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Jboss
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 42
0 miles · Hampshire
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Warming the Bed
What is going on today?? has someone put something in the water?? Have all the full moons come together to create some mad extra mad full moon experience? generally i find this site quite good. But i seem to be receiving a stream of rather bizarre messages, anyone else been visited by the raving loony party?
Warming the Bed
I went out with a chef once, he ened up getting chilli powder on it cock, he definitively would not recommend it
Some people suggest ice cubes, alternated with hot drinks (in your mouth, not on his todger)
But if he wants something more extreme some guys like having their balls tied up and various kinds of rope play with their goolies
Some people suggest ice cubes, alternated with hot drinks (in your mouth, not on his todger)
But if he wants something more extreme some guys like having their balls tied up and various kinds of rope play with their goolies
Warming the Bed
I cant see anything particular dodgy about your profile, and we obviously cant comment on your behavior during social meets as we were not there. But things that put me off people include
Not washing/shaving/wearing clean clothes and general presentation
Looking rather different from their photos
Turning up late without a 'im going to be 10 mins late' text
Being self obsessed in conversation- not taking turns in conversation, talking about how amazing they are, not asking you any questions
Arrogance, cheesiness, ridiculous compliments, terrible sense of humor
The vibe between the couple themselves- are they communicating, do they look happy and comfortable together, does one of them look like they don't want to be there?
Then you might get meets with perfectly respectable people, but there is just no spark there
Im sure others are able to add to this list
Not washing/shaving/wearing clean clothes and general presentation
Looking rather different from their photos
Turning up late without a 'im going to be 10 mins late' text
Being self obsessed in conversation- not taking turns in conversation, talking about how amazing they are, not asking you any questions
Arrogance, cheesiness, ridiculous compliments, terrible sense of humor
The vibe between the couple themselves- are they communicating, do they look happy and comfortable together, does one of them look like they don't want to be there?
Then you might get meets with perfectly respectable people, but there is just no spark there
Im sure others are able to add to this list
Warming the Bed
Quote by MANDM24
It says on the ab fab website that the SH night is on the 5th of oct??
Im up for coming if its nov though
Hi Jboss
I rang Abfabs said i wanted 2 do a social there on the 3rd nov 4 people from SH for a get 2gether they said yeah fine as long as people register with them 4 that nite 2 & im 2 emazil them nearer time !
Be gr8 2 see u there & please spread the word the more the merrier :-D
Mandm24
Cool, cheers I will register with them now
Jos
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Its really interesting listening to peoples stories. I have only had two couples meets off here, one was great the other was not so great.
The first one was great cos we all got on brilliantly, found the whole experience quite amusing, and the vibe between the couple was wonderful to be around
The second one was not so good as the couple didn't communicate with each other very well. When we got down to it, he then refused to have sex with her, which was all very bizarre, and really upset her. Then in the morning they were digging at each other even more, to the extent i would say they were arguing. Then she ended up in tears as she was upset about something they had done together previously. He took photos of the night, but then refused to let me have copies unless I went to see him one on one.
The first one was great cos we all got on brilliantly, found the whole experience quite amusing, and the vibe between the couple was wonderful to be around
The second one was not so good as the couple didn't communicate with each other very well. When we got down to it, he then refused to have sex with her, which was all very bizarre, and really upset her. Then in the morning they were digging at each other even more, to the extent i would say they were arguing. Then she ended up in tears as she was upset about something they had done together previously. He took photos of the night, but then refused to let me have copies unless I went to see him one on one.
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The Tory government have proposed a shake up of the NHS, the 'Health and Social Care bill' which was passed earlier this year argues in favor of a privatized NHS. This is a horrific thing for the UK, and will ultimately result in a US style system. It highlights how we we do not live in a democratic country and the party in power can simply make changes that will have serious affects on our lives without most of the country even knowing about it. There were lost of demonstrations against this act, yet it has gone completely unreported by the UK press. Despite the fact the NHS has many flaws it is a system that we should be proud of and fight to keep
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I have stayed in a variety of hotels, of varying quality for 'swinging', and I actually much prefer a hotel than a house. If i intend to spend a good amount of time with someone I prefer a nice hotel. However, when I have been in a position of just being able to meet for an hour or two, etap are really good. You can get rooms from £18. They look and feel very much like student halls, and have a single bed above the double bed (so watch out for banging your head). But they have all the usual TV, en suite, etc, so you can complain for less than a tenner each
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Im not 100% sure of what the actual question is
Are there gender specific fetishes? Really not sure, but if research was done I expect some would be found. However, the research would reflect the constructs of gender that we make in society and appropriate gender roles, not necessarily if people born of different sexes have different turn ons.
Would a female think of you as some kind of perv for talking about wanting to jizz on her stockings? If you met her on here,and she says you are a perv, she is probably in the wrong place
Do females and males fetishes get received differently? I believe that really depends on your place in society, the people you hang out with and their opinions. Most of my female friends are very liberal, know what I get up to, and have filthy fantasies and fetishes of their own. However, this is to do with their value basis, their experiences and beliefs, this is nothing to do with their gender.
Are there gender specific fetishes? Really not sure, but if research was done I expect some would be found. However, the research would reflect the constructs of gender that we make in society and appropriate gender roles, not necessarily if people born of different sexes have different turn ons.
Would a female think of you as some kind of perv for talking about wanting to jizz on her stockings? If you met her on here,and she says you are a perv, she is probably in the wrong place
Do females and males fetishes get received differently? I believe that really depends on your place in society, the people you hang out with and their opinions. Most of my female friends are very liberal, know what I get up to, and have filthy fantasies and fetishes of their own. However, this is to do with their value basis, their experiences and beliefs, this is nothing to do with their gender.
