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Cossie
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 54
Bisexual Female, 47
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Sexlightened
Do notchange SH, its still works, but real swingers like us will not be loging in, for the site admin's this will not be a problem they will still get their money, but for us it will not be a swinging site just a networking site.
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN"
sorry but thats how I feel
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN"
sorry but thats how I feel
Sexlightened
well Calista,
we think you are spot on, we think it covers most area's.
I think one of the best things about SH is the forum, we have joined loads of Swinging sites and we think SH's forum is very busy, but what you will find a high percentage use it as a social meeting place, who do not play anymore, which we think makes this place stand out from the crowd, which is a good thing. so how do you remove the time wasters and still keep the People who make SH what it is.
I wish I could come up with a good idea how to sort it.
As I see it, on this site you have 30% of people who are real swingers. 50% who just there for what ever reason
and 20% who are alomst ex swingers but like the social side. How can the admins cover all the bases ?
we think you are spot on, we think it covers most area's.
I think one of the best things about SH is the forum, we have joined loads of Swinging sites and we think SH's forum is very busy, but what you will find a high percentage use it as a social meeting place, who do not play anymore, which we think makes this place stand out from the crowd, which is a good thing. so how do you remove the time wasters and still keep the People who make SH what it is.
I wish I could come up with a good idea how to sort it.
As I see it, on this site you have 30% of people who are real swingers. 50% who just there for what ever reason
and 20% who are alomst ex swingers but like the social side. How can the admins cover all the bases ? Sexlightened
I cannot give you a list, but the validation system will only work if the only people who can validate are payed up members and the monthly amounts should be quite high. This will reduce the people making other accounts and validating them selfs.
I know if a couple splits this could cause problems, but on SDC it does not. If a couple has had good validations they are real swingers or all what happens is the profile is changed by the user saying now single. The validations will still help the single person as we all know they are real and go to meets.
The pro's
We know the couple have played before, we know they are real. Thats 90% what we need.
its better than, spending days being chatted up some bloke wanking him self silly at thought of wasting our time or trying his best to get pictures out of us.
Then there is the real couples who like the idea of swinging but so not have the balls to do it, so once again we waste our much valued time and even though they are real and a couple nothing is going to come of it.
so for us there is the pros
The cons
yes the married man thing, but for us we cannot think of anything which effects us using the other site.
Sorry about the ramble, I had people comming into my office at work and have lost the thread a little
I know if a couple splits this could cause problems, but on SDC it does not. If a couple has had good validations they are real swingers or all what happens is the profile is changed by the user saying now single. The validations will still help the single person as we all know they are real and go to meets.
The pro's
We know the couple have played before, we know they are real. Thats 90% what we need.
its better than, spending days being chatted up some bloke wanking him self silly at thought of wasting our time or trying his best to get pictures out of us.
Then there is the real couples who like the idea of swinging but so not have the balls to do it, so once again we waste our much valued time and even though they are real and a couple nothing is going to come of it.
so for us there is the pros
The cons
yes the married man thing, but for us we cannot think of anything which effects us using the other site.
Sorry about the ramble, I had people comming into my office at work and have lost the thread a little
Sexlightened
Quote by neilinleeds
Loads of stuff . . .
And of course DG, after all that, it turns out that your genuine single male, who's done everything right, and is a thoroughly nice guy, and has been verified as a really, really genuine single male by half a dozen different people turns out to be . . well . . . married! ;) The verification is absolutely worthless, beyond the fact that he actually turns up for meets, cos despite the verification he's still not what he says he is, and the system designed to stamp out deceit has actually enabled the lie.
N x x x ;)
Yes that is a factor, but we still believe a validation system has more pro's than cons.
Sexlightened
Hmmm, I feel we are getting far to indepth here. what do we want from a swinging website?
we want to meet people one our wave length, who we fancy and who are who they say they are.
The validation system works of us, due to say a couple who we know validate's a couple we don't know, we will have no problem just sorting a quick email and setting a meet up.
they know we know the other couple so there is no need for email tenis or MSN hell, we just meet.
if you get validated from one or more well known members you will be invited to every party lol
we want to meet people one our wave length, who we fancy and who are who they say they are.
The validation system works of us, due to say a couple who we know validate's a couple we don't know, we will have no problem just sorting a quick email and setting a meet up.
they know we know the other couple so there is no need for email tenis or MSN hell, we just meet.
if you get validated from one or more well known members you will be invited to every party lol
Sexlightened
Yes, But no validation no contact for us, I will not waste time chatting to anyone with out a validation.
This sounds realy harsh, but it works 90% of the time.
we only play with couples, so we need to know that the couple is a couple and they play and the validation system proves that. It does not mean they will be a time waster, it does not mean that we will not have a bad time, but what it does mean its not some bloke with old pictures of his ex girl friend wasting our time.
This sounds realy harsh, but it works 90% of the time.
we only play with couples, so we need to know that the couple is a couple and they play and the validation system proves that. It does not mean they will be a time waster, it does not mean that we will not have a bad time, but what it does mean its not some bloke with old pictures of his ex girl friend wasting our time.
Sexlightened
Take SDC for example, The way it works is say your at a club and you just bump into a couple and start chatting, but nothing comes of it, you will get a validation saying possibly "bumped into this couple at XT and chatted, very easy to get along with, would like to spend more time getting to know you better" This give the couple two things, firstly there not a single guy prending to be a couple(very common on this site) secondly you know they are up for a shag next time you meet lol.
I have never seen a bad validation as it not plolite, you would just not validate if say they did not turn up and you had a bad time.
I have never seen a bad validation as it not plolite, you would just not validate if say they did not turn up and you had a bad time.
:o Sexlightened
we are great friends with a couple, we met at a swinging party and we have been top friends since.
we have got to a point, were we play bare back, with any others we all condom up.
The odd thing its more friendship now than sex so even though we see them most weekends we hardly have sex with them
we have got to a point, were we play bare back, with any others we all condom up.
The odd thing its more friendship now than sex so even though we see them most weekends we hardly have sex with them
Sexlightened
what I find with Naomi is she is more picky with girls than guys. She never thought of her self as Bi, but it just needs that chance play and things change. In her own words "I now find my self looking at girls in a differant way"
but I will bet lots of woman will add the girl thing to there fantascy, but will not admit it untill, swinging or chance incounter etc
but I will bet lots of woman will add the girl thing to there fantascy, but will not admit it untill, swinging or chance incounter etc
