Quote by Funlovers2009
It's not just me then?
Certainly not, we're right there with you and I'd hazard a guess and say it's much more in attendance than you think. In some ways it may even be 'normal'
J
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2toshare
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 47
Bisexual Male, 57
United Kingdom
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Quote by Funlovers2009
It is a self confidence thing. I know that when we get a messages and they're a good looking couple I do have this thing of "why would they want us?" I also look at the female half of the couple and if she's really skinny, I wonder why he would want me. I kinda think that if he's used to being with a skinny girl then that's his preference?? Now, dont get me wrong, I wouldnt class myself as a BBW or even as fat and I think my face is ok ..... but I have my empty baby bag!!
We dont go short of meets but we could play a hell of a lot more than we do, and with some really nice couples if it wasn't for me and my issues.
So should I be turning people away because I think that they may be disappointed when they see me or just think "what the hell, they contacted us!" ??
Ahh, now you're getting to it, I don't 'think' you should be turning anyone away because you see yourself as disappointing them and neither should you go to the other end of the scale and think 'they contacted us so we'll fuck em regardless'
Is is disappointment? or is it that you've set the bar too high and it's a way of weeding some out, a sort of defence mechanism?
Over time we've turned down and been turned down but as time went on and we lived out some of our various fantasies we found ourselves narrowing our search field simply because we knew what we wanted and what we were looking for...which for a time works but if you're not careful you soon find yourself refusing 99/9% of invitations and for the most trivial and perhaps unfair of reasons....which if allowed to fester does eventually bring you to a point where you pretty much stop playing because nobody suits you.
Thankfully we've recognised that we've been a bit too fussy (not to be confused with desperate) and although we still have our own standards we realised that by being so fussy we're missing out on what could be good fun.
We're not the most aesthetically pleasing to the eye (thats what Andy tells me :lol: ) and neither are we super fit and body beautiful...but what we are is secure in the knowledge that we're as good as the next.
J
