Did you keep count ??

17 Dec 2007

Quote by flower411
Before you became a swinger or at least realised that it was ok !!
Did you keep count of the number of people you`d had sex with ? no I'd rather forget about it ty very much
Did you discuss it with other people? nope
Do you still keep count ??? !!!!! nope it's done and it's part of my past, why worry?
I used to think of myself as a bit of "lover"
And kept count for a few years !!
It doesn`t seem so important now..is it just that i`m older and more mature now ??
Personally, I think it just became less important as I got older !! Who cares how many people you`ve had sex with ??

Indeed.. who cares? dunno

I'm well into my latter 30's, if I was to start worrying now about my past, what I've done, what I haven't done, who I've slept with and how I felt afterwards (generally shite actually) I'd make myself ill.
No one respected me until I matured and respected myself and started saying 'no', but I can't keep dwelling on the past I need to look to the future. smile

17 Dec 2007

I dont have a past, yet!!!!! lol

Leastways not one worth talking about sad

17 Dec 2007

i stopped counting when i reached 21 wink

if its important to a particular person, then i will tell, otherwise, who cares?

17 Dec 2007

I kept count till I met my daughter's dad. Well, sort of. The ones I actually enjoyed lol

Yeh, used to chat to my best mate about them, it's what girls do.

17 Dec 2007

I think Mrs Lost would keep count of the lovers she has had. Only because she has a diary where she marks down dates of meets etc (coded for swinging wink

) So it wouldn't be hard to count up. Mind you though we have been fortunate to meet quite a few people. swinging happens a lot less than we would of thought. I think we just expected when we first started to do a lot more. It transpires that we don't swing a great deal really.
Oh i used to count shags when i was young. the group of lads i used to hang with always compared notes lol

mind you we all ended up sleeping with the same girls in a sense. God i'm glad those days are past. rolleyes

Saying that the girls i'm sure did the same with us. :lol: How many potentially great shags got wasted by a few two many beers in the pub beforehand and a drunken sprawled effortless knee trembler later heaven only knows. I'd of hated to be scored marks out of ten biggrin

My sex life now is far far better than ever before and 9 times out of ten i only ever f*ck the Mrs :lol:
There are some very special friends we swing with that are friend more than anything and when a marathon session happens. Its great. Then we can do coffee and cake with them other times and enjoy it just as much its great to have the freedom swing brings with it.
If something becomes complicated or awkward we step away. Thats the time when the honesty between us two Mr n Mrs Lost shows. Being able to tell the other no, or dont like this or reminding the other that this swinging stuff is our "other" life

17 Dec 2007

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17 Dec 2007

Quote by sexkittenhfx
i stopped counting when i reached 21

Thats 21 years old right ;-)
I didnt keep count but it wouldnt have been difficult as I dont think its reached double figures yet :-(

17 Dec 2007

i stopped counting but only cos i cudnt keep up redface

:gagged:
dont ask at what number i stopped counting though surprised

ops:

17 Dec 2007

I haven't really kept count.
I started to when I joined the swinging scene, then I lost interest in counting..... now, if you asked me the number of people who I have had sex with more than once that is easy.
I know that I haven't had sex with enough people yet....give it time tho' :twisted:

17 Dec 2007

Quote by flower411
Before you became a swinger or at least realised that it was ok !!

I love the 'or at least realised that it was ok' ... I'll put myself in that category!
And when you say, 'Who cares how many people you've had sex with', my answer is, 'I do'! biggrin

17 Dec 2007

errrmmmmm......... just the 1 redface

...until I started swinging :P

17 Dec 2007

I never kept count, I don't think it matters how many you've had.
I keep all the pleasant memories to myself redface

… and the unpleasant ones never happened :twisted:

17 Dec 2007

I guess I do... but not in a notches on bedpost type of a way, more in a looking back on (mostly!) good memories kind of a way!!
I think pure numbers were important when I was younger, but now it is more about recalling the experience.
Nola x

17 Dec 2007

ops: :oops:
Well.... before started swinging could count on one hand, well one finger actually. lol

Since started swinging, I have a note book with their names, the date, the babysitter and the location :oops: :oops:
I know, I know, control freak you say. More like so excited I have have finally become promiscous :bounce: as I never did when younger. :angel:
pink x

17 Dec 2007

Nope..
Ran out of fingers... smile

Mike x

17 Dec 2007

Oh...
and toes.... biggrin

:D
Mike xx

17 Dec 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
I didnt keep count but it wouldnt have been difficult as I dont think its reached double figures yet :-(

Snap

18 Dec 2007

Quote by de_sade
It's not a fucking game you know...

Really? I thought that's exactly what it is! confused

18 Dec 2007

Quote by Philfuller

It's not a fucking game you know...

