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Lilith
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 43
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Quote by starlightcouple

now what would be the OPs thoughts

Don't ask that question Rob, as some op's take it the wrong way. bolt
flipa Not this op!!
I thought I'd already stated my thoughts... But in case you missed them: I think it's a lot of fuss over a pair of boobs!! I don't read the Sun and have no interest in looking at a naked lady on page 3, but I don't have a problem with other people doing that. I don't consider it to be degrading to women, and if people don't like it there are plenty of other newspapers out there to choose from.
I understand that almost half of the Sun readership is made up of women, so clearly there are a lot of women out there who aren't bothered by page 3 either.
In general, I think too much is made of the idea that women involved in glamour or the sex industry (or both) are somehow victims or being used and manipulated. Women who choose to make their living in that industry, provided that they do so of their own free will and without any form of duress (including feeling so desperate that they have no choice, or those who do it to fuel a drug habit) are far from being victims. The men who pay for sex or spend a fortune in strip clubs are the ones being manipulated.
I also think that there are far more important things to worry about than a few women getting their boobs out for page 3.
<<<< is wondering whether her previous post was too long for others to bother reading!! redface
Quote by JustWantFun
Does being friends mean that private photos are viewable? If so maybe that's why people send friend requests?

Nope. You still need a private album invitation.
Quote by starlightcouple
The Sun's reporting is tits, their journalists are tits, and their news stories are tits so....why no show some proper tits? :grin:

rotflmao
Well, apparently 45,000 have signed the petition in 6 weeks... So, some people agree. I think it's an awful lot of fuss over a pair of boobs!! But, some people consider it inappropriate in newspapers (which is backed up by the fact that daytime TV shows have to be careful not to show page 3 when they do their newspaper reviews).
I just wondered if anyone has any views that support the campaign - I doubt many SH-ers will agree with the campaign, but you never know!!
This is possibly going to be a rather one-sided debate in here, but I wonder what people think about the campaign that is currently running to ban page 3 girls in papers like the Sun.
The point of the debate here is whether it is appropriate in a newspaper.
Thoughts??
Quote by flower411
as for talking about poss money involed,dont forget it starts at the top,they was a lot of money being made by every one,charitys included

I'm not sure what you are trying to suggest about charities here? Any money that is "made" by a charity has to be used in fulfilment of that charity's charitable purposes. There are no shareholders or other people making any profit or private benefit within charities. All of the profits of a charity are spent on the charitable purposes for which that charity was established. This is a regulated industry, which means that it is necessary to be established for exclusively charitable purposes for the public benefit in order to become a registered charity.
It really does not help the charitable sector when people accuse them of trying to "make money" as if that is a bad thing. Of course charities need to make money, otherwise, how are they supposed to do anything at all? The important point is that all of the money they make is spent on their charitable purposes, rather than lining people's pockets.
I recently had an interview with a "marketing company" that specialises in raising money by talking people into signing direct debits. Most of their customers appeared to be charities and a good percentage of the money went to the marketing company and not to the charity.
That's called professional fundraising, and is also regulated. All such companies should inform the donor what percentage goes to the charity.
Quote by alldaysex
as for talking about poss money involed,dont forget it starts at the top,they was a lot of money being made by every one,charitys included