Warming the Bed
Its really interesting for me to read about your experiences PamalaD. I originally joined this site as the lad I had been playing with for the last year and a half was constantly hot and cold about the idea of a threesome. One week he was up for it and we would make plans to go to a club or suchlike, then the day came and he wouldn't want to. So, I came to find threesome fun as a single female, which I have done. Despite the fact we talked about it several times, I am still unsure about his reasons in relation to his constant change of heart, but laziness was certainly not a factor. he was the best lover I have ever had.
I have had similar experiences with other single guys. One planned to come to a club with me, after begging and begging to be the guy i took, he refused to answer the phone the day of the event. I was then left going by myself, when there were three other guys who also wanted to come, but at that point it was too late.
When I speak to most people about these kind of events people respond with 'oh really, a single guy who refused threesome/moresome sex, madness, what are you doing to these men?'. It is nice to know that other females have similar experiences
I have had similar experiences with other single guys. One planned to come to a club with me, after begging and begging to be the guy i took, he refused to answer the phone the day of the event. I was then left going by myself, when there were three other guys who also wanted to come, but at that point it was too late.
When I speak to most people about these kind of events people respond with 'oh really, a single guy who refused threesome/moresome sex, madness, what are you doing to these men?'. It is nice to know that other females have similar experiences
Warming the Bed
I love my android and would be lost without it
If you have photos/ vidoeos on there that you want to keep on ya phone, but don't want others to see you can download an app called 'vaulty'. This has an extra password on it (in addition to the password you cna set just to access your phone) which you need to enter to view the files there. Then you can put media you don't want other to see in this app,and keep other media accessible to anyone who gets hold of ya phone
If you have photos/ vidoeos on there that you want to keep on ya phone, but don't want others to see you can download an app called 'vaulty'. This has an extra password on it (in addition to the password you cna set just to access your phone) which you need to enter to view the files there. Then you can put media you don't want other to see in this app,and keep other media accessible to anyone who gets hold of ya phone
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My questions ladies are;
Do you only gush when you climax or can it happen at any time?
I would generally associate this with some kind of orgasm, yes. However, an orgasm is not always associated with me gushing/squirting, and gushing is not always associated with an orgasm
Do you know that you are about to let go?
Generally yes, but sometimes I would feel on the edge of climaxing, but not quite get there. Sometimes I may climax but not 'explode'. And the amount of liquid produced dose not necessarily correlate with the amount of pleasure experienced.
Do you feel any special pleasure above an orgasm perhaps when it happens?
I wouldn't say so. The specific feeling is one of release, and an orgasm can kind of be described more like waves of pleasure (that may have some kind of release included within those waves, but is more than just release)
I would like to think that she might have had 3 climaxes on this occasion but could that be wishful thinking?
If i was stimulated in a way that caused me to gush, and that stimulation was continued after I gushed (quite often a guy would stop at this point as he thinks that's it) I would more than likely gush a second, third and forth time. I am assuming that this is what is referred to as a multiple orgasm. For me, I would experience an increase in the amount of pleasure experienced each time, with the intensity growing quite a lot each time.
Do you only gush when you climax or can it happen at any time?
I would generally associate this with some kind of orgasm, yes. However, an orgasm is not always associated with me gushing/squirting, and gushing is not always associated with an orgasm
Do you know that you are about to let go?
Generally yes, but sometimes I would feel on the edge of climaxing, but not quite get there. Sometimes I may climax but not 'explode'. And the amount of liquid produced dose not necessarily correlate with the amount of pleasure experienced.
Do you feel any special pleasure above an orgasm perhaps when it happens?
I wouldn't say so. The specific feeling is one of release, and an orgasm can kind of be described more like waves of pleasure (that may have some kind of release included within those waves, but is more than just release)
I would like to think that she might have had 3 climaxes on this occasion but could that be wishful thinking?
If i was stimulated in a way that caused me to gush, and that stimulation was continued after I gushed (quite often a guy would stop at this point as he thinks that's it) I would more than likely gush a second, third and forth time. I am assuming that this is what is referred to as a multiple orgasm. For me, I would experience an increase in the amount of pleasure experienced each time, with the intensity growing quite a lot each time.
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I think I'm at risk of falling into the category of being 'left on the shelf' very soon, or maybe even already. Yet I am very happy about my situation, indeed, too many people, not enough time
From a psychological point of view stereotypes help us in making quick judgments. We have a lot of information coming into our brains all the time, and we do not have enough time to process it all. So stereotypes are one way of kind of short cutting this process. But ultimately they can be very damaging
From a psychological point of view stereotypes help us in making quick judgments. We have a lot of information coming into our brains all the time, and we do not have enough time to process it all. So stereotypes are one way of kind of short cutting this process. But ultimately they can be very damaging
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I wouldn't exactly say I look for different things in a swinging partner than someone I would consider seeing more long term. But I would want things in a long term partner that I would not necessary need in a swinger partner. For example, I would need a long term partner to be able to support me emotionally; pick me up when I'm down, and also tell me when I'm being a bit over the top. But I wouldn't need this in a swinging partner.
But like others have said, swinger, or long term partner, physical appearance is not the biggest factor. For me intelligence, creatively and an ability to use language well are a massive turn on. I have knocked back several 'hot' guys because they simply cant string a sentence together.
But like others have said, swinger, or long term partner, physical appearance is not the biggest factor. For me intelligence, creatively and an ability to use language well are a massive turn on. I have knocked back several 'hot' guys because they simply cant string a sentence together.
