Why not - surely one website offering a view on whether a hotel in an area is any good is no different from another.
We are not looking for a hotel to play in - we have club to do that!
Just peoples feedback on good hotels in the area is what we are looking for.
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We are going to Blackpool over the weekend and would like someone else's recommendations on nice hotels or B&B's.
Late Rooms offers these:
But, personal recommendation would be preferred.
Basically, we like the Funny Girls end of town as the atmosphere & bars are spot on, and we have found a good restaurant around there.
Any suggestions welcome for places to have a look at.
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we will be there.
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Who is going to Infusion on the 24th May?
We are looking for a lovely young couple to play with...
;-)
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Infusion Blackpool - 21st March
Anyone going?
We are thinking about it?
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what were you thinking?
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* Don't worry we were all new once, and we thought this is good becasue perhaps people may talk to you more if you're new
We hadn't thought of it like that - maybe that is a really good thing - its a fine line between confident and brash in this situation however
Course not, everyone looks the same, we always get that nervous feel but each time does get easier
Good, We couldn't work out whether it was the anticipation that was making us petrified or the fact that it might lead to something
We've experienced many ways of playing, meeting at a club to play, playing side by side and joining in, chatting and "officially" deciding to go to a room together and not even talking just brushing against each other in the pool and starting to play. You can't plan it, just go with what feels right on the night.
it makes perfect sense, but i felt it was worth asking ;-)
Course not!! You chat to see if you get on, have sexual chemistry, if you don't move on....it's what we're all there for. Having said that I sometimes feel scared to smile at people in clubs for fear of being jumped on (auction kinda nose scratch!)
Again tricky one. Often if people play beside you and they give lots of eye contact or touch you slightly, this could mean they are interested in playing. We've been floating in a pool when another cpl touched us in the water which we sharply followed up on!
I guess its because if you go to a bar - everyone has been to a bar or pub before and they know the format - you go to the bar, you queue, you give them your money, take your drink and the change and then move out of the way and stand/sit somewhere. You may then talk to the people who are around you and then may buy them a drink. If a guy buys a single woman a drink it normally implies something, if a guy buys a couple a drink it normally implies that they are getting on well, it doesn't imply that he wants to play with them... Where as all these kind of assumptions just don't apply in a swinging club... and no-one knows the rules of engagement so to speak. LOL
We are always amazed at this, that flirting is so unapparent in clubs! I think many people are scared of rejection ultimately so afraid to make moves.
I think we may have to be a lot more provacative next time...
Watch!!! Unless they are in a locked room, then generally watching is expected and often wanted (yum)! You never know you may get invited to join in...and don't be scared to say hello and that you're enjoying the show!
Damn! ;-) Would have loved to watch them...
Other than that...........relax! Try not to question everything and go with the flow. Next time will be easier, I was a rabbit in headlights first time!
I think that we must have looked like that too, we were like teenagers to be honest, couldn't sit still, and when we did we were just talking nervously - neither of us can remember what we said or talked about.
I think that the one point that you mentioned that does stick out is the fear.
One being of rejection and the second of someone you don't like the look of being interested in you.
We are a young couple, and the majority of people who we saw on Saturday were quite a lot older - not that we have any kind of problem with this, but it maybe wharps you boundaries of attraction. IE. If there is no-one there under 35 for intance (there were on Saturday, but say that there weren't) then you would automatically be searching for the person "nearest" to your desires.
You are in an environment, where you expect something to happen rather than not and hope that it will. So I wonder if we need to be more strict about what we do and don't want rather than being worried about offending people or worrying about being offended by people saying no?
More thoughts and opinions welcome... :-)
Mr. Absolute
WOW, after quite a wild weekend on the shores of the Northern Riviera of Blackpool, we now have some questions...
On Saturday night, we decided that after a lovely Chinese meal on the North Shore, that at the very last minute we swallowed our fears and nerves and just went to go to Infusion (Blackpool) at about 10pm. We wandered about for a bit trying to find the street, with no success so rang up and got the directions and ended up getting a cab as we decided it was too far to walk.
From this comes question number one and :
If you are getting a cab to a Bar or a Club of this nature, do you get dropped off at the door, or at the top of the street and walk down? Do Taxi drivers ever have a problem doing this / give you any abuse?
and question two;
Is it wrong to need a little bit of Dutch courage as we were petrified at the prospect of going through a UPVC door and couldn't find a pub nearby to get a stiff drink? ;-)
We got into the reception - and were calmed considerably by the lovely girl on the reception, we didn't know what to expect and to be honest didn't want to be "shown" around as we felt we would look like idiots being shown around...
question three;
Are people at clubs for the first time that easy to spot or is everyone just as nervous regardless of the number of times that you have been?
We went and sat in the lounge and then by the pool, then explored a little bit upstairs and then watched a few people frolicking about in the pool and after about an hour decided that we would go for it and went and got changed into a towel. We had a quick dip and a little bit of banter with the people around us, and decided to go and have a play together in one of the rooms.
We ended up coming back downstairs and got talking to another couple who were also new that night and had a lovely natter while watching the people playing in the pool.
Question four;
We just got talking to this lovely couple, but are there any things that we need to know about like the masons handshake? (I jest somewhat, but there is a serious question underneith) If we get up and pro-actively go and talk to a couple are they expecting us to play with them from that point on?
We ended up having a bit of a play together and another couple came in and watched / played together in front of us, we didn't know if they wanted to play or what, because as with a lot of people who we saw / were near to - very little was said...
question five;
Is swinging a quiet society, as we thought on the whole that people were quite quiet / non chatty or is that because we didn't know anyone there? We weren't particularly bold just walking up to people, but that was because we felt that we should respect peoples privacy somewhat.
question six;
What time should we think about going to a club like that, because it was quite quiet when we arrived and seemed to be packed at when we were leaving? or is each one different?
question seven;
As I was walking around the pool, a lovely looking couple were sat on a swing chair, she was lounged over him with her legs spread playing as I walked past, I felt like I wanted to look, and that I wanted to watch, but where is this / isn't this appropriate, I didn't want to look like an idiot by standing there gawping, but at the same time, I wanted to watch, is this a point where you should ask if you can watch or just sit quietly nearby and see what happens?
Sorry for all the questions, I am just curious about what different people say in response as we have mulled over it the last few days and come up with about a million answers and are just thinking about it too much so wanted other peoples opinions...
But all in all, we felt this was a fantastically liberating experience and that everyone who was there was having a great time.
Mr & Ms. Absolute
where do we submit our stories please?
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right posh kate - mr curious here, I will speak to miss absolute ref party at yours ;-)
thank you for your welcomes, very kind.
we are off to bedfordshire now... yawn.
sweet dreams, keep your hands above the quilt...
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Thank you for the welcome you lot, very kind of you, yes we travel - quite a lot, not as much as we are both used to, but hopefully that will change at the end of the summer.
Sorry to be Naive, what is GFZ that wineman is at?
We are planning to go on a bit of an adventure towards the end of the month and may venture out to a club, but tonight we are heading back to where we met the couples we met the other night ;-)
We will reply properly tomorrow, as it is just a quickie on our way out the door.
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If you're offended by someone saying 'no' to you, then you might want to think about whether you should be doing this anyway. If you expect people to say 'yes' to you all the time, you're going to be disappointed.
