Your first munch

25 May 2005

I havent been to a "proper munch"
I have been to a few socials, parties and mini-munchs.
My first social i was nervous as hell. I was introcuded to everyone and well looked after.
6 months later I still get nervous and still get intoduced to everyone.
MikeC

25 May 2005

Changing the subject a little.
My wife and I have found it hard to even be acknowledge in our emails to Munch organisers let alone be invited to a Munch. As my wife Claire is very shy meeting people for the first time, we decided a Munch would be the best approach for us, in terms of building a friendship with potential swinger partners.. For Claire knowing someone and feeling she can trust them is the biggest thing.. So a Munch rather than a party would suit us more.... but how to get a bloody invite is the biggest problem..???
I'm guessing as we post more often on SH and build up a relationship here, we're more likely to be invited in time... However we would be very appreciative of anyone elses advise.

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
Changing the subject a little.
My wife and I have found it hard to even be acknowledge in our emails to Munch organisers let alone be invited to a Munch. As my wife Claire is very shy meeting people for the first time, we decided a Munch would be the best approach for us, in terms of building a friendship with potential swinger partners.. For Claire knowing someone and feeling she can trust them is the biggest thing.. So a Munch rather than a party would suit us more.... but how to get a bloody invite is the biggest problem..???
I'm guessing as we post more often on SH and build up a relationship here, we're more likely to be invited in time... However we would be very appreciative of anyone elses advise.

My hubby (knightrider69) is shy too as he does not get much time to meet people due to him working nights. We are wating to be invited to a munch as well but I know I will be very nervous. As I dont drink alchole I wont be able to calm down. I am also hopeless at remembering names so I hope at my first munch people will be able to forgive me.

25 May 2005

Kit-Off, I have two words for you....Vodka Mudshakes Edit/ I'll take your word on the vanilla flavour, but think I'll stick to the choccie one ta wink

And to answer your question, though you already know, I was soooo nervous my first munch. First person I recognised from the site was the man with his own association himself. He put me at ease. Then I went on to get horribly drunk,snogged loadsa people, fought with the fag machine (why do I always fight?) , threaten to kidnap Rainbows (anyone know where she is lately?) and got dumped by my bedbuddy rolleyes

All in all?
A brilliant bloody night.

25 May 2005

I have yet to attend my first munch, and i had a dream about this last night, which as done nothing for my nerves i can tell you, i dreamt that when i was at the munch one of the guys there(called marcus... is there a marcus on this site?) made me stand on the table and show my boobs to everyone confused

thats all i can remember about the dream and its scared me stiff..lol
So if there is anyone called marcus, i know who i will be avoiding on my 1st munch biggrin

Lindaxxx

25 May 2005

Quote by Kit-Off2
My hubby (knightrider69) is shy too as he does not get much time to meet people due to him working nights. We are wating to be invited to a munch as well but I know I will be very nervous. As I dont drink alchole I wont be able to calm down. I am also hopeless at remembering names so I hope at my first munch people will be able to forgive me.

If we ever get invited to an Essex Munch we'll look out for you both (not that we know what you look like?) We are actually the people we are in our avatar and you cant miss Claire she's tiny at 4' 11".. Unlike your hubby I work very early mornings, 3am I'm up.. but I get to meet so many people every day and have a chat and a cup of tea with some of them... As long as others are willing to speak to me I'll always listen, just as long as its not about football, if its football waffle, then speak to the Mrs (She's a Tottenham Fan though)
As for calming down yourself, its just a Munch, and as I understand it, its just a social gathering of like minded people, so plenty of drinking, talking, teasing and flirting. Theirs no pressure to swing after the munch its completely upto you and your partner. This is why it would suit ourselves perfectly.

