What is a sufficient amount of alcohol? Enough to extend the staying power but not enough to delude yourself that you are better than ever , a fantastic lover etc.... but then reducing sensitivity can be another challenge....quality versus duration.... really good sex is the best stimulant so the need for alcohol is less ...know which I would prefer!
Lusty - how does it affect you - for better or for worse?
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I came from under the :bounce: gooseberry :bounce: bush... :!:
At least that's what my mum told me when I was 4...
Fine... seemed ok for a year or two... then I started wondering.
How did I get there... wasnt I cold... we dont have a gooseberry bush... how did they know I was there...:
Then I realised... the penny had dropped... off I ran to my big sister in anxt to proclaim proudly..."I know where babies come from, they come out of your belly button"...
With wich she replied..."oh dont be so stupid , they come out your bum"... :eeek:
Interesting to know where you came from???
Jeeerusaalem.....she cried as he finally exploded drenching her at the moment of her final orgasm.......where did you come from?
Blake was unsure about whether she wanted to know about his prowess or the fact he came from Manchester but was now living in Lancashire
Quote by Caron_sw
Hi all, (well hi the few left on here that have not disappeared to a munch tonight)
Me and Mrs Pete, where just having a convo about “open relationships†and a few questions came up that we didn’t have the answers to, sooooooooooooo we thought, now who would know this,
:small-print: I have used my friendly search button, so if its been done b4 just point me to it and feel free to lock. :jagsatwork:
Ok, going by our experience on messenger, Caron gets on average 10 male contacts to every one of my female contacts. (we have left couples out of the equation for the purpose of this thread) So, we thought, if we were in an open relationship, as opposed to a swinging partnership, she would be off shagging 24/7, whilst I would be lucky to get it once a quarter,
Question, does this extrapolate into real life? And if so, how do you deal with it? Is the “once a quarter†partner expected to shrug and just accept it? Or is there a mechanism of balance (I cant really see that working ……… “OK you’ve had your share for the month, my turn nowâ€)
If I was being honest I would have to say that I’m not sure if I could handle it, and surprisingly but happily (for me) Mrs P said that she thought it would be really unfair. :shock:
So ok, its quite obvious that we are not ready for an open relationship, but would be really interested to hear what others think about the idea, especially those who have some experience of the subject.
Discuss. :jagsatwork:
I guess other perspectives could be that you could both agree on what amount of time you spend in open relationships on a comparable basis... that one person may have a higher sex drive and can take that into consideration..... that the women may have more contacts but as a consequence they can afford to be more choosy.....
Quote by Valton
On Channel 5 tonight there is a programme called Real Wife Swap about a retired coouple who enjoy swinging and have visited an Amsterdam couples club. Unfortunately they find that they are older than most participants and settle for wining and dining; the buffet is the liveliest part of the night for them.
This prompts me to ask "when do others think it is time to hang up the boots?"
Personally, I fancy going on till the mind gives in. Mrs V just wants new boots.
There is no such thing as too old - but think one has to allow for age diffrences - each person has a feel for how much younger or older they want ....you are as young as the person you are feeling... at 45 for me it does not always feel right with anyone below 30 ......Perhaps there should be a Saga Swingers site.....
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Have you ever been somewhere, i.e. a village...... that you know you haven't been to before..... and the place feels familiar????
Or met someone and thought 'strange.... it feels as though i know this person, but thats impossible... as we've only just been introduced....'?????????
Or the strange little voice inside you telling you that something isn't right???? A feeling strong enough in my case, to have changed a ferry ticket at the last moment......
Is it just coincidence?????
Or do we possess a sixth sense about things??????
equi-princess xxx
I think that a lot of people have ESP type abilities but it is not universal .... I think my instincts are usually good on a lot o fthings ...... I have conections with certain people - once was going out with someone who lived in another town and she drove past me a few days later but neither of us has spoken to the other at the time - I spoke to her later that day and shared that feeling of her passsing by - very weird like her emotionally approaching and passing by ..... I feel some people put out signals and some are good at receiving - some both......some places have powerful natural energies that boost things as well - like Glastonbury
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Calm down boys, calm down boys, it’s only a COMMERCIAL…remember that old chap from Esure TV ad. Okay I actually do agree with all the above arguments, it’s more than just various parts of the body. Sure personality counts; there’s charm, that smile, the way she walks, the way she talks, the way with her eyes, the way she oozes confidence, that certain fire/sexuality about her presence, some intelligence and compassion would be nice…shit, for a moment I thought I was a man!!!
