Quote by Staggerlee_BB
Here's the thing (and forgive me if I've totally got the wrong end of the stick) they're 're winning because you are allowing their behaviour to be alter your life,they're winning because YOU are allowing this to be important to you,and every time they see or sense any reaction from you other than distain they achieve another little victory.....don't give them the polite when you see them..say good morning...offer to help with their bags...be the perfect gent.(Save it until the time is ripe and then bugger their first born (joke))The only way to win this is to retain your dignity and calm and change their minds.

Quote by BIoke
These heterosexism individuals are everywhere, even in my family.

Heterosexism is a term that applies to negative attitudes, bias, and discrimination in favor of opposite-sex sexuality and relationships. It can include the presumption that everyone is heterosexual or that opposite-sex attractions and relationships are the norm and therefore superior. Although heterosexism is defined in the online editions of the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language and the Merriam-Webster Collegiate Dictionary as anti-gay discrimination and/or prejudice "by heterosexual people" and "by heterosexuals", people of any sexual orientation can hold such attitudes and bias. Nonetheless, heterosexism as discrimination ranks gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals as second-class citizens with regard to various legal and civil rights, economic opportunities, and social equality in the majority of the world’s jurisdictions and societies.
Heterosexism refers to a bias toward heterosexuality whereas homophobia refers to antipathy towards homosexuality and homosexuals, i.e. gay men and lesbians. As a predisposition toward heterosexuals and heterosexuality, heterosexism has been described as being "encoded into and characteristic of the major social, cultural, and economic institutions of our society" and stems from the essentialist cultural notion that maleness-masculinity and femaleness-femininity are complementary.

Quote by brucie
im so tempted to say the op should go to one of those christian camps where they cure you of your gayness and problem solved for everyone.
but i know that the humourless lot on here would be up in arms.

Quote by foxylady2209
Seriously, what's stopping you moving away? A misplaced sense of pride? 'They win'? Who cares if THEY think they have won some kind of victory? Do they matter so much to you that you care what they think?

Keep your records, record the comments - but don't give them the satisfaction of ever knowing you are responding to them.

Getting out is not a surrender - it is YOUR choice, and removes any power form them.

Quote by Horny_guy8
Ok I am trying to get to sleep and I hear someone throught the wall say 'Fag- YOU are a batty'. And it was loud as it was throught the wall. Consider this, I was going to to go to the police but I realised that the only other witness in the house is the sister, and she says the same thing. So she is unreliable.
I wrote it down on a piece of paper and the cars for those neighbours were not there in the car park except one blue peugeot. I drove round the corner and I saw the bedroom lights were on.
I did not keep the cctv recording because I didn't realise that they would be back so late.
I tried to record but my stupid phone makes a noise when I hit record. Also I tried to get a response out of them. So I said 'try saying that again?' Then I went downstairs made a cup of tea and said, 'you gonna have to do better than that pussy'.
Then I went upstairs and drinking the tea while typing this. I will need to get some form of recording device in my room and a dvr recorder. Also I will need a diary to log everything and I need to clean my room again.
I actually wanted to keep my mouth shut but I think as I am learning and planning, I am trying to find out ways of catching them. As I said, I think I got the daughter on cctv.
How long am I suppose to make the records for until I report to the police.
Also my problem is I sleep in my boxers.( If I ever meet with you lot, you'll see!) So then I had to put clothes on and get keys, get phone put trainers on that were slippery in the rain. Check outside the window. Run out and saw that there were no other car except the blue peugeot. Drive round the block to check their window lights.
Also I made a resolution, the moment I start doing this properly, I will keep my mouth shut.

Quote by foxylady2209
If he struggles with confidence cos of this - what about encouraging him into a physical sport such as Judo? Great for confidence, great in the case of physical attack, not likely to result in him being prosecuted (unlike boxing or karate) for applying his skills on 'civilians' as it can be largely defensive and actually quite subtle.