We decided when we started in this lifestyle to tell a couple of friends what we were doing. I knew my friends would understand why I would like to try doing this and would not judge me. In the last couple of months I have also told my Mum, as I have never hidden anything from her so why now.
I feel Ihave been right to tell these people, they totally understand our motives and nothing has changed towards us.
I am not embarrassed in what we do and I feel when our Children are old enough to understand I would even tell them.
Have you told anyone close to you what lifestyle you lead?
What was the outcome?
Have things changed ?
Or do you think I am mad to do so?
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Casanova
I told my best friend Donna ( yes she has the same name as me, no she is not a third person lol ) but I would never tell any of my family because I know they would never understand why I do it and would just think Richard is making me do even though I have been a swinger before I meet him.
Richard has told most people work mates friend and his Dad but not his Mum.
Richard has told most people work mates friend and his Dad but not his Mum.
Most of our friends know a little bit, never any details. They have asked a couple of questions but only things like "Have you ever been to one of them clubs?". They mostly think its a laugh or cool.
As for my family, I wouldn't tell them as such but I am fairly sure they have a clear idea. My Dad made a few comments and has seen swinging sites on the Auto fill on a web page on a laptop.
Ians Dad once told his Mum not to ask where we were going when they were sitting for the kids.
If they asked, I wouldn't lie
As for my family, I wouldn't tell them as such but I am fairly sure they have a clear idea. My Dad made a few comments and has seen swinging sites on the Auto fill on a web page on a laptop.
Ians Dad once told his Mum not to ask where we were going when they were sitting for the kids.
If they asked, I wouldn't lie
Sex God
I cant understand why people feel they need to discuss their sex life with family but I respect their right to do so.
Personally, what I get up to between the sheets or anywhere else for that matter, of a sexual nature is between me, my concience and whoever Im getting up to it with. Nothing to do with my family. By the same token, Im not interested in their sex lives either.
Personally, what I get up to between the sheets or anywhere else for that matter, of a sexual nature is between me, my concience and whoever Im getting up to it with. Nothing to do with my family. By the same token, Im not interested in their sex lives either.
Sex God
I think most of our friends know (not just the close ones), and aren't really that arsed about it-it's amazing what a conversation starter it makes- everyone is always sooo interested.
My sister knows, but I wouldn't tell my parents as i don't think it would go down that well at all, and even if they weren't that bothered, i don't really want them knowing.
Dens parents don't know, but if they asked, we would tell!
My sister knows, but I wouldn't tell my parents as i don't think it would go down that well at all, and even if they weren't that bothered, i don't really want them knowing.
Dens parents don't know, but if they asked, we would tell!
Sex God
My closest friend knows - i decided to tell her because she already knew me very well and i wanted a safety net she is the one i tell who im meeting and where if im meeting on my own. She wasnt shocked and still asks the odd question but doesnt question or judge why i do it,
No way i could ever tell my family though hands up to those who have/can
It all comes down to the sort of relationship you have with them i guess
No way i could ever tell my family though hands up to those who have/can
It all comes down to the sort of relationship you have with them i guess
Sex God
Oh how I'd love to tell my family and friends but no, theres bot a hope in bloody hell 
Instead I/we get a certain kick out of doing something 'outside' of the norm and that the secrecy is part of it.
Instead I/we get a certain kick out of doing something 'outside' of the norm and that the secrecy is part of it. 
Sex God
One or two close friends know and a couple of family members know after I managed to blab something about a swingers club 
Also, a friend at work know, but not too bothered as he is a site member
For me, I dont really want too many people to know. Its not that Im embarrased by it, but it is about the excitment of doing something secret and naughty :twisted:
Also, a friend at work know, but not too bothered as he is a site member For me, I dont really want too many people to know. Its not that Im embarrased by it, but it is about the excitment of doing something secret and naughty :twisted:
:twisted:I tell no one, anything. Long long ago we made a start with a couple we were friends with. That never went anywhere and we were all in the same boat, as it were.
No I tell no one, My partners know that it is just play, that there are others, that I am married. That is as far as it goes.
If I told one, I would be waiting for another to ask us about it.
Travis
No I tell no one, My partners know that it is just play, that there are others, that I am married. That is as far as it goes.
If I told one, I would be waiting for another to ask us about it.
Travis
A couple of friends know but we dont make it public as we wouldnt want it to affect our son.
I remeber when I had my boobs done and I told my friend who then told her son, who then took mickey out of my son ( he a bit sensitive).
Swinging to us is an extra cuircular activity which stays seperate to our everyday life and thats how we like it
I remeber when I had my boobs done and I told my friend who then told her son, who then took mickey out of my son ( he a bit sensitive).
