am not a Greek adonis but I have a good heart and try to be the best person and best friend I can be.
If im a saint but have a broken nose and one eye and a cauliflower ear does that make me ugly? (I dont have those things incidentally just asking how you define ugly?)
I think beauty lies in the spirit and how we are with others, not wether you have a perfect figure and have shallow people falling at your feet.
I dont think I would want a "sympathy shag" off someone who thought i was a dog anyway, I would be devestated if someone was doing anything "for my benefit". lol
Given the choice between a plain jane who is a good person and kind and selfless, and a bitchqueen from hell with a figure to die for - I wouldnt have to thnk about it even for a second.
We only have a certain amount of free time and free hours in our lives and we should make sure we give them to the worthy.
Sorry for a complete bullshit waffle by the way. LOL
I am not a Greek adonis but I have a good heart and try to be the best person and best friend I can be.
If im a saint but have a broken nose and one eye and a cauliflower ear does that make me ugly? (I dont have those things incidentally just asking how you define ugly?)
I think beauty lies in the spirit and how we are with others, not wether you have a perfect figure and have shallow people falling at your feet.
I dont think I would want a "sympathy shag" off someone who thought i was a dog anyway, I would be devestated if someone was doing anything "for my benefit". lol
Given the choice between a plain jane who is a good person and kind and selfless, and a bitchqueen from hell with a figure to die for - I wouldnt have to thnk about it even for a second.
We only have a certain amount of free time and free hours in our lives and we should make sure we give them to the worthy.
Sorry for a complete bullshit waffle by the way. LOL
When we first took up swinging we were going to clubs. I have to admit you don't get much chance to chat therefore looks were very important.
The experience wasn't very fulfilling, since joining this site and making so many friends we both realised thats looks were only a very tiny part of swinging. Friendship, trust, personality, were more important and as such we get a lot more out of our experiences.
ok looks still do play a small part as with most peeps there are certain things that are a big turn off.
IMO everyone has their own idea of what they want in a swinging partner but if all your after is a quick f**k then you might as well go into your local town and pick someone up in a bar. Swinging is a whole different ball game
The experience wasn't very fulfilling, since joining this site and making so many friends we both realised thats looks were only a very tiny part of swinging. Friendship, trust, personality, were more important and as such we get a lot more out of our experiences.
ok looks still do play a small part as with most peeps there are certain things that are a big turn off.
IMO everyone has their own idea of what they want in a swinging partner but if all your after is a quick f**k then you might as well go into your local town and pick someone up in a bar. Swinging is a whole different ball game
Sex God
It's all subjective isn't it? What some people find attractive, others don't. Everyone has their own taste and what I consider ugly, someone else might consider beautiful. I personally would not be sexually attracted to someone I considered ugly. Or stupid. Or aggressive. Or vain... looks is only part of it, but it's still a factor.
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It's all subjective isn't it? What some people find attractive, others don't. Everyone has their own taste and what I consider ugly, someone else might consider beautiful. I personally would not be sexually attracted to someone I considered ugly. Or stupid. Or aggressive. Or vain... looks is only part of it, but it's still a factor.
i have to agree with ice here! ....................not . because i find penguins very attractive!.and i want a peck!
looks are only a part of it, buts its still a factor!
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It's all subjective isn't it? What some people find attractive, others don't. Everyone has their own taste and what I consider ugly, someone else might consider beautiful. I personally would not be sexually attracted to someone I considered ugly. Or stupid. Or aggressive. Or vain... looks is only part of it, but it's still a factor.
Wise words Ice, but practically it's only an issue if you forget your blindfold :twisted:
Seriously, yes I absolutely agree attractiveness is subjective but personally essential to wanting someone.
Still be interesting to see the poll results :shock:
Sex God
:shock: you mean I might of had a choice...why didn't anyone tell me :doh:
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It's all subjective isn't it? What some people find attractive, others don't. Everyone has their own taste and what I consider ugly, someone else might consider beautiful. .
I agree with this.....however, someone may be considered ulgy but you find them to have a great personality - and that in itself is sexy!
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please note I totally agree beauty and therefore ugliness is very subjective.....but that is not what question asks.....it asks if you would still shag the other person if in your subjective view they were ugly. Really asking how much attractivness has to do with the act of sex.....is it a turn on...or can the lack of it be a total turn off.
the prime example of this is when Brightongezzer said " a fuck is a fuck "
in other words for him it is pure sex.....
where others they couldn't do it....
certainly finding answers interesting anyway.
the prime example of this is when Brightongezzer said " a fuck is a fuck "
in other words for him it is pure sex.....
where others they couldn't do it....
certainly finding answers interesting anyway.
Sex God
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please note I totally agree beauty and therefore ugliness is very subjective.....but that is not what question asks.....it asks if you would still shag the other person if in your subjective view they were ugly.
If I find a person ugly, then by definition I do not find that person attractive. I am physically incapable and psychologically unwilling to have sex with a person I do not find attractive.
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please note I totally agree beauty and therefore ugliness is very subjective.....but that is not what question asks.....it asks if you would still shag the other person if in your subjective view they were ugly.
If I find a person ugly, then by definition I do not find that person attractive. I am physically incapable and psychologically unwilling to have sex with a person I do not find attractive.
Basically what Ice said.
The attraction must be there.
well i have 2 opinions on this one, if i meet someone off here i find looks are more important than in a club, for example if i go to a club to be honest i will get on a bed and just have fun with anyone who wants to join in, stopping and looking at everyone just limits ur fun so i tend to switch off to looks and just shag lol on more private meets where u have 2 spend time with a person its more inportant, but in answer yes i would shag someone i found ugly lol
As an advert, you should really have this in the adverts section Dean. Quote by naughtynymphos1
well i have 2 opinions on this one, if i meet someone off here i find looks are more important than in a club, for example if i go to a club to be honest i will get on a bed and just have fun with anyone who wants to join in, stopping and looking at everyone just limits ur fun so i tend to switch off to looks and just shag lol on more private meets where u have 2 spend time with a person its more inportant, but in answer yes i would shag someone i found ugly lol
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I wouldn't shag an 'ugly one', but I wouldn't rate looks and appearances if i was looking on this site. There would have to be some level of attraction otherwise I'd never get in the right mood and it would be a complete flop (in more ways than one 
). Personality is more important though as even the most beautiful women can be right moody cows, but the down to earth ones can be the nicest people you ever meet.
Don't know about most blokes, but I need a connection at some level to enjoy sex, and to get me in the mood for it.
). Personality is more important though as even the most beautiful women can be right moody cows, but the down to earth ones can be the nicest people you ever meet. Don't know about most blokes, but I need a connection at some level to enjoy sex, and to get me in the mood for it.
Sex God
Nope couldn't do it, couldn't even get a twitch with someone that is as far removed from what I like as your question is suggesting. There are looks and traits that I find attractive and there are those that I find repulsive, there needs to be an attraction.