Also agree with guys who insist she could have all three…what women wouldn’t. But the bottom line of the bottom line is, if I were a man I’d go NUTS over the legs…legs that wrap…legs spread out wide open…legs that squat...legs flying in the air...to say “Fuck me, your Majesty!†so for me legs is sex. However if I had to choose a body part I’d like in a man, it’s gotta be the BUTTOCKS.
If some of you guys choose to be too serious and over analytical :taz: about this fun poll, you might run the risk of frightening the girls away. :violin:
Have a laugh, have a Kit Kat and enjoy the beers with Carling-Carlsberg-Castlemaine beer commercials, not forgetting Foster which almost had you convinced that tall Amazon girls are useful beer cooler. :cheers:
Lusty, OK on a fun basis its often something physical that grabs me by the balls and says wow this woman has hit the jackpot and my one arm bandit wants to dump its load all over the floor - but it could be something other than the 3 parts mentioned. - sexual attraction is more than that ....Each woman has her own good qualities...... if a man saw you which part do you think would turn him on....Blake
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I'm led to believe British men are supposed to be primarily ahwoar: ‘boobs’ man in line with American man (supposedly Italians are a Legs man, forgot which nationality for bum). And are there ‘boobs’ man who actually prefer smaller tits? Dying of curiosity, so the poll.
First of all a woman should have a wonderful personality, be intelligent, do endless amounts of charity work, take the infirm across level crossings and be a understanding person to all who contact her.
After that its not boobs, bum or legs for me its about sexiness - its just hits you - no one thing just the person. I like boobs but size is unimportant - shape and nipples are dimensions that vary..... I like a good arse and I have seen some wonderful examples on this site..... whilst I am straight I have to acknowledge that some guys have a good arse as well .......lovely legs are great..
But there have been women who have delightful shares in all those areas but I don't fancy them .....
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I believe that humans are not naturally monogamous.
We (a lot of the species) have been conditioned and it is recieved behaviour.
Another big chunk of the species are not monogamous, or at least weren't till so-called civilization came along and put them right.
If we were naturally monogamous, then we would not all, whether swingers or Priests, take a sly look at what's around us, every day, would we?
I totally agree with Vix on this one - there are some species who mate for life but the human race is not one - based on the evidence. It is clear that there are some people who for whatever reasons have lower or higher sex drives. Across all cultures there has been a tendency to one to promote monogamy.... Sex is a primal need but it is stronger in some that others .. its enables the species to grow .... naturally those wilh a higher sex drive reproduce more than other.... I don't think its gene but there could be an element to it...whatever.... practise is always beter than theory .... but its an interesting thread..... why do some give up whilst others dont....Blake
Quote by equi-princess
If you were lucky enough to be given three wishes....... and they could be anything in the whole wide world................except to wish for more wishes..... lol
What would you wish for????????
And why???????????
equi-princess xxx
Mine would be
1. Health To allow everyone in th world to have good health / abolish disease and disabilities
2. Wealth - Everyone across the worlf to have a decent minimum standard of living but prevent people becoming rich
3. Love and Happiness - Allow everyone to acheive their hearts desires.. prevent wars and acts ot terrorism /agression
It reads like I am being interviwed for a beauty queen pageant - when what I wnat to say is I want to open lots of supermarkets, earn lots olf money and get laid !
People have used Vanilla a few times recently so I looked it up as a google search to make sure I was not geeting it wrong - and ended up with 1001 variations - anyone offer a good definition and a good site that gives all the words used for people who think they know most but find they are being used in different ways - expereinced guy of 45 wanting to know what all the permutations are called nowadays! Blake
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Hello all, Im very new on here and have been having a look around the site. I am married with kids and ...well I like what I see! however I have a wife who most certainly wouldnt like what Im seeing. Ive been faithfully married for 19 years but getting pretty peed off by my wifes decreasing interest in sex (queue up those with the "have you tried....etc" ...yes I have and some maybe my fault but I am not taking the blame, I am prepared to try different thingswithin our marriage but my wife most certainly is not) hence the dear deadrie post. Is there abyone else who has been or is in a similar situation? if so do you, or anyone have any advice before I wank myself stupid? this post will look like I havent got a clue what I want...well havent but quite open minded. have a dig if you feel like it but this is how it is.