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
Changing the subject a little.
I'm guessing as we post more often on SH and build up a relationship here, we're more likely to be invited in time... However we would be very appreciative of anyone elses advise.

and thats the right way to do it...you need to either post or get known in the chat room beofre you are liable to get invited to a munch. If you watch when a munch gets stickied, you will see that the world and it's mother suddenly decide that they wanna be a part of things which if you think about it, aint really on. Whilst ya never can be sure ( a few of us aint the same in real life) there is a comfort in getting to know folk through their posts or through chat, this then helps the organisers make a choice on the invites that is at least based on a gut feeling about a character cos lets face it, who really wants to turn up at a social and find it's populated with errmm numpties...yep thats the word numpties....a general catch all description for, well....numpties.
As for attending a first munch then I wasn't that nervous as I had already built up a relationship with a number of members through posting and I'm used to meeting new people anyways.

25 May 2005

Quote by Lindaxxx
So if there is anyone called marcus, i know who i will be avoiding on my 1st munch

I reckon it's nigh on impossible to ignore the chap you are referring to. Best chap around for getting a munch going, loads of energy, loads of laughs and a comic genius. All this and I have only met him once!
Linda - you will love your first munch - everyone seems to have nerves, but the people on this site are so nice that those nerves quickly dissapear.
For my sins, I have been really lucky. My first munch was a mini mini munch - there was only 5 of us. However, it did give me an oppertunity to meet the most incredible woman ever.
The second was a mini mini mini munch - just 4 this time. Spent the evening in the coldest pub in Britain, shivering, but heck it was fun.
The numbers did increase after that, it seems that the south coast munches will always remain just a mini munch.
The last and probably the best was Rio's. Wow what a time.
I just need to pull my finger out and see if I can get an invite to a northern munch.

25 May 2005

Dave,
I just looked up Numpties and I'm affraid its not in the dictionary.. Surprise...Surprise LOL
Can you clarify what a Numptie is? What would one look like? and are they indigenous to the UK only? LOL
Seriously I dont know of the Numptie terminology, please enlighten me. Thanks

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
Dave,
I just looked up Numpties and I'm affraid its not in the dictionary.. Surprise...Surprise LOL
Can you clarify what a Numptie is? What would one look like? and are they indigenous to the UK only? LOL
Seriously I dont know of the Numptie terminology, please enlighten me. Thanks

Fool, idiot, twat, dickhead, time waster type of thing :lol2:

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
Dave,
I just looked up Numpties and I'm affraid its not in the dictionary.. Surprise...Surprise LOL
Can you clarify what a Numptie is? What would one look like? and are they indigenous to the UK only? LOL
Seriously I dont know of the Numptie terminology, please enlighten me. Thanks

Numpties are not specific to the U.K. and are difficult to spot. Generally their dress and demeanor can give you a pointer, but some of the fuckers have taken to disguise and ya never really discover they are a numpty until you've cornered yourself in a bar or some such establishment with em.

25 May 2005

our first munch was filled with regret , we arrived late(got lost in wigan) , had to leave early (cos i fooked up with the date and we were having a meet on the same night at a club confused

) so felt a bit rude not saying hello to everyone , so next time i`ll get hornyred to do the diary and we hope to meet everyone that goes wink

25 May 2005

So Dawn,
I take it that a lot of Numpties used to slip through the net and turn up.. Primarily men posing as couples or Young lads just wanting a quick shag? or does it included women (Numptets perhaps) biggrin

Verification of us as a couple wouldn't be a problem webcam/phone call etc.. so I'm guessing as Davej said its really just a matter of getting to know the people on the site and eventually getting an invite in time.

25 May 2005

Quote by Libra+Love
threaten to kidnap Rainbows (anyone know where she is lately?)

