Late last night in a chat room not so very far away, on server 4 actually. I got chatting to a guy in there about the age old discussion of why i let, not by the way the word I'd use or agree with, but for the sake of , arguement I'll let it stand, my partner fuck other men/women. Now the guy got listened to and I listened to him because he was polite and friendly and, I think, genuinly interested in knowing.
He explained that he was going through divorce because of his infidelity to his wife and that though it was a shame, he could understand why his, soon to be ex, was divorcing him as he couldn't see how a man could cope with watching or knowing another was shagging his Mrs. Though he did also say he thought he could go for watching a f/f as that was different. Hey years ago I would of said the same too i guess.
I have gone through the thought process which give rise to why I like watching J copping off, love that phrase, with other people. I never got to a conclusion, I just know that I do enjoy it. At the start of our swinging adventures these guilt or worrisome thoughts tended to be far more common than they are now, though this chat did bring on the thoughts of oh what ARE we doing. Hence the post today.
We did have a great chat and I with me also asking him why he wanted, as his profile suggested. to meet with couples as his thoughts seemed a little contradictory. He replied something to the effect of "I like the idea of fucking another mans wife with him watching as it is so naughty and the idea that she is enjoying me rather than him makes it even better" Well that led on to a little more discussion , which due to daybreak arriving, was curtailed with a promise to chat soon again from us both.
Now I just want to point out that I asked the guy i chatted to if he minded me bringing this up in forum as other than people flitting in and out of the room we were in obviously just to check whether we were ok or not, as the comments any action going on in here and is that Mrs Lost, led me to assume.
Anyhow the guy said he was cool about it and might try checking out the forum for the first time. It was a good sensible late night conversation and I'd like t thank him for his company. Hope to bumpinto him n chat again sometime as Norfolk is a bit of a way from the Cotswolds to chill for an hour in the pub. Mores the pity.
Hey, I know its a long post but i really am trying to self analyse how i feel at the moment with regard to watching Mrs Lost getting shagged and enjoying it so much. Whats more me enjoying it so much. But I do though. I do I do I do I do.
I enjoy watching S getting some from another guy, some people find that odd but we're not hurting anyone and we're both comfortable with it.
We also like the idea of couple swapping although we have yet to experience it.
for me the pleasure in watching wor lass with someone else is several.
I love having sex with her and watching someone else have that pleasure too is a real sense of good will I suppose. (I am sure there are better phrases but hey, I am talking off the cuff here)
I love watching her enjoying herself doing anything. Watching someone else be a part of that pleasure is wonderful too.
A little bit of it is doing something 'different' and keeping those boundaries at full stretch. I have been in long term relationships before where the sex becomes staid and repetitive and I was well aware before this relationship that I wouldn't let it happen again.
Another reason is that there are some sexual things that can't easily be done with two people and having more people there adds to the pleasure. Also within that there might be something new to glean from a new person that we can talk about and replicate when on our own and enjoy to the full when we are with that person(s).
Having sex with other people, either separately or together only adds to our sex life together.
And I now fully realise that there is a huge difference internally between making love and fucking. Regardless of the two acts looking identical when observed.
Our philosophy as a couple is what goes on between consenting adults in there own world is fine as long as you don't try and push your beliefs etc onto others then this is whatever floats your boat is ok as long as all included in this are ok with it.
Hope that makes some kind of sense?
Sara
interesting conversation.......
okay.... I am only going to talk about it from my personal point of view, I don't proclaim to speak for anyone else.....
It isn't a case of naughtiness for me.... do you know what, that hadn't even crossed my mind till now...
For me it is a case of turning someone on, someone I happen to like (which is why I like to get to know people... but that may be a seperate side issue) and I hope that the person I am with is just as turned on, and I hope that 3rd person is as turned on as much by watching or joining in
if they weren't then I wouldn't do it.... I don't think I could do it... for it is about all parties getting a kick out of it.... if they make sense...
Is there not something about there being a social that is also stimulating. I've thought about this and I think that for a lot there could be.