Dear Seeker, I have been the victim of raising this challenge before and know what it feels to be on the receiving end - sure people should express how they feel but my gripe is that it should be done in a non judgemental and less critical manner so that open discussion takes place. FB was outrageous in stating ....either go to a prostitute or go to relate... life is not black and white sometimes there are many shades of grey..... People in sexually fulfilling relationships are very fortunate but in the wider population sadly I guess most people are not. As a few posts have said there is a lot of hypocrisy about .... cheating happens but most people wont admit it.... many wont comment because they are doing it and dont want to de identified.... if you can avoid cheating by all means that would be best ..... but I am not here to judge anyone's morals and would prefer it if more people were the same. Blake
Quote by donsidelovers
I do find it somewhat strange that a website that purports to be liberal in its views on sex should so often offer quite straight-laced views on 'cheating' and the like.
I really wish people would leave the moral judgements behind when they post and simply ignore those whose actions and thoughts they cannot abide.
I have selectively quoted you on what I see as the two major points of your post.
So, are you going to lecture Blake for saying we all have a 'Victorian approach'?
In my opinion, his post was worded in a way that would invite criticism. Blake had no need to fancy up his post. He wants to meet females for sex with or without their partners' consent. Why not just post that? I only looked at the post because I remember that the last time he advertised, he said that he was single and wondered whether he'd try it again. Like NN, I think we can be open-minded enough to swing whilst in a relationship, but still care enough about the person who is being cheated on.
I am not writing in support of any particular person or situation but in response to a general attitude that seems to be prevalent among certain people who post here (and not singling out anyone in this thread in particular).
Actually, Blake has a pretty good idea when he mentions Victorian attitudes: The Victorian era is viewed as a highly moral and sexually uptight era (by today's standards) but it was also the time when modern pornography was born. The Victorian times could be epitomised by the public maintenance of moral society while the very same people were busy exploring every deviance going in the privacy of their homes. Those of us here who swing are going beyond what our normal society deems to be acceptable yet some of us still want to lecture others on moral behaviour. What that shows is that morals are defined primarily by our own views on the world and therefore it begs the question why does anyone think they are entitled to morally judge anyone else?
In a previous post I was criticised for describing myself as single in my profile so I modified everything to make matters clear because as a newbie I did not know what word to use. I have always be open with everyone I have exchanged PMs and Emails with about my situation. This thread was not from my perspective about cheating but about the right of people not to be judged so harshly by some members who had a thing about cheaters. The posts from Donsidelovers said it far better than I did. My reference to Victorrian attitudes was about the double standards. I think this thread opened up the debate on a wider basis this time - lets have openess and lets not judge - it stifles discussion. I am a mature guy of 45 who treats people with respect including my partner who sexual needs are not as great as my own. If I am open about that I am not seeking anyones approval but would prefer not to be condemned either. My thread was about lets respect the fact that some people need extra relationships and should be able to chat about that in the same way that lots of other topics get discussed. Blake
There are males and females who have partners who are less sexually active or inclned than themselves for all sorts of reasons. They need the opportunity to both chat about their situation and obviously the opportunity to meet others where they can satisfy their mutual needs. It really is not helpful to have individuals or couples who don't have that sort of a challenge telling them not to cheat , go to Relate or take cold showers etc. Very Victorian approach! Ideally we would all like to be in relationships where we can be fully sexually satisfied. In reality not everyone is so fortunate. I would like to meet single women or women in similar situations who can respect that I have thought about all that this means and am looking for some no strings fun. I know I am not unique but we just need the opportunities without the critics stating the obvious. Blake ( advert 368027 )
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wouldent like to come across her :eeek:
When boobs get that big they are not attractive anymore to me.... All the ones so kindly displayed my ladies on this site are far more sexier...... but of course I would be willing to provide a more intimate assessment to any lady wanting an opinion! Blake
Hi - I am Blake in a relationship that does not satisfy my high sex drive - see advert 368027 for details. I am looking for some discrete usually daytime meets. I am 45 years fit and still in prime condition! I would like to meet to a woman where we could mutually satisfy our respective needs. I like intelligent chats, laughs and fun - getting to know each other is important - see if there could be chemistry or a connection. I like slow and sensual.....lots of kissing.... and if all is working well great sex. If you are interested it may either as a one off or for a number of times..see how it goes...If you contact me we can chat about what we both may want. Thanks for reading this - hope if you think I may have something to offer you contact me to find out...Blake
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Thanks for the reply Blake.... I know that a lot of it will be to do with how comfortable the partners are together... However.. I have been in some very long term relationships in my 34 years... and both my partners and I have been VERY comfortable... but none of them have ever managed it all....and not through lack of trying. Maybe there is a good business venture for someone...open up a school to teach women how to do it. Imagine the control that a woman would have over her bloke if she could work magic like that when she wanted!!!??!!
