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Drnwalls
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 53
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Quote by Lost
OK I think I'm well confused now :lol2: Maybe if I just lop one off I could remain half interested and keep my hair longer
Thanks for nearly constructive information guys :D :thumbup:
Bloody hell lost, check out the link and keep ya bollocks!!!
Maybe if you lobbed one off you would remain fully interested but lose half ya hair???
D
Quote by duncanlondon
Ladies wipe away from the vagina, so they do the hand behind the arse reach. The forward reach is used for wiping the vagina.
Blokes generally do the forward reach and mostly wipe upwards and out.
Do you fold the paper or bunch it?
No, no, no, LM (by now very clean) AO!!!!
Your missing the point, and providing TMI !!!! He he.
Read my initial question, it's about do you remain seated, or stand up, lol.
Oh, I give up. I wished I had never asked the stupid question now, lol.
Those Yorkshire folk have a lot to answer for!!!!
Quote by keeno
Nola, really good points.
Does this explain the atrraction of woman dressed as men?
I think there are maybe 2 different things, or questions here keeno.
Is it 'women dressed as men' as in wearing a feminine male style suit, secretary look etc etc, such as many women wear everyday or is it a woman 'presenting' as a male, and by that, I mean attempting to look like a guy and wearing 'real' male clothes, tying hair back or having it cut short, fastening boobs down etc?
The second would me a f to m cross dresser you see, same as a 'traditional', lol, TV / CD, whilst the first is just 'normal' for want of a better word.
If you are turned on by the secretarial look then that's just 'normal' red blooded male stuff, whereas, if it's the female TV look, then that's a bit different.
Personally, I would enjoy both (together if possible, lol). The first, as I said is just damn sexy and red blooded male, while the second is a bit deeper and naughty and I would enjoy the role play aspect of it.
Hmm, just a few thoughts anyway...!!!
Quote by venus68
I appreciate anyone who puts effort into their dress, be it to conform to their gender or not. However, I am totally turned on by masculinity and do not find men dressed in ladies clothes at all erotic.
However, I do quite like men that wear a little make up and the new romantic look is very sexy. I would quite happily be bitten by a vampire if he were attired like (An Interview with a Vampire) type costume lol.
I'm afraid I don't like pink much on male or female.
Watch out Simon le Bon, lol!!!!!!
Quote by Sarah
I notice no one is actually answering the question, lol.
I'm not looking for full and graphic details (Euuugh!!) just "Stand" or "Sit", haha.
(That's "SIT" btw, lol)
Do you blame us??
No, I suppose not, haha, but it was supposed to be a sort of serious question, borne out of a long standing feeling that I was the wierd one for sitting down, lol.
Maybe I should do it as a poll, lol??
Erm, nah!!!
DP
Quote by BULBOUS
yes, we're going in november and hoped it would be a good time to begin our swinging adventure.
the wife wants to dance and be screwed by new guys and i'm up for helping or going my own way with the right ladies
That could raise a few eye brows on the dance floor, lol!!!
Quote by Hibernian
I love a woman in a suit, but I love the secretary/school mistress look.
That's funny that really, in a way.
What I mean is, a woman CAN go about her everyday life dressed as a man, no one (except Hibernian, lol, and probably quite a few others) would bat an eyelid, but if a man did the same all hell would break loose, lol.
I think the secretary look is superb, but is it the same as 'crossdressing'.
I would be interested to hear the thoughts of any women out there that dress in this way, in particular, do you 'feel' that you are crossdressing when dressed like this??
DP
Years ago, when I lived in Yorkshire (Funny people there anyway!!) after a game of footy, one of the lads could be seen clearly through the frosted window of the loo at the side of the pitch, after (for want of a better phrase) 'taking a dump', standing up to wipe his arse.
I laughed my nuts off until one of the other guys in the team (Also a Tyke!!!) said 'What's so funny about THAT!' Followed one by one by most of the rest of the team.
Well, in Lancashire (At least as far as I know), we sit down to do it.
Does anyone else 'stand up' in this situation?
I've been 15 years pondering this one!! (Ok, ok, I really need to get out more, I know!!)
DP
I laughed my nuts off until one of the other guys in the team (Also a Tyke!!!) said 'What's so funny about THAT!' Followed one by one by most of the rest of the team.