I'm not sure what you are trying to suggest about charities here? Any money that is "made" by a charity has to be used in fulfilment of that charity's charitable purposes. There are no shareholders or other people making any profit or private benefit within charities. All of the profits of a charity are spent on the charitable purposes for which that charity was established. This is a regulated industry, which means that it is necessary to be established for exclusively charitable purposes for the public benefit in order to become a registered charity.
It really does not help the charitable sector when people accuse them of trying to "make money" as if that is a bad thing. Of course charities need to make money, otherwise, how are they supposed to do anything at all? The important point is that all of the money they make is spent on their charitable purposes, rather than lining people's pockets.
Firstly, I think that there is some confusion here over the difference between legalisation and decriminalisation. What the op is talking about is, in fact, legalisation. It would be necessary to legalise the production and supply of drugs in order for the State to regulate that supply. Legalisation is not possible in the UK because of current UN conventions.
The term "decriminalisation" simply means that there are no criminal offences in connection with certain acts. This means that those acts remain illegal, but shift from constituting a criminal offence to constituting an administrative offence. In relation to drugs, decriminalisation usually relates to possession and consumption. Following decriminalisation it is still illegal to buy, possess and use drugs, but it is not a criminal offence. Instead, there are administrative sanctions (e.g. fines), and it is treated as a health issue (so rehabilitation may be offered).
Examples of decriminalisation in relation to drugs can be found in Spain, Italy, Portugal, and Luxembourg. In all cases, it is not a criminal offence to possess certain drugs, but there are administrative consequences. So, for example, in Spain if a person is caught in possession of drugs for personal use (provided there is no evidence of a criminal offence - e.g. drug dealing), the drugs are seized and the person is referred to the administrative authorities. They may then be fined and invited to attend counselling sessions or undergo rehabilitation treatment (if they present signs of addiction).
By way of contrast, an example of an industry where legalisation is more prevalent than decriminalisation is prostitution. Where prostitution is legalised, it is controlled by the government and is only legal under specific conditions. The sorts of controls that tend to be introduced include licensing and mandatory health checks. There are a number of jurisdictions where prostitution is legalised, for example: the Netherlands, Germany, Iceland, Switzerland, and Austria. This is not to be confused with jurisdictions where prostitution is entirely unregulated (i.e. where there are no laws in place at all), which is predominantly found in Eastern Europe and Central Asia.
The final point that I would make is that it is also important to avoid confusing decriminalisation with tolerance. Many people think that smoking marijuana is legal in the Netherlands, but it's not. Personal use of marijuana is not even decriminalised in the Netherlands, let alone legalised: it is merely tolerated by the authorities. Possession of marijuana in the Netherlands is a crime, but coffee shops have flourished because the prosecution guidelines mean that coffee shops will not be prosecuted as long as they sell under certain conditions.
Coming back to the actual debate now, I do not think it is as simple as the op suggests. I am a trustee of a charity that works with people who have committed crimes in connection with substance addictions (in a voluntary capacity in my spare time). So I know a reasonable amount about the effect that drug misuse can have on people, having seen it first-hand. I agree that criminalising drug addicts, locking them up and throwing away the key is not a solution. However, our system is more sophisticated than that, and people are not simply thrown into prison on a first offence. My charity works in conjunction with the local authorities and every single person who walks through our doors has committed a drug-related crime. I agree that the system is not working and something needs to be done to improve the war on drugs, but I do not agree that legalisation is the answer.
My fear with the sort of legalisation of drugs that the op describes is that it would ignore the serious damage caused by drug misuse and it would entirely blur the message - are we supplying drugs over the counter or are we trying to stop people from using drugs? It would be like holding an AA meeting in the local pub. You talk about offering rehabilitation at these "walk-in-centres" at the same time as providing controlled amounts of the very drugs that the individuals are addicted to. Do you actually know anything about drug rehabilitation? Do you understand how difficult it is to work with a drug addict and successfully get them to stop using? The process is extremely difficult, requires an individual, tailored approach, and would not be helped at all by supplying that person with the very drugs they are trying to stop using.
I do not think that legalising drugs is the answer. That is why no jurisdiction has ever tried to implement the sort of scheme that the op describes. Decriminalisation is a solution that I think could work and has been shown to work in other jurisdictions. The reason that I think it works is because it does not mix messages: the possession and use of drugs remains illegal, with administrative fines and the requirement to undergo treatment as the consequences of being found in possession. Decriminalisation moves drug use from being a criminal issue to being a health issue, and means that taxpayers money is spent on rehabilitation rather than imprisonment.
In my opinion, it is very important that any sensible discussion of decriminalisation of drugs is properly understood, and what has been outlined by the op is, in fact, legalisation. I do not agree that legalisation is the solution.
Yes - I got there too late to post our thanks too!
We had an amazing time, and Gorge did **such** a fantastic job organising it all. Thanks to everyone who came and made the atmosphere so fantastic (and special thanks to all of you the people who put up with me on the dancefloor...!)
kiss
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I clicked on where it says 'Friends' on the left but it just said none of my (28) friends are online. Do you get more stuff if they are online?

If any of your friends are online, then they are shown in that section - so, at a glance, you can see which of your favourite SH people are online. You can also click on the various tabs along the top to see, for example, who has recently been online. I also like that I can click on the "Everyone" tab and navigate to people's profiles really quickly if I want to be nosey and see if they've put new photos up or changed profile text, etc. :-D
Also, if any of your friends are online and logged into IM, provided that you are also logged into IM you'll see the words "Online Friends (x)" in the little box in the bottom right corner (where x=number of your friends who are on IM). You can then easily start IM conversations with them while you browse the site. (The IM function doesn't work on an ipad or iphone browser though).
The other thing you get generally by having "friends" is information in your news feed (assuming you have it switched on) about what they've been doing. For example, if they add other users as friends or post quick comments on other users' profile pages.
I like being able to see very easily how many of the people I chat with regularly are online - you can see a list of online friends in one of the tabs in the "friends" section. You also get to see online friends in the IM box, which makes it easy to have a natter with people while browsing the site (without going into the chatroom).
That's what I use it for, anyway. dunno
I blame Neil for tuning me on with his eloquence!!
Although, he just used "you're" instead of "your", which has made me lose my hardon...! bolt
Quote by Lizaleanrob

Our judicial system is one of the finest in the world and is, in fact, the basis of most other judicial systems in the world (including that in the US).

really ?? no really!!
you have got to be kidding our judicial is amoungst the poorest in the world when i comes to protecting the innocent or the victims rolleyes
sure you sobered up this morning bolt
lol I stand firmly by my comments!!! I didn't say our system was perfect, but I believe it is one of the finest in the world. So there. :-D
Quote by foxylady2209
The UK has a democracy? Since when?
If it were a dmeocracy the subjects that the population want discussing in parliament would be discussed. What gets discussed is based on how many votes it will get or lose the party involved.
And wouldn't we actually have a choice that included people that were competent to do what we, the people, tell them to do? And weren't criminals?