She is alive and well Libra. Was in touch with her the other day but it IS quiet without her on here rolleyes

Back on topic......
Our first munch was Glasgow and we had a fabulous time!
It helped that we had met with a couple of the regulars the day before for coffee biggrin

We had also been chatting to a couple of lovely people for quite a while before the munch and we got to finally meet them for the first time at the munch. We all went in together so there was no feeling of nerves walking through the door!
Once inside the venue, we were made to feel very welcome by the organiser :D
The night goes VERY fast though and it must be difficult to find time to talk to everyone you want to if its one of the bigger gatherings!
One of the most interesting parts of the evening is definately putting the faces to the names for the first time :D
Can't wait for our next munch :mrgreen:
Fee
XX

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
So Dawn,
I take it that a lot of Numpties used to slip through the net and turn up.. Primarily men posing as couples or Young lads just wanting a quick shag? or does it included women (Numptets perhaps)
Verification of us as a couple wouldn't be a problem webcam/phone call etc.. so I'm guessing as Davej said its really just a matter of getting to know the people on the site and eventually getting an invite in time.

The more u use the site u become a active newbie either in the forums or the chatroom and the invites will come in time.
Running a munch myself and i turn down people u have just joined the site but if see they are active newbies or someone can vouch for them as geniune then they will get a invite. So dont be dishearted things will happen in time.
hugs
Babe1
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25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
We are actually the people we are in our avatar and you cant miss Claire she's tiny at 4' 11".. .

Been looking at your avatar.... if your lass is only 4' 11" .....how tall are you!!!!!!!
Serious mode=On
Mt first munch was Nottingham last October, and I almost didn't make it as I was still feeling quite ill , then I did decide after Wishmaster phoned me. Which, because I was late meant I got pulled by the cops on the M1 for clocking ..
I couldn't drink, so couldn't steady my nerves, and I was very nervous. But it was fine. It isn't just said, it is meant, that people really are welcoming and friendly.
If you get to know people from either the forum or chat-room, you'll already know someone there, if not by face by personality. But the name badges help, especially as most people look nothing like you imagine them.
Some "old-timers" still get nervous, but it's expectaton and a thrill. I would go to them all if I could get the time off...
Someone was saying to me earlier about dress code, and imagining it was full of skimpyly dressed people cavorting half naked. If you imagine a variety of people who have all turned up, from all walks of life, with a quite similar outlook,dressed (mostly) as you would for a good night out, (excluding the lovely Tanina and Marmalaids cape) , then you'll get the idea.
You'll love it....

25 May 2005

Hi all,
As a newbie and my first post ... I'm thrilled with the amount of info and advice I'm finding on SH,
Personally speaking - I think I'd rather get to know some people thru these forums and then eventually be invited to a munch. -- I don't blame anyone for wanting to get to know newbies before they start inviting them to anything..... I'd be exactly the same. Especially considering I'm one of the thousands of single guys looking to get more into the scene.
But to me this site seems the ideal way to make a gradual entrance to the scene and get to know people and make friends. - I'm sure in time the rest will come (oops excuse the pun).
In the mean time Thanx to all of you for all the great info and advice smile

And I hope to get to know many of you as time progresses ;)

25 May 2005

Quote by Shikukai
I just looked up Numpties and I'm affraid its not in the dictionary..

From the online dictionary of slang:

numpty: Noun. A fool, idiot. Also spelt numbty and numptie.

Mike.

25 May 2005

I have my first Munch coming up shortly the one in yorks, at the moment i am feeling a little bit nervous about it (like you would starting a new job or something) but after speaking to several people on here the nerves are going and being replaced by excitment, keep talking on the chat and in the forums and people will fathom what sort of person you are!! biggrin

25 May 2005

Postie,
I'm actually a hobbit, and since the Dark Lord Salron is now out of a job so am I.. So thought we'd try swinging instead now... Claires taller in the Avatar because she's a dwarf.
Narr I'm sitting down and 5'10"

25 May 2005

Like most have said before me, I was nervous, and twice driving to the venue, I almost turned round and went back home, but in the end treated it like any other social event where you are going to meet new people.
So glad I did get there, met some great people and had a good laugh. Am now trying to get to as many as possible to put faces to names, and have some idea whom I'm talking to on here.
John
smile