Well, in Lancashire (At least as far as I know), we sit down to do it.
Does anyone else 'stand up' in this situation?
I've been 15 years pondering this one!! (Ok, ok, I really need to get out more, I know!!)
DP
So, for those that did indulge pre internet, what was it like, how did you meet like minded friends?????
Personally, my ex and I (and i'm talking late 80's / very early 90's) used to both have sex with other people, on our own and together, but this was just called 'shagging around', lol, and happened after boozy nights round town.
So how did YOU get into it, especially if pre internet??
DP
Personally, my ex and I (and i'm talking late 80's / very early 90's) used to both have sex with other people, on our own and together, but this was just called 'shagging around', lol, and happened after boozy nights round town.
So how did YOU get into it, especially if pre internet??
DP
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Hi! A total Newbie here! We are a couple, and we have just arranged our first meet up at a motel near the M6. We have booked a double room, but will it not arouse suspiscion/interest if we then have a single visitor turn up and join us? We have never done this before, so apologies if this question sounds like a stupid one. Tried to search for answers to this kind of question, but can`t get the hang of the search tool..
Thanks in advance.
if its travel lodge they do not allow 4 adults in family room, about 2 years ago we and another couples booked a family/double room to use after going to a social, when we got there we was told 4 adults was not allowed to use it and we had to drive home, so if i was you i'd check its ok for 4 adults before you turn up
Your right, you can't book a room for 4 people, and if they knew they wouldn't allow it, but I think you wrere unlucky that time. As I said, i've never had a problem and have had (NOT in THAT way, lol) 4 people in 1 room on several occasions with no problems at all, and the management even knew about it too.
Anyway, they are only having (Yes, in THAT way - hopefully for them all) 1 other person in the room and you can certainly book a room for 3 people, so should be fine.
If you do have any problems, you could always offer to let the manager watch, lol!!!!!!!
DP
Quote by Lbc
Hi! A total Newbie here! We are a couple, and we have just arranged our first meet up at a motel near the M6. We have booked a double room, but will it not arouse suspiscion/interest if we then have a single visitor turn up and join us? We have never done this before, so apologies if this question sounds like a stupid one. Tried to search for answers to this kind of question, but can`t get the hang of the search tool..
Thanks in advance.
Hi,
No it will be absolutely fine.
I use hotels / motels all the time, for meets and also due to work and even in an 'innocent' scenario, ie with work, I have colleagues come to my room and have a few drinks etc etc and i've never had any problems at all when meeting people for fun in my room, whether it be 1 or 2.
If possible, you could arrange to meet them outside and then just walk in with them.
The only difficulty that you may ever get (and it has never happened to me) is if you just give them the room number and tell them to come in.
Depending on the time this may be a problem as some travelodges etc lock their doors after a certain time and you need your key to get in, but it's usually after say midnight.
Also, I have stayed at travelodges with work and 6 of us have shared a family room to save cost (fiddle expenses, lol) so God knows what the management thought about that, lol.
As far as I know it isn't an offence to have more than 2 people stay in a room together and do whatever they like once the door is closed, so good luck and have fun and don't worry, no one will bat an eyelid and I assure you, the hotel people will have seen far, far worse than 3 people in a room together!!!!!!
DP
Quote by Deviants
Thanks for explaining your side of things.
However I’m still confused if being honest.
The point I was trying to make is why some bisexual men (notice I said some) freely admit to not being attracted to men (which is fine) but then these same men go on to say they wont meet women they are not attracted to? That’s what’s confusing.
Either attraction is important or its not, why should their gender make a difference.
Does that make sense? It does to me
Ahhhh, I see. I did miss the point, but still think my post explained the reason why 'some' men think like that.
Again, I think that it comes down to 'usage' for want of a better word.
I wouldn't meet with a woman that I wasn't attracted too, in either a physical or mental way, as making love to / pleasuring a woman would require me to be attracted to her in some way or another, whereas I could 'use' a man to erm, pleasure myself, lol, without having to be attracted to him!!!
I suppose also it comes down to your preferences, as in bisexual preferences.