Well, that depends on your definition of "democracy". We have a representative democracy, rather than a direct democracy (primarily due to the size of the population), which will never be perfect. It is inevitable that what is discussed is directly related to how to get votes. But, there aren't really many alternatives that have been shown to work in modern civilisation...
Quote by GnV
I put it down to cupboard love neil :lol2:

With the affection coming from whom to whom, GnV? ;-)
Quote by starlightcouple
Our judicial system has been a joke for many a year

Our judicial system is one of the finest in the world and is, in fact, the basis of most other judicial systems in the world (including that in the US).
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God bless America.

America has a system which is not all that dissimilar to ours. There are laws within each State (the equivalent of the law of each state within Europe) and then there is an overarching system of Federal law, which prevails over State law (the equivalent of our European law). There are obviously differences in that America is "the United States of", and we have not yet gone quite that far within Europe. There are also significant historical differences in the development of the legal and political systems across the two continents, and the idea of European law is relatively new. But, I just do not agree that the American system is "better" than ours, especially since there are so many similarities.
Given the amount of interstate activity in this day and age, it is simply impossible to avoid the development of various types of international law. It is an extremely complex subject, and I am busy getting ready to set off for a SH social, so I will leave it at that for now!! :-)
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Jags was a very long standing member, one of the first, and one of the first moderators on the forum. Really lovely in PM but a reputation for not suffering fools gladly. Never got to meet her and sorry about that. One of the guys here made that :jagsatwork: emote for her, that Jags could only be a teacher pretty obvious when you thought about it. Could be a stern mistress, oh yes! ;)

kiss thank you!! (and thank you, flower, for the PM). :-)
Just for the record - I'm not a teacher. But, I'm good at role play! :rascal:
I love that someone made an emoticon for her! lol
Quote by neilinleeds
One tries Lilith, one tries. lol I'm sometimes spurred to try and raise my game a bit more at times though, knowing who might be reading it. ;)

By all means, raise your game. I'll just sit here and enjoy myself!! :twisted:
Quote by flower411
Hope you noticed the name of that emoticon you just used lol

Yes - the irony didn't escape me!! But, I still don't understand what image neil is enjoying and I have no idea who jags is...!!! Unless jags isn't a person, and you're all just referring to the meaning of the word? dunno
Quote by Cubes
"Nowt" is good!
Good Yorkshire culture... "Eyt all, sup all, pay nowt. And if ivver tha does owt fer nowt, do it fer thissen.

Sorry G, but even Google translator fails with that sentence! :lol2:
I understood it, Cubey! Quite impressed with myself, given that I'm a Southerner through-and-through!
<ahem> "Eat all, drink all, pay nothing. And if ever you do anything for nothing, do it for yourself."
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I'm a little lost...

Now that is a disturbing image!
Right. That's it. All of you must stop this right now, or immediately explain any fantasies or imagery into which you've inserted me!! :jagsatwork:
Very well said, neil.
I'm actually a little turned on by your eloquence... :rascal:
Quote by neilinleeds
Lilith - the new jags :scared:

Scared? Stop being such a bloody wuss! Some people might actually quite like the little mental image you've conjured there? Ta for that! :twisted:
I'm a little lost... I have no idea who jags is!! So, I'm not sure what mental image you're enjoying there, neil...!! dunno
I think it is way too much of a political hot potato for any political party to go anywhere near it. If a party were to offer a referendum on the death penalty, I think it would inevitably come across as that party supporting the death penalty. To make any referendum worthwhile, people need to be told the arguments for and against. I just can't see any political party wanting to get involved in that.
If you believe the old adage that men are in their sexual prime aged around 18-20 and women are in their sexual prime aged around 30-35, then younger men with older women makes perfect sense!!
Of course, there's no hidden agenda here at all... The fact that I happen to be 31 and wouldn't mind a tumble with a young, fit man whose cock practically bounces back up after cumming has nothing to do with it...!
innocent rotflmao
There are a whole host of problems with the death penalty. There are lots of practical, procedural and cost implications. Because of the need for absolute certainty and the fact that human error can and does happen, people on death row in the USA wait for years and go through a long series of appeals before the sentence is carried out. So, it costs a lot more to imprison and process death row prisoners than it does to imprison a person with a sentence of life imprisonment. There are therefore no arguments that it saves tax-payers' money to impose the death penalty rather than imprison people for life. This leaves us only with a potential moral justification, which makes it a political hot potato.
My personal opinion is that there is no place for the death penalty in civilised society. I believe that criminals should be punished, but also that reform and education should play a part in the criminal justice system. The death penalty is nothing more than state-sanctioned revenge.