25 May 2005

Quote by Libra+Love
Kit-Off, I have two words for you....Vodka Mudshakes Edit/ I'll take your word on the vanilla flavour, but think I'll stick to the choccie one ta
And to answer your question, though you already know, I was soooo nervous my first munch. First person I recognised from the site was the man with his own association himself. He put me at ease. Then I went on to get horribly drunk,snogged loadsa people, fought with the fag machine (why do I always fight?) , threaten to kidnap Rainbows (anyone know where she is lately?) and got dumped by my bedbuddy
All in all?
A brilliant bloody night.

Yes it is true about the Mudshakes but who got me drinking in the first place. I never drunk untill I ment you. ha ha ha ha

25 May 2005

Quote by Atlantis
Hi all,
As a newbie and my first post ... I'm thrilled with the amount of info and advice I'm finding on SH,
Personally speaking - I think I'd rather get to know some people thru these forums and then eventually be invited to a munch. -- I don't blame anyone for wanting to get to know newbies before they start inviting them to anything..... I'd be exactly the same. Especially considering I'm one of the thousands of single guys looking to get more into the scene.
But to me this site seems the ideal way to make a gradual entrance to the scene and get to know people and make friends. - I'm sure in time the rest will come

A very wise observation Atlantis. As I and others have mentioned before, it is worth pointing out to people hoping to come to a munch, but who have not posted very much in the forum, that you might feel a bit lost if you do get invited to a munch. The more you have posted in here, and I mean posts that show something of your personality, your opinions and sense of humour (rather than just posts about making contact), the more you have become "known" to others here, and the easier that will make it to break the ice when you are face to face with fellow SH members, quite a few of whom are shyer than you think. Of course there are exceptions to this, especially if the new person is very outgoing, but it is generally true.
Mike.

25 May 2005

My first munch was the Glasgow one earlier this year. I was rather nervous on the way there but was made to feel very welcome from the minute I arrived to the minute I left.

25 May 2005

Well one good thing from this is the number of people who enjoyed their first munches smile

but on to my first munch... I was saved by the organiser Heather. Took me and the others who needed it under her wing, provided directions by phone on the day, and just made the whole thing work for me... Wonderful day despite getting lost and everything that went wrong on route...
Mine was a small munch, now known as a mini munch of initially only 4 people, we grew to 10 - 15 in the pub later. Everyone chatted openly and we all just gelled, amazing night.
I have since done a big munch, the Notts one and all in all very similar despite the higher numbers, organised a mini munch in Portsmouth, and made the Medieval Banquet, great times at them all.
So anyone thinking should I munch, yes every time. :)

25 May 2005

Quote by Manolishi
For my sins, I have been really lucky. My first munch was a mini mini munch - there was only 5 of us. However, it did give me an oppertunity to meet the most incredible woman ever.
The second was a mini mini mini munch - just 4 this time. Spent the evening in the coldest pub in Britain, shivering, but heck it was fun.

:shock: I hope thats not an omen lol

:lol: We might have to retract the invite to the West Sussex drinkies if thats the case rotflmao

Only joking wink

Our one and only munch was the Mids munch last year organised by the lovely Dawn & Ian kiss

We had a fantastic time :lol: It was like going to a pub with your mates on a Saturday night...
There was a lot of screaming oooohhhhhh it's you!! :lol: :lol: Personally I didn't have any nerves at all, I cant speak for Steve though...
Providing you dont get any numpties or people that think the rules of conduct at munches doesn't apply to them then you are guaranteed to have a fantastic night :thumbup:
Shireen
xxx

25 May 2005

Thank you for all of your replys. It has been a great help to me. As I am now going to my first much next Saterday I will keep in mind what everyone has said. If you have any more advise please feel free to tell me. I am really looking forward to it and I just hope I have just as much of a good time as you all seem to have had.