Swinging to us is an extra cuircular activity which stays seperate to our everyday life and thats how we like it
Warming the Bed
Well, we have told some good friends of ours while a bit tipsy, but I think deep inside our pervy minds we were trying to get them to join us!
Don't even want to think about my parents knowing, some old-timers think that something must be wrong in your relationship if you want to involve third (and fourth and fifth) people in the recipe. And we can't really be bothered with explaining our selves sexually
Don't even want to think about my parents knowing, some old-timers think that something must be wrong in your relationship if you want to involve third (and fourth and fifth) people in the recipe. And we can't really be bothered with explaining our selves sexually
Sex God
I've only told a few very close friends. I've told them but don't really talk about it to them. I only talk about meets with a friend I used to work with who is also bi and she understands that I can use this site to satisfy bi needs. I hope that doesn't sound bad I've told her she should join but she'll not, her bf isn't into it. When I do tell this friend about meets (the only friend I have told) she giggles and thinks I'm mad/crazy but is totally fine with it.
I wouldn't DARE tell any of my family! My sis did find out (somehow) and told my mam and my mam went off it with me. I denied it all and said "what's swinging?" She said it was "wife swapping"
I'm not ashamed what i do, it was her reaction that she blew her top with me. In fact, that was the first time in a long time she has ever shouted at me!
I agree with Tan, it depends what ur realtionship is like with that person and I guess trust aswell and I find it hard to trust anyone. You don't want everyone gossiping about ur sex-life
Miss Cream xxx
I've told her she should join but she'll not, her bf isn't into it. When I do tell this friend about meets (the only friend I have told) she giggles and thinks I'm mad/crazy but is totally fine with it.I wouldn't DARE tell any of my family! My sis did find out (somehow) and told my mam and my mam went off it with me. I denied it all and said "what's swinging?" She said it was "wife swapping"
I'm not ashamed what i do, it was her reaction that she blew her top with me. In fact, that was the first time in a long time she has ever shouted at me!I agree with Tan, it depends what ur realtionship is like with that person and I guess trust aswell and I find it hard to trust anyone. You don't want everyone gossiping about ur sex-life
Miss Cream xxx
Orgasminator
A couple of my friends know, mainly for safety reason. If my mother ever asked I would tell her, to be honest as a single guy I see no difference from me going out on the pull and coming home with someone, apart from this is a slightly more controlled and safer enviroment to choose your partners.
Warming the Bed
Well, I still don't get it though. I do believe that everyone fantasizes about 3sums/4sums etc, even probably our parents. Being able to express it physically is something we should be proud of!
Sex God
I have friends who know but not family.
Most of my friends are a tad on the debauched side anyway... that's why I like 'em!
Most of my friends are a tad on the debauched side anyway... that's why I like 'em!
Hey hey hey
I have told all my girlie friends and some of my guy friends. They have all had the usual reaction of "do you put car keys in bowls" and shock at first but when its fully explained they understand and just except it.
Guess maybe it is very different for a single then it is for a couple to explain to close ones.
I have told my family that I use the chatroom as a social thing only and kinda believe that keeping somethings secret add to the thrill of it all.
Would I tell them if pressed ?? Why not, whats the worst that could happen :lol:
I have told all my girlie friends and some of my guy friends. They have all had the usual reaction of "do you put car keys in bowls" and shock at first but when its fully explained they understand and just except it.
Guess maybe it is very different for a single then it is for a couple to explain to close ones.
I have told my family that I use the chatroom as a social thing only and kinda believe that keeping somethings secret add to the thrill of it all.
Would I tell them if pressed ?? Why not, whats the worst that could happen
:lol: A couple of my freinds know, plus a couple of mates who it turns out are members on here, (both of whom I've known for nearly 20 years, while 1 I would have suspected, the other was a pleasant surprise).
T has told I think one other person but that may mean that one member of her family knows as well. We'll soon see...
T has told I think one other person but that may mean that one member of her family knows as well. We'll soon see...
Sexlightened
My best mate knows what I get up to in my free time and thinks its a bloody brilliant.
and thinks its a bloody brilliant. Sexpert
My daughters both know, one of them introduced me to this site and my son thinks I'm just a perv lol, but he has never come out and asked me anything, if I did I would tell him! He is missing out lol....
My mum just thinks I am sex mad!
Only a couple of my close friends know, but thats ok cause there as pervy as me lol...
I am lucky to have a very good relationship with my kids, we have always tlked openly about things lol I call them kids, the youngest is 23!
and my son thinks I'm just a perv lol, but he has never come out and asked me anything, if I did I would tell him! He is missing out lol....My mum just thinks I am sex mad!
Only a couple of my close friends know, but thats ok cause there as pervy as me lol...
I am lucky to have a very good relationship with my kids, we have always tlked openly about things lol I call them kids, the youngest is 23!
