For me, quite simply my place is horrendous and I really don't want to subject anyone to that. I'm a student and don't have a room at home any more, nor any garage space to keep my tools/bike/car & bike spares in and no study/living room to keep a bookshelf for all my books and computer equipment/tv/games etc. For now everything I own is crammed into a below-average sized bedroom and to get in/out of bed I have to shuffle things onto/off my chair because there's nowhere else to put them. The less time I have to spend in here the better, so there's no way in hell I'd bring someone back to my place. Even after a night out it's her place or somewhere else.
Found the same problems, MissVery,it's a big pet of ours, so we won't meet singles who can't accommodate even if they offer to shell out for a hotel. Probably means some really nice guys with legit excuses are getting passed over but you have to go with what you know is the usual reasons.
There can, on occassions, be genuine reasons. I have a teenage daughter who stays with me a couple of times per week and I wouldn't think of playing whilst she's here and that usually writes off every other weekend. Some may misinterpret that.
I'm a single guy I share a house with family, if it was just me an my sister it wouldn't be a problem she knows I swing but she has a 8 yr old daughter and there is the elderly relative ok my dad who lives with us too. I've often considered getting a place of my own but practicality an circumstances dictate otherwise.
Simples really.....single guys can't accomodate cos their mrs won't let them!
O.K's, there can be another reason, but it's probably best to just make it a no go rule and thus avoid a situation which you would rather avoid.
I've house shared, we all brought lovers home. I've lived with friends and relatives, same thing, even if you're not gettin down and dirty, you can still introduce folks.
I've also lived in a house which was bein' renovated...."I won't sit down ta', i've got clean jeans on" one girl said....didn't stop her from comin back again.
I think you're a smart girl m1ss, I'm sure you'll get it right.
Bit one sided isn`t it?
I`m sure for the same reasons you cannot accom a great deal of single guys will also be in that same categorie, so why is it ok for you but for single guys it makes them "suspicious"
I used to be able to accom but then my circumstances changed a great deal and if I was still meeting there is no way I would be able to have anyone back where I live now but belive me that does not make me secretly married/engaged/attached- delete as appropriate.
Also there are quite a few of us that started out "SINGLE" meeting men "ALONE" and believe me you get a feeling for who the good ones are and who the players are
I think a lot of it is down to the shock factor of fantasy meeting reality, the realisation that someone want to move on from endless emails and crap picture swapping.
We have kids, we can accommodate... here's the clever bit - you don't do it in front of them.
Quite honestly all these claims of not seeing married men or married women because they are unfaithful or live with their dog etc... WTF? Who cares about whether they are being unfaithful or who they live with - what is it you? There moral code is not your business and neither are the reasons they can't accommodate.
Different of course if you are looking for a relationship with all the stuff that goes with that - but then again this is probably the wrong site for that.
There are plenty of men and women who can't accommodate - easy - shag them at your place or find someone who can accommodate, anyone else is probably full of shit and not worth bothering with.
are you talking about guys that advertise they can accom but then wont/cant or are you just unappy that the ones you want to meet dont list that they can accom and wont, if its the second then all i can say is 'winge winge winge'
there are many reasons why people dont accom and in a british society where it was commonplace that when you became 18ish you would leave your parents abode there are reasons why people dont admit to this which is i would say a big chance with lots of people now but also if you meet up with people from diffrent backgrounds other than british it is fairly commonplace, but there are other reasons as mentioned by a previous poster that they live with or have to care for family and dont want to introduce their private life into the home where there will be too many questions.
I knew before posting the general tone of response that would come from this thread and I'm not surprised. Generalising your attitude towards a large group of people just because of a small box being ticked or un-ticked on a profile is pretty narrow minded. Just because London busses are red doesn't mean everything red is a London bus...