To state the obvious -all women/ men are different - its nothjing to do with the quality and length of relationship - I guess only a small percentage can / want to do DT. At 45 I have had more opportunities - mine were in short term relationships......
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Hi People.... Many thanks for your replys.... It is really interesting reading. So.. it appears that more than just Film Stars can do it.... But where oh where do I need to go to find someone to help me out with this little fantacy??? (Would travel to the ends of the earth for this!!!) lol
Hey Fem.... any time you want to find out if there really is 7" there or not.... let me know.. I will be only too willing to show you! xxx
As for you wales..... Methinks a trip to the west might be in order..... I hear Wales is very nice this time of year.... Deep, Dark and Inviting! lol
D x
I find the real pleasure comes often when least expected ...... if you become obsessed on something you forget the someone.... it's who you are doing it with that should be more important.....feeling comfortable with another person opens more possibilities .....I am a good 7inches,thick, clean and shaved and had DT when I least expected it so know its possible but never asked for it..it's a bit like anal some people are comfortable with it and some are not .. some will experiment ... some need ther right person / time..... would suggest you change your nick as it probably will put more people off than attract.
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Which of the five Senses do you find the most stimulating when it comes to sex? Ok, ok, I know that they all have their own place in truly fulfilling sex, but is there one Sense that does it for you more than any other, or do you feel they're inseparable?
Just a reminder we're talking sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste here. :small-print:
Personally I'd put them in the following order of stimulation for me, starting with the one that starts me off:
Sight Oooooooooh!
Touch Mmmmmmmm!
Hearing Eeeeeeek!
Taste Slurp!
Smell Glub!
Erm..............maybe Touch, Sight, Taste, Smell, Hearing
Or then again..............Smell, Taste, Touch, Sight, Hearing
Fuck, I wish I'd never started this now! :dunno: :undecided: :confused:
I feel it depends on how well you know the other person...
If you are just getting to know someone... hearing when you chat and find out if you are going to have any chemistry / connection......Sight - whether you fancy them and are turned on...smell as you pick up aromas....taste as you kiss, touch explore and finally taste
If you know someone well the for me the primary sense is touch - Sometimes In the total darkness- not saying anything- just slow touching as the senses are stimulated and the physical empathy builds and tingles /shiver as the excitemet gets stronger - sensous foreplay that drives you wild and then the feel and physical totality of good sex - oh yes touch for me! Blake
Quote by wantonjames
how many total computer geeks are there on this forum then?
it seems like a fairly impressive showing!
bet none of them are girlsnot that i dont wish some were!
its rare to find anyone who know what the hell you're on about...
i wrote BBC BASIC on the B+ from age 8 till 12 then BASIC V till 14 then ARM assembler for a while then Pascal / 286 assembler then JAVA at university then the inevitable tedious slide into CGI/PHP/MySQL
Computers used to be fun and exiciting till MS killed diversity, but soon OSS will kill MS and all will be well......
I had a BBC B as well but before that I I had an Acorn Atom - sometimes you need to have a past to know how much the present has improved - The atom had a Green Screen .... before colour - Graphics today amazing by comparison. Blake
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We are all adults on this site (i hope
However, recent developments by the EU and other factions within parliament, both home and abroad seem intent on eleviating us from this right. I really dont want to sound like im getting on my soap box or taking the moral high ground, but to be told that the word BRAINSTORMING is no longer politically correct as it "excludes and alienates the more intellectualy challenged within society" is sheer lunacy.