Really? I thought that's exactly what it is! confused

I thought it was all a bit of fun as well.... dunno

18 Dec 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
i stopped counting when i reached 21

Thats 21 years old right ;-)

oh god yes, the other way around and i wouldnt have been counting for very long redface

if i look back through my old diaries i do have names or initials jotted dwon on certain dates....and i still do that now so i guess i do keep count in a way.....its more of an aid memoir than a list tho i think dunno

18 Dec 2007

I haven't "kept count".
I just know how many partners I have shared sexual pleasure with because it mattered at the time be it one off fun or commited long term relationship.
But I regard the actual figure as private and who'd believe what anybody claimed anyway, be it 1, 10, 100 or 1,000, only one person knows the truth and that is you yourself!

20 Dec 2007

Sad thought but if you went for your check-up at the local GUM clinic and found that you had caught something unpleasant, would you know who to warn ?? Hopefully most of us would know

20 Dec 2007

Quote by de_sade

I thought it was all a bit of fun as well....

Undeniably, but resorting to bed-post notching surely takes the fun element out of it?
How many members on here want to be remembered as someones 23rd fuck?
An adolescent pastime.
It dehumanizes sex. I can remember the names of every sexual partner I have had. They were people. Not numbers.
Ican remember the names of all the ones i've slept with too!! Still had fun with them.. I didn't make love to all nor I bet they me.. adolescent it may well be in your eyes but sorry we do this for fun and friendship not to get involved in any deep meaningful relationship.. Respectful yes.. caring even.. But more than that sorry its nothing but fun.. and I hope its mutual with anyone we meet too..
1st or 23rd.. who cares? Surely being a swinger doesn't mean I have to fall in love with and have a relationship with each partner does it?? I love my wife.. I make love with her.. and have dirty sex too whats the harm??
Thats my view anyway....
Mike x

20 Dec 2007

Quote by mdr2000

I thought it was all a bit of fun as well....

Undeniably, but resorting to bed-post notching surely takes the fun element out of it?
How many members on here want to be remembered as someones 23rd fuck?
An adolescent pastime.
It dehumanizes sex. I can remember the names of every sexual partner I have had. They were people. Not numbers.
Ican remember the names of all the ones i've slept with too!! Still had fun with them.. I didn't make love to all nor I bet they me.. adolescent it may well be in your eyes but sorry we do this for fun and friendship not to get involved in any deep meaningful relationship.. Respectful yes.. caring even.. But more than that sorry its nothing but fun.. and I hope its mutual with anyone we meet too..
1st or 23rd.. who cares? Surely being a swinger doesn't mean I have to fall in love with and have a relationship with each partner does it?? I love my wife.. I make love with her.. and have dirty sex too whats the harm??
Thats my view anyway....
Mike x
So you don't mind if I add you to my list then and give you a number? :twisted: :lol2:

20 Dec 2007

Quote by blueandpink

I thought it was all a bit of fun as well....

Undeniably, but resorting to bed-post notching surely takes the fun element out of it?
How many members on here want to be remembered as someones 23rd fuck?
An adolescent pastime.
It dehumanizes sex. I can remember the names of every sexual partner I have had. They were people. Not numbers.
Ican remember the names of all the ones i've slept with too!! Still had fun with them.. I didn't make love to all nor I bet they me.. adolescent it may well be in your eyes but sorry we do this for fun and friendship not to get involved in any deep meaningful relationship.. Respectful yes.. caring even.. But more than that sorry its nothing but fun.. and I hope its mutual with anyone we meet too..
1st or 23rd.. who cares? Surely being a swinger doesn't mean I have to fall in love with and have a relationship with each partner does it?? I love my wife.. I make love with her.. and have dirty sex too whats the harm??
Thats my view anyway....
Mike x
So you don't mind if I add you to my list then and give you a number? :twisted: :lol2:
So long as the number has a date and time .... lol

Ohh and get yourself a new bedpost while your at it... you may well need it lol..
Mike x

22 Dec 2007

I've got a four poster bed...... rolleyes

22 Dec 2007

Quote by markz
I've got a four poster bed......

ooo err.... :laughabove:

23 Dec 2007

Quote by markz
I've got a four poster bed......

Oh God you're not flirting with me AGAIN are you? :roll:

23 Dec 2007

Quote by jaymar
Before you became a swinger or at least realised that it was ok !!
Did you keep count of the number of people you`d had sex with ? no I'd rather forget about it ty very much
Did you discuss it with other people? nope
Do you still keep count ??? !!!!! nope it's done and it's part of my past, why worry?
I used to think of myself as a bit of "lover"
And kept count for a few years !!
It doesn`t seem so important now..is it just that i`m older and more mature now ??
Personally, I think it just became less important as I got older !! Who cares how many people you`ve had sex with ??

Indeed.. who cares? dunno

I'm well into my latter 30's, if I was to start worrying now about my past, what I've done, what I haven't done, who I've slept with and how I felt afterwards (generally shite actually) I'd make myself ill.
No one respected me until I matured and respected myself and started saying 'no', but I can't keep dwelling on the past I need to look to the future. smile

Hey, Mar - I just luv your reindeer :!:
Plim biggrin

23 Dec 2007

Quote by blueandpink
I've got a four poster bed......

Oh God you're not flirting with me AGAIN are you? :roll:
(Cough)
Iv'e got a Five poster bed... and yes I am flirting lol!
(Ohhh work it out silly work it out) lol

:lol:
Mike xx