The fact that in our culture we predominantly think of a sexual 'norm' to be man/woman in a monogamous relationship, possibly now a gay relationship and the sex in it even, is thought of as more 'proper' and acceptable than the public view of group sex or swinging in all its other guises.
Is there an idea that its something that by doing so is wrong but you can get away with it and enjoy it. Is there no feeling or little knowing smile to oneself afterwards, at work maybe of I screwed that guys wife or I screwed him while his Mrs watched oh its so naughty?
A very good question. My wife has told me that she would hate to see me pleasuring another woman without her being involved. Yet, I get a great turn on watching her with other men particularly (on the rare occasions) that they don't use a condom. I think it might be that one can stand back and see every detail of what is happening, paricularly the penetration and also the look on both their faces as they come. However, having said that, I have actually arranged for my wife to have a long session with a total stranger next week. He is a lot younger than me and assures me he can 'do it' several times in an afternoon. I can't wait for my wife to get back to me and tell me in minute detail what they did, at the same time as hopefully I am licking her out and tasting their joint juices.
Maybe, at the end of the day, men are just more perverted than women.
A very good question. My wife has told me that she would hate to see me pleasuring another woman without her being involved. Yet, I get a great turn on watching her with other men particularly (on the rare occasions) that they don't use a condom. I think it might be that one can stand back and see every detail of what is happening, paricularly the penetration and also the look on both their faces as they come. However, having said that, I have actually arranged for my wife to have a long session with a total stranger next week. He is a lot younger than me and assures me he can 'do it' several times in an afternoon. I can't wait for my wife to get back to me and tell me in minute detail what they did, at the same time as hopefully I am licking her out and tasting their joint juices.
Maybe, at the end of the day, men are just more perverted than women.
Good post mr l.
well for me, i get a major buzz out of seeing S having lots of fun with others, i love to see her enjoying and being enjoyed.
Likewise if all is comfortable about it, why sit there and question the enjoyment to be had.
Life is hard enough and you only have the one so enjoy it to the limits
I have no idea what you are talking about. I am the epitome of normal.
Everything I like and enjoy is normal.
Doesn't everyone like being fucked with a 10" strap-on whilst being whipped to the tune of 'whipcrackaway' ?
well lostie babe.
a good post that is close to both mine and sams hearts. as you have seen with your own eyes i do love to see sam enjoying herself with one or more others. i feel that along with enjoying someone else pleasuring and being pleasured by sam, i get off on the fact that when all is said and done she goes home with me and is mine the rest of the time.
dave x
It's like a live porn show right in front of you, by someone you know you really fancy, and who doesn't get turned on by porn?!!
Love watching!!
Maz xx
Good post lost!
I am writing as the female in such a relationship.
Took me a while to understand why hubby would want to see me with other guys. I questioned him loads before taking up this lifestyle, a few months on and a couple of guys later, all i can say is wow. I have not only enjoyed exporing others guys and enjoying having sex with them, the look on hubbies face is lovely to. We both get so much out of doing this, done right and by choosing carefully we have met some really nice guys.
My impression on this lifestyle has been totally liberating for us both. Who knows how long it will last but while we are both happy will continue.
We prefer to play as a couple but I enjoy seeing Mrs with other men. The only proviso is I have to like them too!! Not sexually but I think it would be perverse to let someone I don't have any good connection with enjoy my lovely lady.
Dee just loves cock and i cant keep up with her
seriously as most men on this post have said i just love watching Dee enjoying herself, and Dee loves nothing more than a good hard cock.
I am male love to see my wife takrn by other men she wasnt keen at first but now she loves it. I dress in stockings, suspenders and satin lingerie give them both oral then sit back and watch, when they have finished I clean them both. I am not allowed to cum until she says so. ahow lucky am I!!!!
oi lost you sick bunch of perves letting your mrs shag someone else while you watchin is hey who am i to judge it the eight wonder of the world keep up the good work:grin:grin
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