Personally, I can't empathise with men who want to have sex with another man in the same way as a guy would have sex with a woman ie in a dominant / penetrative way.
So, if a guy like that was to say he wouldn't meet a woman that he wasn't attracted to, but he would meet a man that he wasn't attracted to, I would find that confusing, but I don't think that would be the case in many.
I think your confusion perhaps stems from mis-understanding the two different things, bisexual sub men and bisexual dom men.
From what I have said here and earlier does that make sense?
How a bisexual sub man could say those things and it be perfectly sensible??
There are also I am sure though, men who just have a fetish for shagging other men, without actually being attracted to them, in much the same way that people have a fetish for all manner of things.
DP
Quote by Deviants
Another straight female here
I can certainly look at other female and say WOW but have no interest in having sex with them.
What confuses me about bisexuality is more the fact women are so open and honest about it and hey if your attracted to the same sex then I say go for it.
However here’s the confusing bit
Lots of men in the swinging scene who claim to be bisexual also claim they are not attracted to men?? But then have preferences when it comes to women and how they look, be it size, shape etc, this becomes very confusing indeed.
confused
I'd like to comment on that and tryand explain it, or at least offer my thoughts on it (ie the confusing aspect).
I fall into the category of a man who claims to be bisexual, probably actually is by definition at least, or rather, if the definition is that you have to actually have or have had sex with a member of your own sex, then yes, that would make me bisexual.
If the definition is that you have to be sexually attracted to a member of your own sex, then no, i'm not, lol.
The thing is you see, personally speaking, I am only attracted to womens bodies, the touch and feel of a woman and the thought of being intimate with a woman.
I do not feel that way about a man, quite the reverse.
But, when it comes to sex, in the right circumstances, I can and would do certain things, sexually, with a man.
Now that would be for MY enjoyment only, not his. If he got something out of it then fine. With a woman, it would be for HER enjoyment (HOpefully, lol) and mine also.
I would say that it's a bit like using a vibrator. Fortunately there isn't a label in the same way as 'bisexual' for people who gain sexual satisfaction from using one.
If you use a vibrator, does that mean you are 'attracted' to vibrators??
Do you see where i'm coming from??
Just because you've fu@#ed yourself with a cucumber it doesn't make you a vegetarian!!!
There are though i'm sure men who are and can be physically and mentally attracted to other men aswell as and equal too, members of the opposite sex, same for women too, but I think most 'bisexual' men, as described on here, are actually not 'bisexual' at all, in the true sense, but just like the thrill and excitement of being with another guy, rather than the attraction side of things.
I believe that there is a scale of sexuality that has 'totally straight' at one end and 'taotally homosexual' at the other, and we are all at various places on that scale with not many in the dead centre and not many at either end, but most somewhere in between, though when you add in 'attraction' it all gets a bit too confusing and most (male at least) would move quite a few places towards the 'totally straight' side, lol.
That's my take on it anyway, from my own personal view, and I think it has little to do with greed or being selfish, that's all wrapped up in a different debate about cheating, but what do I know eh? I'm just a bloke, lol!!!!
DP
Quote by Lost
We are the mods we are the mods we are we are we are the mods !!
in Quadrophenia it really does have to be Leslie Ash.
I used to have scooters and a parka and loads of club patches and lots of great great times. Nothing quite like Skeggy after a 5 hour ride in the pi**ing rain to find you forgot the tent had gone mouldy. And the ride back!! not with those headaches. Anyone else used to enjoy the Mod revival?
Oh yes and all for two and six with chips thrown in
Hey lost
T.S.C. & nulli secundum
That's all i'm saying, lol
Happy scootering
Update
I'm not normally interested in meeting at short notice but I am free Sunday night, 3rd August, and will be driving from Lancaster to Bristol and would love to hear from any singles or couples that would like me to meet or join them anywhere between these areas, or anywhere reasonable driving ’s probably worth reading my profile, as there is a lot more about me on that.
Darren
I'm not normally interested in meeting at short notice but I am free Sunday night, 3rd August, and will be driving from Lancaster to Bristol and would love to hear from any singles or couples that would like me to meet or join them anywhere between these areas, or anywhere reasonable driving ’s probably worth reading my profile, as there is a lot more about me on that.
Darren