Many of the words i (and am sure a multitude of other regular forum users) grew up with have now become obselete due to the meteoric rise in the "need to be more socially and politically tolerant and tactfull"
i mean, everyday words such as "blackboard" "handicapped" and "deaf" have been politically metomorphosised into "chalkboards" "disabled" and "hearing impaired". Now before i recieve a barrage of abuse or reprimands from anybody on the site, i would like to point out that i am categorically NOT racist,sexist,ageist, or any other of the plethora of "ist" words that have been invented for those of us who are deemed politically incorrect for our choice of words.
i know there are a few teachers (Mrs Freckledbird??) amongst the SHeaven ranks and would appreciate their viewpoint on how they have had to change their use of language to accomodate these changes, or anybody else who has encountered this, in the workplace for example..................
PS please dont pick up any of my spelling mistakes Freckledbird
Interesting thread - I believe the PC thing has gone well over the top and can be conter productive. A classic I found was a suggestion that the word dwart is wrong - it should be a person of restricted growth. As Kenny Baker who played R2D2 said 'whats wrong with being a Dwarf!'The PC thing sometimes undermines what the real issue is about - that discrimination on the grounds of race, culture, gender, sexual orientation or disability is fundamenatlly wrong in a civilised culture. Correcting words is just playing at it ...where action to combat discrimation is required from us all. Another thread asked what scares you.. for me it is the millions dying of poverty and ill health, people suffering discrimination who cannot get a full life and that a lot of peoplke have given up trying to do anything about it. .... really worrying....Blake
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At last - the end is nigh for Windows XP :happy: :happy:
(I won't use a pc with it installed, if you hadn't guessed).
Today, I saw on ebay that beta dvd's of Windows Longhorn are now available.
Anybody got it yet? any good?
Ok, sorry, I'll go crawl back under my stone.
Ian
I have had XP Pro for some time now - I found it to be the most stable system I have had in over 25 years but I had my system custom built from someone in Preston who knows what to do. Never buy one from PC world etc. I had a PC from Time in the past - biggest IT mistake in my life! If you have not found Torrents yet - just do a search - you are missing a lot of good free stuff out there.
Quote by westerross
I can't remember when we started,
But we soon departed after we'd farted.
Oi, there's a poetry Sticky at the top of the page for that sort of thing.
Hang on - they weren't rhyming couplet fanny farts were they?
The couplet were giving it plenty
And getting very very fruity
Deeper and deeper it went
Doggy style - just heaven sent!
When suddenly there was this rush
Causing both to just hush
As he was propelled back by the blast
But then went back just as fast
Laughing and crying out loud
They continued as much as they could
The flows were as good as the ebbs!
That certainly blew away the cobwebs!
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I accept now that the way I have said things should have been clearer. As a newbie I had not expected such a robust response but I accept the views of others on this site and so I have amended my advert - number 368027 - to hopefully gives a clearer description of my situation. We all have to liive with compromises at times between what idealy we would like and what is practicable and realistic. Despite what some may think I have a strong sense of intergrity about how I live with myself and balance various factors and dilemas. I don't feel like a cheating bastard who ignores the feelings of others. I feel like a guy who was gutted when the relationship did not work out as he expected and cares for his partner on one level but on another level cannot suppress his sexual frustration as he has a strong sex drive and has an aversion to taking large bottles of Bromide and as an Atheist cannot became a Monk.
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Sometimes life is good, sometimes it's absloute shit, sometimes it's hard to talk about it and find people to chat to who are open minded and tolerant. Too easy to criticise. The few who understand have made it worth while .....Blake
You can paraphrase me all you like, it still doesn't get away from the fact that you lied when you said that you are single. I repeat: I am not judging your morals, I am saying that you lied. Why should people on here trust you when you've lied to them?
Dear FB - its sounds pretty much like you are judging me. Let's not play semantics - there are either couples or single males or single females using the site..... look at the photo ads - Men seeking women ..women seeking men etc. . unless want to come up with a politically correct and no judgemtal altrnative word.... let people maje their own minds up.
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On another occasion I was with a woman who fanny farted extraordinarily easily.
I got a bit involved one session and began to pump out a series of fanny farts. Quite achievable. Whilst I was lost in my moment of boyish stupidity, the woman had also noticed.
When I next looked at her deadpan face, she just said 'can you stop that please'. Whereupon I went red faced and muttered a feeble apology.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Priceless :rotflmao:
Nothing like the pneumatic responses at times - makes the piston work harder! trees grow stronger with a bit of wind about - its all part of the thrust of life - if both cannot laugh it off then its sad.
